Multiple submissives...

[spankableBelle]

Okay, girl is simply being curious again...

With the understanding this is different than girl's previous question regarding open relationships in the context of play, how important is it that the multiple submissives of one Dominant get along? Is there a feeling of rivalry? Jealousy? Insecurity?

girl has read and talked to others elsewhere that it is an attitude of acceptance, sometimes resignation, more rarely that it is a full blown desire on the part of the submissive...that the Dominant is going to do whatever the Dominant is going to do. Whether it is something new being brought into an exisiting relationship, or both submissives (or more) were collared at the same time from the get-go...how does one give all to one's Dominant knowing that that Dominant is not giving all back? girl knows how that sounds and is not trying to lessen the meaning of either relationship...but she still wonders about a submissive giving 100% to One and that One giving 100% to her and then to another...is it really possible to cultivate that level of trust? To not feel second best at times? And girl understands that the focus of all submissives is to be on the Dominant and not on oneself, however, we all are human...

There are a few here with multiple submissives and of late more than one Dominant and so...girl is simply curious about the emotional and mental dynamic, not so much the sexual...

(hopes that this makes sense as she is not yet fueled on hot chocolate)

belle

 

[Shadowsdream]

Okay, girl is simply being curious again...

With the understanding this is different than girl's previous question regarding open relationships in the context of play, how important is it that the multiple submissives of one Dominant get along? Is there a feeling of rivalry? Jealousy? Insecurity?

girl has read and talked to others elsewhere that it is an attitude of acceptance, sometimes resignation, more rarely that it is a full blown desire on the part of the submissive...that the Dominant is going to do whatever the Dominant is going to do. Whether it is something new being brought into an exisiting relationship, or both submissives (or more) were collared at the same time from the get-go...how does one give all to one's Dominant knowing that that Dominant is not giving all back? girl knows how that sounds and is not trying to lessen the meaning of either relationship...but she still wonders about a submissive giving 100% to One and that One giving 100% to her and then to another...is it really possible to cultivate that level of trust? To not feel second best at times? And girl understands that the focus of all submissives is to be on the Dominant and not on oneself, however, we all are human...

There are a few here with multiple submissives and of late more than one Dominant and so...girl is simply curious about the emotional and mental dynamic, not so much the sexual...

(hopes that this makes sense as she is not yet fueled on hot chocolate)

belle

Hello little miss curious!

Multiple submissives in one BDSM relationship must do much more than get along. They must have a genuine LIKING for each other so that they can be supportive rather than disruptive.
The Dominant has no business in My opinion of bringing conflicting personalities togther unless you are simply talking about occassional play with no long term committment.
The submissive has no business entering such a relationship if he/she cannot do so in harmony.
The Dominant gives Her/His *ALL* back to each submissive and more if that makes any sense. A multiple relationship is hard work and especially so for the Dominant if they take it seriously and are not just on a collecting ego trip. It is about creating a family to serve and play joyfully.
And thats My 2 cents as a beginning belle!

 

[spankableBelle]

Thank you, Ma'am ~smiles~

girl always feel a little special when You respond to something she has said or asked.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Thank you, Ma'am ~smiles~

girl always feel a little special when You respond to something she has said or asked.

My pleasure belle...

...and to continue with My opinion. The multiple sub home can be an incredible place full of energy, laughter and nervous abandon. There is something incredibly beautiful about the sillyness and playfulness of two or more submissives as they try to entertain their mutual Dominant.
The support one gives to another that has gotten her self/his self into trouble can also be touching...ooops wait a minute..NO Touching!
But it still comes down to the Dominant to ensure that there is no need for jealousy and insecurity...and like it or not...generally the only way that can occur is if all of the submissives are valued equally.

another 2 cents worth for now ~~grin~~

 

[Kajira Callista]

I think the biggest thing is the no insecurity. If you are insecure about it or unsure, i would suggest telling your Dominant so they can help you work out what you are feeling. And it really is fun to have someone to giggle with, someone who knows you as well as Master does but is on the same......i guess... level as you.