Masturbation frustration

[DriveSouth]

don't mean to hijack a thread -

but hi there pixie, long time no see.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

thats the point.. if you like that sort of pain it would feel good to you.. when bf bites my nipples.. kinda hurts but it feels really good.

 

[DriveSouth]

and what

is not to like about nipple biting ...

 

[UnseenChagrin]

It's quite possible it actually was painful but it just felt so good I didn't notice. *grins*


And there is nothing wrong with nipple biting.. I like when mine are played with, I just don't get much sensation out of it.

The pain theory would also explain why I have a fascination with piercings.. I already have 9 and I still want my nipples done and possibly my clit. Not too keen on my belly button though.

 

[breakwall]

One thing you mentioned was that you had cervical sensitivity... I had a g/f that could ONLY have an orgasm if I was right up against her cervix then jabbed in and out with short strokes.

It means you have to be a certain length, though I have heard that with the proper position, anyone of any size can reach there.

It was a unique situation though...she couldn't climax when clitorally stimulated but when i was deep inside AND pinched her nipples hard, she would just go right off.

She had this sensitivity to the pain/pleasure threshold. It was one of the reasons we broke up, she wanted to investigate more sexual pain and I just couldn't be that person.

Don't know if that helps or not...

 

[Pixie Mischief]

It was a unique situation though...she couldn't climax when clitorally stimulated but when i was deep inside AND pinched her nipples hard, she would just go right off.

She had this sensitivity to the pain/pleasure threshold. It was one of the reasons we broke up, she wanted to investigate more sexual pain and I just couldn't be that person.

Don't know if that helps or not...

thats what I was hinting at with pain.

 

[ShyGuy68]

The pain theory would also explain why I have a fascination with piercings.. I already have 9 and I still want my nipples done and possibly my clit. Not too keen on my belly button though.

I for one say that you should get your nipples done, that kind of piercing is by far my favorite? Where else are you pierced, besides your tongue?

 

[welshman]

Have you tried using the vibe INSIDE you to stimulate your gspot while you are using your fingers? It sometimes takes me a while to bring myself to clitoral orgasm using my fingers on my clit. It's never a problem if I stimulate my gspot. I've only come once or twice using a vibe on my clit, and it was quite the effort. It think I'd have real problems if I did that all the time. Makes me incredibly numb.

Arousal also makes a huge difference for me. If I get myself aroused to the point where my clit is huge and throbbing before I even think about touching myself, I can come very quickly and often multiple times.

So those are my two suggestions, use a vibe on your gspot and mentally bring yourself to the edge before even touching yourself.

Good luck and have fun!

a mistress of masturbatory technique excellent

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Tattoos and piercings are addictive.

 

[Prime]

As Denis Leary said, "When I was a teenager, i wasn't going to have a piece of metal driven through my tounge. thats one more thing for your dad to grab ahold of when hes pissed off at you"

and as for tattoos, i don't beleive in anything that makes it easier for the cops to find you.

(btw, i'm joking about all that )

 

[welshman]

Re: thanks

I also just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the support and advice. This is an awkward issue for me and it's nice to have people I can discuss it with, without feeling silly.

Low self esteem? that's interesting, perhaps you don't think you deserve pleasure? sub-consciously that is. You ARE a very attractive woman so has someone in your past been telling you lies about yourself? a parent putting you down for example. You need to rid yourself of negative feelings about yourself. Take it from me, you are a woman any man would be lucky to have. Convince yourself of that. I think you should go with what SexyChele and PinkOrchid suggest, if you have to only use your vibe inside your vagina (on medium setting) and literally make love to your self rather than doing something called 'masturbation' Without any expectation, adore your body, pamper it, please it and it might just please you back Try a fantasy where you are a powerful wealthy female with a specialist team of pleasurers at your beck and call, imagine what you'd like them to do for you And if your date realizes how lucky he is and treats you right, get him involved! massages, roleplaying, mutual masturbation etc, try everything! WM.

