Married Posters

[mickyp123]

I was happy to bring this topic to the forefront. I still grapple with guilt about my desires. I have intense curiousity about being with another man. I know that I don't want it to be a one time encounter. I know this will open me up to potentially being hurt and ruining my marriage ... yet I still daydream about it constantly.

Food for thought, suppose you want the hall decorated and hubby can't do it, maybe he is no good at diy, so you get a man in to do the job.
Could we not draw parallels between that and sex, if the partner, can not, or will not take part find someone to help, are you cheating if you are not getting any sex at all.
If you are getting it but its not very good try and improve on it, but if your getting nothing your not two timing anyone are you.
Just a thought.

 

[bigcpl4fun]

Our experience and philosophy is a little different from most of you. As a background, we've been married for 33 years and started "playing" with others about 7 years ago.

Since we both feel that sex can be a natural extension of friendship, fooling around here on Lit is certainly not cheating on either of our parts. And, since we've both been in the same room with each other when we've had sex with others, what happens on Lit is kinda tame in comparison, don't you think ?

Anyway, good luck to one and all in their pursuits. Try not to hurt the one you love, though. If you actually talk to them about it, you just might be surprised.

 

[zabo43m]

another reply

I am married and I read and post (occasionally) without my wife's knowledge. How has it affected our marriage ? Since she has no interest in sex, it has not really affected the marriage - perhaps it has given me a fantasy outlet, and I have even thought seriously of taking it further and trying to meet someone. Lit has helped me to deal with the situation, since all else has failed.

Sounds like I have a lot in common with many of you. Great thread !

 

[fingers_larue]

my thoughts....

Greetings,

I am married 25 years to the first and only lady of my life, I come here to read stories, look at the pictures and post what I can. Heres the deal, my wife would freak out if she ran across this site, so I keep it a secret. I find that like others on here we have drifted apart in our sexual desires, my wife is a "milk toast lover".....nothing kinky, no BJ's, missionary position always, sex in the bed room and no place else, lites out, door locked, nothing oral for her or me. After all that we did manage to have three kids and I do love her and think she is a great mother. I have tried to introduce new things to our sex life but it is always the same reply " that is to weird and perverted, its not what I am interested in, I don't like that, etc."So I come here and read and look and think. I have always hoped that I would find a lady who wanted to have a slow and casual affair and still maintain that "normal" life that we all display to our family and friends, a place for me and someone else to let the animal desires pent up with in us out and running wild, a chance to be as good or bad as we decide. This is the closest I have ever come to that desire, so thats why I am here.


"Her bright eyes got my attention but it was her bushy tail that really held my interest"

 

[AAAAhman]

OK... Here I am... I just saw this thread for the first time right now....

and it seems to fit myself also.


I am married, to a wonderful woman. Yet my marriage is without sex or passion or desire or lust or sensuality, mostly due to her medical conditions which have been curtailing any sexual activity for a long time. I cum here to satisfy my sexual needs, as I am very horny ole man that has a tremendous sex drive needing to be satisfied. I am horny all the time, masturbate as many times a day as I can, and love women. I think and desire women every minute of every day.

My wife does not know that I cumm here at all, and she would probably divorce me if she ever found out. So to that end I keep it very secret.

I just have to fullfill my sexual needs somehow, so here I am with online lovers and maybe even a Fuck Buddy.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr I am horny right now!!!!!!!!!

Smiles

 

[babydoll2u]

Hi Sweetheart.....

OK... Here I am... I just saw this thread for the first time right now....

and it seems to fit myself also.


I am married, to a wonderful woman. Yet my marriage is without sex or passion or desire or lust or sensuality, mostly due to her medical conditions which have been curtailing any sexual activity for a long time. I cum here to satisfy my sexual needs, as I am very horny ole man that has a tremendous sex drive needing to be satisfied. I am horny all the time, masturbate as many times a day as I can, and love women. I think and desire women every minute of every day.

My wife does not know that I cumm here at all, and she would probably divorce me if she ever found out. So to that end I keep it very secret.

I just have to fullfill my sexual needs somehow, so here I am with online lovers and maybe even a Fuck Buddy.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr I am horny right now!!!!!!!!!

Smiles

My goodness....we're so much alike and we're so far apart. how sad We would make very good FB's

warm hugs

 

[babydoll2u]

Re: Re: ysbr......

I saw in your profile that you are a wedding photographer. Have youe ever photographed a "wild" wedding?

Have you ever asked your husband if (because he is not sexual) letting you have a Boyfriend would be OK, or just tell him you met a guy you would like to get to know?

No i've never photographed a "wild" wedding...but wouldn't hesitate to do so
I've never asked my husband the questions that you suggest...because I know him very well. If I even hinted that I have an interest in another man, he'd divorce me for sure.

