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sorry that you all feel so bad
Hi Ladies…. I am sorry that you all feel so bad…
I was married for 17 years and had no clue
that some women feel that bad. My x I guess
did not or at least I did not know about it..
But I was a prick back then…
Now that it is to late for that one I and trying to
learn from the way you all feel on here..
So I thank you for sharing this with some of us
Guys……
Wish I could help… again thanks
Hi Ladies…. I am sorry that you all feel so bad…
I was married for 17 years and had no clue
that some women feel that bad. My x I guess
did not or at least I did not know about it..
But I was a prick back then…
Now that it is to late for that one I and trying to
learn from the way you all feel on here..
So I thank you for sharing this with some of us
Guys……
Wish I could help… again thanks
Allexus_TN
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What a fantastic thread!! TY to Kitte for telling me to check it out. And my clock ticks louder...any day now. I'm never regular...that's my personal hell. Even on the pill. And most often I start when I'm still on active pills. I hate it! Whatever happened to when I was a teenager? Every 31st day, at 11 am. I literally could set my watch by it!
Oh well. I am stocked up...plenty of Advil, plenty of chocolate, and the heating pad is already plugged in!!!
What a fantastic thread!! TY to Kitte for telling me to check it out. And my clock ticks louder...any day now. I'm never regular...that's my personal hell. Even on the pill. And most often I start when I'm still on active pills. I hate it! Whatever happened to when I was a teenager? Every 31st day, at 11 am. I literally could set my watch by it!
Oh well. I am stocked up...plenty of Advil, plenty of chocolate, and the heating pad is already plugged in!!!
Willing and Unsure
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okay... i'm rather glad i found this thread, despite this not exactly being my favorite topic.. but that could be because i'm a bit clueless still when it comes to all of this stuff.
i remember the day i got my first period. i was 12, and in school. and i didnt have the slightest idea that it had started until i had gotten home from school that day (thank goodness i wore black pants to school that day). my mom saw my panties in the tub before i had a chance to wash them and got mad at me for making a mess. she didnt really tell me a thing, and the most information i had ever gotten about the whole 'becoming a woman' thing was the crap they told us in 5th grade (none of it was really true for what had happened). anyways, i've now spent the last 8 years or so completely clueless (i know a little more now than i did than, but i'm still rather clueless on this subject).
as for now, i've been taking birth control pills, and find they help reduce cramping and other pms-like symptoms. my only question about this is, is it normal to get extremely bitchy and get really mad over nothing? and i mean to the point where you actually make someone cry... (and please feel free to fill me in on anything else i should know about)
i havent really had much time tonite to read this whole thread, but i like it so far.. i think its a great thread, and kind of strangely i cant wait to see Starfishy's painting.
i remember the day i got my first period. i was 12, and in school. and i didnt have the slightest idea that it had started until i had gotten home from school that day (thank goodness i wore black pants to school that day). my mom saw my panties in the tub before i had a chance to wash them and got mad at me for making a mess. she didnt really tell me a thing, and the most information i had ever gotten about the whole 'becoming a woman' thing was the crap they told us in 5th grade (none of it was really true for what had happened). anyways, i've now spent the last 8 years or so completely clueless (i know a little more now than i did than, but i'm still rather clueless on this subject).
as for now, i've been taking birth control pills, and find they help reduce cramping and other pms-like symptoms. my only question about this is, is it normal to get extremely bitchy and get really mad over nothing? and i mean to the point where you actually make someone cry... (and please feel free to fill me in on anything else i should know about)
i havent really had much time tonite to read this whole thread, but i like it so far.. i think its a great thread, and kind of strangely i cant wait to see Starfishy's painting.
Vivacia
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I hope you don't mind...
A new member in your tent.
I am having a really rough time with my periods at the moment and this thread has been a real help (and reassurance) for me.
The last two months in a row I have ended up in my local hospital's A&E ward with terrible pain. They are now saying it may be Endometrosis (probably spelt that wrong but hey) - so I am a little scared as I know that this may mean I can't have children, (when I have basically built my whole life plan around having them).
I am currently suffering and was only released from hospital the day before yesterday. The pain relief they have given me is hardly touching the pain and I am just fed up and tired of this agony.
I have tried most of the suggestions made in the posts on here already as I have always had bad pain (never put me in hospital before though) but they don't work for me, infact some make it worse...
I am scared I will end up back in hospital again next month too...
A new member in your tent.
I am having a really rough time with my periods at the moment and this thread has been a real help (and reassurance) for me.
