Mid-life crisis

[Ishmael]

Who's gone through it? Who's going through it? If you haven't and aren't, what do you know about it? What do you think about it?

For those that have been there, did you recognize it as it was happening? Did your friends tell you? Were you married? Are you still married to the same woman?

This equal opportunity folks. Woman suffer too. Just not as out front as the men mostly.

Speak up. And yep, I'll tell my story too.

Ishmael

 

[sufisaint]

Just starting it...

 

[KillerMuffin]

I don't think it's midlife crisis, but I'm going through life incarnation number three.

 

[Todd-'o'-Vision]

I think this year I started my pre-mid-life crisis and I don't like it.

It makes me not want to look forward to the full blown mid-life crisis

 

[Ishmael]

Just starting it...

It's a bitch guy, but it's like the flu. You either get over it or you fucking die.

Ishmael

 

[kotori]

i think so. i hope so (means i'll live to be 90).

i hit 45 and realized that if i don't do all those things i always wanted to soon, i never would. can't afford the harley, or the trip to katmandu. left the wife, lost 90 pounds. feeling fine.

 

[Ishmael]

I don't think it's midlife crisis, but I'm going through life incarnation number three.

What a shame, and at such a tender young age as well.

Better luck next time around KM.

Ishmael

 

[Ishmael]

i think so. i hope so (means i'll live to be 90).

i hit 45 and realized that if i don't do all those things i always wanted to soon, i never would. can't afford the harley, or the trip to katmandu. left the wife, lost 90 pounds. feeling fine.

LOL, I hear that. Did all of that. Went back to the wife at the time though. But that's another story.

Ishmael

 

[Lancecastor]

I haven't bought a corvette or any gold chains yet.

But I'm over 40, divorced, travel, live reasonably well and mostly date women in their 20's or early 30's, so I guess I fit the demographic profile.

Though I don't feel like it's a crisis.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Oh god, no. Third time is a charm and I severly hope to keep with this life. Suicidal/homicidal teenager to army wife then sailor to epileptic academic. That's way to many gear changes for the ol' transmission. One more and I'll need a total rebuild.

 

[sufisaint]

It's a bitch guy, but it's like the flu. You either get over it or you fucking die.

Ishmael

I am going to try and enjoy it!!!! Racing around in my vette or Harley, living on my mountain...taking the time to really enjoy life because i realize I do not have forever in this present form...

 

[alltherage]

The odd thing about mid life crisis' is that one must assume the they occur in midlife. However, many of us will be dead long before we live the implied second half of our lives. depressing ain't it.

 

[Pyper]

I think the prevention for a mid-life crisis is to have a crazy, unstable youth. Since high school I've been running around the world, uprooted every couple of months, making relationships and then having to leave them. All I want now is a house, a cat, and a couple of kids and I'll be happy the rest of my life.

 

[Calamity Jane]

i hit 45 and realized that if i don't do all those things i always wanted to soon, i never would.

Shit. Guess I'm dyin young. When I turned 29 this year, the big 30 started to loom, and I started looking at all the things I haven't done or accomplished, or experienced, that I thought I would have by now.

I don't think it's midlife crisis, but I'm going through life incarnation number three.

I think this is probably closer to what I'm goin through.

To me, 'midlife crisis' is an excuse people use to get away with behavior that they know they shouldn't really get away with.

 

[Ishmael]

I haven't bought a corvette or any gold chains yet.

But I'm over 40, divorced, travel, live reasonably well and mostly date women in their 20's or early 30's, so I guess I fit the demographic profile.

Though I don't feel like it's a crisis.

Hmmmmm, let's see.

The pressure within started to build about my fortieth year. By the age of 43 it was full blown.

I bought a Jag. XJS, a '63 Studebaker Avanti, took out a one year lease on a 41' Morgan Out Island sailboat (A Ketch and rigged for single crewing). I seperated from my wife and raised hell in general. Probably took 5 to 10 years off my life right then.

I sold my business and decided on a 'new' career.

I was disenchanted with my life. Like Kotori, I thought of all the things I hadn't done, wanted to do. And time was passing me by.

I was reasonably comfortable financially so I indulged myself. I had convinced myself that I could have it all.

I engaged in all sorts of high risk adventures. Things that I had done in my late teens and early twenties. Met new people, did new things.

It was a rush, a total rush.

I'll tell the rest later.

Ishmael

 

[Ishmael]

I am going to try and enjoy it!!!! Racing around in my vette or Harley, living on my mountain...taking the time to really enjoy life because i realize I do not have forever in this present form...

Like I said, you will get over it.

Ishmael

 

[lost]

Let me know when your ready to settle back down

 

[Lancecastor]

See, I changed careers when I was 33, divorced at 36, bought a Jeep and ran wild for a year. Then I worked and played hard for six years, took a year off at age 42 and travelled. Now I've embarked on another career path and might never "work" in the conventional sense again if I can help it.

Hmmmmm, let's see.

The pressure within started to build about my fortieth year. By the age of 43 it was full blown.

I bought a Jag. XJS, a '63 Studebaker Avanti, took out a one year lease on a 41' Morgan Out Island sailboat (A Ketch and rigged for single crewing). I seperated from my wife and raised hell in general. Probably took 5 to 10 years off my life right then.

I sold my business and decided on a 'new' career.

I was disenchanted with my life. Like Kotori, I thought of all the things I hadn't done, wanted to do. And time was passing me by.

I was reasonably comfortable financially so I indulged myself. I had convinced myself that I could have it all.

I engaged in all sorts of high risk adventures. Things that I had done in my late teens and early twenties. Met new people, did new things.

It was a rush, a total rush.

I'll tell the rest later.

Ishmael

 

[Rubyfruit]

I'm not sure if this qualifies, but suddenly the 18 year old box boy at the market looks really desirable to me.

 

[Chuckus]

Been there, done that...........I own the T shirt company.

No sweat, if it doesn't kill ya ~ it makes ya stronger. I suppose that's why I am so strong and mentally tough and all that junk.

 

[Ishmael]

See, I changed careers when I was 33, divorced at 36, bought a Jeep and ran wild for a year. Then I worked and played hard for six years, took a year off at age 42 and travelled. Now I've embarked on another career path and might never "work" in the conventional sense again if I can help it.

Oh, I had changed careers earlier than that also. But it was more evolutionary than revolutionary. Expansion of related skills might be a better term.

What I did when the 'crisis' hit was quite a different thing. More of a denial of my life up to that point. A turning of my back on all that had come before. A quest that I put myself on to capture happiness.

Ishmael

 

[Ishmael]

Been there, done that...........I own the T shirt company.

No sweat, if it doesn't kill ya ~ it makes ya stronger. I suppose that's why I am so strong and mentally tough and all that junk.

It is an epiphany, isn't it?

Did you see it for what it was when you were in the middle of it? I sure as shit didn't.

Ishmael

 

[Calamity Jane]

I'm not sure if this qualifies, but suddenly the 18 year old box boy at the market looks really desirable to me.

LOL

Maybe I'm having one afterall. There's a gorgeous young male specimen that I foxhunt with... makes me oh so hot.

 

[Shiner]

I just turned 35 a couple of months ago and it got me thinking I can say.

 

[Ishmael]

I just turned 35 a couple of months ago and it got me thinking I can say.

The typical is in the early to mid forties. But there are no hard and fast rules.

Ishmael