New to deepthroat

[Hummingbyrd]

My boyfriend wants me to leard to deepthroat him and I'm having a problem, not so much with my gag reflex, which seems trainable to me, but with the fact that as soon as the head of my "practice penis" gets all the way back and I've conquered the first gagging sensation, I can no longer breathe through my nose and I'm afraid to continue to push the thing down my throat. I had uppp surgery in the past (they remove the uvula and part of the soft palatte) but I saw a post here from a few years ago from someone (Night shade?) that had the same operation. She was having problems gagging but there was no mention of plugging up her airway. I have tried every position I can think of except for my head hanging off the side of the bed (guess what I'm doing tonight!) and I don't know what I'm doing wrong... Any help would be appreciated, as this means a lot to us for me to be able to throat massage him. Thanks, any comment is appreciated.

 

[symbolicflame]

My boyfriend wants me to leard to deepthroat him and I'm having a problem, not so much with my gag reflex, which seems trainable to me, but with the fact that as soon as the head of my "practice penis" gets all the way back and I've conquered the first gagging sensation, I can no longer breathe through my nose and I'm afraid to continue to push the thing down my throat. I had uppp surgery in the past (they remove the uvula and part of the soft palatte) but I saw a post here from a few years ago from someone (Night shade?) that had the same operation. She was having problems gagging but there was no mention of plugging up her airway. I have tried every position I can think of except for my head hanging off the side of the bed (guess what I'm doing tonight!) and I don't know what I'm doing wrong... Any help would be appreciated, as this means a lot to us for me to be able to throat massage him. Thanks, any comment is appreciated.

Thank god I am a lesbian, not worries about gag reflex here!
But since I am such a straight friend person I found this article for you;
Deep throat Made Easy


Here for the first time ever are simple and explicit instructions on how to deep throat a penis. Position is important; you'll want to in position where you can extend and straighten your neck by slightly tilting your head back. This helps line up your throat with your mouth allowing the penis to slide in deep. The best position for beginners is with the receiver lying on his back with the giver lying on the stomach along side. You can prop yourself up on your elbows.

The penis must be THOROUGHLY LUBRICATED! I can't stress this enough. An erect penis will slide much easier along the tongue and into the throat if it is well lubricated. Once you're in position, slightly tilt your head back and extend the tip of your tongue just past your bottom lip. Flatten the back of your tongue just as you would if a doctor were using a tongue depressor to look in your throat. (Extending your tongue helps flatten the back of your tongue. Force your throat open as you would if you were yawning. (contrary to popular belief, you don't 'relax' your throat muscles to perform deepthroat. Forcing the back of your tongue down and your throat open will counter the gag reflex and create a larger opening for the penis to enter)

Now, take a deep breath and slowly slide the length of the penis into your mouth and along your tongue. When you feel the urge to gag, pause and hold the penis there as long as possible then withdraw it. Repeat this process as many times as you can. Eventually you'll be able to take the penis in deeper and deeper until you can take the entire length of it across your tongue and down your throat

One thing to remember is when you get to the point where the head actually enters the throat, you may feel a little resistance and will need to give a little extra 'push' to get the penis fully in. It may help to use your tongue to pull the penis in deeper. When you reach the point where you feel the gag reflex, pause for a moment, then, without removing the penis from you mouth, extend your tongue out a little further, then pull your tongue back in your mouth, pulling the penis along with it.
You contact lens wearers will no doubt remember the difficulty you had overcoming the involuntary urge to blink the first few times you tried to put in your lenses, but with practice and patience it became very easy to do. The same applies to deep throating! Be patient and practice the technique as often as possible.

After you've learned to take in the entire length, you can begin working on some 'advanced techniques' that will add even more pleasure. Some of these techniques are letting you partner ejaculate with the entire length of his penis in your throat.
If you don't like the taste of cum, this is a great technique because the head of his penis will be well past the taste buds on the back of you tongue when he ejaculates. You'll also be able to perform a 'throat massage' on his penis while it's in your throat.
This technique will drive your partner wild with passion as your throat muscles massage his penis. This is accomplished by actually making a swallowing motion while the entire length of his penis is deep in your throat. You'll also be able to lick his balls while he's in your throat.

If you've never been deepthroated, you're probably wondering what it really feels like. Most men report that they feel a 'pleasurable ring of tightness' around the circumference of the penis just below the head with the most pleasurable sensation focused on the underside of the penis where the head joins the shaft. Remember: lubrication, extend tongue, flatten back of tongue, force throat muscles open, go slow and be patient!
While learning deepthroat, it's better that the giver maintain the 'superior' position, i.e. where the giver controls the depth and frequency of penetration. After you've become very comfortable with taking a penis deep in your throat, you'll be able to accept a more passive roll and let your partner control the depth. An excellent position for this is you lying on your back with your head hanging off the edge of the bed. Your partner will be able to put his penis in as deeply as he wishes in this position. This position provides an excellent view of your neck and throat for your partner. One of the most exciting visual aspects of deepthroat is your partner can watch your neck and throat expand and bulge as the penis slides in deep.

