New to the "scene" and looking for some tips/advice

[Znufkin]

HI!
We're a couple who recently (At least I) started with bdsm a few months back and we found it very exciting. It started out with just light spanking but developed to more "advanced" things such as bondage, mind games(if you can call it that), humiliation etc. However, I feel that we've reached a point where we're repeating the same things over and over again. So I'd like to ask you guys for some advice. We're both switches so advice might be for any gender, but I'm asking mainly as myself in the dominating role - since we've got plans coming up this weekend on the basis that Saturday she's mine and Sunday I'm her's and I would like to surprise her with something new and refreshing..

I realise that this information is not much to go by to figure out what we might be interested in, but we've found ourself open to most things up to this point so any advice is greatly appreciated!

 

[John Blackhawk]

have you tried tying her down to the bed and use sex toys to give her torturous orgasms?

 

[Znufkin]

have you tried tying her down to the bed and use sex toys to give her torturous orgasms?

Yeah, only done that once though so it might be something to revisit.

 

[SissySalina]

Try this:
Saturday is college day, watch a basketball game.
Have Her tied to a table with Her arms and legs tied to the table legs, where She is facing the TV.
You pick a team,every time someone scores on your team you fuck Her, when someone on the other team scores you spank Her.

 

[SalvDali]

There are a ton of picture threads on this forum. I had been copying many of my favorites and things I would be interested in trying for a while. based on a post from Cookie a while back I had my wife sit with me one night after the kids were asleep and sort them all into 3 folders: YES!!! , No WAY!!, and I'd be willing to try it. I learned that things she had previously been unwilling to consider had become a turn on as well.

There were hundreds of pictures so it took a little bit but when it was done I had all I needed to plan many many nights of fun where I had several activities we both wanted to do and some things to try that she may or may not enjoy to test the waters. I find she enjoys things more the less she knows about whats going to happen.

We had a rare weekend with no kids in the house and I made her stay naked for an entire day for the first time. It was quite fun.

Also blindfolds seem to make everything better , or worse if that's what you are aiming for


It would also be helpful to know what toys and instruments you have at your disposal.

 

[cookiecat]

There are a ton of picture threads on this forum. I had been copying many of my favorites and things I would be interested in trying for a while. based on a post from Cookie a while back I had my wife sit with me one night after the kids were asleep and sort them all into 3 folders: YES!!! , No WAY!!, and I'd be willing to try it. I learned that things she had previously been unwilling to consider had become a turn on as well.

There were hundreds of pictures so it took a little bit but when it was done I had all I needed to plan many many nights of fun where I had several activities we both wanted to do and some things to try that she may or may not enjoy to test the waters. I find she enjoys things more the less she knows about whats going to happen.

We had a rare weekend with no kids in the house and I made her stay naked for an entire day for the first time. It was quite fun.

Also blindfolds seem to make everything better , or worse if that's what you are aiming for


It would also be helpful to know what toys and instruments you have at your disposal.

A SalvDali sighting! Yay! Where ya been? Hey - and you mentioned me.

 

[cookiecat]

It's hard to say examples since I don't know what you've done and what you guys like. Over the next couple days, you can do what SalvD suggested - each of you look at porn or some of the picture threads here - find 5 things you like each day. Either email to each other or sit and discuss together. Then pick out a couple things to do.

Good luck.

 

[SalvDali]

A SalvDali sighting! Yay! Where ya been? Hey - and you mentioned me.

I have been lurking mostly Life has been sucking up my time lately, plus we treated ourselves to some new toys for Christmas so have been playing a lot Most of the time by the time I see a post, it has already been answered by posters with much more knowledge and experience, so I just lurk the picture threads ...