Needing advice on women

[chucky2]

gakinkyboy- All great questions, which I'll answer...

I haven't left her because I want to marry her at some point in the future, pure and simple.

This was a decision I made a little over a year ago, and I still stick by it.

Not looking at the complete lack of sex and complete lack of consideration for sex, she is my dream girl.

I guess I don't precisely follow my own logic, which is the maddening truth.

But....

This is exactly why I'm posting all this for you, so you know what your clearly already into:

You stated that this has been going on since September. At the shortest point, your crawling up on almost 3 months of no sex.

You've tried to have some type of communication with her, to which she dodges around the issue.

You still have not had sex = you can see how much this bothers her.

Do you see a pattern in your relationship and mine?

I do...Exactly.

I did a gut check and decided I'd take the risk that she somehow won't snap out of this, although I admit some progress, while not sexual, has been made.

You are going to have to do the same thing.

Not to sound experienced (definitely no expert here), but:

Take a look at my relationship and ask yourself if you are willing to go down the same road.

When almost 3 months turns into almost 2 years, into 3 years, into 4 years, into x years....

You get the picture.

In the end, you'll have to choose.

Good luck either way bro!

Chuck

 

[gakinkyboy]

i do see the similarities

Chucky,

I have seen and understood the similarities between our situations, which is why I originally asked you to detail your status a bit more.

I certainly understand your love for your girlfriend, but I just had to ask about following your own logic since things have clearly been so frustrating for you.

I can say that I've made a few decisions regarding my relationship, although I'm not sure what's going to happen. I've quietly given myself a time limit to see how things progress and whether any changes arise. At that time I'll examine things again and make a definitive decisions about the future of the relationship.

 

[chucky2]

gakinkyboy- I'm glad you see what is going on in both our relationships. They are similar in regards to the no sex and stalling part, so a parrellel can be drawn.

I don't blame you a bit for wanting to know the specifics of my relationship problems, and how I've handled them. I wish I would have found Lit' a year and a half ago, it probably would have saved me a whole bunch of trouble and angst (is that the right word?).

Your sexual frustration will ebb and flow in your relationship, providing she keeps this course of (in)action up. Somedays it won't even cross your mind, while others you'll be praying that some girl will make a pass at you so you can have the hope of some type of release.

Great decision on the time limit (I really mean this!). I did the same thing, a few times actually, and it saved the relationship.

Just be carefull to re-examine the whole relationship and what you want out of it each time you hit your time limit. Scope creep can be dangerous here.

That's why I keep mentioning analyzing what you want out of the relationship. Knowing this will be the primary thing you base your decisions on.

Good luck man, I hope this problem ends for you soon!

Chuck