And so, this place is my secret....and my search for a sweet FB continues

warm hugs

 

[AAAAhman]

Re: Hi Sweetheart.....

My goodness....we're so much alike and we're so far apart. how sad We would make very good FB's

warm hugs

mmmmmm yessss we would make very good Fuck Buddies.....

Your passion excites me......mmmmmmmmmmm

 

[fingers_larue]

Originally posted by _pebbles
I was happy to bring this topic to the forefront. I still grapple with guilt about my desires. I have intense curiousity about being with another man. I know that I don't want it to be a one time encounter. I know this will open me up to potentially being hurt and ruining my marriage ... yet I still daydream about it constantly.

I for one would find it a big turn on to find out that my lady was on lit and that she was interested in other men and all that this would open up to us it would not ruin my marriage

 

[mickyp123]

Re: my thoughts....

Greetings,

I am married 25 years to the first and only lady of my life, I come here to read stories, look at the pictures and post what I can. Heres the deal, my wife would freak out if she ran across this site, so I keep it a secret. I find that like others on here we have drifted apart in our sexual desires, my wife is a "milk toast lover".....nothing kinky, no BJ's, missionary position always, sex in the bed room and no place else, lites out, door locked, nothing oral for her or me. After all that we did manage to have three kids and I do love her and think she is a great mother. I have tried to introduce new things to our sex life but it is always the same reply " that is to weird and perverted, its not what I am interested in, I don't like that, etc."So I come here and read and look and think. I have always hoped that I would find a lady who wanted to have a slow and casual affair and still maintain that "normal" life that we all display to our family and friends, a place for me and someone else to let the animal desires pent up with in us out and running wild, a chance to be as good or bad as we decide. This is the closest I have ever come to that desire, so
thats why I am here.

Your situation is a carbon copy of mine, welcome.


"Her bright eyes got my attention but it was her bushy tail that really held my interest"

 

[fingers_larue]

Re: So Last Night ...

Originally posted by _pebbles
My husband and I had wonderful, hot sex last night and yet here I am, still thinking I want more. Our sex was incredibly intimate, lots of eye contact, candles, music .. everything a woman would want. I nibbled and nipped at his neck as I rode him. Shuddered and moaned as he grabbed my ass. Anyway, a great encounter.

My mind turns to what it'd be like to have sex with another man and only find it to be disappointing. I wonder if new man would be quick, not take the time to know my body, etc. I wonder if all this mental build up that I've given to having an affair, would only turn out to be a colossel disappointment and I'd end up feeling like shit and guilty afterwards. And so, I wait ... hoping I'll just somehow know and feel when or if the right man comes along.

Any opinions?

And that would be the crux of the matter....you want someone who will take there time and be good to you, good enough that you will want to have more and more and grow closer and closer so as to give the affair a feeling of more than just a fling. I think it is hard to get to the point of feeling comfortable with a new partner and it takes time to develope and grow that trust. However if you can do it would that not be great, you could keep your "normal" life and have the pleasures that you seek on a long term basis. I have always felt that if I had the chance to have an affair it would have to be with someone that I already know, that would shorten the time frame of getting to know the other person and more likely you would already have a basic feeling about the person you are thinking of doing the nasty with. It would just be a matter of getting the ball rolling so to speak. I know of several ladies that I talk with and work with on a regular basis that I would love to take in my arms and have sex with but then there is that first approach and the chance for rejection and even gossip.

What would you do Pebbles, if one of your neighbors came to you at a party and whispered in your ear that "I think you are so hot and I would love to take you away from here for an evening of passion and sex, I have watched you from afar and would like to have you in my life on a casual but long term basis, something that would be good for you and for me", then just looks you in the eyes and waits for your response. So many times I have wanted to say that to a lady at a gathering or whatever but I always feel like I would be letting myself in for a chance for a slap in the face, or perhaps a chance at a roll in the hay but my life tends to lean towards the slap in the face type of adventure,lol.

 

[NOBGE]

I too just found this post. Been looking but post now and then.
I'm married and my wife would not understand. There is little sex here and when there is, it's not very satisfying at all. 25th wedding anniversary vacation earlier this summer to Maui and we had bad sex once! So, I find other outlets for my sexual desire and energy...this being one of them!

 

[babydoll2u]

hi Nobge....

I too just found this post. Been looking but post now and then.
I'm married and my wife would not understand. There is little sex here and when there is, it's not very satisfying at all. 25th wedding anniversary vacation earlier this summer to Maui and we had bad sex once! So, I find other outlets for my sexual desire and energy...this being one of them!

welcome to the list. I've been posting here sporadically. My hubby wouldn't understand my attraction to Lit...even tho there has been no sex and very little affection of any kind in our marriage for over 2 years.

