No more regrets....post them here!

What is your definition of destiny? Do you believe everything is preplanned for us?


No, not everything, but that there is a path you are on and that somewhere along the way, a reason or reasons become apparent even in retrospect. Its almost like you and only you made a change, or will make one happen that was critical. Even if all it is, is a simple conversation. Had you not been on that path, the outcome may have been drastically and perhaps terribly different.

I know a lot of people will say horseshit. Thats fine. I have experienced otherwise.

So do I have regrets? Yes, but I have long since accepted my role in those events. I used to say to hell with destiny, I make my own. Even that is a path towards an intersection of events.

The world still has mysteries that are unexplained. We don't think about it generally. Too busy.
 
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My only real deep regret: My marriage falling apart. I mean granted, she didn't make it easy on me and ultimately we grew apart as people, and we became so different then when we first met. I look back at when we first met and remember how happy and amazed I was that a love like this could happen to me. And then years and many ups and downs later we're at a marriage counselor and I realize "Jesus Christ, there's absolutely no fixing this." We remain friends now and I'm glad for that. And I'm still close with my stepson too. We have no reason in the world to hate each other. We had so many years together, a lot of them good. I just wish we could have found the way forward.
 
I try to live my life with no regrets as a general rule. There is only one that has haunted me my entire life. The one road untraveled. The dangerous unsure path. I chose safe. It was a good choice. I love the life I have. But I will always wonder, dream, and think about the day I chose the light over the dark and never got to see the stars shine again for all the bright sun. I've found there is rarely a middle ground, and when there is, it is usually unsatisfactory for all parties.
 
awwww.. you don't have to be perfect. you just have to be present.
As young performers, we often spend a greta deal of time being critiqued in front of peers, tribunals, and those who are also competing for the open spot. As adults, we bring life and love to the music. Don't give your power to the critics.. they've gown old as well.

Yeah, really it's just all about getting out there and doing what you love. And the great thing about technology and social media and places like bandcamp.com and other places of the like, even youtube, is that it makes it so incredibly easy to have an outlet for your work.

Sangerin, I really feel you on the music thing. I'm a musician myself. I've watched friends and peers over the years be offered amazing chances and opportunities while I struggled. It sucks but I reached a point to where I forced myself to be self-sufficient and go it alone. As a result I accomplished lots of cool stuff, played some fun gigs, made tons of friends, wrote, recorded and put out lots of good music on my own. So at that point I stopped caring about those others because I staked my own ground and wrote my own ticket. I say all this to tell you that for creative types like us there is ALWAYS a path forward. Even if sometimes it doesn't feel like it. :)
 
Yesterday i washed my hands at work and about 10mins later scratched my forehead and caught the scent of her in the soap i had just used and that she must have used at her work those few years ago..
It was a scent i had not smelt since those early days and something i then took as perfume or moisturizer.
It reminded me of those days she'd rush here from her work so we could spend every second of the evening and night in each others arms and love..
I yearned for her, her smile,touch and saw her at every turn of my head and now i resist using the handsoap in the washroom there,for fear my heart aches like that again..
It is strange how such a mildly perfumed soap can transport the mind to such places of great joy and great hurt.
I regret washing my hands yesterday.
 
Hiya Sanger. Game night tonight. Your boys better bring their A game.

No regrets, right? ;)
 
So to update (in case anyone cares)

I followed my passion and did it. Sang a gig over the weekend and nailed it.
 
In 1996, I married my soulmate.
One year and six months later, I had to decide between her and my family.


I chose her. I do not regret that decision because twenty and a half years later, she is still my number one.

The decision broke me from my family though. I haven't spoken to my three brothers in so long. I wasn't there when my dad passed away nor did I go to his funeral because I couldn't afford it. I did go the next year to find closure.

But what i would give to have made peace with him earlier. To still be close to my brothers.
 
I have many regrets... Oh well, fuck it. :rose:

My edit: Weird. I didn't read any of the replies until after I posted initially. We're all like, "fuck it"... what's up with that?

;)
 
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Approaching 60, very fit and determined to do even more, regrets are inevitable. But that's okay. If I have future regrets it means I pushed the envelope. I'm okay with that. It won't be because I did nothing.
 
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