Menstrual Hut

[perks]

Fishie,

you are so wonderful. Thanks for making this haven for us. I greatly appreciate and need it.

love perks

 

[espressolover]

Starfish, you are beautiful!
Thank you so much!

 

[Starfish]

I have something I am going to go do, and then I'll be back to share it with you guys. It is just sort of what I feel right this minute, manifesting itself into an image.

 

[perks]

I have something I am going to go do, and then I'll be back to share it with you guys. It is just sort of what I feel right this minute, manifesting itself into an image.

can't wait

 

[April]

Four days early. This sucks. But it has good and bad points to it. Hubby isn't here to get disappointed with no sex. And he might get some next weekend. Anyway. I hate it. Wish I could give the whole situation to someone who really wants it.

I don't have kids, and don't want any. This whole "thing" is wasted on me.
Menstruation donation. What a great idea.

 

[espressolover]

Lol!!!
April that was too funny!
I loved it.

 

[April]

What? I was serious.

 

[roxie]

You guys are so funny. I'm glad to know that we all keep our sense of humour thru this time...It's been nice having you guys to laugh with!

 

[HotXBunz]

With all of these early cycles we may need a "read and bleed" caution on this thread. LOL

Off to Walmart to buy cotton ponies.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

I think we should keep this thread to the top, yes? It is good to come here

 

[espressolover]

I'm with you, Nessus...
let's keep this thread alive for women to come in and share or just to have a shoulder to cry on when the cramps {and or} the blues get us down.

We have such a great bunch of women here...I'm so glad I live here!

 

[Guest]

Starfish Yes we men can be one dimensional.
And yes some men do bond but not like you
Ladies do. I guess it is the way we are brought up
Girls can hold hands, dances and kiss each other
And no one would think twice about it. But let two
Guys do this and all hell will brake out. Guys bond
By going hunting, fishing, racing, building cars and trucks
And things like that. I guess we men have a lot of catching
Up to do…. I think more men should read this thread.....
And yes foxinsox I will dig my shallow grave for you
so when you are through using me just push me in the hole
Have a nice night Ladies

 

[espressolover]

theonlyfunone...
wow, you made me smile with your post. You're great!
Welcome.

I would love it if more men would stop in and read.
We could all benefit from it if they would look at it positively, as you have.
Thank you for stopping in and sharing with us!

 

[HotXBunz]

I have a male friend who was raised, lives and works in a female world. We have talked at length about how he craves true male intimacy.

From where I sit it looks like men have a more parallel existance. They work beside each other, sit beside each other to watch sports and hunt along side each other. They do things side by side but not necessarly together. Women have hair parties, sit enface while telling stories, hold one another when we are sad and talk about intimate things such as cramps, flo and mental anguish that sometimes is associated with this time of our cycle.

The reference to this place being a mix between a slumber party and Carrie had me rolling. I agree, we would be prank calling someone and plotting evil at a slumber party. This space is a bit more nuturing but with that wicked little twist we need to keep our perspective. I also agree it needs to be kept up top. When you are "in hut" (loved that too) you don't want to be bothered with hunting through five pages of threads to get to the menstrual hut, you want it NOW DAMN IT and with chocolate.

 

[espressolover]

HotXBuns,
Well said! No hunting through miles of pages to find some comfort, when it's that time there's no better thing than instantaneous gratification! Lol.

I want coffee and chocolate and Starfish's thread pronto!
I like it when I'm I'm not "in hut", also.

Lots of hugs and kisses to all!

 

[espressolover]

Oops...
So many typos...lol!
Sorry for the misspell on your name, HotXBunz!

This period thing has me all loopy!

 

[RisiaSkye]

Really though, whether it be related to by women, or something exclusively masculine, do they think we are nuts, the idea to bond is nuts? Do they like it? Do they crave it, want it, need it, but don't know how to get it, or what to do and because they don't have something to outwardly connecting them to one another, do they conjure up the big ole man tone and deny the need with their manly shell coming out. I think, more like hope, but am not convinced fully, that men need to bond on deeper levels than "Yo YO YO YO YO, Who has the bru-has?" But do they? Should they? This is a concern to me.

I've read more than once on this thread that men have nothing that connects them to each other. I disagree. I think that saying this just exposes our ignorance (and thus fear) of males, much as the typical male discomfort with female body issues exposes their ignorance (and thus fear) of what makes us women.

There are many physical transformations which are unique to men and shared by all--voice changes, testicular development, late teen testosterone surges, "blue balls," prostate worries, etc. etc. Not to mention the well-nigh universal reverence for "masculinity"--not to be confused with "maleness"--on the cultural front.

