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[HairTrigger]

Re: So Last Night ...

My husband and I had wonderful, hot sex last night and yet here I am, still thinking I want more. Our sex was incredibly intimate, lots of eye contact, candles, music .. everything a woman would want. I nibbled and nipped at his neck as I rode him. Shuddered and moaned as he grabbed my ass. Anyway, a great encounter.

And so, I wait ... hoping I'll just somehow know and feel when or if the right man comes along.

Any opinions?

Check your PM...

 

[jerryid]

VS Pebbles

I'm very much fascinated by your thread Pebbles, and have read as much as my short attention span allows I keep coming back because your picture is soooo luscious...and the things you write ! <gulp>

Anyway, I happen to be a Victoria Secret fashion photographer, and I propose doing a whole catalog with you. I'm thinking strictly lingerie and heels, we'll do a big section with you just in black, and then another sextion ...ooops I meant section...just in white. God you'd be awesome in white thigh highs and heels.

All in the very best of taste, and of course you have final say on all the photos. I will have to insist on helping you dress and undress though ...just to ensure the proper fit and draping.
I'm really looking forward to this ...You're so PERFECT ! You're an eleven !

 

[lowbro]

I suppose this falls into the category of hijacking the thread
but
the issue is close, and related to a discussion I had with Pebbles earlier on this thread, about my wife.
Anyway, what I was starting to say is that I wanted to thank the two guys who shared their experiences with bringing home sex toys to their wives.
I strongly suspect my wife would react negatively. I have gone to a sex store a couple times, trying to get up the nerve to buy her a nice vibrator, but I always back out. As I told Pebbles, she has said that she is turned off by the idea of shared masturbation experiences. I can imagine myself hiding the toy in a box in a box for five years, too.
I do wonder, however, if it would go better to start with just a simple vibrator.
Let me know if I should be asking these questions on a new thread, but I love this one.

I know that one of the extremely few times my wife watched a porno, she got interested in a certain vibrating egg they used in it. I finally got the nerve to order it online and surprised her with it along with an experimental labito enhancer (pill). Well, she was very surprised and a lot embarassed, but she did try both (this was after our second child). The enhancer did make her hot and she really seemed to like what I and the egg did for her, but not enough to keep the interest going Im afraid. The kids take up most of her time and, as all you married guys know, the kids come first. I still wouldnt mind coming last, if there ever was a last, lol. I think too much relationship baggage gets in the way and hinders a marital relationship greatly. Otherwise, I probably wouldnt be on here. My guess is most of us probably wouldnt. Lit is one great outlet though

 

[_pebbles]

Re: VS Pebbles

Wow Jerry - winner of best compliments I've ever received lol. I'll have to print this out and hang it on my bedroom ceiling when the self esteem is feeling low.

So tell me Jerry - call me pessamistic, but I'll take a guess and venture that you're old enough to be my dad?

I'm very much fascinated by your thread Pebbles, and have read as much as my short attention span allows I keep coming back because your picture is soooo luscious...and the things you write ! <gulp>

Anyway, I happen to be a Victoria Secret fashion photographer, and I propose doing a whole catalog with you. I'm thinking strictly lingerie and heels, we'll do a big section with you just in black, and then another sextion ...ooops I meant section...just in white. God you'd be awesome in white thigh highs and heels.

All in the very best of taste, and of course you have final say on all the photos. I will have to insist on helping you dress and undress though ...just to ensure the proper fit and draping.
I'm really looking forward to this ...You're so PERFECT ! You're an eleven !

 

[realcitykid]

The other issue is how do I find my man? A married woman can't just approach an attractive man in the grocery store and say "hey, i'm married .. but why don't we have a long term affair." I know that offer would sound appealing to very few. I feel uneasy thinking I'd find my man on the internet .. but the upside is knowing, just *knowing* that you're in tune sexually and friendship wise before actually seeing each other in person.

I so identify with your frustration!!! I suspect that somewhere, within, say 20 miles of me, there is an attractive woman who is looking, like you are, for someone to try this with . . . But how to find her?!?!? I must admit, that the grocery store scenario you describe is an actual fantasy of mine, particularly if it involved someone as attractive as you (I concur with the others about your lovely AV), but I can't imagine anyone actually trying that. How would you ever know you were approaching the right person? Can you imagine if you were mistaken?!?!?

