Nice Guys Finish last

[PinkOrchid]

 

[supah_fly_69]

nice guys

ive never found a grl that really likes nice guys. they say they do, they say they love the attention. Im nice, far from a wuss or a whiner, im outgoing, extremely protective, attentive, etc. so far the excuses ive gotten or that ive treated them too nice, that im too nice and they dont wanna hurt me, but that is all after ive already been ignored and treated like shyt. i usally am the one to break up cuz the grl will keep it going even tho shes unhappy with me, and that jus makes me miserable. i wanna know, what do women want from a guy? honest answers too plz. id do anything to make a grl smile and have tons of chyc friends but never wrks out when in a relationship.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Re: nice guys

ive never found a grl that really likes nice guys. they say they do, they say they love the attention. Im nice, far from a wuss or a whiner, im outgoing, extremely protective, attentive, etc. so far the excuses ive gotten or that ive treated them too nice, that im too nice and they dont wanna hurt me, but that is all after ive already been ignored and treated like shyt. i usally am the one to break up cuz the grl will keep it going even tho shes unhappy with me, and that jus makes me miserable. i wanna know, what do women want from a guy? honest answers too plz. id do anything to make a grl smile and have tons of chyc friends but never wrks out when in a relationship.

You know something. Fuck 'em. Who do YOU want to be? Figure that out before you even approach a woman.

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Mayberry,

I like you more and more with each post.

Orchid

 

[Allanon_the_Druid]

Nice Guy

It seems the definition of nice guy here is weak, boring, pushover or home body.

Why is it not just anybody who doesn't fuck people over?

There are lots of us out here ladies.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Yeah, fuck being a nice guy!! I've given up on that deal, dudes and dudettes. When you stop being such a 'nice guy', and just be who you are, you will do better in life. And, seriously, screw picking up chicks, if it means compromising who you are...and what woman wants someone fake anyways?

 

[OmegaSex]

Yeah, fuck being a nice guy!! I've given up on that deal, dudes and dudettes. When you stop being such a 'nice guy', and just be who you are, you will do better in life. And, seriously, screw picking up chicks, if it means compromising who you are...and what woman wants someone fake anyways?

Agreed. Why put forth a represenative of yourself when you could just skip the bullshit and just BE YOURSELF? Fuck what people think, if they don't like you, it's there loss, not yours.

 

[lovechild27]

Hey there elroy....lol. I dont think guys ilke nice girls. I get screwed all the time and Im a very giving, generous person. Maybe if I was a gold digging whore Id be more interesting...

 

[Cakegirl]

Personally, I tend to go for guys who *seem* like they're not nice guys, but underneath they are. I'm not attracted to arseholes or anything like that, but if I see a guy who seems a bit macho or aggressive, and then I see a hint that there's a sensitive man inside, that gets my curiosity up and I just *have* to find out more about the guy!
~Cakegirl

 

[watergirl]

Pink Orchid said it very very well! And Mayberry, too.

If you think you're not attractive - so will we.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

I'm a guy who likes nice girls...but I haven't always, you know?

As far as nice guys...I know alot of guys use self-deprecating humor, but when you do that too much, it seems like a sign of low self-esteem. That's a sure way to be unattractive to others. I personally find that I do well with people in general when I don't worry about it so much.

 

[watergirl]

Good point, Mayberry.

My best friend tried to set me up with someone last summer. he constantly put himself down, and within hours of meeting him, I knew he was: dyslexic, diabetic, seeing a shrink, had told said shrink he expected to get as far as at least kissing me, had a tongue piercing (and others he REALLY shouldn't have told me about,) and that he was a miserable unpopular lump in high school (he was 30 when I went on this date - get over it!)..

beyond that, if I continue, you'll think I'm making it up.

All of the above would not have been a huge turn off - it was the horribly self-deprecating manner, and short time span, that I heard about all of them in..

just awful.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Good point, Mayberry.

My best friend tried to set me up with someone last summer. he constantly put himself down, and within hours of meeting him, I knew he was: dyslexic, diabetic, seeing a shrink, had told said shrink he expected to get as far as at least kissing me, had a tongue piercing (and others he REALLY shouldn't have told me about,) and that he was a miserable unpopular lump in high school (he was 30 when I went on this date - get over it!)..

beyond that, if I continue, you'll think I'm making it up.

