On varying mileage

Quint

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Given the opportunity, we all chime in immediately with the view that "sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of! We are unique individuals with unique tastes in our very unique lifestyle!" Well and good. I say it myself--and then I cough and mumble that humiliation is a huge turn-on for me, because I see that I'm usually the only one in the thread with that viewpoint.

It's a conflict of pride in what makes me happy and embarrassment at being singled out--in a forum full of the kinkiest, most sexually open people you'll find. It's kinda awkward sometimes.

This is my contribution to myself. I am a kinky little girl! I may not be able to take the whacks, but lay some mental abuse on me and I'll happily writhe for you. Insult me! Degrade me! I likes it!



Now, please add your own quirks and lusts that you sometimes blush to confess, so I don't feel so exposed...although I likes THAT, too! :D
 
Well ya know....

what one person sees as humiliating or degrading, another will see as the biggest turn on there is. Refer to that face slapping thread, for example.

Please don't feel singled out, Quint. When I post those things that "do it" for me, you may think "wow, she is as strange and dopey as I first thought."

Rose:heart:
 
Everyone In Unison, Repeat After Me:

Everyone In Unison, Repeat After Me:

The Individual's Creed

"I am an individual
I am unique.
There is no-one else like me."

~an old Steve Martin routine.

I'm pretty sure you're not the only person here who's into humiliation, Quint, for what it's worth.

Hmmmm...what would I be most embarassed to reveal here about my sexuality?

Well, there is my special relationship with my Goat, "Spunky"...

Lance
 
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A Desert Rose said:
what one person sees as humiliating or degrading, another will see as the biggest turn on there is. Refer to that face slapping thread, for example.

Please don't feel singled out, Quint. When I post those things that "do it" for me, you may think "wow, she is as strange and dopey as I first thought."

Rose:heart:

For the record, I never said that I thought you were strange and dopey, Rose. :D Post away, please! There'll be no mention of "sick" on this thread, if this baleful glare does its job. *glares balefully*

I do agree that a large part of humiliation is based upon perception and may vary from couple to couple, but some things are pretty general:

Repeated face-slapping (and yes, I eagerly noted the resurfacing of that thread)
Derogatory name-calling, including but not limited to bitch, slut, whore, and cunt
That dreadful cold emotionless expression on his face intended to show me that I'm not even worth the time it takes to fuck me

And yes, all of the above things excite me beyond all reason, and a large part of that excitement is exactly because they're so degrading. Go figure.

Quint "Psychoanalyze THAT!"
 
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Quint said:
For the record, I never said that I thought you were strange and dopey, Rose. :D Post away, please! There'll be no mention of "sick" on this thread, if this baleful glare does its job. *glares balefully*
Quint "Psychoanalyze THAT!"

I know you never said I was strange or dopey- that is straight commentary of my own about my own self. An attempt -- ATTEMPT-- at humor. LOL

I am working up to my little post here. Give me time. LOL this is not an easy thing for me to confess and I need to work out the phraseology.

Rose:heart:
 
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Lancecastor said:
Everyone In Unison, Repeat After Me:

The Individual's Creed

"I am an individual
I am unique.
There is no-one else like me."

~an old Steve Martin routine.

I'm pretty sure you're not the only person here who's into humiliation, Quint, for what it's worth.

Hmmmm...what would I be most embarassed to reveal here about my sexuality?

Well, there is my special relationship with my Goat, "Spunky"...

Lance

Lance...that's just sick.*

So...what you're saying is that I'm unique but I'm not the only one? :D


*Disclaimer: read the above post on the "no mention of the word 'sick,' place the Mental Image of Quint's tongue in the Mental Image of Quint's cheek, put her clothes back on, and have a lurvely day.

