Married Posters

[babydoll2u]

I feel like I'm mourning the loss of our lust and my sexuality. I know he's feeling it too. I know he loves me ... he's going to the doctor later in the month to get Viagra or something like it. I appreciate the gesture. I hope it works .. I hope I get over these feelings of "oh great, he's gotta take a pill just to desire me." I'm lacking in the thinking-positive department recently.

Oh hun be GLAD he's willing to DO something!!! He's not going to take a pill to desire you! He DESIRES you and is WILLING to take a pill to follow through on it. DO you seriously think HE feels good about having to take a pill to "get it up"??
Good grief hun, I would have been ECSTATIC if my ex had been willing to do this... he wasn't and we're no longer married. Give the man credit and encourage him, let him know you're PROUD of him, for facing the problem, rather than making him feel like less of a man because he has a "performance problem". Stop feeling sorry for yourself, peb and look at the issue through HIS eyes... you just may see it in a whole different light.

*hugs*

 

[puno]

[b]_pebbles[/b]

I'm not going to try to reiterate the responses to your last two posts. They are all excellent points....

Looking at your posts it seems that the person you really want is your husband. Speaking from experience 'friends w/benefits' has been fun, I've enjoyed it immensely but the benefits of being with the one you vowed your life to is priceless...

Before jumping to, excuse the Star Wars analogy, the 'Darkside' give everything you have now a chance to grow again...

Sheryl Crow has a great line in her song "Soak up the Sun," Its not having what you want, its wanting what you got.

Enjoy the moments we have so few and regret nothing!

 

[zukethecuke]

I just want to emphasize the point that no man needs Viagra to desire you, but he may need a pill to be able to do anything about that desire. Lots of things, both physical and emotional, can get in the way of a reliable erection.

 

[babydoll2u]

I just want to emphasize the point that no man needs Viagra to desire you, but he may need a pill to be able to do anything about that desire. Lots of things, both physical and emotional, can get in the way of a reliable erection.

exactly!

 

[Blues]

Fellow Bruce fan I'm *trying* to feel good about myself. It's not really a situation where either of us is leaving. I believe in the two parent household. We get along as great friends on every other level. The sex, the lust ... it's just not what it was and being unfulfilled weighs so heavy on my heart. I feel like I'm mourning the loss of our lust and my sexuality. I know he's feeling it too. I know he loves me ... he's going to the doctor later in the month to get Viagra or something like it. I appreciate the gesture. I hope it works .. I hope I get over these feelings of "oh great, he's gotta take a pill just to desire me." I'm lacking in the thinking-positive department recently.

Hey, I really hope it all works out. Him realizing there is an issue and taking that step to try and jumpstart things is great. Your dedication the family is a great thing as well as the fact that you both still get along fine, you have a lot going for you.

 

[_pebbles]

Hey, I really hope it all works out. Him realizing there is an issue and taking that step to try and jumpstart things is great. Your dedication the family is a great thing as well as the fact that you both still get along fine, you have a lot going for you.

I really appreciate him going to the doctor. I'm looking forward to seeing what will happen. I'm hoping that my wandering mind stops. Not sure though....

 

[BigGuyPA44]

Good Luck!

I really appreciate him going to the doctor. I'm looking forward to seeing what will happen. I'm hoping that my wandering mind stops. Not sure though....

to the both of you

B

 

[zukethecuke]

I really appreciate him going to the doctor. I'm looking forward to seeing what will happen. I'm hoping that my wandering mind stops. Not sure though....

Oh, well, now! If your mind stops wandering, YOU may need a pill!

 

[Blues]

I really appreciate him going to the doctor. I'm looking forward to seeing what will happen. I'm hoping that my wandering mind stops. Not sure though....

I think everyones mind wanders now and then.

 

[puno]

I really appreciate him going to the doctor. I'm looking forward to seeing what will happen. I'm hoping that my wandering mind stops. Not sure though....

Since when is a wandering mind abnormal? You have a great weekend....

 

[babydoll2u]

I think everyones mind wanders now and then.

I know mine does <whistling innocently> http://www.justerotica.co.uk/v2/images/smilies/innocent08.gif

 

[Nero-1]

I just found this thread...a bit late in the game I believe. I haven't read all of the posts but what you are going through is typical of getting seriously involved at a young age as I did. You can absolutely love the person you are with but if you haven't experienced anyone else then you will always wonder what do others feel like or do differently. That is what youth is supposed to answer for you, when you get to try out different people to see who fits you mentally and/or physically.

Unfortunately like me you seem to get involoved before you really got the chance to see what is out there. Not that there is anything at all wrong with what you have but just the experience of living the sexual part of life.
I find myself here just looking to see what others are experiencing. I don't know if I would ever cheat even though I think about it every once in a while. I would love to but I don't know if I could go through with it. I feel like I have missed out on a very important part of growing up. Now I am 33, married and my sex life is totally fine with my wife but it's not that part that has me looking. It is just the idea of what someone else would feel like, smell like and taste like that has me so curious.

 

[Nero-1]

So since May what has happened?

 

[sex200561]

http://www.faceparty.com/sissymaidforu


LOL

 

[luvnwomen]

hi to all
just found this thread

 

[Nero-1]

Hi luvnwomen..I'm new here too

 

[French Martini]

I just ran across this thread and find the reasons many married lit-ers are here very interesting. Many mimick my reasons exactly!

Married and he knows I read... has no idea I post. He has no real interest...

 

[manonthewebb]

I just ran across this thread and find the reasons many married lit-ers are here very interesting. Many mimick my reasons exactly!

Married and he knows I read... has no idea I post. He has no real interest...

We're not so unusual then ...

 

[BigGuyPA44]

sounds familiar

I just ran across this thread and find the reasons many married lit-ers are here very interesting. Many mimick my reasons exactly!

Married and he knows I read... has no idea I post. He has no real interest...

This sounds familiar

And we just plod along...ask no questions and tell no lies...so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, which is fine by me

Welcome to the thread...it has been dormant for a while and it is nice to see it rolling again.

B

 

[babydoll2u]

very very familiar....

 

[French Martini]

This sounds familiar

And we just plod along...ask no questions and tell no lies...so what she doesn't know won't hurt her, which is fine by me

Welcome to the thread...it has been dormant for a while and it is nice to see it rolling again.

B

Thanks for the warm welcome!

And webby, no your not that unusual. By the looks of this board... maybe the spouses are the ones that are unusual??

 

[DrunkenSatyr]

Hell, I found this board and got my wife interested in it. She doesn't post but loves reading everyone's stories. Im just glad that we can both share in this forum and mutually enjoy it.

 

[strawberryangel]

My hubby directed me to this site to read... I then began to post but didn't tell him.. then we posted together.... I am a bigger poster than him but our sex life has blossomed and grown even better, which was good to begin with and now is just freakin amazing....

I have sex on my mind almost 24/7 and used to before having kids...now that they are older I am reclaiming that part of me and loving it. He isn't all that keen on my method of flirting here but grins and bears it for me....and I love him for it...

 

[luvnwomen]

My hubby directed me to this site to read... I then began to post but didn't tell him.. then we posted together.... I am a bigger poster than him but our sex life has blossomed and grown even better, which was good to begin with and now is just freakin amazing....

I have sex on my mind almost 24/7 and used to before having kids...now that they are older I am reclaiming that part of me and loving it. He isn't all that keen on my method of flirting here but grins and bears it for me....and I love him for it...

yopu know the cure for having sex on the mind 24/7 don't you?

 

[Inna]

yopu know the cure for having sex on the mind 24/7 don't you?

I'd like to know... please tell us.