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Masterbation sucks it really does. Not very fullfilling. I agree with welsh here.. I'm pretty much in ths same trouble not as bad but I do know I Cant seem to come when it involves someone else. BF says I need to learn to let go and just chill *Shrugs* not so easy.

but maybe you need what is not giving to you. I dont know. a fetish.. a true fetish you need it to get off I am told. you should try to experiment.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

on low self esteem...

Actually WM, when I was growing up my nickname was fatty. In sixth grade we were told the average human body can produce 2 bars of soap from its fat... my classmates decided I could produce enough for the US. *grins* That and I had really bad acne all through HS, glasses (contacts now yay!), braces (plus a jaw expander, so I had a huge gap in my front teeth), intelligence (IE I was a geek), and pretty much any childhood horror you could imagine. It's definately better now.. but growing up being told you're fat n' ugly does tend to imbed itself in your mind.

I finally did get over this in Dec 01 and got in an accident where my right cheek was broken. It was ugly and the remnants are still really visible to me. I've been told it's hardly noticeable, but to me it is and that's all I can think about.

Granted I'm not trying to gain sympathy from anyone here... I just wanted to throw it out because I do feel that it is one of the major hinderances of finding pleasure with myself. (although you are all more than welcome to tell me how beautiful I am! *laughs and runs*)

 

[UnseenChagrin]

B-I-N-G-O!

well, no not really... I just couldn't think of a good subject line. *grins*

My 9 piercings aren't that exotic... aside from my nose and tongue, I've got 3 in each lobe and also my right conch (inside of ear). I'd like to get at least another in my left ear in the fold just above the conch (can't think of the name) and nipples, possibly clit.. then I'm done. I think. Tattoo I am working on... just have to find one that reflects me well enough.

My friend Dana is coming up this week so unfortunately I won't be around lit much, nor will I have a lot of time to experiment some more. I am definately taking a lot of these suggestions to heart and will let you know how it goes.

Maybe this guy I go out with will have an insatiable sex drive like I do. But somehow.. I doubt it..

 

[Pixie Mischief]

Hehe I'm geeky to.. and add to that I'm asthmatic and a big strar trek fan around this town I'm a freak.

 

[drew62]

Sorry to hear that you have low self esteem. However, keep in mind that kids just dont get it. They think being mean is okay and that it doest affect the person. It's when they get older (not necessarily grow up) that they do even more damage. There are few people here on Lit, that still act like 6th graders. I have seen your pics, and youre very very beautiful. We all have some flaws and cannot be those picture perfect models. Keep one thing in mind, there is alot of air brushing and photo retouching going on in the world of modeling.
That is what makes you even more beautiful in the eyes of people here on Lit. We see your natural beauty.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

 

[Pixie Mischief]

 

[drew62]

BLUSH


sorry, thats the best repsonse I can come up with for getting a kiss from someone as beautiful as you

 

[welshman]

How's your little problem these days, any better?

 

[UnseenChagrin]

How's your little problem these days, any better?

No, not really If I could do it, I'd like to not masturbate for a week, but I don't think I've got the will power. *grins*

 

[Lust Engine]

Hang in there. You seem as though you're a beautiful person on the inside AND out. You just lack a bit of the confidence to realize it. You seem very aware & confident of yourself here in detailing of your problems. I've also seen your pictures thread and needless to say... WOWEE!

I hope that the happy folks here at Lit can help you out some by boosting your confidence some. I'm sure once you gain that faith in yourself, you'll really get it going.

 

[UnseenChagrin]

Hang in there. You seem as though you're a beautiful person on the inside AND out. You just lack a bit of the confidence to realize it. You seem very aware & confident of yourself here in detailing of your problems. I've also seen your pictures thread and needless to say... WOWEE!

I hope that the happy folks here at Lit can help you out some by boosting your confidence some. I'm sure once you gain that faith in yourself, you'll really get it going.

Why thank you Lust Engine My confidence has actually been growing quite a bit since I started posting pics. *giggles* Just need to post more I guess!

 

[Lust Engine]

If you keep posting more pics like you have been posting (again..WOWEE!), you'll be a raving ego-maniac before long! Gorgeous pictures!

 

[UnseenChagrin]

Always open for suggestions too