no sex for a month

[rosebud5446]

okay, so yesterday, me and my bf decided no penetrative sex for a month. we can masturbate, or give oral but no PiV or anal... we're doing this mainly because we know how fucking hot the sex will be when we do have it again. we also think it will be interesting to see how well we hold off. after a few minutes i thought about how it will affect 'us' and asked him... he said he thinks it will make 'us' better because sex complicates things. and this also made me realize that it isn't just sex for him if he's willing to hold off for a month and still think it will make us a better couple. what do you guys think about all this?

 

[Eilan]

Hey, if you can do this, more power to you. If it were me, I'd probably hold off on the oral, too, because oral sex is sex, but you do what works for you.

I don't know if I could hold out that long.

 

[silverwhisper]

that's a technique recommended by some sex therapists, i understand, for that express purpose. i wouldn't be averse to trying it, but then again, like eilan i'm a tad impatient. :>

ed

 

[rosebud5446]

yeah we were originally going to hold off on oral too, but decided we would never make it that way. we always get eachother so hot without even meaning to. we both turn each other on like no one else before, and it really is ridiculous. and i think this way, we'll be able to tease eachother more.

i'm also going to work more on my kegels (i've been slacking on those lately) and without any penetration (i don't even get to use a dildo or anything) so it may just be the best sex we've ever had. we've been having sex for years, but when i was living in another state, we didn't see eachother very often, and when we did finally have sex, it was us at our best. but we were just FWB then, and now we have all the emotional ties, and have learned alot more on how to please eachother. but we have sex almost everyday so it isn't as rewarding as it could be. so we're going a bit extreme and going to have the best sex of our lives!

 

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[TBKahuna123]

***Slaps a 10-spot on the table***

I'm out!

 

[devils_daughter]

Two words..You're Insane!!! DUe to medical issues me and my bf haven't been able to have sex for 2 weeks (including oral and masturbation on my part), I'm about to go fucking crazy, I'm sleeping next to him every night which drives me crazy and even sitting in an office doing nothing is making me spend every second thinking about what he could be doing while I'm wasting my time at work....god WHY do this voluntarily!!!!

 

[rosebud5446]

hey, i'm not saying it's going to be easy... by any means... with anybody, let alone, we're the hottest relationship either of us have ever been in. we've been having sex for years and still have the hottest sex we've ever had. but we're going to try. we're holding off as much physical contact as long as possible. another reason we are doing this is because i'm getting back on the pill, and about a month from now is when they will be effective. so we're just going to keep it safe and not have to worry about if i put my v.c.f. in or if he's wearing a condom, and we can just kind of relax about it all.

ever since we made this little pact though, guys have been hitting on me alot at work. which they never really did before, and nobody at work knows about this. but something about it is attracting them to me, and it's kind of cool, raising my self esteem. but it does make it a bit harder to keep sex off my mind when everyone is making me feel sexy, even girls!

 

[Eilan]

hey, i'm not saying it's going to be easy...

Keep us updated. We're nosy that way.

 

[hogjack]

I can do a month on my head. Geesh, pick a challenge you whackos.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

I can do a month on my head. Geesh, pick a challenge you whackos.

hogjack it doesn't count if you are married! LOL

Holden

 

[rosebud5446]

new rule- no heavy petting, oral sex, ect...

we realized we'll never make it if we do any of this, we know how to push eachothers buttons too well.

 

[Hanon435]

wish i had such problems

there are starving people in the world!


lol *sigh*

*hit head on wall and continues searching for a nice cute girl*

 

[FurryFury]

No.

Uh huh.

Have fun! Good luck.

I wouldn't do it.

Hell any sex over three days ago always feels like it happened decades ago to me.

I love that stuff.

Nope.

I won't do it! Don't ask me!

LOL!

Fury

 

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[gravyboat]

I'm pretty sure I could go a month...but then...I don't really have anyone TO have sex with atm, so it's not all that difficult

Good luck to you crazy folks anyway

 

[AppleBiter]

I've been married 6 years (been with him about 10 years) and we have sex at least once daily. We have an unbelievable chemistry and the sex is always incredibly hot . . . I could never, nor would I ever want to do this.

Best of luck!

 

[TBKahuna123]

I'm currently on day 10 of a nonvoluntary 16 day dry spell and I'm going nuts. My wife gets home on Sunday and hope she's been doing her exercises because it's gonna get crazy! 30 days? Good luck! You're gonna need it.

Hell if I went that long I'd probably kill someone here at work. The frustration would turn me psycho!!!

 

[silverwhisper]

kahuna: at first, i misread your comment to say "friction", not "frustration"... :>

edq

 

[Chicklet]

I just had sex last night for the first time in five weeks - my preferred sexual partner and I had been to busy to see each other for over a month. WOW. Basically nonstop orgasm from 8pm to 8am. Good luck I hope yours works out just as well ^^

 

[TBKahuna123]

I just had sex last night for the first time in five weeks - my preferred sexual partner and I had been to busy to see each other for over a month. WOW. Basically nonstop orgasm from 8pm to 8am. Good luck I hope yours works out just as well ^^

Hell I'd settle for one non-stop orgasm from 8 pm to 8:47 pm. I believe in managing expectations.

 

[FurryFury]

I've been married 6 years (been with him about 10 years) and we have sex at least once daily. We have an unbelievable chemistry and the sex is always incredibly hot . . . I could never, nor would I ever want to do this.

Best of luck!

I love your av! I'm jealous of you. I thought I had it pretty good too. *sighs*

Fury

I just had sex last night for the first time in five weeks - my preferred sexual partner and I had been to busy to see each other for over a month. WOW. Basically nonstop orgasm from 8pm to 8am. Good luck I hope yours works out just as well ^^

I'm jealous of you too! *grr* *L*

Fury

Hell I'd settle for one non-stop orgasm from 8 pm to 8:47 pm. I believe in managing expectations.

LMAO!

Riiight!

I love you man!

Fury

 

[Mysty61]

Maybe I am missing something, but I do not understand giving up sex for no good reason - like seperation or medical situation. If your sex life is dull why not look for new and different things to spice it up. To me even bad sex (whatever that is) is better then no sex, but then who am I to say what you should or should not do.

 

[Chicklet]

Maybe I am missing something, but I do not understand giving up sex for no good reason - like seperation or medical situation. If your sex life is dull why not look for new and different things to spice it up. To me even bad sex (whatever that is) is better then no sex, but then who am I to say what you should or should not do.

but then you might end up in a routine of dull sex - the "before bed" orgasm with no passion behind it, for instance. and then, how do you remind yourself how to be passionate?

just thoughts spewing out of my head.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Maybe I am missing something, but I do not understand giving up sex for no good reason - like seperation or medical situation. If your sex life is dull why not look for new and different things to spice it up. To me even bad sex (whatever that is) is better then no sex, but then who am I to say what you should or should not do.

Oh believe me, I can understand this. The whole self denial to highten the experience, yeah it could be extremely sensual. I guess maybe I've just had to do this so many times not of my own free will that I wouldn't do it myself, but I understand the appeal.