roosterado9
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you tops/bottoms- subs/Doms Where do we fit? Maybe I am just Pisces but being one or the other is Hard
Ok you switchs
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Seduce
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Although I am still serching and wondering, I do believe I am just that what you call switch.
I may feel very submissive with some (usually) men, but I never felt that way with women..... I am quite dominant when it comes to females.
It really depends on the first impression I make about person. There are some men too that provoke me to be really nasty and ordering.
I am really submissive only around my husband actually.
Btw I am Sagittarius, if that matters......
I may feel very submissive with some (usually) men, but I never felt that way with women..... I am quite dominant when it comes to females.
It really depends on the first impression I make about person. There are some men too that provoke me to be really nasty and ordering.
I am really submissive only around my husband actually.
Btw I am Sagittarius, if that matters......
O'Mac
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I know I'm a switch...
...However I'm finding myself sliding over to a more dominant role in the current relationship I'm in. I don't find anything particularly unappealing with both roles, though I do think that because Switch is not as well-defined or focused as Sub or Dom, perhaps you're not yet experiencing the more pleasurable extremes of both roles. I'm perfectly happy sliding more in a Dom role and away from Switch, but I will agree that there are still a few aspect of Sub that I would enjoy as well. I think for me it's the mindset that I should stick to what a person is good at.
...However I'm finding myself sliding over to a more dominant role in the current relationship I'm in. I don't find anything particularly unappealing with both roles, though I do think that because Switch is not as well-defined or focused as Sub or Dom, perhaps you're not yet experiencing the more pleasurable extremes of both roles. I'm perfectly happy sliding more in a Dom role and away from Switch, but I will agree that there are still a few aspect of Sub that I would enjoy as well. I think for me it's the mindset that I should stick to what a person is good at.
Miss Melody
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I am Dominant with some people (male, female) and submissive to some others (usually Doms but once in a while, a Domme). Though I entered this scene as a sub, I enjoy topping too much to be solely a sub. I know several very gifted submissives in my area (and fortunately one has asked me play him on every occasion we are together) and sometimes I envy the seemingly relative simplicity of being only submissive. However, my mind doesn't work like that. It's that simple for me. I must do both to be fulfilled.
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Seduce said:
Hmm... I wonder if it's a Sag thing, because I'm pretty much the same way - I'm only submissive to my wife (well, she would be if it were legal) and dominant or neutral to others. In general, I'm Dominant to males and neutral or Dominant to females. Holly is the only one who has ever truly inspired me to be submissive more than just a momentary thing.
dexwebster
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I wonder if there's actually any correlation to the zodiac thing, or just being able to justify almost anything. I've heard it because, as a Libran bisexual switch, a) I'm supposed to be indecisive, and/or b) I crave balance.
I'm always curious as to whether anyone else's power preferences skew along gender lines. It's not a rule by any means, but I have a definite tendency to be submissive toward women, and dominant with men. The person's behavior or attitude can definitely change it, but eight times out of ten, at that first glance, if it's a woman I'm attracted to my brain goes, "Girl, guh, must worship," and when it's a guy, I go, "Oh, a toy."
I'm always curious as to whether anyone else's power preferences skew along gender lines. It's not a rule by any means, but I have a definite tendency to be submissive toward women, and dominant with men. The person's behavior or attitude can definitely change it, but eight times out of ten, at that first glance, if it's a woman I'm attracted to my brain goes, "Girl, guh, must worship," and when it's a guy, I go, "Oh, a toy."
roosterado9
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I don't belive either yet I am Such a Pisces its unrealSeduce said:Nice to see there is someone else that shares my preferances. I was really afraid it was just me being not able to decide.
I dont really believe in horoscops though
I like this thread the way its going .there are more of us confused? souls out there in the world. I have always been a passive man yet my Desire is to Win a woman heart strong enough to have her let me Top her and visaversa
Luna_Wolf72
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I am a semi Switch
I get off on maso play (as the receiver) but yet the whole service thing is beyond me. I have tried it, didn't like it...tried it again, liked it a little better...tried it one more time and decided the service aspect just isn't for me. For the longest I wanted to classify myself as Switchy but it doesn't work. God, I wish it did...
