MFM Threesomes

[LustfulOne50]

I agree with W.J., the males do have that animal domination coursing through they're veins. It's been bred into them... makes it a little harder for them to not compete, even when all parties are there for the pleasure. The same as us woman to pick the top dog so to speak... it's bred into us. It's hard not to favor one. I do believe women enjoy the party more than the men though. To have all pleasure points covered at the same time. Just delish...

If you're lucky enough to be with 2 males that are open enough for it.... then it's heaven... but the woman does work harder, after all it's just one of her.... but what a fun job...and when that 3rd guy walks in on the party cause he thought the bathroom was the 2nd door on the right.... well that's another story...

I think if you get the chance to check it off your.... "Things I'd love to try" list.... then go for it.... as long as you remember it's like anything else.... it's not like movie sex on the beach.... someone could wind up with sand in their ass cheeks...

Been there done it several time...I find it better if the wife or girlfriend initiates it since she will be the center of attention and of course the one who controls the play....mmmmm it can get mighty erotic and self taboo breaking and oh so good.

 

[WakoJako]

I have long thought about this. Yes, it's on the "to do" list. How does one make it happen?

Drink some booze!

The way we came about was it was the last couple of weeks during/after the exams were done quite a few people had left and i met a woman, she said she was in an open relationship while at uni and had someone back home and she was already having sex with another man. She asked if she wanted to hook up, i said yes. About 2 weeks she had both of us over just relaxing and we had a few and she said that she wanted to try it, as it was one of her fantasies. As we both had a few, we said we were game and et voila. It was more the womans idea than the mens idea. I suppose its harder for a guy to set one up as it is rather limited, it seems to be better that a woman goes searching if she really wants one. You cant really bring it up in social convesration, you kinda have to find an open couple and them to invite you.

 

[Saliciousrascal]

. My suspicion is that you would *act* on your impulse if the situation seemed safe and comfortable, SR. Multiplying the number of players, though, would probably degrade the feeling of safety for the woman. Is that true? Do you have any experience with two men?

Well I'd definitely have to be comfortable. I think too much for this to work well for me in reality. Also I'm quite greedy of my man's attention when in a relationship and, without obviously being a jealous partner, I don't like to think of their eyes wandering. I don't think I'd want to wander myself and give them a possible green light.

I guess we're talking strangers in the night here and drink just as WJ suggests.

 

[cherise97camaro]

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[Seeker2010]

Spot on!

One guy was my bf and the other was a friend of his. They weren't worried about each other at all. I think my bf knows I wouldn't leave him over sex. You can get sex from anyone, it's the emotional bonds, love, and relationship that you build with someone that you can't necessarily get from just anyone. So leaving someone over sex makes no more sense than leaving them over a handshake. It's just an act, something physical that you do, nothing more unless you make it about something more.

Advice? Take advantage of the situation while it's happening and make sure you have as much fun as you can while it's happening. Get as wild as you can possibly get and try all the things you don't normally get to try, because it doesn't happen every day, and it might not even happen again. Make it memorable, thank your man repeatedly, show admiration and awe for him for making it happen. Make sure he knows that you find it so incredible and that you realize it's only because he's giving that experience to you, that it couldn't happen otherwise. That leaves it "in his control" and let's him feel like he's in charge of the situation and that he's the one providing it for you. It keeps him from feeling like the situation is spinning out of control and quickly becoming something he didn't plan on.

Awesome comments, Cherise. Sounds as if their friendship survived the experience, and that it was positive for your BF as well as you. The friend must have thought he died and went to heaven. Will the three of you repeat?

 

[30bandits]

this one as well.

i hope you consider me as one of the M's.

 

[Seeker2010]

Safety

Well I'd definitely have to be comfortable. I think too much for this to work well for me in reality. Also I'm quite greedy of my man's attention when in a relationship and, without obviously being a jealous partner, I don't like to think of their eyes wandering. I don't think I'd want to wander myself and give them a possible green light.

