Objectification

[intothewoods]

PSA from your friendly neighborhood Jewess: most bar and bat mitvah receptions do not include living ice sculptures.

 

[midwestyankee]

PSA from your friendly neighborhood Jewess: most bar and bat mitvah receptions do not include living ice sculptures.

Even a less-than-new culture can change or evolve.

 

[Netzach]

PSA from your friendly neighborhood Jewess: most bar and bat mitvah receptions do not include living ice sculptures.

Indeed. I think that was just Gramma and Jmo was drinking. *wink*

 

[subbie_333]

Well, this thread is heading in a direction where i could bring up this point. What about "body art" (hinted at in the OP)? i am thinking non-permanent stuff, which could include needle play but not piercings or tattoos. How about body paint, something that has been in the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue for several years now? Or, drawing on the body with ink pens (as opposed to permanent tattoos)?

 

[Netzach]

Well, this thread is heading in a direction where i could bring up this point. What about "body art" (hinted at in the OP)? i am thinking non-permanent stuff, which could include needle play but not piercings or tattoos. How about body paint, something that has been in the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue for several years now? Or, drawing on the body with ink pens (as opposed to permanent tattoos)?

I love love love writing things on people in ink. To me it's not so much this, though - this would be writing out a letter to M or a grocery list on my sub who was acting as "human scratchpad" not "I'm a dirty whore" or anything to do with them.

 

[midwestyankee]

I love love love writing things on people in ink.

Why do I think that I would have to have completely lost my mind before I'd be willing to let you within a mile of me with a permanent marker?

 

[subbie_333]

...or a grocery list on my sub who was acting as "human scratchpad" ...

Great idea. i'm gonna have to write that down. On paper, not me.

 

[Netzach]

Why do I think that I would have to have completely lost my mind before I'd be willing to let you within a mile of me with a permanent marker?

San Marzano Tomatoes canned
Asparagus
Smoking Loon
Romano


what, how am I supposed to remember all this crap?

 

[subbie_333]

San Marzano Tomatoes canned
Asparagus
Smoking Loon
Romano


what, how am I supposed to remember all this crap?

What, You haven't seen that TV commercial about that stupid, i mean, functional digital recording device: "milk, eggs, cheese"

 

[midwestyankee]

San Marzano Tomatoes canned
Asparagus
Smoking Loon
Romano


what, how am I supposed to remember all this crap?

Down here in the Illinois Territory we have a new thing....we call it paper. And it never talks back at us, either.

 

[vampire28]

San Marzano Tomatoes canned
Asparagus
Smoking Loon
Romano


what, how am I supposed to remember all this crap?

It would be amusing to be following you around the grocery store as you read your list.

 

[JMohegan]

Even a less-than-new culture can change or evolve.

I know you're just goofin' around here (and I'm fighting the urge to make lewd comments about Netzach's Gramma's tits!) but on a serious and totally off-topic note, I'll say that some bar mitzvahs today really are not what they were when I was a kid.

In certain subsets of the Jewish community, these parties have gone from modest but very happy celebrations involving close family and friends, to mega-events that truly boggle.

 

[ataxia.girl]

I love love love writing things on people in ink. To me it's not so much this, though - this would be writing out a letter to M or a grocery list on my sub who was acting as "human scratchpad" not "I'm a dirty whore" or anything to do with them.

ummmm that's just hot.

i've recently enjoyed being used in a very indifferent and absentminded way as a pillow while he played a game on his phone. It was near the beginning of the encounter when i would have expected there to be more interaction which just made me even wetter.

edited to add:

i've also been spontaneously used as a napkin when one wasn't right at hand. was hot.

 

[Homburg]

I've so far found this form of objectification most often with the 24/7-ers or within the slave dynamic as opposed to the more actively engaged submissive activities.

There is a simple explanation for this - 24/7 people have more time for this sort of thing. When your property is around all the time, and the D/s light is on 24/7, you have time for laid back stuff like footstool time.

 

[twysted73]

There is a simple explanation for this - 24/7 people have more time for this sort of thing. When your property is around all the time, and the D/s light is on 24/7, you have time for laid back stuff like footstool time.

I had guessed.
Makes perfect sense.

What would help myself would be on how one who has limited time to express or engage approach and execute effective objectification?

 

[ataxia.girl]

my gift not so much being that I was his footstoll... but that I had turned off my "needy switch" and was just happy to be with him.....

Yours turns off?? my needy switch is definitely permanently on. i've just got the red flashing light covered up with duct tape so no one sees. Peel back the tape and its serious pandora's box time.

When i'm in happy sub mode everything is a gift. i get you there, its just been awhile.

 

[Homburg]

I had guessed.
Makes perfect sense.

What would help myself would be on how one who has limited time to express or engage approach and execute effective objectification?

Well, I'm in the same boat, actually. While viv is around me constantly, MIS is still LD for a bit less than a year. So I tend to have very little time with her. If all I have is a weekend, well, it's pretty much going to be frenetic-bunny-fuck time all weekend long, and I suck back the V8 ans gatorade to enable me to drive home afterwards. If I have a few more days, and can thus afford a bit more time, frenetic-bunny-fuck turns into mellow, pleased exhaustion. Objectification is an excellent celebration.

