Married men

[UtilityCurve]

I do understand the ethical considerations of being with a married man, but I feel as though the way they are thought of is often overblown or unbalanced. I have had sex with several married men. Not one of them was an innocent rube being led astray or a man in a weakened state being taken advantage of - those guys do exist but I wouldn't have sex with them in that context. The guys I have been with were making their own conscious decision about their commitments (not mine) to their wife.

Moreover I have always been clear with them that I am not interested in coaxing them into a long-term relationship. It will be sex and intimacy and fun, perhaps on an ongoing basis, but I have a husband and no intention of leaving him. In my view there is no home wrecker dynamic here. If that guy leaves his wife it isn't for me, because I've already told him that isn't going to happen. It will be because of other factors in his marriage. His tryst with me may have surfaced those factors but I am not the cause.

The practical reality is that people cheat for all sorts of reasons. That doesn't make it right but it isn't up to me to judge a man's reasoning - which is sometimes quite understandable even if he is simply choosing the least bad option for him. Those who make this into absolutes and black and white are living in a world of naïveté. If I think he is just a lizard or a rube or a man in weakened state I will steer clear....in much the same way as I would with a single man who is likely to be a jerk or even a decent guy who is just not well suited to a casual sexual relationship. But in my experience most guys don't fit any of this easy stereotypes and more often than not I send him back to his wife with a smile on his face and happy memories.

100% this. It is no one's responsibility to police someone else's marriage. Yes, there is some theoretical red line that can be crossed, but it seems rare as most extramarital sex is entirely understandable.

Being a guy, I think men stray more, only because it seems more women give up on sex in their marriages. Not saying they might not have good (health, both physical or mental) reasons, but while it's supposed to be "in sickness and in health," your partner's "forsaking all others" bit creates a duty to seek treatment and not just quit on him/her.

I have more complicated feelings about "getting things (s)he won't give at home" (again, it SEEMS this is more a female affliction).

In my marriage, I did without, though my wife explicitly told me on our honeymoon that "just because I won't, doesn't mean you should do without, so if you get opportunities, take them; I want you to be happy, always." (The unspoken part was "but if you CAN get it at home, it is inexcusable to get takeout [takeaway for those of you in the UK].")

 

[VikingPhoenix]

100% this. It is no one's responsibility to police someone else's marriage. Yes, there is some theoretical red line that can be crossed, but it seems rare as most extramarital sex is entirely understandable.

Being a guy, I think men stray more, only because it seems more women give up on sex in their marriages. Not saying they might not have good (health, both physical or mental) reasons, but while it's supposed to be "in sickness and in health," your partner's "forsaking all others" bit creates a duty to seek treatment and not just quit on him/her.

I have more complicated feelings about "getting things (s)he won't give at home" (again, it SEEMS this is more a female affliction).

In my marriage, I did without, though my wife explicitly told me on our honeymoon that "just because I won't, doesn't mean you should do without, so if you get opportunities, take them; I want you to be happy, always." (The unspoken part was "but if you CAN get it at home, it is inexcusable to get takeout [takeaway for those of you in the UK].")

Very well put. Thank you both for your thoughtful words.

 

[foxnylonfox]

I do understand the ethical considerations of being with a married man, but I feel as though the way they are thought of is often overblown or unbalanced. I have had sex with several married men. Not one of them was an innocent rube being led astray or a man in a weakened state being taken advantage of - those guys do exist but I wouldn't have sex with them in that context. The guys I have been with were making their own conscious decision about their commitments (not mine) to their wife.

Moreover I have always been clear with them that I am not interested in coaxing them into a long-term relationship. It will be sex and intimacy and fun, perhaps on an ongoing basis, but I have a husband and no intention of leaving him. In my view there is no home wrecker dynamic here. If that guy leaves his wife it isn't for me, because I've already told him that isn't going to happen. It will be because of other factors in his marriage. His tryst with me may have surfaced those factors but I am not the cause.

The practical reality is that people cheat for all sorts of reasons. That doesn't make it right but it isn't up to me to judge a man's reasoning - which is sometimes quite understandable even if he is simply choosing the least bad option for him. Those who make this into absolutes and black and white are living in a world of naïveté. If I think he is just a lizard or a rube or a man in weakened state I will steer clear....in much the same way as I would with a single man who is likely to be a jerk or even a decent guy who is just not well suited to a casual sexual relationship. But in my experience most guys don't fit any of this easy stereotypes and more often than not I send him back to his wife with a smile on his face and happy memories.

Very well said, thank you for sharing this.

 

[Poetryinmotionxo]

 

[Gr82meetu2]

I work as a handyman as my side job job, and I find that there’s lots of women out there, attracted to married men

 

[Vinylguy]

I do understand the ethical considerations of being with a married man, but I feel as though the way they are thought of is often overblown or unbalanced. I have had sex with several married men. Not one of them was an innocent rube being led astray or a man in a weakened state being taken advantage of - those guys do exist but I wouldn't have sex with them in that context. The guys I have been with were making their own conscious decision about their commitments (not mine) to their wife.

Moreover I have always been clear with them that I am not interested in coaxing them into a long-term relationship. It will be sex and intimacy and fun, perhaps on an ongoing basis, but I have a husband and no intention of leaving him. In my view there is no home wrecker dynamic here. If that guy leaves his wife it isn't for me, because I've already told him that isn't going to happen. It will be because of other factors in his marriage. His tryst with me may have surfaced those factors but I am not the cause.

