Minor Problem

[Mac98]

Don't fret about it! Take it from me, who hasn't had sex in the last 2 and a half years: It's normal! It happens to the best of us, the first timeS (times, plural!). Shake it off and keep going at it, sooner or later it'll arrange itself.

There IS the possibility that your endurance is low... you'd know that if whacking off got you coming in a matter of seconds... and if it's the case, no biggy! Endurance can be trained. All endurance can, this is no different.

 

[Pointless_Username]

Some people say it's not treatable- I dunno. But the practice strategy IS a lot of fun. All sorts of things can help- wear silk boxers instead of tighties- you'll get accustomed to more sensations. Watch porn and keep edging youself, All good ideas.She will be able to sense your confidence when you get it, and she'll be more turned on by that than another 20 seconds of poking anyway. My first time? I was so worried about cumming too soon, I rubbed one out on the way to pick the girl up! When I was younger and a little quicker on the trigger, we'd just go for round two ( or three) a few minutes later. Even now at almost 35, sometimes my wife has me so worked up, I just don't stand a chance! After 15 years together though, we can just chuckle about it. We're not all porn stars with 12" of viagra-fueled meat that's numb from benzocaine.

Yeah, I've started doing that too (taking care of business before taking care of business, if you catch my drift). I guess it helps a bit, but not enough to my liking. I'm not sure I'll ever wear silk boxers... sounds too posh and expensive lol.

Don't fret about it! Take it from me, who hasn't had sex in the last 2 and a half years: It's normal! It happens to the best of us, the first timeS (times, plural!). Shake it off and keep going at it, sooner or later it'll arrange itself.

There IS the possibility that your endurance is low... you'd know that if whacking off got you coming in a matter of seconds... and if it's the case, no biggy! Endurance can be trained. All endurance can, this is no different.

That's what I've been told, I'm just not sure how it works. Training what, exactly? Your endurance, I know but what is it your developing or training? But anyways, my girlfriend seems to be ok with it and has insisted that it's really no big deal and that I'm MAKING it a big deal for nothing. So I'll trust her and keep doing what I'm doing, but I'll do what I can to "train" myself to last longer.

 

[SweetErika]

Yeah, I've started doing that too (taking care of business before taking care of business, if you catch my drift). I guess it helps a bit, but not enough to my liking. I'm not sure I'll ever wear silk boxers... sounds too posh and expensive lol.

You can get silk or silky boxers for under $10. Yeah, they're more expensive than cotton and synthetics, but they feel really nice (especially when you're touched over them), so you might want to give a pair a try just for fun.

That's what I've been told, I'm just not sure how it works. Training what, exactly? Your endurance, I know but what is it your developing or training? But anyways, my girlfriend seems to be ok with it and has insisted that it's really no big deal and that I'm MAKING it a big deal for nothing. So I'll trust her and keep doing what I'm doing, but I'll do what I can to "train" myself to last longer.

You're developing your awareness and ability to control yourself. You can do this primarily by edging (getting close to orgasm, then backing off multiple times) and kegel exercises (google 'male kegel exercises' for instructions, and interestingly enough, many men with highly developed PC muscles and awareness are able to achieve multiple orgasms ). A lot of guys also have success in slowing down their masturbation, since many have trained themselves to come as quickly as possible over the years.

However, if your gf is happy, then perhaps you should take her advice and quit worrying about how long you last. You certainly don't want to stress over it so much that you develop the opposite problem and/or don't enjoy sex as much.

My guy has always been a quicker comer, and not only do I not worry about it, I take it as a compliment. I'd hate for him to not be able to relax and enjoy himself fully because he's concerned about how long he lasts. I'm always satisfied and I figure we can always go another round or use a toy if I want more intercourse.

 

[bob53]

One thing I have found that really helps when super aroused is to enter slowly then stop all movement for a minute or 2. This allows time for both parties to just savor the pleasure without too much stimulation.

I have found this to work well enough to allow me to last for over an hour frequently. Whenever a FB and I get together it is a standing joke when she leaves after a couple days of needing a donut pillow for the drive / flight home. This is with the use of lube as needed.

 

[Pointless_Username]

You're developing your awareness and ability to control yourself. You can do this primarily by edging (getting close to orgasm, then backing off multiple times) and kegel exercises (google 'male kegel exercises' for instructions, and interestingly enough, many men with highly developed PC muscles and awareness are able to achieve multiple orgasms ). A lot of guys also have success in slowing down their masturbation, since many have trained themselves to come as quickly as possible over the years.

Really? You can actually develop your "pc" muscles? And what do you mean "slow down their masturbation"? I'll definately look into the "Kegel exercises", I'm curious to see what it is, exactly. Thanks a lot for the tip.

One thing I have found that really helps when super aroused is to enter slowly then stop all movement for a minute or 2. This allows time for both parties to just savor the pleasure without too much stimulation.

I have found this to work well enough to allow me to last for over an hour frequently. Whenever a FB and I get together it is a standing joke when she leaves after a couple days of needing a donut pillow for the drive / flight home. This is with the use of lube as needed.

You mean you just go in and stay there for several minutes and this magically makes you last an hour? How the hell is it possible to last an hour :O?!? I didn't think that was humanly possible. But yeah, I'll try it out. What have I to lose, right? Thanks.

 

[blade_rocknut]

male kegels- think: try to stop the flow of urine while holding in a bad case of gas. only not unpleasant, and yes they will help. People who practice tantra know all the tricks, maybe google that, pick up a tip or two, and KEEP PRACTICING! Just don't practice in a hurry. Masturbate with plenty of time, and stop one or two strokes short of cumming, squeezing the pc muscle. When things calm down, you start back. This allows you to not only be able to stave off the squirt, but you will know your body better and be able to tell in advance, that you need a change of pace.

 

[Athalia]

Maybe somebody has mentioned this already, and I just missed it.

After your first orgasm, do you still have the same problem? One of my earlier lovers used to cum almost as soon as we got in bed. So we just incorporated that into our sex play. I'd get him off by sucking him or stroking him (trying to make it last a little longer each time), and then tell him what I wanted in the way of finger-fucking and oral sex. After half an hour or so, he'd be hard again, I'd be aroused, and he could enter me and keep it hard for a few minutes, although he'd have to pull out once or twice sometimes when he was getting overly stimulated.

If he had listened to me as well when it came to spending money as he did about sex, we might still be together....