 

[_pebbles]

I agree - I don't have the balls to try it. Btw - I know I didn't respond to your PM and I'm sorry .. not being rude, just our personal tastes aren't quite in line and I know it wouldn't work.

For those commenting on my bra and panties .. it's not .. that's a bikini.

I so identify with your frustration!!! I suspect that somewhere, within, say 20 miles of me, there is an attractive woman who is looking, like you are, for someone to try this with . . . But how to find her?!?!? I must admit, that the grocery store scenario you describe is an actual fantasy of mine, particularly if it involved someone as attractive as you (I concur with the others about your lovely AV), but I can't imagine anyone actually trying that. How would you ever know you were approaching the right person? Can you imagine if you were mistaken?!?!?

 

[_pebbles]

Another question for those playing along at home:

Do you feel that if you cheat (or if you already have, please enlighten us w/your experience) is a single person or married person a better potential lover? I had thought a married person - mostly because of the discretion factor and sharing a secret (very hot). I also make myself paranoid that even if a single man would be interested in getting mixed up with me ... would he cross that line and think I would leave my family for him? That situation seems primed for stalker territory.

On a side note - I had a single man openly compliment me a couple weeks ago. A very handsome college guy who was helping paint the exterior of my house. I caught him looking at me a few times too. Hubby was right there when he complimented me and I obviously couldn't respond in any type of aggressive way ... I just thanked him. Then thought about him, and thought him ....

Do you think I should have jumped at that chance?

 

[NYCmale]

Pebbles: From reading through this thread one thing is clear. You have really put in alot of thought into this. I think that your gut feelings have been correct so far. So i would suggest that you stick with wat your gut tells you. Married may be best for the discretion. So take the time you need and follow your gut it seems to have been right so far..

Another question for those playing along at home:

Do you feel that if you cheat (or if you already have, please enlighten us w/your experience) is a single person or married person a better potential lover? I had thought a married person - mostly because of the discretion factor and sharing a secret (very hot). I also make myself paranoid that even if a single man would be interested in getting mixed up with me ... would he cross that line and think I would leave my family for him? That situation seems primed for stalker territory.

On a side note - I had a single man openly compliment me a couple weeks ago. A very handsome college guy who was helping paint the exterior of my house. I caught him looking at me a few times too. Hubby was right there when he complimented me and I obviously couldn't respond in any type of aggressive way ... I just thanked him. Then thought about him, and thought him ....

Do you think I should have jumped at that chance?

 

[looking4fun]

affair/fling with married or single person??

To me I don't think I would limit it one over the other. I would be looking for the right person & there marital status would not matter much.

If I was just looking for sex & sex only. I think I would be looking for a deaf-mute with a short memory & a great body.

 

[_pebbles]

*noting* that looking4 likes the quiet girls ...

affair/fling with married or single person??

To me I don't think I would limit it one over the other. I would be looking for the right person & there marital status would not matter much.

If I was just looking for sex & sex only. I think I would be looking for a deaf-mute with a short memory & a great body.

 

[derfaust]

Been there - done that

I was married and met - through the internet and chat rooms (*A LONG TIME AGO) my current significant other. We were unbelievable matched - both were in sexless relationships - both are extremely sexual beings and yet, here I sit, back on the boards almost 9 years later. She has gone through alot (woman stuff) and I still love her - but I would gladly go back to wild illicit sex without entanglements. THat however is the hard part. Someone inevitably gets hurt unless EVERYONE knows the score. There is no way she would approve of my being here mostly because she knows that is how we got together. Neither of us were looking - yet still here we are.

My advice after two divorces (hers and mine), five hurt kids, untold hours of therapy for the children and the appearance of the circle becoming full - chat - flirt - mastubate and include your significant other in it ALL the way.

My mom told me once when I was young that I should live me life as if she were watching over my shoulder every minute of the day - Boy would she have been shocked - however if you have a significant other you might find that he or she would love to shre in spicing up your love life. Ask subtly and play openly.

Just my two cents worth - and remember I'm here too.

 

[mickyp123]

*noting* that looking4 likes the quiet girls ...