For the record I can (and do) Top both sexes though I prefer bisexual boys and girls as submissives. I prefer bottoming to gay women but only if their sadistic streak is as wide as a my maso tendencies. Straight men with Sadistic tendencies are also good playmates. (Though usually not my preference...as my ex Sir can attest)
I am Scorpio...and other than the fact that I am (in some cases) too extreme, I find no problem with fulfilling any of those needs...
so you can classify me as a maso-Domme. It works.
I get off on maso play (as the receiver) but yet the whole service thing is beyond me. I have tried it, didn't like it...tried it again, liked it a little better...tried it one more time and decided the service aspect just isn't for me. For the longest I wanted to classify myself as Switchy but it doesn't work. God, I wish it did...
For the record I can (and do) Top both sexes though I prefer bisexual boys and girls as submissives. I prefer bottoming to gay women but only if their sadistic streak is as wide as a my maso tendencies. Straight men with Sadistic tendencies are also good playmates. (Though usually not my preference...as my ex Sir can attest)
I am Scorpio...and other than the fact that I am (in some cases) too extreme, I find no problem with fulfilling any of those needs...
so you can classify me as a maso-Domme. It works.
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As a newbie dominant, I have thrown a lot of effort into topping my pup.
However he has known since the beginning that I was new to this, and that I was and continue to be submissive to my PYL.I am a masochist and immerse myself deeply in the many acts and mental aspects of my submission.
I want my dominance of him to have the same intensity and be as satisfying.
It was a total surprise to be aroused, to get the rush of topping, and to get such a kick out of it, that I want more of the same and better.
I want him to feel the same as I do as a sub.I want him to trust me, and accept that I take my responsibility seriously and value his submission.
I want to be good at it and its more hard work than subbing, and I worked hard to prove worthy and keep my collar around my neck.
I am an Aries, Sagittarius rising. (fire signs rule ok?)
Results are equal to effort.
Oh and my PYL has been offered a promotion on the other side of the country. If he goes I will be happy to just dominate my pup.
However he has known since the beginning that I was new to this, and that I was and continue to be submissive to my PYL.I am a masochist and immerse myself deeply in the many acts and mental aspects of my submission.
I want my dominance of him to have the same intensity and be as satisfying.
It was a total surprise to be aroused, to get the rush of topping, and to get such a kick out of it, that I want more of the same and better.
I want him to feel the same as I do as a sub.I want him to trust me, and accept that I take my responsibility seriously and value his submission.
I want to be good at it and its more hard work than subbing, and I worked hard to prove worthy and keep my collar around my neck.
I am an Aries, Sagittarius rising. (fire signs rule ok?)
Results are equal to effort.
Oh and my PYL has been offered a promotion on the other side of the country. If he goes I will be happy to just dominate my pup.
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You fit where you fit. (God, that looks even dumber now that I read it....)
Seriously, though, D/S is about the vibe and the energy, and which way it's headed. I've long identified myself as a switch, and do so because certain people bring out certain aspects of my personality. There are some to whom I invariably fall into a submissive role, and some really bring out my more dominant side. It's a matter of one piece calling for its complementary part, and I've long been able to complement either part.
Just feel yourself (not like that... sheesh), and where you are. That'll tell you where you fit.
I've seen that not much has changed in the over two years I've been gone, and we're still having the same old switch conversations. I even saw the old handedness argument come up in another thread, which I'll address directly.
Seriously, though, D/S is about the vibe and the energy, and which way it's headed. I've long identified myself as a switch, and do so because certain people bring out certain aspects of my personality. There are some to whom I invariably fall into a submissive role, and some really bring out my more dominant side. It's a matter of one piece calling for its complementary part, and I've long been able to complement either part.
Just feel yourself (not like that... sheesh), and where you are. That'll tell you where you fit.
I've seen that not much has changed in the over two years I've been gone, and we're still having the same old switch conversations. I even saw the old handedness argument come up in another thread, which I'll address directly.