The practical reality is that people cheat for all sorts of reasons. That doesn't make it right but it isn't up to me to judge a man's reasoning - which is sometimes quite understandable even if he is simply choosing the least bad option for him. Those who make this into absolutes and black and white are living in a world of naïveté. If I think he is just a lizard or a rube or a man in weakened state I will steer clear....in much the same way as I would with a single man who is likely to be a jerk or even a decent guy who is just not well suited to a casual sexual relationship. But in my experience most guys don't fit any of this easy stereotypes and more often than not I send him back to his wife with a smile on his face and happy memories.

ThisThank You!

 

[RipRespon]

During our 20 year marriage, many of my wife’s lover’s were married, especially those that were close to us, like my college buddy, my wife’s two high school friends, one of her bosses, our neighbor, and my best friend. I even kept the wives of the last 2, at different times of course, entertained allowing my wife and her lover some “private time”. Funny thing was, being that I was a true cuckold, I wasn’t ever allowed to cheat. Me cheating, or even having sex without her permission, would have been grounds for divorce. She royally freaked out the one time I rubbed the head of my hard cock between the wet pussy lips of one of her female lovers. She locked me out of the bedroom for a month. But my wife had no issues swallowing some guy’s cum in the bathroom while his wife sat by the pool unknowingly sipping on a martini and chatting with me.

“Married men are less emotionally demanding, more ready to please, and much kinkier”, she’d tell me. And she never showed an ounce of guilt or seemed troubled one bit. She even went on a road trip with my best friend’s wife the very week after a four day fishing trip with him and me. I spent most of the trip fishing by myself while the two of them fucked and sucked nonstop for 4 days. She really loved his huge cock.

 

[OldGoodPup]

And here I am, hoping my Miss will loan me to you for a playdate.

 

[bimale1980ca]

I work as a handyman as my side job job, and I find that there’s lots of women out there, attracted to married men

That sounds like the start of some hot fantasies too.

 

[KeenVoyeur]

Married man in a sexless marriage and would just love the opportunity to meet a woman (married or not) for some NSA fun ... doesn't even need to involve actual sex but a handjob or blowjob would be great!

Note of caution - last time I did anything like that, it led to the sexless marriage so this time I'm prepared for a (messy) divorce

 

[ExpRider]

I can’t be the only woman who gets turned on by the whole married men thing. Before being married myself I loved nothing more than fucking a guy knowing he was married. Making a point of doing things I know he doesn’t get at home. Love hearing him compare us.

I've been the beneficiary of that kink over the years. Had several partners who acknowledged that my marital status was a huge turn-on.

 

[Easyvirtue]

A certain young woman loves to have me use my left hand and ring finger to “get her off!”

 

[Poetryinmotionxo]

A certain young woman loves to have me use my left hand and ring finger to “get her off!”

It’s so naughty but so good

 

[Norfolkguy49]

Married uk guy here needing someone to chat with and see what happens

 

[magicalmoments]

I've been with many women who prefer to have married men as their FWB. The common motivation for all of them seems to be that married guys don't become as clingy, not as likely to form a messy emotional bond, they're happy for a sex session every now and then. None of those I interacted with had any regard to the wife, just weren't interested, weren't interested in why I was cheating with them either. The common theme was that this was my problem, not theirs. There should be more angels like this in the world.

 

[whatahoot]

I'll admit that there is definitely an added through to being with someone who is already taken. Yes, there's definitely the practical consideration that the above person mentioned of not having to worry about him getting clingy or thinking that it's anything more than what it is. But for me, there's also a rush that I get knowing that he's willing to cheat just to be with me. I also enjoy knowing that there are things that I do / let him do with me, that he doesn't get at home.

 

[Justfantasies]

Fro

I'll admit that there is definitely an added through to being with someone who is already taken. Yes, there's definitely the practical consideration that the above person mentioned of not having to worry about him getting clingy or thinking that it's anything more than what it is. But for me, there's also a rush that I get knowing that he's willing to cheat just to be with me. I also enjoy knowing that there are things that I do / let him do with me, that he doesn't get at home.

From the man's point of view there is the feeling of power that you can take another man's woman like that and, of course, someone new is always exciting

 

[Justfantasies]

Bump ....

 

[SeaLevel]

Married men are great, but I don’t fuck them unless their wives are on board. I don’t wanna create drama.

This makes me wonder ... for the women who are not wholly opposed to fucking married men:

Does it matter to you if the married man is having sex with or without his wife's consent?

 

[lordfarquat]

Do dads get extra points? We got pregnant on the first time twice so my seed is potent.

 

[Poetryinmotionxo]

This makes me wonder ... for the women who are not wholly opposed to fucking married men:

Does it matter to you if the married man is having sex with or without his wife's consent?

I couldn’t care less. Not my marriage not my problem

 

[Poetryinmotionxo]

Do dads get extra points? We got pregnant on the first time twice so my seed is potent.

Definitely

 

[lordfarquat]

That's why fucking while pregnant is the best. We were insatiably horny and I loved filling her holes. Lactating moms also get extra points. Love their bouncy tits!

 

[DirtyDieselTech]

I can’t be the only woman who gets turned on by the whole married men thing. Before being married myself I loved nothing more than fucking a guy knowing he was married. Making a point of doing things I know he doesn’t get at home. Love hearing him compare us.

Well if you're still lookin for married men to chat with, I'd love to talk. Been married almost 8 yrs but things are....well not as good as they were

 

[KeenVoyeur]

I couldn’t care less. Not my marriage not my problem

I need your cell phone number and zip code ... or mobile number and postcode if you're this side of the ocean