All of the above would not have been a huge turn off - it was the horribly self-deprecating manner, and short time span, that I heard about all of them in..

just awful.

Can we say "accentuate the positive"? And what the hell was this guy doing talking about himself so much? I don't think you asked for his life story, did you?
I knew a guy who told women at bars that he only had one testicle...too much information!!

 

[watergirl]

one - I have no idea why he woudn't shut up - nervous, I guess.

two - one testicle? LMAO - tell me, his name wasn't Kevin, was it?!?!

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Wait...it's been a few years ago...I'm not sure, but he was also cross-eyed and was deaf in one ear.

 

[watergirl]

wow... nope, that's not the "One Ball" I know and despise!

hey, it's movie time!

night, all!

 

[PinkOrchid]

 

[CantSayNo]

I don't think this is necessarily true. I don't know if you're just specifically talking about pretty girls, or just good girls in general, the ones who make you laugh and just know how to be faithful to a man. There are no real advantages to being pretty. Men look at you and think: "Boyfriend", so whereas you never are in a consistent relationship. Then, when you're a good girl, guys seem to think that oh, well, I'll just screw her and go back to my old woman who treats me like shit. You want to talk about women being screwed up? How about men!? lol.

Your input zero would help me to soothe my bastardly blissful soul.

~CantSayNo~

 

[ozraven]

Why is it that nice guys finish last, while all the hot nice women go for assholes. Yet they talk to nice guys about the asshole and say "why can't I find a nice guy and the nice girl just stays with the asshole. It is fucked up. I am a nice guy and I want to know how to be an asshole. Can anyone help me? It's just for the soul purpose of getting my foot in the door then I will revert back to my old ways.

Any suggestions?

Maybe when you posted this you were just on a "downer"

I am not sure what qualifies as a nice guy, but I don't think I am an arsehole, my fiance is a wonderful warm, caring human being that I have an incredible amount in common with, and she is a babe....... that's not finishing last......

I'd like to think everyone gets the partner they deserve in the end, but life just isn't like that, bad karma, serious dumb shit in a previous life, or an inbuilt tendancy to think you (meaning anyone) are the nice guy when everyone else thinks you're the arsehole..... All possible reasons, so is luck, perseverence, and a million other things.....

But the women I know really don't dig the "arseholes", they just like a bit of excitement in their lives, it's pretty easy to provide that and still be a nice guy, first!

 

[beethoven69]

It seems that my problem is all the women i meet Are taken in some sense or another. ranging from just in a relationship to engaged very soon to be married... and for reasons of good intent and gentlemanship, I just can never allow it to go anywhere... how can i find a free woman who is looking for some fun and a relationship?

 

[BamaBelle]

X-TCY, honey, let me tell you a secret among us real women...

NICE GUYS DO FINISH FIRST!!!

My first hubby was a JERK and a half. He had me sooo blind in the way he treated me that I didnt KNOW nice guys existed. When I finally woke up and smelled the coffee, I got out of the verbally, physically, mentally, and emotionally abusive hell.

THEN, Pumpkin found me. Rescued me and its been Heaven ever since. We have all the problems that other couples have, but we face them TOGETHER.

Just 5 little words of advice: DONT SETTLE FOR 2nd BEST!


Good luck, honey!!

 

[beethoven69]

thanks for the vote of confidence!! i suppose there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am delighted to hear of your success. I only hope i am as lucky as you.

 

[Guest]

Why is it that nice guys finish last, while all the hot nice women go for assholes. Yet they talk to nice guys about the asshole and say "why can't I find a nice guy and the nice girl just stays with the asshole. It is fucked up. I am a nice guy and I want to know how to be an asshole. Can anyone help me? It's just for the soul purpose of getting my foot in the door then I will revert back to my old ways.

Any suggestions?

I don't know and I'm a woman.

If and when you DO get an answer to this question please post it here, so I'll know myself why I always fall for the creeps, AND I can report back to ALL MY MALE FRIENDS who have been asking me that same question for years now.

Good Luck!

-X-

 

[BamaBelle]

thanks for the vote of confidence!! i suppose there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am delighted to hear of your success. I only hope i am as lucky as you.

Sweetie, its not about luck. Its ALL about keeping your eyes and ears open for the right opportunities and taking life by the bull horns and making things happen for yourself.