Minor joking aside, no one can fuck or scene around the clock. Rests happen. Choose your rests appropriately. You can put her in an objectifying situation that won't necessarily stress her. Sure, it might not be as cool or objectifying as something stressful, but who cares if it rings your bell, right? In my case, objectification is a way to maintain a bit of the dynamic even when we're doing something quiet and vanilla like watching a movie.

 

[Netzach]

I know you're just goofin' around here (and I'm fighting the urge to make lewd comments about Netzach's Gramma's tits!) but on a serious and totally off-topic note, I'll say that some bar mitzvahs today really are not what they were when I was a kid.

In certain subsets of the Jewish community, these parties have gone from modest but very happy celebrations involving close family and friends, to mega-events that truly boggle.

Ever been to a Quinceañera? A Lebenese wedding?

 

[ataxia.girl]

Emotion as entertainment

This thread is making me think of an old boyfriend. He objectified me constantly though i did not know it at the time. He found entertainment value in my various emotional states. He would be amused when i was angry in the way you are amused at a little yippy dog barking at a balloon or a beta fish puffing itself up when looking in the mirror or a two year old throwing a tantrum.

i really loved it. i would get angrier and angrier and sulk and pout to which he would just reply "oh you like it" which was true and having it pointed out to me just made it even better. He wasn't horrible about it, quite gentle in fact, much like watching a small child throw a fit. That element made me feel safe in a way; safe to have my little fits and know after they were over things would still be pretty much as they were and as a plus he was amused in the process.

Playing on and dismissing insecurities could have a similar effect. i am insecure about many things, one of which is my intelligence. i can just imaging him as i am trying to prove some theory of mine ..... "yes yes, that's very nice, we all know you are very intelligent. Now take your tits out so i have something to look at while you're nattering."

i would be simultaneously both seething and dripping.

 

[JMohegan]

Ever been to a Quinceañera? A Lebenese wedding?

No, but I did attend a few coming out parties back in the day. Talk about objectification! Debutantes parading around for the highest bidder. Hilarious. Great food, though. And open bar, at a time when the drinking age was still 18.

 

[ataxia.girl]

As Punishment

Another spin on it would be objectification as punishment which despite objectification being a huge turn on for me i have experienced and it was NOT good in any way. i like to be looked at, a lot. Especially my face. i actually need that as so much of my communication is non verbal facial expression. When i was with BD i had a rule to make myself pretty EVERY day whether i was going to see him or not. One day we were chatting online and i was in a very grumpy mood about something unrelated to us. i had not made myself pretty for him. He said he didn't want to see my face then but didn't see why he should be punished for me not keeping the rules and made me show the rest of myself in cam for him. i did NOT like it one bit. i was upset about something which he was basically ignoring and using me as on-demand porn and not even looking at my angry, pouty face on top of it all.

i always remembered to make myself pretty after that.

i think often the timing is what is important. my favorite time to be objectified is when it unexpected. In this case it worked against me but usually its the best.

 

[DreamSensualist]

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[ataxia.girl]

You can put her in an objectifying situation that won't necessarily stress her. Sure, it might not be as cool or objectifying as something stressful, but who cares if it rings your bell, right? In my case, objectification is a way to maintain a bit of the dynamic even when we're doing something quiet and vanilla like watching a movie.

This is definitely my favorite. Doing something vanilla where you feel like you are on more equal footing and then having him just sort of position you so he can use you as a head rest or wiping his hand on your leg versus telling you to get him a napkin. If its too uncomfortable and stressful i find it is not as psychologically stimulating. i prefer the kind that makes you a little red in the face than the one where you have to concentrate so hard to hold the position.

A tiny unexpected reminder that you are his "thing"... *swoon*

i still have this thread in my head and though i love love love objectification it absolutely must be framed with lots of nurturing or it gets too depressing. i love the contrast of being pulled from a subjective, loving moment to being an object. Always being an object is as boring and frustrating as perpetual subjectivity.

 

[Homburg]

This is definitely my favorite. Doing something vanilla where you feel like you are on more equal footing and then having him just sort of position you so he can use you as a head rest or wiping his hand on your leg versus telling you to get him a napkin. If its too uncomfortable and stressful i find it is not as psychologically stimulating. i prefer the kind that makes you a little red in the face than the one where you have to concentrate so hard to hold the position.

Exactly. There's a lot of hotness in the casual stuff. The almost thoughtless act.

"Open your mouth, please." Stick the pen your using in her mouth. "Hold this for me, sweety. Thank you." Continue reading.

And, yeah, stress positions are distracting. Good for some things, but the casual thingness is disrupted if you're concentrating on the position too much.

 

[ataxia.girl]

"Open your mouth, please." Stick the pen your using in her mouth. "Hold this for me, sweety. Thank you." Continue reading.

Love it! And calling her "sweety" just makes it even better. Contrast. mmmm