new 18/f sub/slave.

[katherinedeath]

Hello Everyone.
My name is Katherine Elizabeth or Kate
Im 18 yrs old.

Im new on here and just wanted to get to know people that share the same sexual taste as I do. Or if there is a master out there looking for a new slave, Im more than willing.

also, Im a sadomasochist.
no pain = no pleasure
If that helps any.

 

[midwestyankee]

Welcome. Sit down and enjoy the conversations.

You may also want to put up a personals thread in the BDSM Personals forum, if you haven't already, though many people find that the end results are much better when you become attracted to someone online because of the quality and nature of his or her posts in forum threads. You get to know how and what someone thinks that way.

 

[MisterSir]

Perfect opportunity for me to ask. Are people who label themselves sadomasochists generally a) masochists, b) sadists or c) it's one of those words that vacillates between the two like a metronome?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Be careful what you offer as with any relationship, a Master/slave one requires some form of compatibility to work. Offering yourself to anyone who is looking is a recipe for disaster, and can become downright dangerous if the worng person decides to set the bait just right for you. Entering this lifestyle is better done with a good idea of safety. That being said, I am sure you will be welcomed here wth open arms.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Perfect opportunity for me to ask. Are people who label themselves sadomasochists generally a) masochists, b) sadists or c) it's one of those words that vacillates between the two like a metronome?

Sadomasochist is usually understood to be someone who enjoys both giving and receiving pain, though they may have a higher preference for one over the other.

Catalina

 

[Primalex]

I bet she doesn't know what she is talking about.

Who antes up?

 

[bambikiller]

She's only 18 she probably doesn't.

Kate as long as you are of age you should look around here a lot more to learn whats going on before you put out an offer like that.
And when you are ready try and be safe about it and do it in the personals section.

 

[MisterSir]

She's only 18 she probably doesn't.

You, sir? You are an idiot.

That is all.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Christ, what happened to innocence? When I was 18, there was this general idea of the vagina as a sort of Holy Grail. Once you got there, everything would be OK.

Sadomasochism at 18???

 

[MisterSir]

Christ, what happened to innocence? When I was 18, there was this general idea of the vagina as a sort of Holy Grail. Once you got there, everything would be OK.

Sadomasochism at 18???

Times have changed, old man. Now, if you haven't been pregnant at least once by 17, you're a slow starter (or a lesbian, if you're from Liverpool).

 

[Love2Lust]

why are we picking on her? she knows what she likes! good for her!

 

[MisterSir]

Because everybody under the age of thirty involved in BDSM in any way, shape or form is a pretender and should be shunned because they don't know the first thing about what they want. Didn't you get the memo?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Times have changed, old man. Now, if you haven't been pregnant at least once by 17, you're a slow starter (or a lesbian, if you're from Liverpool).

I agree. You've been deprived of your opportunity to define a normal "vanilla" sexuality to rebel against. Thank the internet.

 

[00Syd]

I agree. You've been deprived of your opportunity to define a normal "vanilla" sexuality to rebel against. Thank the internet.

I slaughter a calf in the name of the internet gods ever year in thanks.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I slaughter a calf in the name of the internet gods ever year in thanks.

I'm probably over-romanticizing the era when pervs had to rely on "the munch".

 

[Primalex]

why are we picking on her?

Because we are gentle and nice people.

The other option would be to take her seriously and use her as slave.

 

[MisterSir]

I agree. You've been deprived of your opportunity to define a normal "vanilla" sexuality to rebel against. Thank the internet.

I do. It's freed up so much previously misguided hatred towards things worthy of rebelling against. It is unequivocably a damn good thing.

 

[00Syd]

I'm probably over-romanticizing the era when pervs had to rely on "the munch".

Eh, maybe. While the internet is a great resource, and it really helps people realize what their interests are sooner rather than later, IMO no amount of web surfing can beat the kind of information and help and the sense of community that can be gathered from going out to a munch and meeting people.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Eh, maybe. While the internet is a great resource, and it really helps people realize what their interests are sooner rather than later, IMO no amount of web surfing can beat the kind of information and help and the sense of community that can be gathered from going out to a munch and meeting people.

