Ok, so how do I go about learning more about the BDSM lifestyle?

[kiwiwolf]

Things have been happening in my life lately that have got me more than slightly interested in the BDSM lifestyle. I don't even know where I would fit in the spectrum, but if you want to hang a label on me I suppose you could describe me as nilla with masochistic and dominating leanings.

A Dom? No but I want to learn more. As most of you know, I am a long way into a tattoo and piercing adventure. So far it is pretty tame but the sensations and the look of what is happening to me has me asking questions of myself. The most painful areas of the body to tattoo are the stomach/rib area, the butt, the elbows, and the back of the upper arm. Not only am I actively seeking designs for these areas, but I am looking for the most intricate designs I can find. Masochistic leanings. I enjoy the sensation of being tattooed.

I don't expect to finds all the answers here, but I think it will be a damn good start. Any input at all is welcomed folks.

 

[Merelan]

Did you read the top three threads here? The one's with the little sticky bits on them. Honest, it won't stain your hands. I don't think.

And here:
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=69529

That thread is one Wizard started with all kinds of links to various sites. Most of them are labeled as to the links primary focus. Start reading, and reading and then some more reading is a good thought. It helps.

I assume you are interested in something particular? Something special? Or overall?

Try some of those.

Have fun!

 

[kiwiwolf]

Did you read the top three threads here? The one's with the little sticky bits on them. Honest, it won't stain your hands. I don't think.

And here:
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=69529

That thread is one Wizard started with all kinds of links to various sites. Most of them are labeled as to the links primary focus. Start reading, and reading and then some more reading is a good thought. It helps.

I assume you are interested in something particular? Something special? Or overall?

Try some of those.

Have fun!

LMAO. The staining of my hands is no problem and yes I have read them. They were really informative but really only just gave me more questions. The links site is brilliant thanks Merelan. I will burrow my way through as much info as I can digest then come back armed with more specific questions.

Thanks for your time.

 

[morninggirl5]

And when you run out of reading material there, try the links here

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73517

Happy reading!

 

[cymbidia]

Kiwi, there's no easy quick concise answer to your question. I've been rolling it around my head since you posted and that's all i could come up with: there's no easy answer.

I can tell you this: none of us fits any stereotype you've ever heard of anyone who's any kinda BDSM freakoid. We have all kinds of people here and in all cases, we're people first - with all our frailities and ugly sides hanging out - and then we're lifestylers (or interested in learning about it for some reason, or kinksters wanting more info, or whatever).

I can tell you this: it's people like you, S, openminded and inquisitive people, who seem to most easily learn that there are deeper and more meaningful realities involved in our BDSM approach to human relationships (cuz that's what they are - not, for sure, just a kind of sexuality) then what is popularly believed.

I can tell you this: almost any BDSM'er you meet, online or in your everyday life, will help you in your desire to learn. It's a fundamental part of who we are as people, disseminators of knowledge, problem solvers, communicators. We're teachers, all of us, with long years of hidden history spent teaching those who fortune sent our way with a desire to learn about love inside the cloak of shadow that's always hung over our forbidden and misunderstood activities.

And i can tell you this: the path is different for each of us. From the gigantic menu of choices that BDSM offers us, we each take what's most appealing. We explore on our own, and with our partners, constantly casting off the old and ill-fitting to try on the new and tasty. We keep some things, some sensations, some play styles while we leave others behind. We change and grow and mutate and evolve every time we play, every time we think about who we are within the skin of what BDSM means to us in our life.

There are a million places to begin to learn about yourself within the embrace of BDSM, kiwi. The others have given you some very good links. Here is one from me: http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73517&highlight=newbie+help

Enjoy the trail, S. Ask questions about stuff that's confusing and share your joys and insights with us along the way, too. We all learn and grow together for all that we're each walking our own path.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Cym I wish some more of the so called straight folk were this forthcoming on issues that matter. If I had posted this on the GB I would have had a bazillion replies by now... and most of them worth jack. Thank you B, and I'll be sure to get back here when I have properly sorted out what I am after.

At the moment it is a huge mystery to me, but I am really eager for information.

Thank you all for your time.

 

[MissTaken]

Well, if you need someone to discuss issues and questions with, let me know. I am no expert, but have read a lot and lived some of it. Sometimes exchanging ideas and thoughts can be very helpful.


*smiles*

Pm me if you want to talk.


And where have I heard that before?

 

[kiwiwolf]

*muttering... Damned newbie cock up...*



Edited out of embarrassment at my double post.

 

[kiwiwolf]

Well, if you need someone to discuss issues and questions with, let me know. I am no expert, but have read a lot and lived some of it. Sometimes exchanging ideas and thoughts can be very helpful.


*smiles*

Pm me if you want to talk.


And where have I heard that before?

LMAO... you're a very cool lady, you know that? Thank you Miss T And I may just take you up on that.

 

[Ebonyfire]

This is the place to get answers

Cym I wish some more of the so called straight folk were this forthcoming on issues that matter. If I had posted this on the GB I would have had a bazillion replies by now... and most of them worth jack. Thank you B, and I'll be sure to get back here when I have properly sorted out what I am after.

At the moment it is a huge mystery to me, but I am really eager for information.

Thank you all for your time.

This is the place to get your questions answered. Peopl ehere try to illuminate as well as educate about BDSM. There is so much misinformation. I hope you will continue to ask questions and share your curiosity with us.

Ebony

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Did you read the top three threads here? The one's with the little sticky bits on them. Honest, it won't stain your hands. I don't think.

And here:
http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=69529

That thread is one Wizard started with all kinds of links to various sites. Most of them are labeled as to the links primary focus. Start reading, and reading and then some more reading is a good thought. It helps.

Too good not to bump.

Wizard, you better get your butt in gear making sure those links are either valid, or updated ...