I guess we're talking strangers in the night here and drink just as WJ suggests.

I'd be a bit concerned for your safety in this scenario, SR. Perhaps you'll meet some wonderful men from Lit who could be recruited for the event. At least you'd have the opportunity to get to know them online, and later in person, before the main event. Just my two cents.

 

[Saliciousrascal]

I'd be a bit concerned for your safety in this scenario, SR. Perhaps you'll meet some wonderful men from Lit who could be recruited for the event. At least you'd have the opportunity to get to know them online, and later in person, before the main event. Just my two cents.

Don't worry seeker. I was being flippant. I wouldn't really do that which does of course mean that it's unlikely to happen.

 

[Seeker2010]

Brain dead!

Don't worry seeker. I was being flippant. I wouldn't really do that which does of course mean that it's unlikely to happen.

I knew better than that. Sorry to have missed the humor, but thanks for weighing in on the thread.

 

[Seeker2010]

The couple looking for you...

Drink some booze!

The way we came about was it was the last couple of weeks during/after the exams were done quite a few people had left and i met a woman, she said she was in an open relationship while at uni and had someone back home and she was already having sex with another man. She asked if she wanted to hook up, i said yes. About 2 weeks she had both of us over just relaxing and we had a few and she said that she wanted to try it, as it was one of her fantasies. As we both had a few, we said we were game and et voila. It was more the womans idea than the mens idea. I suppose its harder for a guy to set one up as it is rather limited, it seems to be better that a woman goes searching if she really wants one. You cant really bring it up in social convesration, you kinda have to find an open couple and them to invite you.

...can find you on a 'swingers' site. Lots of guys seem to put up profiles there in the hope that a couple will search them out, it seems. Thanks for your story.

 

[Seeker2010]

Bump

Let's keep this going.

 

[Seeker2010]

Any insight to add...

...or a story that wants to be told?

 

[Ezeerider]

Well done and well stated, Seeker

JE, I understand your point about competition. That would seem to be especially true with two guys who actually were competing for her attentions, either just that night or over the longer term in real life.

What I found, though, when the woman was my SO, that bringing in the second guy was my gift to her. I wanted her to have the rich, heady experience she had fantasized about. Consequently, I was his biggest supporter, hoping that he would prove to be the perfect second guy to give her all the pleasure possible.

Naturally, at the end of the experience I needed to hear both that it was everything she had dreamed of, and that she would never trade his skills/attention for mine. But at the time there was no sense of competition...only a focus on her pleasure.

My other experiences have been similar, but on the other side. I knew my role was to enhance their pleasure as a couple by being a good team player. It never occurred to me that he and I were in competition. We were on the same team, trying to drive her wild.

Have other guys/gals had similar thoughts and experiences?

On another note, and with an enthusiastic plug for you, JE, I really enjoyed your story of yesterday. I think you're wrong about God's mistake in providing that female pleasure spot, but I offer a most positive response to your question regarding the pleasure your words offer.

I believe you've found the essence, here, in your view, at least in this case, of giving a gift to your lover.
With that aforethought, there can be no silly and counterproductive notions of competition - or else you've missed the point, and a beautiful opportunity.
Of course we males are hard wired for domination, but then that's one of the joys
of the menage, isn't it, knowing and demonstrating that we're emotionally mature and sexually sophisticated enough to overcome our bestial behaviors - at least long enough to create and enjoy some beautiful and delicous moments?
After all, isn't one of the true joys of the menage the ability to trust, and relax, with one or more others to the point that you can completely let yourself go, giving and receiving pleasure in any way you care to?
That and the heady pleasure (no pun intended..very much) of trashing some major modern taboos.

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[Firecracker]

MFM: Fantasy - absolutely yes. Reality - nope.