Call me old fashioned or whatever you like, it seems to me that after weighing up the Pro's and con's you should either stay or go.
Sex is one part of the many facets of marriage, how important that is will be down to each individual, if you feel that its insurmountable then go and make a new life, i do feel cheating is wrong and in a marriage that just lacks sex i think its a cruel way to treat your partner.
Also once a cheat always a cheat, so if someone finds you outside their marriage they will quite possibly move on again.
Trust is an awful word to throw in someones face.

 

[mrsree]

Married

Hi I am a married lady too, My husband knows that I am on the literotica site, but not the extent of my goings on. I enjoy it though and will continue. I am a highly sexual woman, and love to chat with men about sex.

 

[HairTrigger]

Another question for those playing along at home:

Do you feel that if you cheat (or if you already have, please enlighten us w/your experience) is a single person or married person a better potential lover? I had thought a married person - mostly because of the discretion factor and sharing a secret (very hot). I also make myself paranoid that even if a single man would be interested in getting mixed up with me ... would he cross that line and think I would leave my family for him? That situation seems primed for stalker territory.

On a side note - I had a single man openly compliment me a couple weeks ago. A very handsome college guy who was helping paint the exterior of my house. I caught him looking at me a few times too. Hubby was right there when he complimented me and I obviously couldn't respond in any type of aggressive way ... I just thanked him. Then thought about him, and thought him ....

Do you think I should have jumped at that chance?

Hmm -- I would agree with you that a married lover would be a better choice, and for pretty much the same reason you mentioned -- mutual assured discretion...

So -- how would you have "jumped at the chance"? As you said -- hubby was right there. It's not as if you could just whip out a piece of paper with your phone number on it and tell him to call you later... Besides -- do you really want to be some young stud's "bragging rights" that night at the frat house?

 

[HairTrigger]

Re: Married

Hi I am a married lady too, My husband knows that I am on the literotica site, but not the extent of my goings on. I enjoy it though and will continue. I am a highly sexual woman, and love to chat with men about sex.

What would you like to discuss?

 

[fulie57]

M e t o o

Fidelity is a struggle in every marriage, I believe. For those who say that's not true, they just haven't reached a point of temptation .... yet.

I feel that I'm a strong willed and loyal person.

I couldn't agree more. I have known my wife for over ten years, been married for six. I have never been with anyone other than her and it is creeping up on me.. stuck in my craw... I can feel the sand melting beneath my feet.

She has stayed pretty conservative during our marriage... and I'm but ready to pounce on some virgin killer given the chance.

SO HARD NOT TO.

 

[njguy1002]

I agree - I don't have the balls to try it. Btw - I know I didn't respond to your PM and I'm sorry .. not being rude, just our personal tastes aren't quite in line and I know it wouldn't work.

For those commenting on my bra and panties .. it's not .. that's a bikini.

you look good in your bikini

 

[jerryid]

VS Pebbles

So tell me Jerry - call me pessamistic, but I'll take a guess and venture that you're old enough to be my dad?

The other issue is how do I find my man?

Well Pebbles, let's say I'm old enough to be your older brother
What a shame ....but hey I had my day. (I'm 48)

As to your question - believe me, you won't have any problem finding someone if you make the conscious decision to have an affair. Once you make your mind up, it's as good as done. This is particurlarly true for you, seeing as how you are extremely lovely and sexy. <S>. The whole thing is the deciding.

But you have to be the adventerous sort, cause it can be a wild ride ! LOLOL


For you

 

[boomer3112]

single or married?

I have flirted and chatted with both single and married women online.

And have met both, and in my own experience the married ladies are the ones who tend to be in it for the long term!

I am married and the single women lose interest when they decide your not going to leave your wife, which i never would.

However the married women, the one's who like me...lol, want to have a long term affair, especially as we generally can only get together 3 or 4 times a month.

This also keeps the passion alive, and the thrill of being discovered, especially when we meet outdoors during the summer, makes the sex really wild

I would not turn down a single lady , however as a married man i do prefer to deal with someone in the same situation as myself.

 

[boomer3112]

single or married?

I have flirted and chatted with both single and married women online.

And have met both, and in my own experience the married ladies are the ones who tend to be in it for the long term!

I am married and the single women lose interest when they decide your not going to leave your wife, which i never would.

However the married women, the one's who like me...lol, want to have a long term affair, especially as we generally can only get together 3 or 4 times a month.

