*Never Been Watched*

[basstracker2003]

The idea is to masterbate while my wife watches me. She said she would if she wasn't in the mood for sex and if I needed to get off instead of holding it all in until we have sex. So, should I just start doing it or wait for her to ask me to let her watch or what?

 

[mynameisben]

The idea is to masterbate while my wife watches me. She said she would if she wasn't in the mood for sex and if I needed to get off instead of holding it all in until we have sex. So, should I just start doing it or wait for her to ask me to let her watch or what?

Communication with your partner is a cornerstone of any successful relationship. Remember that always.

If you're unsure about how your wife might react if you simply start masturbating in front of her when the urge hits you, why not just ask her about it? An honest and direct question is surely your best bet. Something like this:

"Hey, honey. Since you're not in the mood and I really need to come, I'm going to masturbate now. But it would be so much more fun for me if you watched. Would you like to watch me?"

If she says yes, then you're in business. If she says no, tell her you'll take care of it in another room. But keep in mind that a No is not such a bad thing. She will appreciate that you took her feelings and needs into consideration first, and she will respect you for having the courage to share your needs with her. Plus, it will give her something to think about until the next time you ask her the same question. Chances are, if she likes you, she's gonna say Yes sooner than you think.

 

[bailadora]

Communication with your partner is a cornerstone of any successful relationship. Remember that always.

If you're unsure about how your wife might react if you simply start masturbating in front of her when the urge hits you, why not just ask her about it? An honest and direct question is surely your best bet. Something like this:

"Hey, honey. Since you're not in the mood and I really need to come, I'm going to masturbate now. But it would be so much more fun for me if you watched. Would you like to watch me?"

If she says yes, then you're in business. If she says no, tell her you'll take care of it in another room. But keep in mind that a No is not such a bad thing. She will appreciate that you took her feelings and needs into consideration first, and she will respect you for having the courage to share your needs with her. Plus, it will give her something to think about until the next time you ask her the same question. Chances are, if she likes you, she's gonna say Yes sooner than you think.

Excellent post! I'd like to further add that if she says yes, putting some thought and effort into the show just might make her ask for a repeat performance.

While I'm not interested in watching just *any* guy masturbate, watching *my* man is hot as hell. He makes it a point to make frequent eye contact with me. Through verbal and visual cues, he lets me know how exciting it is for me to watch him. Which, in turn, sometimes fires my engine, even when I initially thought I was too tired. I've been known to offer "helpful" suggestions (slower, faster, not yet) and on occasion, interrupt, as I've decided I want in on the finale!

Best of luck to you. I hope it's a worthwhile experience for you both.

 

[subwannabe]

Ditto the above. Being watched can be very erotic but to me it would be a total waste of time if your wife wasn't, let's say, "in the mood". If she would rather be doing the dishes or laundry instead of watching you then what would be the point? If you wait for her to ask you, you will be waiting for a very long time. As the others have said, communication is the key to any relationship.

 

[Biker_Type]

many times i've been watched by my OL she likes it and liokes the fact that i find her sexy enough to jerk off to. also many times she lends a helping hand (or more) before i'm done. wait for a time when she may find your attraction to her to be a compliment to her(i.e. when she's just out of the shower or...) and the time is appropriate (when she's doing dishes may not be the best, although helping her with the dishes may be an effective form of foreplay). good luck

 

[jen_litgirl]

The thing I love most about this site is learning something new or thinking about doing something that I've never really though of before.
My husband and I are VERY active and I'm always willing to try something new but I've never really thought that watching him masturbate could be a turn on for him.
I'll have to ask him about it and see what happens. Thanks for the idea!

 

[NippleMuncher]

YOU PEOPLE ARE SICK!!!!!

Masturbation should be left to a man and his computer monitor!

 

[subwannabe]

Jen:

Many people, maybe even including men, don't realize how much of a turn on this actually is and don't even realize something that is right under their noses. If you think about it, many men masturbate while looking at a sexy picture. Now I can't speak for other men but I can say for myself that when I have masturbated while looking at a picture I am fantasizing that that person is actually watching me. When we go to the doctor to "give a sample" we are usually asked if we want a magazine or other aid. I find it hard to believe that most of these men aren't thinking about someone watching them while doing the deed. I love watching and being watched by my wife and it is even hotter when the other gives orders to the performer on how to do it. I also find it extremely hot fantasizing about my wife bringing in others to watch the action and have often fantasized about a big group watching me. Those things will probably never happen but it is very hot thinking about it anyway.

 

[mandoscot]

YOU PEOPLE ARE SICK!!!!!

Masturbation should be left to a man and his computer monitor!

ROFLMFAO - never ever wondered if my monitor was jealous until now

 

[lynn-23]

I have watched my husband. Sometimes if he needs release and i'm not in the mood I will ask him he wants me to watch him. He loves it. Sometimes I will open my shirt for him, etc to give some encouragment. Its actually pretty fun.

 

[NaturistLouise]

Watching hubby maturbate has always been part of our foreplay. He also watches me. Sometimes I watch as he looks at a magazine, other times he looks at my naked body. I may give a helping hand or mouth . He loves it when I lick him clean after he cums.

There are so many things we can do with each other and I encourage you and your wife to discuss and experiment.

 

[jen_litgirl]

Jen:

Many people, maybe even including men, don't realize how much of a turn on this actually is and don't even realize something that is right under their noses. If you think about it, many men masturbate while looking at a sexy picture. Now I can't speak for other men but I can say for myself that when I have masturbated while looking at a picture I am fantasizing that that person is actually watching me. When we go to the doctor to "give a sample" we are usually asked if we want a magazine or other aid. I find it hard to believe that most of these men aren't thinking about someone watching them while doing the deed. I love watching and being watched by my wife and it is even hotter when the other gives orders to the performer on how to do it. I also find it extremely hot fantasizing about my wife bringing in others to watch the action and have often fantasized about a big group watching me. Those things will probably never happen but it is very hot thinking about it anyway.

That actually makes a lot of sense! Thanks sub.