Mental Illness

[MichaelStJohn]

Definitely me. I have suffered with depression, less so anxiety, and self esteem issues as well as anger issues. Being on the spectrum doesn’t help. I do and have done a lot of processing to map my emotional life and clarify my own feelings when, as is often the case for me, they are powerful but hard to define.

I think there’s a generalized misconception about dominants and submissives. The only difference between them is a dominant wants to be in control and make the important decisions for both parties, and a submissive wants to relinquish that control.

That’s it. Dominants are not calmer, stronger, smarter, more together or by default ‘better’ in any sense than someone who identifies as submissive.

Dominants can suffer from mental and emotional problems, and submissives can be rock solid and well adjusted neurotypicals.

It's good to know I'm not alone out here, then. Ironically enough, I suspect that erotic fiction has a lot to do with why Dom/mes and subs are so badly stereotyped...

 

[jaF0]

Pure hell!!!

 

[jaF0]

Little things fuck with you a lot.


Things that most people can take in stride will totally and completely ruin your day and make you feel physically sick.

 

[jaF0]

I hate this fucking world so god damned bad.

 

[JamieJ424]

I really hope you are getting the help and support you need

I hate this fucking world so god damned bad.

 

[jaF0]

It's all crap.

 

[FurryFury]

So much is. *HUGS*

It's all crap.

 

[BBWSeekingSugarDaddy]

Just stopping in to see how everyone is doing this week. Hope all of you are well, or as well as possible. XOXO

 

[jaF0]

Where'd it go?

There was a post by someone expressing their opinion.


Then another by someone getting fussy about someone posting their opinion.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Where'd it go?

There was a post by someone expressing their opinion.


Then another by someone getting fussy about someone posting their opinion.

The post to which your are referring was a scammer who posts a seemingly related post in a thread then returns a day or a few days later and inserts a spam link. It is a significant trend here on the boards right now. Just trying to keep the board scam free. My “fussy post” was because I finally caught one of them while they were online.

 

[twister947]

The post to which your are referring was a scammer who posts a seemingly related post in a thread then returns a day or a few days later and inserts a spam link. It is a significant trend here on the boards right now. Just trying to keep the board scam free. My “fussy post” was because I finally caught one of them while they were online.

Good catch!

 

[Stillrandy]

Recently had occasion and need to remind myself of the advice in the attachment. In case anyone has not seen it, those steps have helped me. Cheers...

 

[hulmule]

Recently had occasion and need to remind myself of the advice in the attachment. In case anyone has not seen it, those steps have helped me. Cheers...

I like that. Wife deals with depression. Didnt understand her highs and lows when got married. Still have a hard time dealing with it cause i'm very out going and dont understand why she cant be... Been a ruff marriage. My mind always made me feel like it was me that was the problem.. Any PM's helping with wife and me will be open for advice thx

 

[MeekMe]

Recently had occasion and need to remind myself of the advice in the attachment. In case anyone has not seen it, those steps have helped me. Cheers...

This actually reads pretty toxic in the context of mental illness. This implies there is some kind of choice to be made and that you can somehow will yourself to good health. Not cool.

I like that. Wife deals with depression. Didnt understand her highs and lows when got married. Still have a hard time dealing with it cause i'm very out going and dont understand why she cant be... Been a ruff marriage. My mind always made me feel like it was me that was the problem.. Any PM's helping with wife and me will be open for advice thx

Have you done any research or tried to understand?

It sounds like you both could use some professional help. Also, maybe it’s not just depression? I say this because there are plenty of ailments that have depression as a symptom. And maybe you should read about what depression actually is and what is happening in the person dealing with it. It’s really not something you just decide to change and then POOF! all better. Often times it can be due to chemical imbalance, chronic illness, or trauma.

Being supportive and offering help to see a professional- even just her primary care physician can help either through meds or referral to someone with more expertise like a psychiatrist or therapist. If she’s adverse to seeing someone, there are supplements that are available OTC (that may be helpful) or even telecommunication services that can be utilized to seek clinical help. There are options available.

 

[Stillrandy]

Originally Posted by Stillrandy
"Recently had occasion and need to remind myself of the advice in the attachment. In case anyone has not seen it, those steps have helped me."

This actually reads pretty toxic in the context of mental illness. This implies there is some kind of choice to be made and that you can somehow will yourself to good health. Not cool.

I agree with you that one cannot will oneself back to good health. In my own case, mental health professionals and medications have been part of my treatment regimen for over forty years.

However, I am not a helpless bystander. There are some choices that I can make which affect the outcome. I am (usually) aware of harmful behaviors on my part; and to avoid toxic situations and people when I can. And thus I value those five steps I posted.

Sometimes, it is a matter of paying attention to a line to one of the Eagles' songs:

"Take it easy, take it easy; don't let the sound of your own wheels make you crazy".

Thanks for your take on my post!

 

[jaF0]

However, I am not a helpless bystander.

I am. I gave up years ago. I'm literally just along for the ride.


Sucking air. Consuming resources. No direction. No goals. Until death do I and this hell I'm in part.

 

[jaF0]

I scream it out loud a thousand times a day.




But only where nobody can hear it.

 

[jaF0]

Formally diagnosed with 'Major Depressive Disorder'? Anybody? What was involved? Good? Bad? Did they try to force you into things you knew wouldn't work for you?

 

[jaF0]

So what are your core values?

Passing time until the time comes to pass.

 

[MizzSinful69]

bump.

 

[jaF0]

There aren't enough words in all languages combined to adequately express how much I hate this fucking world.

 

[jaF0]

Madness Is My Destiny


(Killer tunage)

 

[jaF0]

A thousand times a day.


Maybe five thousand.




One wish.

 

[jaF0]

Intermittent Explosive Disorder.

Anyone familiar?


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intermittent_explosive_disorder


https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17786-intermittent-explosive-disorder


https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases...plosive-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20373921



https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/intermittent-explosive-disorder

 

[twister947]

Intermittent Explosive Disorder.

Anyone familiar?


https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intermittent_explosive_disorder


https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/17786-intermittent-explosive-disorder


https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases...plosive-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20373921



https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/conditions/intermittent-explosive-disorder

I have Parkinson's, and sometimes experience something along those lines. The frustration that attends being unable to perform simple tasks pushes me over the edge. It's not pretty; I don't even recognize myself sometimes.

The frustration is stressful, which makes the Parkinson's symptoms worse. It's a fucking monster that feeds on itself. I'm getting better at recognizing it, and breaking the cycle.