Ok... tomorrow is my first D/s Day

[SierraMoon]

Well, all.. tomorrow is to be my first play session with a Dom... he is a switch, so i feel a little more comfortable, knowing that he has been in my position before... not going to do anything extreme.. some spanking, light bondage, and hmmmm, something with clothespins.... (interesting)... just wanted everyone to keep their fingers crossed for me, as i am extremely nervous, having never done this before... i totally trust this Dom, that he will not hurt me, and we have discussed at length what will and won't happen. Sometimes, i think he knows me better than i know myself.
Does anyone have any ideas of other not so extreme things, that i can add to our play? i enjoy pain very much, but not sure if i want it this early in the action.... (will give me something to look forward to!!).. thanks all... hugs...
sierra

 

[DustyWolfe]

Well, all.. tomorrow is to be my first play session with a Dom... he is a switch, so i feel a little more comfortable, knowing that he has been in my position before... not going to do anything extreme.. some spanking, light bondage, and hmmmm, something with clothespins.... (interesting)... just wanted everyone to keep their fingers crossed for me, as i am extremely nervous, having never done this before... i totally trust this Dom, that he will not hurt me, and we have discussed at length what will and won't happen. Sometimes, i think he knows me better than i know myself.
Does anyone have any ideas of other not so extreme things, that i can add to our play? i enjoy pain very much, but not sure if i want it this early in the action.... (will give me something to look forward to!!).. thanks all... hugs...
sierra

Wow! Good luck, I am sure you will enjoy this experience.

Flogging can be a good thing, if He has some light floggers. Light floggers don't hurt at all.

 

[SierraMoon]

Re: Re: Ok... tomorrow is my first D/s Day

Wow! Good luck, I am sure you will enjoy this experience.

Flogging can be a good thing, if He has some light floggers. Light floggers don't hurt at all.

Thanks Dustygrrl... i will keep that in mind, and talk to him about it today. hugs... sierra

 

[Bluesboy2]

I dont know you well enough to give you much advice

Congratulations though. I hope it is everything you are wanting and more.
Hello Dusty, hope things are going well for you today.

 

[DustyWolfe]

Re: Re: Re: Ok... tomorrow is my first D/s Day

Thanks Dustygrrl... i will keep that in mind, and talk to him about it today. hugs... sierra

*huggles* you'll do great

 

[DustyWolfe]

Re: I dont know you well enough to give you much advice

Congratulations though. I hope it is everything you are wanting and more.
Hello Dusty, hope things are going well for you today.

Things are going well. We are going to a b-day party at a private dungeon, the Sir is a Gorean

 

[Bluesboy2]

I dont wanna take over this thread

Just quickly when you get back in town look me about about some guitar tips

 

[Ebonyfire]

Enjoy...

And good luck. Oh, and of course details, we want details!! LOL

Ebony

 

[cellis]

Hmm Sierra there is always hot candle wax and ice... oh so very nice and interesting...

Good luck... I hope it is everything you need...

 

[cymbidia]

What wonderful news, Sierra! And however will you get to sleep tonight? I'm going to see my play partner tomorrow, too, and i know i'm anticipating it with increasing eagerness. I don't think i can even imagine the fluttery trepidation and outright wild pressing erotic need that must be galloping though your body now.

I won't insult you with talk about safe words and your willingness to use them. Remember that "yellow" word. I've used it often with new-to-me partners.

A suggestion i might have for sensation play is to ask that your partner vary the instruments he uses on you. Sometimes a few slaps with something like the long handle of a back scratcher, for example, between your legs, on the inside of your thighs, as your bent over a bed or a chair, can be most effective warm-up play. Within such play, you’ll learn pretty quickly what "keep your legs apart" means, too. This kinda stuff sets up a delicious conflict within your sub self: obey the command or disobey, as your senses will scream at you to do, and have the sensation turn immediately sharper in response.

Additionally, try to talk, if you can, and tell your dominant what's going on in your body, in your brain, in your mind. You don't have to talk endlessly, never quieting at all, but you need to be sure you are telling him what's happening with you. All those who are new to each other need such verbal assurances that all is well or not well; even after he knows yours responses really well, after he knows how and where and when to push your limits, you'll still have that basic responsibility to let him know how you doing in it all. That doesn't change.

I guess i have no real suggestions for you, at leant not anything concrete. I'm sorry. The best i can offer is my wish that you go into this experience completely open to whatever you gain from it - and without a lot of preconceived notions of how it's gonna feel or what you'll say and do and crave and hate.

