New, overwhelmed and lost with many questions

[echoes_s]

edit. perhaps i shouldnt have asked these questions...

 

[Etoile]

I don't know what you originally asked, but this is a pretty welcoming community. We're happy to answer any questions you may have, even if you feel they're not appropriate or that you're a naughty/bad person for having kinky thoughts. I hope you'll post your questions again.

 

[sigsauerprinces]

I don't know what you originally asked, but this is a pretty welcoming community. We're happy to answer any questions you may have, even if you feel they're not appropriate or that you're a naughty/bad person for having kinky thoughts. I hope you'll post your questions again.

ditto..ppl are pretty cool here. pretty friendly. they dont bite-unless you ask nicely

 

[morninggirl5]

We've all been where you are now. WIth a million questions, struggling sometimes to even put them into words.


Use the library here. You can read, reflect, and then when things are more clear, perhaps you will be able to ask.

Here's a link to a thread that has sites that members here have found useful when they were new.

http://www.literotica.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73517

 

[incubus_dark]

At the very least, and assuming that the questions you wish to ask have been discussed so many times before that we're all sick of typing about it, somebody will point you to where the answers are already written.

 

[Romany]

I should think you would be much safer asking any questions in here, than going into the chatroom and being fed b******t by some wannabe.

Apologies to any genuine lifestyler chatters I might have offended.

Rom

 

[lorddragonwolf]

we were all new once and are all still learning too. so feel free to ask any questions. so please repost them and maybe we can answer them..

 

[echoes_s]

i apologize for not coming back sooner. i asked my Trainer/Dominant once He was able to come back as i did fully intend on doing.
What i had written was i was introduced and being trained for the first time by a Master who is very serious in BDSM and also believes in 24/7 and Total Power Exchange.
The intensity and overwhelming swing of emotions felt, (i actually felt the exchange of power escalate during and with each session), then suddenly His mother became gravely ill and He was gone without a word for a few days.
i am not a weak or incapable person, yet i felt my world had shattered and did not understand what was going on. Why i felt this way and what was happening. Since then He has contacted me, apologizing for the abrupt departure, and my training has resumed.

Now i do have one more question which i have searched relentlessly for the answer (please bear with me, i am not used to navigating and get lost easily on the net)
What does it mean, when a Trainer/Dominant has named a submissive?
i feel myself this is a very special and precious gift from Him that i may carry with me at all times...a part of Him.

i thank you for your responses
taipa

 

[Mr Blonde]

Feel free to ask any questions where you sincerely want to know the answers.

Regarding re-naming, I had that same question myself and many people gave articulate answers. Here is the thread:

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=220720

 

[echoes_s]

Thank You very much Mr Blonde

taipa

 

[InnerDarkness]

I, for one, and glad to see you came back and posted your questions

When I first came here, most everyone embraced me with open arms and answered all of my questions...even the ones I thought were silly or I was embarassed to ask.

Sometimes I did ask questions previously asked and was pointed to threads that addressed my issues, but it was VERY rare to feel unwelcomed here.

My first experience in any kind of training (which I fully admit was not complete and did not last long) was very intense for me. Part of my intensity was the fact that I had literally just put a name to what I had been fantasizing about all my life. So, not only did I develop an intense sexual attraction to my first Sir, I also had an emotional attraction that nearly destroyed me when our relationship ended.

I think it is VERY normal to feel so emotional, especially as training intensifies and you build more connections and trust.

And I also think being named his sub is very special.

I look forward to hearing more about your experiences.

 

[Etoile]

I too am glad to see you came back, echoes_s! I don't have any input on the naming question, but I hope you'll feel free to ask other questions and participate on this board.

Hi ID!

 

[InnerDarkness]

Hi ID!

*waves*

Hi ya!

 

[taipa]

Hi InnerDarkness and Etoile, thank you for your warm welcome!
I made a few posts with a few more details and questionings on "The Master's" thread, but he does not agree with me. i feel perhaps my views are viewed as wrong or a bit off base right now, but i am slowly learning and views are subject to change as one grows.

