MFM Threesomes

[Seeker2010]

This may be presumptuous for a newbie, but I've tried to find some current opinion on MFMs here in the Forum, without much luck. So at the risk of jumping too quickly into the deep end, please let me start.

My sense is that most guys enjoy the fantasy of being with two women who are focused on him. Who wouldn't? But what about the other side? Please help me out, ladies!

It seems to me that if the guys are completely focused on the woman it can be an awesome experience for all concerned. She has the luxury of total focus by attentive lovers, and can look forward, perhaps, to the experience of a lifetime. There are two mouths, two pairs of hands..two of everything to focus on her. I've got to believe that with the right attitude she can reach new heights of ecstasy. For those interested and capable of multiple orgasms, it would seem to be a candyland of possibilities, even before any thoughts of the more advanced positions.

I'm thinking of a mouth on each nipple, or one of the men kissing lips and nips while the other is using oral skills lower. Beyond that, a myriad of possibilities exist.

My point is that for the sensually-minded woman, especially those prone to multiple Os, it seems like heaven. And as for the lucky guys, I can only imagine the expression of her gratitude.

Anyone with experience care to weigh in?

I would love to see a discussion of ground rules and expectations.

 

[Seeker2010]

Anyone?

Shameless bump.

 

[MadLove4him]

I don't have experience but this has long been one of my fantasies! It's something my husband and I have discussed and would like to make happen one day providing we found a willing accomplice. Just the thought of a MFM is enough to get me excited!

 

[sallythescorpian]

I could copy and paste the above reply!!!

A mega fantasy!!! MMMMMMMmmmmmmmmm yeah!!! What's not to love???!!

 

[janeyl]

My only experiences of this have been with Bi guys and that doesn't seem to be what you're thinking of although the whole being the centre of attention thing is definitely utterly fabulous-I just like it with guys who aren't afraid of touching each other and especially doing more with each other

A friend of mine had a 3 some with 2 straight guys who couldn't even brush against each other-she said it was exhausting trying to keep herself between them-it kind of said more about the state of her relationship at the time and the reasons for why she'd done it

I await other postings of experiences with interest though

 

[WakoJako]

I had a MFM at uni, i must say i was kinda disappointed. Maybe its coming from the male side but i didnt want to share, and that i wanted mentally to know that it was me giving her the pleasure and not the other guy. I think she did enjoy it though, as she had two people who were essentially doing what she wanted to her and she gave the right signals that she liked it, like having two guys lips pressed each againt her nipples and having a penis in each of your hands to play with. Plus also at some point you two (guys) are gonna touch cocks or lips even if it is accidental, so you gotta be prepared.

If you ever manage to get one, best of luck... but its not for everyone.

 

[cowslinger64]

A friend of mine had a 3 some with 2 straight guys who couldn't even brush against each other-she said it was exhausting trying to keep herself between them-it kind of said more about the state of her relationship at the time and the reasons for why she'd done it
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that would be me...I'd have a cone of silence around mine.


I could prolly do the train though..

 

[Seeker2010]

MFM with straight guys

My only experiences of this have been with Bi guys and that doesn't seem to be what you're thinking of although the whole being the centre of attention thing is definitely utterly fabulous-I just like it with guys who aren't afraid of touching each other and especially doing more with each other

A friend of mine had a 3 some with 2 straight guys who couldn't even brush against each other-she said it was exhausting trying to keep herself between them-it kind of said more about the state of her relationship at the time and the reasons for why she'd done it

I await other postings of experiences with interest though

Actually, I've had a few opportunities to play with a lovely, passionate woman along with another guy. All of the guys have been straight, but not homophobic. There was no touching between the men, other than an occasional arm bumping a leg or something like that.

For the women, though, it was spectacular. All occasions bred great wetness and multiple orgasms. The closest we ever came to double penetration was one guy being sucked while the other had entered below, but dp was never the point. The whole focus was on caring stimulation of the woman. During each of the sessions the guys came at least twice themselves, however, so no one was neglected.

I've got to say that they were some of the most memorable moments of my life, so I was looking here for other experiences. My hope is not only to confirm that most others who have tried it have had a great experience, but to learn from the complications that others may have found.

I'll be happy to share more, but I'd like to hear from others.

 

[Seeker2010]

The guys...

I had a MFM at uni, i must say i was kinda disappointed. Maybe its coming from the male side but i didnt want to share, and that i wanted mentally to know that it was me giving her the pleasure and not the other guy. I think she did enjoy it though, as she had two people who were essentially doing what she wanted to her and she gave the right signals that she liked it, like having two guys lips pressed each againt her nipples and having a penis in each of your hands to play with. Plus also at some point you two (guys) are gonna touch cocks or lips even if it is accidental, so you gotta be prepared.

If you ever manage to get one, best of luck... but its not for everyone.