Quint "These cheeks were made for slappin"
 
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Quint said:


For the record, I never said that I thought you were strange and dopey, Rose. :D Post away, please! There'll be no mention of "sick" on this thread, if this baleful glare does its job. *glares balefully*

I do agree that a large part of humiliation is based upon perception and may vary from couple to couple, but some things are pretty general:

Repeated face-slapping (and yes, I eagerly noted the resurfacing of that thread)
Derogatory name-calling, including but not limited to bitch, slut, whore, and cunt
That dreadful cold emotionless expression on his face intended to show me that I'm not even worth the time it takes to fuck me

And yes, all of the above things excite me beyond all reason, and a large part of that excitement is exactly because they're so degrading. Go figure.

Quint "Psychoanalyze THAT!"

Quint, my partner eroticizes humiliation too. ~smiles~

She especially likes the nasty *name-calling* and being told that she is bad, naughty, and slutty when she is aroused.

It still embarasses me to admit that I enjoy pushing her close to calling a *yellow* safe word. (This explains why I rarely do it, and illustrates, I believe, why s/m is more difficult to do/indulge in with someone you love.)
 
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MsWorthy said:
It still embarasses me to admit that I enjoy pushing her close to calling a *yellow* safe word. (This explains why I rarely do it, and illustrates, I believe, why s/m is more difficult to do/indulge in with someone you love.)

I was a firm believer in that when I was with Hunny, MsWorthy, and yet thus far I'm not finding any difficulties with T. Okay, I'm going to amend that: he probably won't indulge any gang-rape fantasies I may entertain. But within his jurisdiction, he doesn't seem to feel restrained by his more, shall we say, gentle emotions. Based upon my (limited) experiences, this could be because BDSM was such a staple in our relationship from the beginning, whereas with Hunny I had so much time to develop my mental idea of him as Hunny, not Sir Hunny the Cruel or the like. And the same vice versa. I don't know why exactly he so enjoys pushing me--except that he knows how much I enjoy it. He's brave enough to bring me much closer to distress than I've ever gone before, and he's the only person I can trust to do that to me. Works out nicely, doesn't it?

Would you mind explaining to me why your enjoyment of pushing your girl near her limits makes you wish to NOT push her that far? I realize this is off-topic, but I'm very curious about your view on the topic I just described, as it is in my life, above.
 
Quint,

Did I mention to you ever -- that it's that "glares balefully" thing that just *shudder* ooooooooo baby -- does it for me?

Never mind. ;)

Hey I'm the dulce de leche gal here (as opposed to vanilla, lol) so I don't have a lot to work with. If I think of something suitably kinky -- I'll let you know.



Perse :rose:
 
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MsWorthy said:


Quint, my partner eroticizes humiliation too. ~smiles~

She especially likes the nasty *name-calling* and being told that she is bad, naughty, and slutty when she is aroused.

It still embarasses me to admit that I enjoy pushing her close to calling a *yellow* safe word. (This explains why I rarely do it, and illustrates, I believe, why s/m is more difficult to do/indulge in with someone you love.)

While I did laundry, I thought about this. Yea call me goofy....

During the safe and private moments with my Dom, I liked being called names. I never considered it humiliation, until now and reading MsWorthy's post. I guess I thought of it as more of a role playing thing and still do, sort of. He knew I liked it and I knew he didn't really feel about me what those names would indicate. So therefore, in my mind it could not be humiliation.

And boy am I off point here (missing the point of the thread I am afraid.) Sorry Quint.....

Rose:heart:
 
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Quint said:


I was a firm believer in that when I was with Hunny, MsWorthy, and yet thus far I'm not finding any difficulties with T. Okay, I'm going to amend that: he probably won't indulge any gang-rape fantasies I may entertain. But within his jurisdiction, he doesn't seem to feel restrained by his more, shall we say, gentle emotions. Based upon my (limited) experiences, this could be because BDSM was such a staple in our relationship from the beginning, whereas with Hunny I had so much time to develop my mental idea of him as Hunny, not Sir Hunny the Cruel or the like. And the same vice versa. I don't know why exactly he so enjoys pushing me--except that he knows how much I enjoy it. He's brave enough to bring me much closer to distress than I've ever gone before, and he's the only person I can trust to do that to me. Works out nicely, doesn't it?