I'm sorry you are going through this as well... I wouldn't wish it on anyone.
If you need to talk, just pm me.

warm hugs
Peggy

 

[mickyp123]

This thread is great, why are there so many of us, why did we not marry each other lol the list of names just gets bigger.

 

[Matthewbn]

I'm new here and my wife like some of the others doesn't know. I love the stories on Lit and the posts on the forum. I glade to see though that I'm not the only one that has to keep secrets. I think that is what kept me from posting when I first found this place. There once was a time in our relationship that we could have shared a place like this but somethings change and now we have different views of what is acceptable and what isn't.

 

[babydoll2u]

welcome to the list Matthew.....

I'm new here and my wife like some of the others doesn't know. I love the stories on Lit and the posts on the forum. I glade to see though that I'm not the only one that has to keep secrets. I think that is what kept me from posting when I first found this place. There once was a time in our relationship that we could have shared a place like this but somethings change and now we have different views of what is acceptable and what isn't.

no you are definitely not alone. We all embrace each other in our secrets and share our hearts....so please feel free.

warm hugs
Peggy

 

[Matthewbn]

Peggy,

Thanks for the warm welcome. I'm going to try and keep up with all that have the same dilemma. I don't think my wife understands. I love her dearly it's just that I enjoy the pleasure of other people. It' doesn't even have to be physical pleasure just a good conversation with someone else is great.

 

[_pebbles]

Re: Re: So Last Night ...

And that would be the crux of the matter....you want someone who will take there time and be good to you, good enough that you will want to have more and more and grow closer and closer so as to give the affair a feeling of more than just a fling.


What would you do Pebbles, if one of your neighbors came to you at a party and whispered in your ear that "I think you are so hot and I would love to take you away from here for an evening of passion and sex, I have watched you from afar and would like to have you in my life on a casual but long term basis, something that would be good for you and for me", then just looks you in the eyes and waits for your response.

If I were attracted mentally and physically to said neighbor, I'd kiss his mouth and tell him I've been waiting for him and for this day ... and let the fun begin!

 

[babydoll2u]

Matthew....

Peggy,

Thanks for the warm welcome. I'm going to try and keep up with all that have the same dilemma. I don't think my wife understands. I love her dearly it's just that I enjoy the pleasure of other people. It' doesn't even have to be physical pleasure just a good conversation with someone else is great.

you're so very welcome...glad to have you here with us.
I know just where you're coming from....my hubby is the same way.
If you'd like to chat sometime and have yahoo instant messenger, feel free to add me ... you can get the info from my profile.


warm hugs sweetie
Peggy

 

[Heartless Bstrd]

Re: Re: Ready

*caught it* thanks baby

warm hugs

Thanks sweetness. Big smile......

We all seem to be in the same boat. Nice to know that we are not alone.

 

[happy2bhubby]

Re: Re: Re: ysbr......

No i've never photographed a "wild" wedding...but wouldn't hesitate to do so
I've never asked my husband the questions that you suggest...because I know him very well. If I even hinted that I have an interest in another man, he'd divorce me for sure.

And so, this place is my secret....and my search for a sweet FB continues

warm hugs

The "wild Wedding" I have in mind is a one where my wife and I could renew our vows, but do them in a way that is more fitting to our current lifestyle, (where she is allowed to date whome she pleases and I remain faithful and obidiant) . She would of course be having sex with all the best men and possibly the Minister.

If you would enjoy helping with the arrangments , that would be fine as well! Who knows, maybe you could find a Boyfriend there, (you know what they say about wedding and funerals) or at least she could loan you one of her's.

 

[babydoll2u]

Re: Ready

Thanks sweetness. Big smile......

We all seem to be in the same boat. Nice to know that we are not alone.

Oh yes, it is very nice to know we're not alone.....
tho it doesn't help much on lonely nights


warm hugs
Peggy

 

[ram1_2]

Re: Re: Ready

Oh yes, it is very nice to know we're not alone.....
tho it doesn't help much on lonely nights


warm hugs
Peggy

I'm in agreement with your last statement, babydoll! Truly awful, is the way, I'd describe that feeling!

Warm hugs, sweet

 

[Matthewbn]

It looks like there are 19 pages of people here that are in hiding from our mates. At what time our were do you all get on-line as they are none the wiser? Mine is when she is out smoking or in the bath tub.

 

[babydoll2u]

Matthew....

It looks like there are 19 pages of people here that are in hiding from our mates. At what time our were do you all get on-line as they are none the wiser? Mine is when she is out smoking or in the bath tub.

I'm able to be online alot of the day since I own my own business. Plus I'm online quite a bit at night after I put my son to bed....I'm usually online til around 1 or 2 am....I dont sleep much, dont like a cold bed


warm hugs

Peggy