Long time reader, just don't post much because I usually don't have much to add to what others have said. That being said, lately I've been facing a new situation and I'm not sure how to deal with it. I couldn't think of a better place to discuss this. I'll try to keep it short and if it's already been discussed at length, I'm sure someone can point me in the right direction. (short recap at the end)
Longer story: I've been with my fiance now for a little over a year and a half. I'm 28 and she's 26. She's amazing and I love her. Our sex life has died down a little in the last 5 months due to my long hours at work and some stress she's been going through with her job, but in general our sex life is really good. It's usually one night a week during the week and at least once a weekend. The sex is good. She usually gets off multiple times (one way or another) as do I. While I know most women don't get off every time, I'd say it happens for her a lot more than it doesn't.
That being said, it's pretty much the same thing every time (with minor variations). Lots of foreplay. Hands roam, kisses all over, etc. I often go down on her for a bit (it's not her favorite activity, but she does enjoy a little bit of it, some days more than others). That's followed by the actual intercourse. It usually starts with me on top in a typical missionary position. We'll move to her legs being up on my shoulders. We might flip for her to be on top for a while. But in the end, we almost always end with me on top. It's basically some variation of the three positions each time.
Now, I'd like to be more adventurous. I'm not talking anything too wild, but I would like to turn her around and take her from behind. I'd like to maybe 69 from time to time. I'd like to pull her to the edge of the bed and go at it with me standing up and her on her back. I'd like to pull out and cum on her chest (and at the time face, but I think after the fact that doesn't seem as appealing to me). The problem is, she's a very prim and proper person. While she's by no way a prude during the actual act (she's actually very vocal and loves the dirty talk), she's not open at all to discussing it after the act itself. Every time I start talking about what we just did, she just brushes it off and doesn't want to talk about it. She wasn't really brought up in a family where sex was something private or not talked about ,as I've heard her parents and siblings discuss sex fairly openly. Unfortunately, she not one to talk about things at all, even with her girlfriends. She even got invited to a sex toy party recently (all in attendance would be close friends of hers) and she didn't go because she thought she'd be embarrassed.
So, that all being said, is there any way I'll be able to get her to open up and discuss things, or am I better off trying to suggest new things during the actual act itself to see if she's into it?
Short story: fairly vocal and into it at the time, not really trying anything new these days, doesn't want to talk about it after the act itself because she's too "prim and proper" to talk about sex. How do I get her to talk about and try new things?
Longer story: I've been with my fiance now for a little over a year and a half. I'm 28 and she's 26. She's amazing and I love her. Our sex life has died down a little in the last 5 months due to my long hours at work and some stress she's been going through with her job, but in general our sex life is really good. It's usually one night a week during the week and at least once a weekend. The sex is good. She usually gets off multiple times (one way or another) as do I. While I know most women don't get off every time, I'd say it happens for her a lot more than it doesn't.
That being said, it's pretty much the same thing every time (with minor variations). Lots of foreplay. Hands roam, kisses all over, etc. I often go down on her for a bit (it's not her favorite activity, but she does enjoy a little bit of it, some days more than others). That's followed by the actual intercourse. It usually starts with me on top in a typical missionary position. We'll move to her legs being up on my shoulders. We might flip for her to be on top for a while. But in the end, we almost always end with me on top. It's basically some variation of the three positions each time.
Now, I'd like to be more adventurous. I'm not talking anything too wild, but I would like to turn her around and take her from behind. I'd like to maybe 69 from time to time. I'd like to pull her to the edge of the bed and go at it with me standing up and her on her back. I'd like to pull out and cum on her chest (and at the time face, but I think after the fact that doesn't seem as appealing to me). The problem is, she's a very prim and proper person. While she's by no way a prude during the actual act (she's actually very vocal and loves the dirty talk), she's not open at all to discussing it after the act itself. Every time I start talking about what we just did, she just brushes it off and doesn't want to talk about it. She wasn't really brought up in a family where sex was something private or not talked about ,as I've heard her parents and siblings discuss sex fairly openly. Unfortunately, she not one to talk about things at all, even with her girlfriends. She even got invited to a sex toy party recently (all in attendance would be close friends of hers) and she didn't go because she thought she'd be embarrassed.
So, that all being said, is there any way I'll be able to get her to open up and discuss things, or am I better off trying to suggest new things during the actual act itself to see if she's into it?
Short story: fairly vocal and into it at the time, not really trying anything new these days, doesn't want to talk about it after the act itself because she's too "prim and proper" to talk about sex. How do I get her to talk about and try new things?