Good point, Quint. Since my partner is not much of a masochist in the physical realm, I see my desire to inflict sensation that is not within her pleasure zone as selfish and somewhat cruel. I am not comfortable *owning* those descriptors.


Would you mind explaining to me why your enjoyment of pushing your girl near her limits makes you wish to NOT push her that far? I realize this is off-topic, but I'm very curious about your view on the topic I just described, as it is in my life, above.
 
Aha! Got one for you Quint. It's my particular quirk. I've always found magic and magicians particularly erotic (okay *excepting David Copperfield*)

The parts that always turned me on -- where the women were tied up, bound in boxes -- and then, well what ever nefarious deeds were perpetrated upon them -- were er, well, perpetrated upon them. Knives thrust into them, etc.

Now the derivation of how I realized this -- that info is saved the man who earns the privilege. ;)

But I would think the man that goes for a bit of role play with me in this direction -- will be in for a night of passion he didn't know existed. :D

Perse :rose:
 
Quint

You will not get ME to publicly announce my *REAL* quirks within BDSM. OMG,...You guys would NEVER allow me to post here again. Dream would immediately ask me to take her collar back, and *SHIVER* at the prospect, of having to lick the stamp to send it. (J/K)

Yanno what IS funny,...my being a CONTROL freak, ...it is INFORMATION I lust for about my subs. I crave to know their darkest desires. Not to use against them,...but to pleasure them with.

My quirk is *Control*,...If I ain't got it, there ain't gonna be any FUN, at MY place. With HONEST,
...open disclosure from a sub,...I can take her where NO man has gone before.

(Truly,...not bragging-Just the facts Ma'am,... Just the facts!) :rose:
 
Being sorta new at this and having limits most here would consider pretty tame, I would guess my kinkiest fantasy in this crowd is....

.... vanilla sex.

Sometimes it's nice to just get on top and ride.

I know, I know... you're all looking at me funny now...
 
Quint said:
Given the opportunity, we all chime in immediately with the view that "sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of! We are unique individuals with unique tastes in our very unique lifestyle!" Well and good. I say it myself--and then I cough and mumble that humiliation is a huge turn-on for me, because I see that I'm usually the only one in the thread with that viewpoint.

Now, please add your own quirks and lusts that you sometimes blush to confess, so I don't feel so exposed...although I likes THAT, too! :D


well ,for 1 thing I do love the pain of spanking(receiving it)of course..and I had 2 fantasies so to speak,kinks or whatever you wanna call them but one has already been filled by my finding my Master,however the 2nd confuses me cause while I Know for a FACT that I am submissive(meaning I always have a "choice' in the manner)..it is my passion ,my desire to be "forced" into having sex(Not raped mind you been there had that done,lost the t-shirt)..but "Taken ":surprisingly,AGAINST my will..
I find that to be highly erotic to me.. it really 'trips my trigger",sometimes I am afraid to confess these desires for fear someone may label me "abormal ,but perhaps as time goes on,I am hoping and praying that I will become comfortable enough in my own skin that I WILL feel free toexpress myself better..
it's all new to me still,this lifestyle,so maybe I just need to go easy on myself?what do you think?:rose:
 
Red Menace

Red Menace said:
Being sorta new at this and having limits most here would consider pretty tame, I would guess my kinkiest fantasy in this crowd is....

.... vanilla sex.

Sometimes it's nice to just get on top and ride.

I know, I know... you're all looking at me funny now...

My *kink* is 'cuddling',...(shhh,...don't tell anyone else,...ok?) :rose:
 
I like the words. I like "slut" and "my slut," and "pussy" and... well, you get the picture.

Even spankings and pussy spankings... especially pussy spankings... are about humilition to me. I have trouble even thinking of it otherwise. A woman restrained and naked on a bed.

Vulnerability, control, humiliation... these are some of my favorite things...
 
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Red Menace said:


What's it worth to ya? ;)

Well,...I *DO* have an image to maintain,...but hell,...I have no money,...any suggestions? :D
 
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A Desert Rose said:


While I did laundry, I thought about this. Yea call me goofy....