The last two months in a row I have ended up in my local hospital's A&E ward with terrible pain. They are now saying it may be Endometrosis (probably spelt that wrong but hey) - so I am a little scared as I know that this may mean I can't have children, (when I have basically built my whole life plan around having them).
I am currently suffering and was only released from hospital the day before yesterday. The pain relief they have given me is hardly touching the pain and I am just fed up and tired of this agony.
I have tried most of the suggestions made in the posts on here already as I have always had bad pain (never put me in hospital before though) but they don't work for me, infact some make it worse...
I am scared I will end up back in hospital again next month too...
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Vivacia,
I feel your pain, love. The last 4 years has consisted of biopsies, ultrasounds, tests, and blood drawn over and over. Being told you may not have children is so difficult for a myriad of reasons. Your dreams are shattered. Feminity is questioned. Your left with pain- physically and emotionally. Take this time to heal yourself. I'm speaking of emotionally. Let the doctors help physically. Keep the faith. And use this thread for the support it so wonderfully gives.
Many blessings!
I feel your pain, love. The last 4 years has consisted of biopsies, ultrasounds, tests, and blood drawn over and over. Being told you may not have children is so difficult for a myriad of reasons. Your dreams are shattered. Feminity is questioned. Your left with pain- physically and emotionally. Take this time to heal yourself. I'm speaking of emotionally. Let the doctors help physically. Keep the faith. And use this thread for the support it so wonderfully gives.
Many blessings!
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I have the best book that I think you all should read.
Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing
By Christiane Northrup, M.D.
It's wonderfully written with a holistic approach that covers all women's health issues.
Women's Bodies, Women's Wisdom Creating Physical and Emotional Health and Healing
By Christiane Northrup, M.D.
It's wonderfully written with a holistic approach that covers all women's health issues.
Cheyenne
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Reading this thread, I'm starting to feel guilty that my periods are so easy and don't disrupt my life. I had a few bad ones when I was younger, where I bled so fast and heavily that I was one step away from heading to the emergency room for help. But it has been years since I've had one that bad. Being on bcp now helps keep all of them fairly light.
For those of you suffering, you have my sympathy.
For those of you suffering, you have my sympathy.
Vivacia
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I just want to say thanx raindancer, I will try and find that book.
My SO is being really sweet about all this and he has told me that he won't love me any less if we can't have a family together, but when you have dreamed every day from the day you got your first doll that one day that doll would be a real living breathing part of you it is hard to accept it may never happen.
I know that there are hundreds - probably thousands of women that can't have kids so I guess I am just being selfish, I just can't accept that with all the emotional pain in my past I am being forced to deal with this too...
When I was in hospital this time (not my favorite place at the best of times) they took more blood, I am not good with needles anyway but they had to try both arms as they couldn't get the canular in - the doctor was very sweet as I was crying my eyes out, she understood I had about as much pain as I could take - one of the posts said that it is a sign of how strong we are (my SO agrees as he said he would never have been able to cope with all this if it were him) but I don't feel strong, just small, weak and very frightened.
As I said before it is just really nice and reassuring to see that there are other people out there that understand how I am feeling right now - although my SO is a really good man (yes girls they DO exsist) I am nervous to tell him how bad I am feeling as I don't want to worry him further.
So thankyou.
My SO is being really sweet about all this and he has told me that he won't love me any less if we can't have a family together, but when you have dreamed every day from the day you got your first doll that one day that doll would be a real living breathing part of you it is hard to accept it may never happen.
I know that there are hundreds - probably thousands of women that can't have kids so I guess I am just being selfish, I just can't accept that with all the emotional pain in my past I am being forced to deal with this too...
When I was in hospital this time (not my favorite place at the best of times) they took more blood, I am not good with needles anyway but they had to try both arms as they couldn't get the canular in - the doctor was very sweet as I was crying my eyes out, she understood I had about as much pain as I could take - one of the posts said that it is a sign of how strong we are (my SO agrees as he said he would never have been able to cope with all this if it were him) but I don't feel strong, just small, weak and very frightened.
As I said before it is just really nice and reassuring to see that there are other people out there that understand how I am feeling right now - although my SO is a really good man (yes girls they DO exsist) I am nervous to tell him how bad I am feeling as I don't want to worry him further.
So thankyou.