This also keeps the passion alive, and the thrill of being discovered, especially when we meet outdoors during the summer, makes the sex really wild

I would not turn down a single lady , however as a married man i do prefer to deal with someone in the same situation as myself.

 

[AV guy II]

Another question for those playing along at home:

Do you feel that if you cheat (or if you already have, please enlighten us w/your experience) is a single person or married person a better potential lover? I had thought a married person - mostly because of the discretion factor and sharing a secret (very hot). I also make myself paranoid that even if a single man would be interested in getting mixed up with me ... would he cross that line and think I would leave my family for him? That situation seems primed for stalker territory.

On a side note - I had a single man openly compliment me a couple weeks ago. A very handsome college guy who was helping paint the exterior of my house. I caught him looking at me a few times too. Hubby was right there when he complimented me and I obviously couldn't respond in any type of aggressive way ... I just thanked him. Then thought about him, and thought him ....



Do you think I should have jumped at that chance?

Hi Pepples, did your hubby say anything about that incident at te time, or later on?

 

[_pebbles]

No, I don't have my phone number pre-printed on business cards to give out to potential lovers. I would have waited until the next day or later that day and asked him in for coffee, had casual conversation .. see if we had things in common ... smile, flirted. If I end up having an affair .. I want him "bragging" to himself that I'm his secret lover.

Hmm -- I would agree with you that a married lover would be a better choice, and for pretty much the same reason you mentioned -- mutual assured discretion...

So -- how would you have "jumped at the chance"? As you said -- hubby was right there. It's not as if you could just whip out a piece of paper with your phone number on it and tell him to call you later... Besides -- do you really want to be some young stud's "bragging rights" that night at the frat house?

 

[_pebbles]

Thank You

you look good in your bikini

 

[_pebbles]

Re: VS Pebbles

I was just *gently* teasing you about your age, jerry.

Does the "I'm a photographer for Victoria's Secret" line get you a lot of girls, jerry?

Well Pebbles, let's say I'm old enough to be your older brother
What a shame ....but hey I had my day. (I'm 48)

As to your question - believe me, you won't have any problem finding someone if you make the conscious decision to have an affair. Once you make your mind up, it's as good as done. This is particurlarly true for you, seeing as how you are extremely lovely and sexy. <S>. The whole thing is the deciding.

But you have to be the adventerous sort, cause it can be a wild ride ! LOLOL


For you

 

[frich]

Following this thread for a while...

I've been following this thread for a while, and just thought I would weigh in with my personal experience.

I am married, and my wife knows that I frequent this board, and several others. Although I mainly "lurk" here, I post frequently on some others, and so does she. My wife and I both have a relatively small circle of friends - only a few of whom are single, and the rest are either married couples or couples in committed relationships - with whom we are sexually active outside of our marriage.

Now here's the part that is a little different: We discovered long ago, after experimenting with soft swinging, open swinging, on-premises swing clubs, key clubs, swinger bulletin boards, etc., that we find more enjoyment and excitement in playing with our friends separately, then later telling each other all the explicit details of our sexual encounters. We go to great lengths to draw out these story-telling sessions into long, steamy episodes, and pull no punches in the telling. We do not hide this fact from our friends - they all know that there are no secrets between us, and at least two of the other couples with whom we are both involved (although at different times!) think that fact is a real turn-on.

It is interesting to note that a few times in the past, when we were still "playing" together as a couple, there were isolated instances of insecurity and jealousy from both of us, as we watched the other in action with someone else. You know how it goes -

"..Oh shit! He makes her come harder that I do! Will she want to be with him more than with me now?" or "Uh-oh, she's got much nicer boobs than mine - and her ass is nicer, too! He'll never get as turned on by me anymore!"

Of course, those insecurities were silly - but at the time, they were stressful, and could really take the edge off an otherwise pleasurable experience. Strangely enough, we both broached the subject to each other at almost the same time - almost as if we were reading each other's mnds - and decided that we COULD play by ourselves and NOT feel like "cheats", because we were going to tell all (and then some!) as soon as we got home to each other. This had actually strengthened our relationship - and has also resulted in some of the hottest sex on the planet! Now, we are basically getting twice the kick out of the same sexual high - once while it is happening, and again when we recount the experience for each other later - and no more lingering doubts or petty jealousies!

Just food for thought!

frich