While learning to perform deepthroat, it's best of you are fully relaxed before starting. Take a nice, long, hot, bath. Listen to some soft music Drink a glass of wine. Have you partner give you a long sensual body massage....or do whatever relaxes you the best. The more relaxed you are when you begin, the easier it will be to learn the deepthroat technique.
As related earlier, lubrication is extremely important. Saliva will do, but there are other lubricants you can buy that are slicker and will last longer. The best I've found is, believe-it-or-not, Albolene, a make-up remover! It's completely odorless and tasteless and in non toxic. It has been used in the adult film industry for years as a sexual lubricant.
It can be purchased at any large drug-store. Another trick the adult film stars who perform deepthroat use is spraying a topical anesthetic on the back of the tongue and throat to deaden it. The most commonly used is 'Lidocaine' spray. Lidocaine is available by prescription only! Lidocaine is what a physician uses to deaden the tongue and throat when they use an 'endoscope' to look in to your stomach.
Lidocaine is also prescribed for people with very sore throats and those with canker sores in the mouth. An over the counter equivalent is 'Axon', a type of aerosol sore throat spray.

I hope this information is helpful.

 

[Hummingbyrd]

Yeah, that's a good article, thanks. I wish it addressed suffocation though. I don't know how I'm causing myself not to be able to breathe through my nose.

 

[coolr]

you shouldn't be able to breath while deepthroating since your nasal canal joins into your throat (esophagus) which is one tube, once that tube is obstructed by a penis no air will be able to get in or out. my only advice, take a good deep breath before deepthroating. why do you think in all the movies after a short amount of deep throating the girls always pull back gasping for air?

 

[TBKahuna123]

you shouldn't be able to breath while deepthroating since your nasal canal joins into your throat (esophagus) which is one tube, once that tube is obstructed by a penis no air will be able to get in or out. my only advice, take a good deep breath before deepthroating. why do you think in all the movies after a short amount of deep throating the girls always pull back gasping for air?

You know, this is what I thought when reading the post intially. Not being a doctor and never having had a cock down my throat though, I thought I might be wrong. If you think about it though, you never see a porn start deepthroating a guy for more than a few seconds at a time. Maybe you are setting your expectations too high.

 

[hogjack]

The key is regular practice and a devotion to the deepthroating art. Find a mentor and study under his/her tutelage.

 

[rthnck]

talent or training

In my experience with the fairer sex, it's easier for some than others although it can be achieved by anyone. Practice makes perfect. Here is a sample of someone who appears to be naturally talented

http://www.debsdeepthroat.com/sample.wmv

 

[carrie-on]

in my personal experience,the best thing to do is take a deep breath through your nose as you slowly swallow his cock to your throat. For me the easiest way is with the giver sitting up,say on the edge of the bed and the receiver standing in front. you can control your breathing a lot easier because gravity works with you in not blocking your nasal passages with his cock. your fella has to be easy too though and not hold your head so tight you can't pull back and get a breath. The trick is breathing through your nose and practice,practice,practice. I have been married for 31 yrs and i still practice several times a week.

 

[deluxe3000]

Excellent post, Carrie. You've got a very lucky husband!

Hogjack, once again, very funny. You're probably the only person to use the word 'tutelage' in a Literotica post. I believe that that earns you an additional 100 points, thereby putting you in the lead!

Thank goodness for Literotica and the cool people who post.

Three cheers!

Hear hear!

 

[hogjack]

The trick is breathing through your nose and practice,practice,practice.

This technique is equally applicable to playing the harmonica and yoga. Doing all three at the same time would be very impressive.

 

[coolr]

This technique is equally applicable to playing the harmonica and yoga. Doing all three at the same time would be very impressive.

indeed, i think i would probably pay to see that as a matter of fact

 

[Hummingbyrd]

This technique is equally applicable to playing the harmonica and yoga. Doing all three at the same time would be very impressive.

LOL harmonica...now here's an idea.....

I was going to see if I could hold my breath like those extreme divers do. I've a month before I see him again so I want to surprise him. Too bad it's unacceptable to have a human guinea pig to practice on...

Thanks for all the advice. It really helps.

 

[Stanard]

Hold your breath

ORIGINAL POST: "......I'm having a problem.....with the fact that as soon as the head......gets all the way back.....I can no longer breathe through my nose and I'm afraid to continue to push the thing down my throat........I don't know what I'm doing wrong."

You aren't doing anything wrong. You're not supposed to be able to breathe while it is in your throat. You need to take a few deep breaths before you deep throat. You just need to be ready to hold your breath while it is in your throat.