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Don't be so hard on yourself. It hurts. It's not being selfish. When YOU are ready, talk to your SO. It can help. And yes, get that book. PM me if you ever need a friend. Be well!
our hut. I makes me feel womanly and good. I wish I could have something like that in real life. *retreating to her dark corner to linger in her armchair*
cymbidia
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Viviacia, besides the eternally understanding and wonderfully soothing raindancer, at Lit there are a number of women who have endo. Some of them have posted here, some haven't. I know you're not alone in this, though, and if you can draw comfort from this thread and the others who -literally- share your pain, then the thread has served a most wonderful purpose.
I am like Chey; i have easy, almost trouble-free periods.
I feel almost guilty saying it, too.
Wish i could take some of the pain you feel about this but i can't. I can't take Risia's either, or that suffered by raindancer, or anyone else who has this disease.
I'm deeply sympathetic, though.
Please know that.
I am like Chey; i have easy, almost trouble-free periods.
I feel almost guilty saying it, too.
Wish i could take some of the pain you feel about this but i can't. I can't take Risia's either, or that suffered by raindancer, or anyone else who has this disease.
I'm deeply sympathetic, though.
Please know that.
tswyk
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I know I'm new, but still - is this just amazing or what? Reading what all these women feel is just the most BONDING thing I've ever seen. And...when I see what each of you write here, and then read what some of you say at other boards, I know that what happens in this "tent" is different and wonderful.
Thank you all - this is the most important part of Lit that I've found. It shows me that there are REAL people here, REAL relationships, REAL friends.
I am honored to be a part.
Thank you all - this is the most important part of Lit that I've found. It shows me that there are REAL people here, REAL relationships, REAL friends.
I am honored to be a part.
Vivacia
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Cym, thanks - I know I probibly came across as selfish in my posts, it wasn't my intention. I know from what I have read here that there are many women in the same "boat" as me - some have suffered for longer than me - I guess it is the fact that my pain is so recent that is making me a bit selfish.
I have had pain filled periods since I was 13 (11 years ago now)and the Doctors idea of a "quick fix" was to put me on the pill... I came off that for the first time last Jan (as my SO and I wanted a family) and the period pain has just got worse and worse.
I guess I was of the "it will never happen to me" clan - and well, now it has - to be honest I didn't even know what Endo was till my best mate (Slinky's Wench) told me that my symptoms fit and I should get it checked...
My heartfelt sympathies go out to all the women on this board (in this tent or not) that suffer, and I am grateful for the sympathy of those that have been blessed with an easy time of it too...
I have had pain filled periods since I was 13 (11 years ago now)and the Doctors idea of a "quick fix" was to put me on the pill... I came off that for the first time last Jan (as my SO and I wanted a family) and the period pain has just got worse and worse.
I guess I was of the "it will never happen to me" clan - and well, now it has - to be honest I didn't even know what Endo was till my best mate (Slinky's Wench) told me that my symptoms fit and I should get it checked...
My heartfelt sympathies go out to all the women on this board (in this tent or not) that suffer, and I am grateful for the sympathy of those that have been blessed with an easy time of it too...
espressolover
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Thank you for that Aaron...
It's good to see you here and interested in what goes on in our lives.
You are definitely one in a million.
I completely agree that we need to improve our lives with each other as men and women.
Thank you so much for sharing!
It's good to see you here and interested in what goes on in our lives.
You are definitely one in a million.
I completely agree that we need to improve our lives with each other as men and women.
Thank you so much for sharing!
espressolover
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Thank you Aaron!
I was wondering if I should give up the old one because it went so well with my name, but I like this one.
Thanks for the compliment on it!
I was wondering if I should give up the old one because it went so well with my name, but I like this one.
Thanks for the compliment on it!
cymbidia
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Re: Glad to be included
I'm no girl, honey boy, i'm a woman. I'm all grown up and know who i am and what i want how to get it. I'm neither ashamed or afraid to discuss "this" with any of the men in my life, either.
If you're gonna hang out here in the Menstrual Tent with us on occasion, then get that right, okay? Not all of us here are girls, and not all of us want to have men coming in here whenever they please and joining in the discussion to tell us how we feel and what we need.
I do not know you Aaron. I'm sure you're a wonderful, sensitive, caring, enlightened, kindly man, one who's shocked and hurt now at this unwarrnated and uncalled for lash toward you by me.
Again, it's not personal. It applies to all y'all with that extra bit hanging down between your legs.
We've made something very special for ourselves here, though, and i'd hate to see it perverted into some kinda kissy-face flirting thread cuz some of you decided to hang out here with us.
Like i said, i'm coming into my bitchy time...
Bear that in mind.
And if the rest of you women think i'm out of line, please feel free to say so.
b.
