Big Ben IV
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am I the only okie around?
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I dont know if you are the only Okie around or not. But if you dont quit spanking that monkey in you avatar you will to worn out to celebrate the New Years. Wait...who cares about celebrating just another day. All it does is confuses us on writing checks, makes us have to do another tax return and reminds us the older we get the less we like tooting our horns on New years Eve.
Have fun all. If your looking for sex on Literotica, save your energy. Look in your hand, ok look in the other hand. If those both fail go to bed and hope tomorrow is a better day.
Have fun all. If your looking for sex on Literotica, save your energy. Look in your hand, ok look in the other hand. If those both fail go to bed and hope tomorrow is a better day.
giggles1
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I have a question for the guys......
I have a 'special' friend that I hang out with occasionally. He asked me for an honest evaluation of his performance. After verifying that he really wanted to know. He said yes.....so I told him.
I explained that his size was good, his stamina and strength were great. The only thing I would ask for was more foreplay. (He seems to believe that a kiss and one pinch of the nipple is good enough...) His response was "not that again".
How can I get the point across to a guy, without 'de-masculating him' or acting like a school teacher, just how important foreplay is ???
I have a 'special' friend that I hang out with occasionally. He asked me for an honest evaluation of his performance. After verifying that he really wanted to know. He said yes.....so I told him.
I explained that his size was good, his stamina and strength were great. The only thing I would ask for was more foreplay. (He seems to believe that a kiss and one pinch of the nipple is good enough...) His response was "not that again".
How can I get the point across to a guy, without 'de-masculating him' or acting like a school teacher, just how important foreplay is ???
Big Ben IV
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Humm thats a good question, mabie if you showed him how much you enjoy it and how much it makes you want him even more, atleast thats why i enjoy foreplay.
Knowledge is the key to great foreplay or forever play.
Remember that no one taught us about sex, we learned it from the playground, porn and scribblings on the bath room wall. Our first experience with sex is masterbation as a teen and when I boy does that for years he thinks that that selfish act of pleasing himself is what sex is all about. Put on top of that the way most porn portrays sex and they think they are being really considerate and passionalte when they think that forplay is the time it takes him to say those three romantic words, "role over bitch."
Trying to teach someone about sex is not easy particularly if your trying to do it during the middle of sex. Sort of like teaching a child to ride a bike while your along for the ride but facing backwards on the handle bars. Dont be a crash dummie and think that on the job training is the way best way to teach sex.
I assume that most of us find the greatest enjoyment in sex to be when we please our partner. Of course we also enjoy our own orgasms but being able to arouse a women and do for her something that feels so good to her is really a great feeling. Giving is so much better than receiving. If you dont believe this or understand it than you arn't alone but really great sex and love making will feel 10 times better than how your best masterbation orgasm feels.
Many of us dont understand some of the simple techniques we can use during the forplay portion that can please our partner. Its not because men dont want to know, its because they think they know it, or are to proud to ask or dont know where to find the information. Likely its a combination of all three. Heck the techniques are published all over the web and in books. Sliding the information to them in a Victorias Secret catelog may be a easy way to give the hint.
One great thread on this site for foreplay is : Try This and Report Back
Hell men if your fingers get strong enough this is more than just foreplay, it can go on to be forever play. I dont understand why men had to give women first a rib, right to vote and then community property rights when God gave them the mulitple orgasm. Thank goodness Adam gave them that useless rib instead of our fingers, at least we retain some control. Plus it's a good way to make her give us the channel changer because she knows its good exercise for for our surfing fingers.
Even an old hand like me(no pun intended) learned something knew from reading the experiences of others. Long ago I discovered that even though the good Lord and blessed me with something extra between my legs, it was my fingers and tounge that really could make her think I was heaven sent or at least I guess since she kept calling me OH GOD the whole time. All humor aside, those multiple orgasms God has allowed the women to experience so easily are best achived with two fingers and a thumb.