 

[amyforfun]

One guy was my bf and the other was a friend of his. They weren't worried about each other at all. I think my bf knows I wouldn't leave him over sex. You can get sex from anyone, it's the emotional bonds, love, and relationship that you build with someone that you can't necessarily get from just anyone. So leaving someone over sex makes no more sense than leaving them over a handshake. It's just an act, something physical that you do, nothing more unless you make it about something more.

Advice? Take advantage of the situation while it's happening and make sure you have as much fun as you can while it's happening. Get as wild as you can possibly get and try all the things you don't normally get to try, because it doesn't happen every day, and it might not even happen again. Make it memorable, thank your man repeatedly, show admiration and awe for him for making it happen. Make sure he knows that you find it so incredible and that you realize it's only because he's giving that experience to you, that it couldn't happen otherwise. That leaves it "in his control" and let's him feel like he's in charge of the situation and that he's the one providing it for you. It keeps him from feeling like the situation is spinning out of control and quickly becoming something he didn't plan on.

Perfect.......

 

[ivantheterrible]

i fantasize about it. i'm not bi. and have no problem if there is accidental contact with the other male, hell, it's 3 people, how can it not happen?
but for me, it is the thought of a woman being a slut and enjoying it. i love a slut.

 

[Seeker2010]

Thanks for the kind words. I thoroughly ...

I believe you've found the essence, here, in your view, at least in this case, of giving a gift to your lover.
With that aforethought, there can be no silly and counterproductive notions of competition - or else you've missed the point, and a beautiful opportunity.
Of course we males are hard wired for domination, but then that's one of the joys
of the menage, isn't it, knowing and demonstrating that we're emotionally mature and sexually sophisticated enough to overcome our bestial behaviors - at least long enough to create and enjoy some beautiful and delicous moments?
After all, isn't one of the true joys of the menage the ability to trust, and relax, with one or more others to the point that you can completely let yourself go, giving and receiving pleasure in any way you care to?
That and the heady pleasure (no pun intended..very much) of trashing some major modern taboos.

...enjoyed your thoughtful comments. It seems you have some experience in this area. Care to share more?

 

[Seeker2010]

Nope?

MFM: Fantasy - absolutely yes. Reality - nope.

Not in reality because you have not had the chance yet, or because you believed you never will, Firecracker?

 

[Seeker2010]

Bump

Bump.

 

[Seeker2010]

Further Thoughts?

Anyone with further thoughts? There have been some delicious comments, but I'm always greedy for more, lol.

 

[cherise97camaro]

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[sunbunny3]

Have been part of MFM a few times. First was the best experience with an on and off boyfriend in an on moment. He knew he was in trouble with me and invited his best friend along to make me feel better, when the friend started to slide into bed with us he told me to relax and enjoy. I did and we all had wonderful time!

The second was with someone he picked up in a personal ad and the other guy backed out just when things got started.

The third was on an off moment for us, and I brought along a man I knew, at his request. Didnt go well at all, he didnt like feeling jealous about me having been with someone else. He finally walked out and left us to play without him.

And that was the last attempt. Would I do it again? Hell yeah with the right two men.

 

[Seeker2010]

Have been part of MFM a few times. First was the best experience with an on and off boyfriend in an on moment. He knew he was in trouble with me and invited his best friend along to make me feel better, when the friend started to slide into bed with us he told me to relax and enjoy. I did and we all had wonderful time!

The second was with someone he picked up in a personal ad and the other guy backed out just when things got started.

The third was on an off moment for us, and I brought along a man I knew, at his request. Didnt go well at all, he didnt like feeling jealous about me having been with someone else. He finally walked out and left us to play without him.

And that was the last attempt. Would I do it again? Hell yeah with the right two men.

Hi, SB. Thanks for playing. I've been away for a bit, and just checked back to see if anyone had weighed in. Your comments ring true with me. My first attempt to satisfy the long-held fantasy of a lover for an mfm was complicated by potential jealousy. Fortunately, we didn't get together. The next time worked much better <wg>.

Seeker