I think the selection of the guys is very important. They shouldn't be rivals in any respect. I believe it's best if the woman's lover is fully committed to her pleasure, and then together they select the appropriate third. It's all about her, but he can't be jealous. Rather, his support, protection, and assistance will all come together to make her as comfortable as possible. As in all things that are potentially deeply emotional, the woman's trust in the situation and her physical/mental safety are paramount. And it's about her fun, right?

 

[Tawny_Temptress]

This may be presumptuous for a newbie, but I've tried to find some current opinion on MFMs here in the Forum, without much luck. So at the risk of jumping too quickly into the deep end, please let me start.

My sense is that most guys enjoy the fantasy of being with two women who are focused on him. Who wouldn't? But what about the other side? Please help me out, ladies!

It seems to me that if the guys are completely focused on the woman it can be an awesome experience for all concerned. She has the luxury of total focus by attentive lovers, and can look forward, perhaps, to the experience of a lifetime. There are two mouths, two pairs of hands..two of everything to focus on her. I've got to believe that with the right attitude she can reach new heights of ecstasy. For those interested and capable of multiple orgasms, it would seem to be a candyland of possibilities, even before any thoughts of the more advanced positions.

I'm thinking of a mouth on each nipple, or one of the men kissing lips and nips while the other is using oral skills lower. Beyond that, a myriad of possibilities exist.

My point is that for the sensually-minded woman, especially those prone to multiple Os, it seems like heaven. And as for the lucky guys, I can only imagine the expression of her gratitude.

Anyone with experience care to weigh in?

I would love to see a discussion of ground rules and expectations.

Do Ladies really Fantasize about multiple men?

 

[Seeker2010]

MFM Fantasies

Do Ladies really Fantasize about multiple men?

I'd be very interested in learning the breadth of the interest among the lovely Lit ladies. But I know at least a couple of women who liked the idea.

 

[MadLove4him]

Do Ladies really Fantasize about multiple men?

I can't speak for all ladies but this one certainly does.

 

[smallgirl]

I can't speak for all ladies but this one certainly does.

this one as well.

 

[Saliciousrascal]

Do Ladies really Fantasize about multiple men?

Well call me greedy but there are nearly always multiple men in my fantasies and not just two Of course that's fantasy. I don't know what I'd do in real life.

 

[JustEl]

I had a MFM at uni, i must say i was kinda disappointed. Maybe its coming from the male side but i didnt want to share, and that i wanted mentally to know that it was me giving her the pleasure and not the other guy. I think she did enjoy it though, as she had two people who were essentially doing what she wanted to her and she gave the right signals that she liked it, like having two guys lips pressed each againt her nipples and having a penis in each of your hands to play with. Plus also at some point you two (guys) are gonna touch cocks or lips even if it is accidental, so you gotta be prepared.

If you ever manage to get one, best of luck... but its not for everyone.

I agree with W.J., the males do have that animal domination coursing through they're veins. It's been bred into them... makes it a little harder for them to not compete, even when all parties are there for the pleasure. The same as us woman to pick the top dog so to speak... it's bred into us. It's hard not to favor one. I do believe women enjoy the party more than the men though. To have all pleasure points covered at the same time. Just delish...

If you're lucky enough to be with 2 males that are open enough for it.... then it's heaven... but the woman does work harder, after all it's just one of her.... but what a fun job...and when that 3rd guy walks in on the party cause he thought the bathroom was the 2nd door on the right.... well that's another story...

I think if you get the chance to check it off your.... "Things I'd love to try" list.... then go for it.... as long as you remember it's like anything else.... it's not like movie sex on the beach.... someone could wind up with sand in their ass cheeks...

 

[Seeker2010]

Thanks for weighing in, smallgirl...

this one as well.

...and I completely agree with your assessment that women's contributions are shamefully undervalued.

 

[Seeker2010]

Sometimes greed os ok...

Well call me greedy but there are nearly always multiple men in my fantasies and not just two Of course that's fantasy. I don't know what I'd do in real life.

. My suspicion is that you would *act* on your impulse if the situation seemed safe and comfortable, SR. Multiplying the number of players, though, would probably degrade the feeling of safety for the woman. Is that true? Do you have any experience with two men?

 

[Seeker2010]

Competition

I agree with W.J., the males do have that animal domination coursing through they're veins. It's been bred into them... makes it a little harder for them to not compete, even when all parties are there for the pleasure. The same as us woman to pick the top dog so to speak... it's bred into us. It's hard not to favor one. I do believe women enjoy the party more than the men though. To have all pleasure points covered at the same time. Just delish...

If you're lucky enough to be with 2 males that are open enough for it.... then it's heaven... but the woman does work harder, after all it's just one of her.... but what a fun job...and when that 3rd guy walks in on the party cause he thought the bathroom was the 2nd door on the right.... well that's another story...

