Need some help with senitivity

[fa18]

Ok yes I am a newbie but I love to have long slow sex and I am a circumsied man with an average sized cock but when I come it is so bloody senitivie and I cant seem to move for about 5 to 10 minutes ... How do you get gid of that senitivity as I want to keep going ??? I dont want to just do the wam bam thank you mam or the wipp it in and wipp it out and wipe it!!!! I need for it to be senitive but nopt so as it goes soft and then start all over again

Sign a ver frustrated fa18

 

[M's girl]

Ok yes I am a newbie but I love to have long slow sex and I am a circumsied man with an average sized cock but when I come it is so bloody senitivie and I cant seem to move for about 5 to 10 minutes ... How do you get gid of that senitivity as I want to keep going ??? I dont want to just do the wam bam thank you mam or the wipp it in and wipp it out and wipe it!!!! I need for it to be senitive but nopt so as it goes soft and then start all over again

Sign a ver frustrated fa18

If it's that sensitive there's not a whole lot you can do I assume. Although you may get some other and good advice from the men on Lit later on. But what is so bad about the 5 or 10 minutes you need to, sort of, recover? Is you penis the only part of your body involved in sex and giving your partner pleasure? I hope not! If she (or he?) still needs your sexual attention after you orgasm there is so many ways to give that without using your penis!

 

[fa18]

If it's that sensitive there's not a whole lot you can do I assume. Although you may get some other and good advice from the men on Lit later on. But what is so bad about the 5 or 10 minutes you need to, sort of, recover? Is you penis the only part of your body involved in sex and giving your partner pleasure? I hope not! If she (or he?) still needs your sexual attention after you orgasm there is so many ways to give that without using your penis!

No WAY I have a fettish for giving oral to a lady I get my rocks of my by her screams of pleasure than getting my self off ... it is just that on some occatitions I come too quick and she is just starting to get there that is why..

 

[M's girl]

No WAY I have a fettish for giving oral to a lady I get my rocks of my by her screams of pleasure than getting my self off ... it is just that on some occatitions I come too quick and she is just starting to get there that is why..

Good enough then.... Hey, the sensitivity is something you really can't help. A lot of people (men and women) are like that just after orgasm. Me too. My partner too. The area is just "off limits" for a while after that. I can see how you wish it were different but I doubt it if there is anything you can do to change it.
I guess the only thing you can train/practice is to prolong the time before you orgasm. Make sure you let her cum first. Somehow M (my partner) can do that very well .... most of the time. It takes some concentration and getting used to, but if I concentrate on myself and not do too many 'extra' things ( ) to push him over the edge, he will manage to wait for me...

 

[TBKahuna123]

THis is a pretty common problem. I'm the same way. After I cum there is no way I can keep going. I don't have to wait 5 or 10 minutes befroe the sensititivity goes away, but I'm definitely too sensitive for more sitmulation right after an orgasm. We had a thread about this a few weeks ago. It's totally normal, and not really much you can do about it, except beat your cock wiht a hammer until you damage enough nerves that you don't have this problem anymore. Of course, that may defeat the purpose.

 

[M's girl]

It's totally normal, and not really much you can do about it, except beat your cock wiht a hammer until you damage enough nerves that you don't have this problem anymore. Of course, that may defeat the purpose.

Uhm..... yep..... afraid so!

 

[silverwhisper]

[reads kahuna's post]

[winces & crosses legs reflexively]

dude, that's just wrong...

ow!

 

[bisexplicit]

No one has mentioned...

1) Condoms. I'm not sure if the thread starter is using them, but they can help to desenitize you.

2) Desenitizing lotions. I'm positive I've seen these somewhere. They're used for, I believe, men who have problems with premature ejaculation.


I'm not sure if either of these are exactly what the thread starter had in mind (I had a little difficulty understanding the original post), but they may help.

 

[SweetErika]

Either masturbate before you get together with your partner, or do something (handjob, oral, sex) that results in orgasm with your partner, pleasure them while the sensitivity goes away, and go for a second round.

I wouldn't recommend the desensitizing/numbing creams or lubes. I've heard a lot of horror stories and not many positive reviews. Condoms are generally helpful though.

 

[silverwhisper]

i agree w/ erika: switching activities would help w/ both issues.

ed

 

[LadyJeanne]

Sounds like what you want is to prolong the fucking time before you come. The squeeze technique (squeeze the tip or base of your penis hard right before you think you're going to come, and that should stop the orgasm and you'll stay hard and can keep fucking) and the start-stop method (get close to orgasm, then stop all motion until the urge to come subsides, then start fucking again) will make you last longer.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Sounds like what you want is to prolong the fucking time before you come. The squeeze technique (squeeze the tip or base of your penis hard right before you think you're going to come, and that should stop the orgasm and you'll stay hard and can keep fucking) and the start-stop method (get close to orgasm, then stop all motion until the urge to come subsides, then start fucking again) will make you last longer.