During the safe and private moments with my Dom, I liked being called names. I never considered it humiliation, until now and reading MsWorthy's post. I guess I thought of it as more of a role playing thing and still do, sort of. He knew I liked it and I knew he didn't really feel about me what those names would indicate. So therefore, in my mind it could not be humiliation.

And boy am I off point here (missing the point of the thread I am afraid.) Sorry Quint.....

Rose:heart:

Rose, my partner knows that I don't mean/believe those terms. It is the taboo and allowing the freedom for her to act/express herself is such a naughty, unacceptable (by society) way that makes it erotic. I do think, however, that this is humilation of the erotic kind. Sort of like being caught masturbating, most people do it but they don't like to admit to it, and it would be humiliating to do so, but sensual at the same time. See what I mean?
 
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artful said:


My *kink* is 'cuddling',...(shhh,...don't tell anyone else,...ok?) :rose:




I Didnt hear a thing baby...shhhh :rolleyes:


mmmm and what an Awesome "cuddler' you are M'love:)
I can still FEEL you in my arms holding me so tight making me feel so so loved,accepted,secure..:heart: ~:heart:
 
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artful said:



Dayuumm,...too late,...I have already been EXPOSED.-LMAO :rose:



he he and I have seen You 'EXPOSED' in More ways than that Master!!:devil: :devil:
 
Quint said:
Given the opportunity, we all chime in immediately with the view that "sexuality is nothing to be ashamed of! We are unique individuals with unique tastes in our very unique lifestyle!" Well and good. I say it myself--and then I cough and mumble that humiliation is a huge turn-on for me, because I see that I'm usually the only one in the thread with that viewpoint.

It's a conflict of pride in what makes me happy and embarrassment at being singled out--in a forum full of the kinkiest, most sexually open people you'll find. It's kinda awkward sometimes.

This is my contribution to myself. I am a kinky little girl! I may not be able to take the whacks, but lay some mental abuse on me and I'll happily writhe for you. Insult me! Degrade me! I likes it!



Now, please add your own quirks and lusts that you sometimes blush to confess, so I don't feel so exposed...although I likes THAT, too! :D

Quint, I understand how you feel. I believe I am the only man here who has ever posted about being submissive to other men. Yes, sometimes it feels like I'm hanging off a ledge all alone, but the forum has always responded with support.
I don't think you are as alone in your feelings about humiliation as you think you are. You are just more forthright about it then some other people are comfortable being.
It is something I find powerfully erotic myself, in the right circumstances, as either a Dom or sub.
 
Quint said:
I say it myself--and then I cough and mumble that humiliation is a huge turn-on for me, because I see that I'm usually the only one in the thread with that viewpoint.
<snip>
Now, please add your own quirks and lusts that you sometimes blush to confess, so I don't feel so exposed...although I likes THAT, too! :D
I like some humiliation with my play, too. I like and use and like to hear as many dirty words as there are to use. I've been called "slut" and "whore" and "cumslut" and all the rest of them hundreds and hundreds of times in my life, always as part of the hot rush of action and interaction, the play of sensation and energy between me and my dominant. It doesn't happen every single time but it does happen more often then not. I like harsh hot words, forbidden and overfull with passionate, harsh nuance. Such words, and the actions that often accompany them, ground me to right here, bitch and right now, slave! and don't allow my attention or emotions any wandering room.

I'm often alone in my public eroticism of sharps play, too. I do needle play. A lot of it, and i have for years. I've got nine body piercings - and i'm not counting anything above the nipples in that total, either.

I eroticize piss play, another thing that isn't well-represented when we're all confiding the details of our kinks.

And enemas.

And something we've not talked about much at all - medical play. It's that little branch of body-fun which includes speculums and anuscopoes and urethral sounds, for example.

I'm an exhibitionist.

I've got a moustache fetish.

There's a lot of orphan kinks left for people to claim, Quint.
Don't feel lonely!
:cool:
 
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