 

[InnerDarkness]

Hi InnerDarkness and Etoile, thank you for your warm welcome!
I made a few posts with a few more details and questionings on "The Master's" thread, but he does not agree with me. i feel perhaps my views are viewed as wrong or a bit off base right now, but i am slowly learning and views are subject to change as one grows.

be careful not to modify yourself, how you think or how you feel simply because someone disagrees with you or sees it a bit differently.

I have not read the thread you refer to, but I just hate to see someone shut down their own thoughts because someone else disagrees.

The lifestyle of BDSM is wide and varied to meet the needs/wants/desires of a great many people...find your OWN way, and you will find happiness (kinda cheesy sounding, but true)

 

[Etoile]

Hi InnerDarkness and Etoile, thank you for your warm welcome!
I made a few posts with a few more details and questionings on "The Master's" thread, but he does not agree with me. i feel perhaps my views are viewed as wrong or a bit off base right now, but i am slowly learning and views are subject to change as one grows.

Hi taipa,
There's no reason at all that just because one person (or a few people) disagree with your views means that your views are wrong. They are your views, and they are perfectly valid! Don't let one person (or a few people) convince you that you need to change to meet the way they think. You are an individual, and only you can decide what feels right to you. Others may counsel you, but in the end you must know what feels right for yourself.
Hugs,
Etoile

 

[InnerDarkness]

I went back and read your posts in that thread, and I personally think your points were some of the more sensible ones in it. LOL

Everyone has opinions. Everyone has experiences. Everyone has a perspective. FOR THEM.

I thought your views were well expressed, well articulated and made much sense for me as one who identifies as submissive.

You seem VERY on the right track after a "bumpy" start. Your experiences could help others

 

[taipa]

be careful not to modify yourself, how you think or how you feel simply because someone disagrees with you or sees it a bit differently.

I have not read the thread you refer to, but I just hate to see someone shut down their own thoughts because someone else disagrees.

The lifestyle of BDSM is wide and varied to meet the needs/wants/desires of a great many people...find your OWN way, and you will find happiness (kinda cheesy sounding, but true)

Hi taipa,
There's no reason at all that just because one person (or a few people) disagree with your views means that your views are wrong. They are your views, and they are perfectly valid! Don't let one person (or a few people) convince you that you need to change to meet the way they think. You are an individual, and only you can decide what feels right to you. Others may counsel you, but in the end you must know what feels right for yourself.
Hugs,
Etoile

No, i understand what you both are saying. Right now what is important is for me to learn what i am being taught and my views will change as i change and am ready to admit or accept each step and reason for being. I am just being trained right now and barely have a deep indepth glimpse of this lifestyle, but have an open mind and am willing to learn what i can

 

[taipa]

I went back and read your posts in that thread, and I personally think your points were some of the more sensible ones in it. LOL

Everyone has opinions. Everyone has experiences. Everyone has a perspective. FOR THEM.

I thought your views were well expressed, well articulated and made much sense for me as one who identifies as submissive.

You seem VERY on the right track after a "bumpy" start. Your experiences could help others

Thank you InnerDarkness

 

[Etoile]

Heh, we keep posting over each other, ID, and saying the same things!

Is it almost time for Roo's dice?

 

[InnerDarkness]

Heh, we keep posting over each other, ID, and saying the same things!

Is it almost time for Roo's dice?

HAHAHAHAHA!!

not until midnight NST
another 2 HOURS i think...
I am off to bed...BEAUTY SLEEP NEEDED

 

[taipa]

Thank you to both of you
beauty sleep is needed here also...its 2 am
hugs

 

[Etoile]

{{hugs}} for taipa and ID!

I'll get to sleep eventually...it's only 1:15am here (eastern time).

 

[echoes_s]

Etoile, Innerdarkness,
i apologize for the disappearance. To be accepted as His submissive, i had to agree not to talk to anyone, seek counsel, nor explain why i could not continue discussing BDSM related issues.
To say the least, the relationship ended quick enough.
.....my very best, please forgive me

 

[shyly curious]

good morning taipa, welcome back, .... hope all is well, the sunrise this morning was beautiful. i am just south of you and hope it was bright and glorious for you too.

be well, shy