I think if you get the chance to check it off your.... "Things I'd love to try" list.... then go for it.... as long as you remember it's like anything else.... it's not like movie sex on the beach.... someone could wind up with sand in their ass cheeks...

JE, I understand your point about competition. That would seem to be especially true with two guys who actually were competing for her attentions, either just that night or over the longer term in real life.

What I found, though, when the woman was my SO, that bringing in the second guy was my gift to her. I wanted her to have the rich, heady experience she had fantasized about. Consequently, I was his biggest supporter, hoping that he would prove to be the perfect second guy to give her all the pleasure possible.

Naturally, at the end of the experience I needed to hear both that it was everything she had dreamed of, and that she would never trade his skills/attention for mine. But at the time there was no sense of competition...only a focus on her pleasure.

My other experiences have been similar, but on the other side. I knew my role was to enhance their pleasure as a couple by being a good team player. It never occurred to me that he and I were in competition. We were on the same team, trying to drive her wild.

Have other guys/gals had similar thoughts and experiences?

On another note, and with an enthusiastic plug for you, JE, I really enjoyed your story of yesterday. I think you're wrong about God's mistake in providing that female pleasure spot, but I offer a most positive response to your question regarding the pleasure your words offer.

 

[cherise97camaro]

it's not a big deal, some people really overthink things and that's the same thing here. If you tend to overthink things, a mfm 3some is probably not wise for you. In fact any kind of 3some probably wouldn't be a good idea. If you can separate it and just have fun then maybe you can enjoy something like a 3some.

 

[Seeker2010]

Advice?

The two that I was involved in were incredible. As long as you don't have to deal with guys that are more worried about the other guy being there than they are about you being there for the taking, it's very fun. And the dynamics of the relationship that change and the chemistry between you all next time you're around either of them is really fun.

Thanks for your thoughts, Cherise. I take it that with your two experiences the guys were not worried about each other. Did you know them before? Did each of them know each other? What advice do you have for anyone trying to set something like this up for themselves?

 

[peekingone]

I agree with W.J., the males do have that animal domination coursing through they're veins. It's been bred into them... makes it a little harder for them to not compete, even when all parties are there for the pleasure. The same as us woman to pick the top dog so to speak... it's bred into us. It's hard not to favor one. I do believe women enjoy the party more than the men though. To have all pleasure points covered at the same time. Just delish...

If you're lucky enough to be with 2 males that are open enough for it.... then it's heaven... but the woman does work harder, after all it's just one of her.... but what a fun job...and when that 3rd guy walks in on the party cause he thought the bathroom was the 2nd door on the right.... well that's another story...

I think if you get the chance to check it off your.... "Things I'd love to try" list.... then go for it.... as long as you remember it's like anything else.... it's not like movie sex on the beach.... someone could wind up with sand in their ass cheeks...

Well then after the sand the shower with all of us then another fun time

 

[Seeker2010]

Showers

Well then after the sand the shower with all of us then another fun time

Exactly! Part of her playful show of gratitude is to make all the parts ready for the next round.

 

[Honeyjar]

I have long thought about this. Yes, it's on the "to do" list. How does one make it happen?

 

[lustatopia]

A couple of reality checks. First, FMF are great, but commonly a preposterously silly hetero male fantasy (unless, of course, you have a needy bisexual girlfriend.) After all, women are capable of sustaining waves of orgasms. They don't require maintaining an erect phallus to continue the game. Even a real stud has his hands full with a single hot multi-orgasmic babe. Give him two hot women and he'll definitely need a support cast of sex toys to finish the good work. This is not to diss FMF as not as hot as hell, just a rational nod to the physiologically challenge the FMF reality as opposed to the fantasy entails.

Interestingly in almost all FMF porn, the babes are portrayed as bisexual. This is logical, they'd have to be because one cock isn't ever going to be enough for two women. Yet the fantasy is that the dude is such a stud he can ravish them both.

Ironically, almost all MFM porn, at least pretends to be hetrerosexual. At one level this is also logical. One hot wet woman can easily absorb the sexual energy of two men. No need for the guys to play with each other, as the girls would be required to in an FMF, that is if they really wanted to get off big time too.

As anyone will tell you who has engaged in MFM or MFMM or more. It usually goes off swimmingly well, so natural and satisfying to all involved one would wonder why it isn't some kind of cultural norm. There are many cultures where female polygamy is practiced, but none were a wife takes more than one husband. Rather odd, don't you think?

 

[Seeker2010]

Planning

I have long thought about this. Yes, it's on the "to do" list. How does one make it happen?

Hi, HJ. Maybe some others will give their thoughts and experiences. For my money, the ideal situation flows from a loving couple where she wants to experience two men and he wants to help make it happen. Every part of the planning is done together openly. The lucky guy can be a friend, but that has some inherent risks. Other alternatives involve swingers' clubs/sites or a craigs ad. An experienced third would be good to find for a lot of reasons. Just make sure that the guys completely understand that it's all about you