I think he wants to keep going after he's orgasmed, but your suggestion might be the best way to go. Rather than addressing the situation of going again, try making the first goa around longer. I can say from expereince that it doesn't matter how long I go I only have the sensitivity after I orgasm. Using the start stop technique does not cause this sensitivity.

I would also avoid those desensitizing creams. They not only numb you, but can numb your partner as well. I remember using one a long time ago and it sucked. If I remember right, it desentized me so much I couldn't keep a hard on. That also defeated the purpose.

Hope that helps. So far LJ's got he best suggestion I think.

 

[TBKahuna123]

[reads kahuna's post]

[winces & crosses legs reflexively]

dude, that's just wrong...

ow!

If I had a hammer, I'd hammer in the morning...

 

[silverwhisper]

man, that just ain't right...

[trout-smacks el grande kahuna, while still wincing]

ed

 

[Eilan]

it is just that on some occatitions I come too quick and she is just starting to get there that is why..

Then make sure she cums first, either via oral sex or using your hands.

Bi and Erika mentioned condoms. They might help with sensitivity, but if they're used for pregnancy prevention, it's probably not a good idea to keep thrusting away after orgasm. Kinda defeats the whole purpose of using condoms.

 

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[SweetErika]

Then make sure she cums first, either via oral sex or using your hands.

Bi and Erika mentioned condoms. They might help with sensitivity, but if they're used for pregnancy prevention, it's probably not a good idea to keep thrusting away after orgasm. Kinda defeats the whole purpose of using condoms.

My husband doesn't think condoms help with sensitivity AFTER he comes all that much; no matter what, he's still hypersensitive for a little bit.

To clarify, fa18, I was suggesting condoms and masturbation/a first orgasm as means to decrease sensitivity and delay orgasm some, not a way to help you keep going after you've come. I agree continuing with a condom for more than a few moments following ejaculation would increase the risk of falling off and breakage, thus pregnancy and STI transmission.

 

[snowy ciara]

I'm not being sarky, but practice. Seriously, I know a guy who used to have this problem all the time, and he says that he masturbated a lot, holding the big O as long as he can. He found the "edge" where his cock is so sensitive that he's going to go off, learned where it was and knows when to back off for a bit. He also says condoms help, but be sure they're the right size! Some guys like to use condoms that are looser on the shaft because of the pleasure it gives their partners. (Think "ribbed for her pleasure" here) but that also tends to feel great for guys. Now it only happens like 15-20 percent of the time. He also suggests no fucking until you're ready to blow. Do other fun stuff instead, and then when she's all hot and ready for it, then start the fucking. That way if you do come right away, it's cool cause she's ready to, and if you don't come right away, well, multiple orgasms are NICE on either end of the action!

 

[FaeLover]

Practice will help, but there's not much you can do about sensitivity AFTER you cum. I know that in a lot of the porno movies, after girls give a blowjob, they keep licking all around the guy's head and he seems to enjoy it, but I can tell you now that in real life, with every guy I've talked to, things are ridiculously sensitive for a while, and you can't just go right back in and start things up again.
Even after I have sex with my girlfriend, I have to wait at least about ten minutes before I can do anything again...and I know that after I eat out my gf, I can't go right back to touching her again (on penalty of severe beatings lol) because she's oversensitive too. Just be patient and try and relax a bit, and if you like the long, slow sex, there are desensitizing lotions that you can get online (and even check the Literotica store) that will numb you a little. However, these are best used when you put them on and then wear a condom, because you wouldn't want your gf's vagina to get numb from contact with the lotion, that kind of defeats the purpose, doesn't it

 

[Eilan]

falling off and breakage

Of the condom or the penis?

I'm sorry. I couldn't resist.

 

[silverwhisper]

[trout-smacks eilan]

you so silly!

ed

 

[Eilan]

I know that in a lot of the porno movies, after girls give a blowjob, they keep licking all around the guy's head and he seems to enjoy it, but I can tell you now that in real life, with every guy I've talked to, things are ridiculously sensitive for a while, and you can't just go right back in and start things up again.

Do you have the audacity to suggest that porn sex isn't the same as "real" sex?

My husband's like this with blow jobs--if I don't stop quickly enough, I'm in danger of getting kicked in the face. After PIV sex, however, he can keep right on going without the sensitivity. I don't think that's typical, though. I haven't had all that many partners, but the others that I've had were more like fa18.

 

[silverwhisper]

i'm thinking that's to do w/ technique.

ed

 

[FaeLover]

Yeah, that's entirely possible...I know that sometimes when it's PIV sex, I can keep going and it's not a problem after either my gf or I have come...although to be honest, she usually twitches and her muscles are so tense for a while after she comes that she usually wants a fifteen minute nap before we go at it again lol

 

[fa18]

Do you have the audacity to suggest that porn sex isn't the same as "real" sex?

My husband's like this with blow jobs--if I don't stop quickly enough, I'm in danger of getting kicked in the face. After PIV sex, however, he can keep right on going without the sensitivity. I don't think that's typical, though. I haven't had all that many partners, but the others that I've had were more like fa18.

Ok now a dum question what the bloodly hell is PIV sex????