Need some ideas for valentines day

[horatiocat]

Heya

My wife likes to be dominated but we are both fairly new at it. She has made it clear that on the 14th she wants me to take charge at night.

Some things I was thinking of:

When I get home from work, tying her up and teasing her until she almost cums.

Going out to dinner. She can't wear any underwear.

Going to the spa at the local pool. If it's quiet enough and discreet to sit on my lap.

Taking her home and teaching her a lesson.

Does anyone else have more ideas?

 

[raven2]

I think tying her and teasing her till she almost cums is great but I would extend it. Do a series of orgasm denials. bring her to the brink and then let her come back down. Have something to drink and sit and watch until she has calmed down. Ask her questions. Then repeat until she is beggin for it. Only give her relief after she agrees to do what you want. Good luck.

 

[FurryFury]

Heya

My wife likes to be dominated but we are both fairly new at it. She has made it clear that on the 14th she wants me to take charge at night.

Some things I was thinking of:

When I get home from work, tying her up and teasing her until she almost cums.

Going out to dinner. She can't wear any underwear.

Going to the spa at the local pool. If it's quiet enough and discreet to sit on my lap.

Taking her home and teaching her a lesson.

Does anyone else have more ideas?

Have you talked with her to find out what she thinks of when she says she wants you to take charge?

I would highly suggest you do, if you have not because "being dominated" can mean a lot of different things to different people.

I really would like to recommend you both fill out a BDSM interest survey so you have some solid ideas to go on that you would mutually enjoy.

Have you two talked about limits or safe words?

What sort of a "lesson" are you thinking about "teaching" her?

I hope you have a great Valentine's together but you need to lay the groundwork for it by communicating at length beforehand.

Fury

 

[@}-}rebecca----]

"orgasm denials" sheesh you guys really need to lift your game ,that tired all thing ...........ohhh and some puppy training .........lol careful Dude .

Miss Fury is really on the mark with her post. Is it possible your wife wasn't speaking of sex exclusively.......so many wonderful ways to dominate a woman.............smiles......better find out what her 'version' dare I say it 'expectations' are of it first (presuming you don't know as you are asking for 'ideas', if you do then consider a low bow of apology from me ..). Consider what ever you conclude on 'doing,saying etc' well. Dominating 'well' can be fine line between the sublime and the ridiculous . ohhh have a great evening !!!

 

[Kajira Callista]

Have you talked with her to find out what she thinks of when she says she wants you to take charge?

I would highly suggest you do, if you have not because "being dominated" can mean a lot of different things to different people.

I really would like to recommend you both fill out a BDSM interest survey so you have some solid ideas to go on that you would mutually enjoy.

Have you two talked about limits or safe words?

What sort of a "lesson" are you thinking about "teaching" her?

I hope you have a great Valentine's together but you need to lay the groundwork for it by communicating at length beforehand.

Fury

according to the first post they have communicated already.

 

[FurryFury]

according to the first post they have communicated already.

Perhaps, but maybe not enough to have "ideas" for Valentines.

Fury

 

[Kajira Callista]

Perhaps, but maybe not enough to have "ideas" for Valentines.

Fury

sounds like the ideas he has planned are harmless valentines night fun. *shrug*

 

[FurryFury]

You know what, the man came here asking for advice. I gave him what I consider to be very relevant advice even with the paucity of facts, he presented. It seems to me many women expect their men to be mind readers if those men "love" them.

It also seems to me, that what to you or some random other person, might seem merely be "harmless fun" might well be "what are you doing, I didn't mean that," to another.

In any case, if he doesn't like or find value in my advice he will, no doubt, ignore it.

If I offended you or anyone in some way by giving this advice I am sorry.

I don't claim to be an expert or professional in this area.

Fury

 

[cati]

I love the idea of having your wife sit on your lap. I have waited to do that for soooo long. Sounds like you two are going to have a wonderful time !
Umm you might drop your napkin accidently (under the table, which has a long draping table cloth)and then you might... if she were a very good girl and ate her veges.... do a little fingering of her secret "heart".
You may have already done the following, but when you are taking charge in the bedroom why not tie her hands securely with a pair of elegant stockings and have at her. Sounds like a perfect night for chocolate syrup and whipped cream.
Like they say, action speaks louder than words *s

 

[raven2]

"orgasm denials" sheesh you guys really need to lift your game ,that tired all thing ...........ohhh and some puppy training .........lol careful Dude .

Miss Fury is really on the mark with her post. Is it possible your wife wasn't speaking of sex exclusively.......so many wonderful ways to dominate a woman.............smiles......better find out what her 'version' dare I say it 'expectations' are of it first (presuming you don't know as you are asking for 'ideas', if you do then consider a low bow of apology from me ..). Consider what ever you conclude on 'doing,saying etc' well. Dominating 'well' can be fine line between the sublime and the ridiculous . ohhh have a great evening !!!

Sorry, was just trying to help. Some people do like it.

 

[xfwas]

happy valentines day