Hello Aaron. Speaking just for myself, and bearing in mind that i'm entering the bitchy part of my cycle, i'd just like to point out that if you're going to refer to your gender as "men" then you damn well need to refer to mine as "women".Aaron26 said:
I'm no girl, honey boy, i'm a woman. I'm all grown up and know who i am and what i want how to get it. I'm neither ashamed or afraid to discuss "this" with any of the men in my life, either.
If you're gonna hang out here in the Menstrual Tent with us on occasion, then get that right, okay? Not all of us here are girls, and not all of us want to have men coming in here whenever they please and joining in the discussion to tell us how we feel and what we need.
I do not know you Aaron. I'm sure you're a wonderful, sensitive, caring, enlightened, kindly man, one who's shocked and hurt now at this unwarrnated and uncalled for lash toward you by me.
Again, it's not personal. It applies to all y'all with that extra bit hanging down between your legs.
We've made something very special for ourselves here, though, and i'd hate to see it perverted into some kinda kissy-face flirting thread cuz some of you decided to hang out here with us.
Like i said, i'm coming into my bitchy time...
Bear that in mind.
And if the rest of you women think i'm out of line, please feel free to say so.
b.
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Wow! A nice point!! And I have to agree. Please don't call me a girl. At 28, I like to think I have finally reached the age where I became a woman. And didn't they tell us that when teaching us about our periods? "When you get your period, you will have become a woman". After 16 years...please tell me I qualify!!
On another note: It was incredible of Aaron to speak as he did. How true that most men blush or fidget at the mention of our monthly dues. "That time" as my husband calls it. No, its my period. And when I started having pelvic pain associated with my periods and had to have a laparoscopy to check for endometriosis, he didn't have a clue as to what the doctor was talking about. I think that men do need to understand the workings of a woman's body to better understand the woman.
A note on endo. I have had it, and can still bear children as far as I know. I have had 2 surgeries and both revealed minimum scarring. Endometriosis does not guarantee you can't have them. Discuss this further with your doctor. It does vary from case to case and if it only leaves a minimum of scarring you could still have children. I certainly understand this fear...I assumed that it was basically a death sentence for my womb. It all depends on how much scar tissue is there. I'm definiately NOT trying to diminish anyone's circumstances here, because I have been there myself. I only wanted to offer a view I had not noticed.
Wow! A nice point!! And I have to agree. Please don't call me a girl. At 28, I like to think I have finally reached the age where I became a woman. And didn't they tell us that when teaching us about our periods? "When you get your period, you will have become a woman". After 16 years...please tell me I qualify!!
On another note: It was incredible of Aaron to speak as he did. How true that most men blush or fidget at the mention of our monthly dues. "That time" as my husband calls it. No, its my period. And when I started having pelvic pain associated with my periods and had to have a laparoscopy to check for endometriosis, he didn't have a clue as to what the doctor was talking about. I think that men do need to understand the workings of a woman's body to better understand the woman.
A note on endo. I have had it, and can still bear children as far as I know. I have had 2 surgeries and both revealed minimum scarring. Endometriosis does not guarantee you can't have them. Discuss this further with your doctor. It does vary from case to case and if it only leaves a minimum of scarring you could still have children. I certainly understand this fear...I assumed that it was basically a death sentence for my womb. It all depends on how much scar tissue is there. I'm definiately NOT trying to diminish anyone's circumstances here, because I have been there myself. I only wanted to offer a view I had not noticed.
Vivacia
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Thanx for that point Allexus - I know that Endo doesn't immediately mean that you can't have kids, but it is a possibility that you have to accept when they tell you that’s what it could be. The doc warned me that depending on the level of scarring, etc..., depended on whether that was the case or not and till they know how bad it is try not to panic - but at the moment it is the fear of that uncertainty that is the worst for me.
As yet they haven't confirmed Endo for me yet - it is just one of the "most likely candidates" that fits my pattern of symptoms - they have arranged a Gynie appointment for me ASAP.
To be honest I think I am more scared that I don't know what the hell is causing my body to do this to me, and that it may need surgery to A) find the problem and B) try and cure it...
I am not a hospital type of person anyway - I get panic attacks just thinking of surgery (had a few minor things done as a kid) so at the moment I think it is more that side of it then the possible lack of motherhood for me, that is just like the cherry on the top of the cake so to speak.
As yet they haven't confirmed Endo for me yet - it is just one of the "most likely candidates" that fits my pattern of symptoms - they have arranged a Gynie appointment for me ASAP.