When I first got married, I thought I knew it all. Hell I thought I knew it all most years in my life yet I really do keep learning and discovering new heights of pleasures. One thing that helped me start to learn about sex was when someone gave us a couple of the Joy of Sex books. I didnt immediatly dive into the books and run around the block proclaiming I found the holy grail of sex, but gradually I read bits and pieces and applied it to our bedroom fun. Of course they had some erotic pictures or drawings and that also helped grab my attention. Remember ladies that us men will often not ask directions while driving lost but we will ask where our keys are they we are holding in our hand. If they would put nudie pictures in Rand McNally you would never see a lost man or lost keys again. All Im saying is subtlely make available material that may help you both begin to increase your knowledge of sex. Don't use porn as a source of information. Porn is entertainment and not education.
Erotic stories are another way to understand aspect so sex and foreplay. With a story we each form a vision or picture in our own mind about the story. That vision is sort of outlined by the author but we fill in the colors. Sort of a paint my numbers version of a porn, except we paint the perfect picture and porn has so many fake distractions. Now recognize that when reading this erotic story that we become aroused. That arousal is not because of something physical but completely mental. Amazing how fantasies can be so much better than reality. Now you may start to begin to understand what we mean when we say great sex occurs not because of what happens between your legs but what his happening between your ears. Include stimulating your minds as a part of foreplay.
Really foreplay is the best part of sex. Penetration fucking may be what we think sex is all about but its only the final few pages of a wonderful book of lust, desire, respect, love, trust, understanding and most of all uninhibited passion. Plus giving and sharing our thoughts, pleasure and energy wont leave you so exhausted that you want to go to sleep and snuggle like before, you often are reenergized to open up a whole new book of passion and naughty desires. But that is a whole other lesson about sex and only ASPCA certified sex addicts like me are permitted to enroll in those classes.
So both you you look for and share in the learning. If he is stubborn and doesnt want to try than show him the pictures in the material. If that doesnt work than remind him he can be replaced by a lesbian or two AA batteries and they dont leave the toilet up. Besides you may not help find his channel changer next time or tell him the keys are in his hand.
Remember that no one taught us about sex, we learned it from the playground, porn and scribblings on the bath room wall. Our first experience with sex is masterbation as a teen and when I boy does that for years he thinks that that selfish act of pleasing himself is what sex is all about. Put on top of that the way most porn portrays sex and they think they are being really considerate and passionalte when they think that forplay is the time it takes him to say those three romantic words, "role over bitch."
Trying to teach someone about sex is not easy particularly if your trying to do it during the middle of sex. Sort of like teaching a child to ride a bike while your along for the ride but facing backwards on the handle bars. Dont be a crash dummie and think that on the job training is the way best way to teach sex.
I assume that most of us find the greatest enjoyment in sex to be when we please our partner. Of course we also enjoy our own orgasms but being able to arouse a women and do for her something that feels so good to her is really a great feeling. Giving is so much better than receiving. If you dont believe this or understand it than you arn't alone but really great sex and love making will feel 10 times better than how your best masterbation orgasm feels.
Many of us dont understand some of the simple techniques we can use during the forplay portion that can please our partner. Its not because men dont want to know, its because they think they know it, or are to proud to ask or dont know where to find the information. Likely its a combination of all three. Heck the techniques are published all over the web and in books. Sliding the information to them in a Victorias Secret catelog may be a easy way to give the hint.
One great thread on this site for foreplay is : Try This and Report Back
Hell men if your fingers get strong enough this is more than just foreplay, it can go on to be forever play. I dont understand why men had to give women first a rib, right to vote and then community property rights when God gave them the mulitple orgasm. Thank goodness Adam gave them that useless rib instead of our fingers, at least we retain some control. Plus it's a good way to make her give us the channel changer because she knows its good exercise for for our surfing fingers.
Even an old hand like me(no pun intended) learned something knew from reading the experiences of others. Long ago I discovered that even though the good Lord and blessed me with something extra between my legs, it was my fingers and tounge that really could make her think I was heaven sent or at least I guess since she kept calling me OH GOD the whole time. All humor aside, those multiple orgasms God has allowed the women to experience so easily are best achived with two fingers and a thumb.