Come back and tell us how it went, won't you please?

 

[SierraMoon]

thank you to all my wonderful friends...

ebony, ty for your kind wishes.. of course i will be back with details!!

cellis, i'm talking with him right now, and have mentioned the hot wax thing to him... along with the ice, of course.... told him that i am ok with it...

and cym.... i cannot express to you how much i appreciate you, and all that you have done for me already, to bring me to this very important stage in my life.... your endless encouragement, and guidance, have been worth more than you know.
He and i have agreed on the red, yellow and green safe words... i think those are best in a new relationship, so that he will understand me and my limits.. i also have a safe call set up... we agreed on a couple hours of play, and i have contacted my brother, who will call here at a certain time, and if i do not answer, he will be pounding on the door shortly after...
I'm sure that i am going to be safe with him.. i trust him, or i would not be doing this, but it can't hurt to be overly careful the first time, right?
Yes, my stomach is doing flip flops, as i have been looking forward to this day for a long time.. seems like forever, instead of months...
I will definately be letting everyone know how it goes.. you guys have been my rocks here, throughout my search, and i want to be able to share the culmination with all. May not be able to shut me up for weeks!!!! hehehe
Thanks again to all of you. You are a blessing to me. HUGE hugs to all of you... sierra

 

[SailorC272002]

SierraMoon


cellis, i'm talking with him right now, and have mentioned the hot wax thing to him... along with the ice, of course.... told him that i am ok with it...

I have heard you should use plain white wax as opposed to colors because it cools faster with less chance of burning your skin.

Just my 2 cents.

 

[SpectreT]

Awesome!

Do try to get some sleep, though. You'll probably enjoy it more if you're not groggy through it.

That's all the advice I've got.

 

[cymbidia]

I have heard you should use plain white wax as opposed to colors because it cools faster with less chance of burning your skin.

It's not just the color that's important, it's the kind of wax you're using and how far from the skin it is when it's dripped on. (Or poured on. Have ya'll read Risia's new and really hot [oooooh! bad pun!] BDSM wax play story, Melting Point?)

Here's a wax play thread:
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70221

Here's part of a post from that thread:

Melting Points
http://www.bdsm-peergroup.com/Resou...t_Wax_Play.html

First, lets talk a little about the types of wax and the temperatures at which they become liquid (melt). The following table describes different types of waxes, based on their additive content, in what form they might likely be found and their initial melting points:

Wax type..........Where Found..........Melt Points

Raw parafin................Canning wax, bulk..............115° - 126°F
(soft)

Votive candles............Cylinders up to 6 in............131° - 141°F
(harder)

Taper candles..............Candlesticks....................141°F +
(hard)..........................Table candles

Hurricane lamp.................................................154°F +
(hard)

Beeswax....................Numerous candle
(waxy to hard)...........styles, bulk........................146°F +



Note: Seems obvious, but one should hold that burning candle up WAY high before allowing it to drip. That allows the 141°F + table candle wax drops to cool down just a teensey bit before they hit our skin.

Good pain is good.
Bad pain is bad.

In my book, 141°F = bad pain.

 

[SierraMoon]

Sailor and Spectre.... excellent advice!!
Sailor, i had also heard of the plain wax thing... not sure that we will be doing anything with that tomorrow anyway....
Spectre... i don't know how i'm going to be able to sleep tonight... my stomach is jumping into my throat... lol....
take care... sierra

 

[SierraMoon]

It's not just the color that's important, it's the kind of wax you're using and how far from the skin it is when it's dripped on. (Or poured on. Have ya'll read Risia's new and really hot [oooooh! bad pun!] BDSM wax play story, Melting Point?)

Here's a wax play thread:
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=70221

Here's part of a post from that thread:

Melting Points
http://www.bdsm-peergroup.com/Resou...t_Wax_Play.html

First, lets talk a little about the types of wax and the temperatures at which they become liquid (melt). The following table describes different types of waxes, based on their additive content, in what form they might likely be found and their initial melting points:

Wax type..........Where Found..........Melt Points

Raw parafin................Canning wax, bulk..............115° - 126°F
(soft)

Votive candles............Cylinders up to 6 in............131° - 141°F
(harder)

Taper candles..............Candlesticks....................141°F +
(hard)..........................Table candles

Hurricane lamp.................................................154°F +
(hard)

Beeswax....................Numerous candle
(waxy to hard)...........styles, bulk........................146°F +



Note: Seems obvious, but one should hold that burning candle up WAY high before allowing it to drip. That allows the 141°F + table candle wax drops to cool down just a teensey bit before they hit our skin.