To be honest I think I am more scared that I don't know what the hell is causing my body to do this to me, and that it may need surgery to A) find the problem and B) try and cure it...
I am not a hospital type of person anyway - I get panic attacks just thinking of surgery (had a few minor things done as a kid) so at the moment I think it is more that side of it then the possible lack of motherhood for me, that is just like the cherry on the top of the cake so to speak.
Before I welcome the new women, I want to say that I agree that I'd like to be referred to as a Woman or a Lady. However, being called a girl over some things, is preferable.
I've seen it become more and more commen for men and women to the use of the word girl to refer to a woman. I don't know why this is, and I don't know if I am offended by it or not. This is because I feel it is preferable and more tasteful than the commonly used and rather annoying term of chick, as in I know this chick who is a hottie. *barf*
There are other terms men use to refer to women, and I don't like them either. I'd rather be called a girl, even if I am a woman though it is inferiorating to call an adult woman a girl.
Okay, that is that.
A Special Welcome to the New Women!
I am really glad to see that so many are finding a place in here, and are expressing that which causes you pain and joy in hopes to bring us, and in turn, all of the sisters of the world together in mind and heart.
Thank you for taking a step in strengthening our sisterhood.
It is hard for some to open the door to this thread and post. It may be because they feel no bond to other women, and may not even want to bond to other women out of fear of what they know about the nature of some women. This is the cycle I am hoping to help break. In my mind, that is all the more reason to force yourself to join in.
Our gender unity is not strong in RL. That needs to change. I've often pondered the way women treat each other, and having been brought up to respect and to confide in women, and to seek them for friendship and for support, I never understood why some women were standoffish and would look down on other women untill I had faced a backstabbing and a good heartbreak simply over jealousy. Jealousy I've never spawned. That is when I started to realize that if there are things I have that other women do not... talents, skills, whatnot, that I need to seek out and praise, and celebrate the talents and skills of the women around me, vocally, so as to help them see that there is no reason to look at other women or myself as a competitor, but in hopes to rather be seen as a sister. In this I've found that my female friends in life now have a tendancy to be more apt to try new things, and to experiment with their talents.
My Mother for one.... she is going to start PAINTING AGAIN!
This makes me cry tears of joy! She handed down her gift of talent to me, and I have flourished in it. It has given her inspiration again.. Her daughter is her. She is her daughter. We are one, and very much not the same. This is good. This is how it should be.
Embrace your sisters, and rejoice.
Do not fear them or envy them, for they are the essence of you.
Welcome everyone!
I've seen it become more and more commen for men and women to the use of the word girl to refer to a woman. I don't know why this is, and I don't know if I am offended by it or not. This is because I feel it is preferable and more tasteful than the commonly used and rather annoying term of chick, as in I know this chick who is a hottie. *barf*
There are other terms men use to refer to women, and I don't like them either. I'd rather be called a girl, even if I am a woman though it is inferiorating to call an adult woman a girl.
Okay, that is that.
A Special Welcome to the New Women!
I am really glad to see that so many are finding a place in here, and are expressing that which causes you pain and joy in hopes to bring us, and in turn, all of the sisters of the world together in mind and heart.
Thank you for taking a step in strengthening our sisterhood.
It is hard for some to open the door to this thread and post. It may be because they feel no bond to other women, and may not even want to bond to other women out of fear of what they know about the nature of some women. This is the cycle I am hoping to help break. In my mind, that is all the more reason to force yourself to join in.
Our gender unity is not strong in RL. That needs to change. I've often pondered the way women treat each other, and having been brought up to respect and to confide in women, and to seek them for friendship and for support, I never understood why some women were standoffish and would look down on other women untill I had faced a backstabbing and a good heartbreak simply over jealousy. Jealousy I've never spawned. That is when I started to realize that if there are things I have that other women do not... talents, skills, whatnot, that I need to seek out and praise, and celebrate the talents and skills of the women around me, vocally, so as to help them see that there is no reason to look at other women or myself as a competitor, but in hopes to rather be seen as a sister. In this I've found that my female friends in life now have a tendancy to be more apt to try new things, and to experiment with their talents.
My Mother for one.... she is going to start PAINTING AGAIN!
This makes me cry tears of joy! She handed down her gift of talent to me, and I have flourished in it. It has given her inspiration again.. Her daughter is her. She is her daughter. We are one, and very much not the same. This is good. This is how it should be. Embrace your sisters, and rejoice.
Do not fear them or envy them, for they are the essence of you.
Welcome everyone!
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Bump because this thread is so comforting.