I remember my first munch. This chick went into raptures talking about "the crystal cavern" she went into in subspace. I was like WTF, I just want to yank hair and have rough sex.

 

[00Syd]

I remember my first munch. This chick went into raptures talking about "the crystal cavern" she went into in subspace. I was like WTF, I just want to yank hair and have rough sex.

lol. I don't remember what people talked about at my first munch. I was so shy and nervous that I basically looked at my lap the whole time and hoped nobody would talk to me. At the second munch I went to (about a year later), everyone was talking about anime and movies and books and such. If sex came up at all, it was probably just to discuss some good porn someone saw or something. That was with Columbia's BDSM group.

The younger end of the scene these days seems to be pretty mellow compared to past generations. Its so not serious. Serious topics come up, of course, but nothing is treated like scripture.

 

[rosco rathbone]

lol. I don't remember what people talked about at my first munch. I was so shy and nervous that I basically looked at my lap the whole time and hoped nobody would talk to me. At the second munch I went to (about a year later), everyone was talking about anime and movies and books and such. If sex came up at all, it was probably just to discuss some good porn someone saw or something. That was with Columbia's BDSM group.

The younger end of the scene these days seems to be pretty mellow compared to past generations. Its so not serious. Serious topics come up, of course, but nothing is treated like scripture.

I passed through the munch scene at a certain point in its evolution and never looked back. "TNG" was just a pipe dream of horny old doms in those days. It was fat and sloppy gross oldsters 90% of the time and every once in a while a young female that would have you jacking for weeks.

 

[00Syd]

I passed through the munch scene at a certain point in its evolution and never looked back. "TNG" was just a pipe dream of horny old doms in those days. It was fat and sloppy gross oldsters 90% of the time and every once in a while a young female that would have you jacking for weeks.

It's absolutely nothing like that now. NYC TNG is a huge, thriving group. The age limit is taken deadly seriously, all of the regular members (there are something like 500 people in the Fetlife group, though I would estimate that the amount of people who actually come out to events and meetings on a regular basis is closer to 200-ish) are enthusiastic and friendly. It's truly a place for younger kinksters to grow comfortably into the scene. NYC TNG regularly meets at Odessa (near Tompkins Square), and routinely takes up the entire back of the restaurant, and not a single lecherous old dude in site. I attended their very first meeting, and since it was an absolutely brand new group I expected there to be maybe 10 people there, but they had completely filled the place. That was only this past summer, and the group has done nothing but grow in positive ways since then.

Even TES' TNG group is pretty darn great now. It's been put under new (and awesome ) management, and the classes its been organizing are fantastic, the presenters its been getting have been top-notch.

I know that you aren't into the public scene at all, but things really are much different now than what you are describing, and I highly recommend coming out to an event.

The NYC scene is so much different now than it was when I went to my first munch, and that was only a couple of years ago. Its going through some sort of amazing Renaissance or re-birth or something. Its so thriving and exciting.


p.s. Can you tell that I'm proud of my community? Because I am.

 

[BiBunny]

Meh, I've learned way more on my own than through the Internet or through the "community." But then I've always been a loner.

 

[00Syd]

Meh, I've learned way more on my own than through the Internet or through the "community." But then I've always been a loner.

I've learned more from relationships than anything else, but that doesn't mean that I scorn other resources. The internet, the community, introspection, exploration... every resource for knowledge has its pros and cons, they're all valuable in their different ways.

 

[Netzach]

My mileage with the munch life is somewhere less idyllic than Syd's and slightly less to the crystal cavern end of things than RR's.

It is what it is. I am a fan of face to face, and I am a HUGE fan of not dicking around into a serious relationship where sexual incompatibility based on sexual orientation is a remote whiff of possibility.

There is simply no point to someone wired like me trying to date into vanilla and convert, any more than there is in me trying to date hetero women in the hopes of effecting change you can believe in.