Good pain is good.
Bad pain is bad.

In my book, 141°F = bad pain.

Thanks for the information cym... duly noted....
when i was in my vanilla relationship, we used candle wax, just from the store... you know, like vanilla pillars.... i didn't have a problem with it back then, but knowing what i know now, we should have never used them.... wonder i don't have scars all over my..... ooopps... lol.....
thanks again, cym... hugs... sierra

 

[artful]

My Dear Friend Sierra

I just checked,...got ALL my fingers crossed, but I know you won't need it.(makes it so fucking hard to type though) I wanna FULL,(blow by blow) detailed account as soon as you get home,...and BEFORE you apply ice to that overheated ass.

 

[~Dream~]

With Artful's permission,

SIERRA,i certainly don't have any experience to offer you advice so i will only speak as your friend and what I would do,Be yourself,be real,open your mind and your heart,relax..
remember,He chose YOU above all other women to be with,that speaks volumes to me ..huggs sweety and have a great time!!

 

[CarolineOh]

Good luck, Sierra, I hope you have a wonderful, fulfilling time.

 

[cymbidia]

[]i~muttering to Sierra as i'm gathering my things to get out my door~[/i]

Oh yeh, and don't bother with a lot of make-up; you'll just sweat it all off and/or it'll smear all over your face.

Don't wear jewelry unless it's important to your partner; it can be dangerous and you'llprobably just have to take it all off before the play begin anyway.

Do a couple cleansing enemas before you leave if there's gonna be an anal play; just nicer for everyone involved.

Bring stuff to clean your toys with.

If you're wearing fethish clothing as you walk in the door, bring a bag in which to carry them out and something wonderfully comfy to wear for the trip home.

What else...what else...what else?


Ack!
I gotta go!

 

[Shadowsdream]

SierraMoon

I am soooo happy for you....gives Me the warm and fuzzys just thinking about this day for you! Shhhhhh no telling anyone I get the warm and fuzzys!


Cym

I always smile when I read your practicle posts so full of love, reality and kind caring humour. I have no doubt that your friends are some of the luckiest people on earth.

 

[Glaive37]

[Good pain is good.
Bad pain is bad.

In my book, 141°F = bad pain.
[/B][/QUOTE]

Good luck on your new oddessy. If you trust your Dom and he is receptive to input/feedback... you will have an amazing time. First experiences are the most astounding. Sometimes they let you fall in love with the sensations. And even sometimes the person. Can be very emotional.

Cym,
You amaze me... sometimes I think you are an encyclopedia overflowing with information. Where do you get it all and where the heck do you store it all. Your cranium is no larger than mine. Hmmm?

 

[cymbidia]

I get it off the net and store it in my hard drive, Glaive.
Where else would it be?








Wanna go to a movie tomorrow night?
(I played today and you didn't...na na nah na na)

 

[SierraMoon]

all i can say is OH MY GOD!!!!

WOW.... what a day... btw... we played here, where i'm staying, and he brought all his implements with him....
WOW...... geez, i'm actually at a loss for words... WOW just seems to sum it all up... although i know that will not satisfy you guys.... lol...
Artful, i don't know if i can give you a play by play, as i didn't see much of it... i asked to be blindfolded, so that i could feel the sensations, rather than be afraid of what was being used..... All i can say, is that my ass is sore... bruised, and beet red, with all kinds of interesting marks on it... my breasts are nearly purple, and my knees are red from rug burn... But i fucking loved it!! Had to use the yellow word once because i got too sensitive down below.... i laughed, i cried, i came (HARD... broke the bench that i was on..lol), and loved every second of it.... excellent first experience...
The things that he used were.... crop, whip, studded paddle, flogger, clothespins, restraints(wrist and ankle), and dildo shaped icicles....mmmmmm
He was very in tune with me, and handled me very well.. was very careful with me, since it was my first time. He didn't even use everything that he brought.... anyway... that's about how my day went....so glad that it's over, in a way... atleast i won't be so damn nervous from now on....
He told me that he is very pleased with me, and how i handled myself.. there will be more times to come....
hugs to all.... sierra
P.S. Artful... he already rubbed my ass with ice... sorry... very smart Dom he is... feels better already!!

 

[cymbidia]

Okay.
That was play session #1.
It gets better from here, darlin'.