When I first got married, I thought I knew it all. Hell I thought I knew it all most years in my life yet I really do keep learning and discovering new heights of pleasures. One thing that helped me start to learn about sex was when someone gave us a couple of the Joy of Sex books. I didnt immediatly dive into the books and run around the block proclaiming I found the holy grail of sex, but gradually I read bits and pieces and applied it to our bedroom fun. Of course they had some erotic pictures or drawings and that also helped grab my attention. Remember ladies that us men will often not ask directions while driving lost but we will ask where our keys are they we are holding in our hand. If they would put nudie pictures in Rand McNally you would never see a lost man or lost keys again. All Im saying is subtlely make available material that may help you both begin to increase your knowledge of sex. Don't use porn as a source of information. Porn is entertainment and not education.
Erotic stories are another way to understand aspect so sex and foreplay. With a story we each form a vision or picture in our own mind about the story. That vision is sort of outlined by the author but we fill in the colors. Sort of a paint my numbers version of a porn, except we paint the perfect picture and porn has so many fake distractions. Now recognize that when reading this erotic story that we become aroused. That arousal is not because of something physical but completely mental. Amazing how fantasies can be so much better than reality. Now you may start to begin to understand what we mean when we say great sex occurs not because of what happens between your legs but what his happening between your ears. Include stimulating your minds as a part of foreplay.
Really foreplay is the best part of sex. Penetration fucking may be what we think sex is all about but its only the final few pages of a wonderful book of lust, desire, respect, love, trust, understanding and most of all uninhibited passion. Plus giving and sharing our thoughts, pleasure and energy wont leave you so exhausted that you want to go to sleep and snuggle like before, you often are reenergized to open up a whole new book of passion and naughty desires. But that is a whole other lesson about sex and only ASPCA certified sex addicts like me are permitted to enroll in those classes.
So both you you look for and share in the learning. If he is stubborn and doesnt want to try than show him the pictures in the material. If that doesnt work than remind him he can be replaced by a lesbian or two AA batteries and they dont leave the toilet up. Besides you may not help find his channel changer next time or tell him the keys are in his hand.
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Mr. Crimson
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Damn Mike, it's like you've had this discussion before. Personally, I don't mind being told I'm not doing it right as long as I also get told how to correct what I'm doing.
Mr. Crimson said:
Yes I have had this discussion before. Mostly with myself or Rosie. Shes my right hand helper. Rosie is a stubborn debater but at least she is a master at it.
And I hope your not asking me to tell you what to do to correct it, Im sure you are considered sexy by some and may even listen to constructive critism but your just not my type to jump into the sack with.
Of that Im sure we both are grateful.Communicate, share or educate directly when its possible. Use and idirect or subtle methods if pride or ego block the direct approach. Most importantly dont quit expanding your knowledge base, besides the best thing about a new idea is that we get to get naked to see how it works.
giggles1
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Thanks guys !!!
I really apprciate everyone's input !!!
Big Ben and Mr Crimson....it's nice to know that you are willing to take instruction...
And Mike....Mike....Mike....Yours is the longest response I have ever seen.... But what a lot of good info. Thanks !! I checked out that thread you recommended and it was very interesting.
All of ya'll rock !!!
I really apprciate everyone's input !!!
Big Ben and Mr Crimson....it's nice to know that you are willing to take instruction...
And Mike....Mike....Mike....Yours is the longest response I have ever seen.... But what a lot of good info. Thanks !! I checked out that thread you recommended and it was very interesting.
All of ya'll rock !!!
Big Ben IV
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What happend? whered evreybody go, guess I scared evreybody off 
Ptaylor330
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hey everyone.... 24, male in okc.... have AIM and yahoo if someone wants to chat
Big Ben IV
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Nope same old same old.
Ptaylor330
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I just bought a house today.... that is pretty exciting to me
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house
congrats on the house
congrats on the house
Mr. Crimson
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Man, it really seems to be slowing down a bit in here.
bethanyman
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checking in
Dana Gallagher
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T-Town
Tulsa says hi~~~ Hi!
Tulsa says hi~~~ Hi!
bethanyman
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barely
sophia jane
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giggles1 said:Is everyone surviving the cold snap ok ??
Sure. I'm just not leaving the house.
Ptaylor330
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its too cold for me.... i wish i had someone to cuddle with
anyone want to?
anyone want to?
Mr. Crimson
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I survived the cold so far, but I think I'm ready for the warm weather again. Like Heat Miser said, I would prefer to never see a day below 70.