I think that our desire to make men "bond" in the same ways that women do expresses our profound lack of understanding. The fact is, we don't know what they get from their time together, as many women communicate in a way utterly foreign to how men relate to each other.

I wonder if we don't miss as much about their lives and relationships as most men miss about women. We're raised, taught, and acculturated differently; that doesn't men that "our" way is automatically better, just because it belongs to us women and we like it. Men aren't encouraged to express emotion or to touch, but that doesn't mean that they are unfeeling one-dimensional sub-humans. Just an idea to kick around.

And Starfish--please know that I still respect and admire ya. You are consistently one of the most thoughtful and honest posters around here, and I mean no personal offense by my comments.

 

[sigh]

i've read every post in here since the day starfish first bled into her cupped leaf

i envy the closeness you share

i wish........

well, i just wish is all...and that's all i want to say, except thanks

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Men have their way of which I think they struggle to understand and we have ours? It is interesting when we come together, no?

 

[HotXBunz]

RisiaSkye, too true about men having the physiological changes in common my question is do they share them with each other like we do? Do you think men experience each other with the depth of emotion that women do? Do they desire to be emotional and touch but resist because of our cultural norms? What about the male experience in other cultures?

I do not mean to discount the male experience I guess I am just trying to understand the differences and embrace the commonalities. In a RL hut it would be unimaginable if the topic did not eventually turn to men as they are so much a part of our lives. Even as a lesbian my life has been, and still is, profoundly effected by men. I would love to know more about them. I wish to be the best friend, mother-in-law and grandmother I can be to the men in my life.

I will be the first to say I am ignorant regarding the male experience but I am willing to learn more. The wonderful thing about embracing diversity is that we can identify differences without discounting them.

 

[Guest]

my shallow grave

Ok ladies my shallow grave is still there so I guess I will see if you all will push me in this time...
I know that this is your thread but I am learning a lot here. Men should come here more to read all the different post..
RisiaSkye I am touched by what you said but…… most me my age 47 do not talk about
These things. not like you do. I know men that have had some of the things..

There are many physical transformations which are unique to men and shared by all--voice changes, testicular development, late teen testosterone surges, "blue balls," prostate worries, etc. etc. Not to mention the well-nigh universal reverence for "masculinity"--not to be confused with "maleness"--on the cultural front.

This is so true men will never bond in the same way… If we did we would not be men any more
We would not look at life the same way that we do…
Men aren’t encouraged to show emotion and to touch like you do…
I will say this . The older that I get the more that I try to fined my emotional side..
And yes some times we can be one-dimensional sub humans like when it comes to our
lack of understanding about periods……
The fact is we will never know what you get from your bonding just like you will never know
What we get from ours….. All we can do is try and under stand each other….
So are we ready to push me in the shallow grave……….

 

[Starfish]

And Starfish--please know that I still respect and admire ya. You are consistently one of the most thoughtful and honest posters around here, and I mean no personal offense by my comments.

No offense taken at all. I am glad that you gave your input. It is important to consider all things, and your imput helps show us where I at least, and others may be deficient about our thinking and views on men. I admit, I actually understand very little about men.





Just so you all know, I never got to finish what I was painting for this thread, but once I do, I'll post it.

 

[Jellybeangirl]

out of the Hut, at the moment anyway

I had a great time reading everyone's posts. I feel like I've been given one HUGE hug...I feel very in tune w/ my body and proud to be a woman...I don't really have anything significant to add, but I think this thread wonderful...
I would also like to add my name to the list to borrow and forward "The Red Tent"...I will also be one of the ones signing my given name...

Thank you all again- I'll be checking in...foxie, let me know if you need any help digging those shallow graves...

 

[HotXBunz]

Onlythefunone, no shallow grave for you.

I find it interesting that you are trying to get in touch with your emotional side as you mature. I am about the same age and want to put some distance between me and my emotional side. I wonder if this is part of the experience of living for others?

A couple of years ago I felt like a butterfly in the wind. I was mentally affected by everything. It was exhausting. I have made an effort to not be so affected. In pulling into myself and tapping the more logical and self centered me, I have found the balance I need.

People who have known me over the years do not like the change. Those would be the same people who would suck the very life force from me and yet call me friend. Much like being "in hut" everyday but it was bleeding away my strength. My older woman, crone self, is caring in a much different way. I can relate it to the way my dad showed love. He was strong and had expectations but was there for me.

Maybe it is men's propensity to keep their emotions in check that gives them their masculine strength. Men may fold that energy back inside where a woman may give it to others.

A thought to ponder.

 

[LukkyKnight]

is pink an ok color in here?

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