Married and Bisexual

[LadyNina123]

I'm a married lady who also happens to be bisexual. My husband has no inkling of this. I haven't acted on it since college. My fantasy is to have a special gf. A married mommy like myself with whom I can do more than lunch. I'm just wondering if there are other ladies like myself out there

 

[drock28]

My wife and I have another couple we play with. The wives have become very close friends as a result, tho thankfully she respects both mine and the fellow hubbies request to be present for play time. My question is why are you keeping your husband in the dark?

 

[innerpsychonaut]

Speaking to my personal experiences with other women, it is a fantasy (I can't say how common that fantasy is or how many would take it beyond fantasy) to have a "special girlfriend" that they can play with.

 

[LadyNina123]

My wife and I have another couple we play with. The wives have become very close friends as a result, tho thankfully she respects both mine and the fellow hubbies request to be present for play time. My question is why are you keeping your husband in the dark?

Unlike you, my husband is extremely old fashioned and conservative. He would never understand.

 

[LadyNina123]

Speaking to my personal experiences with other women, it is a fantasy (I can't say how common that fantasy is or how many would take it beyond fantasy) to have a "special girlfriend" that they can play with.

Absolutely. It's a real turn on for us to look like two ordinary wives out shopping or having lunch.

 

[creampieluvr79]

Unlike you, my husband is extremely old fashioned and conservative. He would never understand.

Well, my wife considered me to be a little old-fashioned and conservative until we had been married for a couple of years. Then I admitted to a couple of my more tame fantasies and we both started to open up more about our fantasies until we just started to share them all. You never know, you could always start out small in admitting to some of your fantasies and see how it goes. Maybe sometimes a guy really is old-fashioned and conservative, sometimes maybe they're just afraid of what their wives would think if they really knew what they fantasized about, that's how it was for me.

 

[snowangel73]

I'm married and would love to have a "special girlfriend, " too. My hubby would be cool with it if he could watch, but the right person/situation hasn't come up yet.

 

[LadyNina123]

Well, my wife considered me to be a little old-fashioned and conservative until we had been married for a couple of years. Then I admitted to a couple of my more tame fantasies and we both started to open up more about our fantasies until we just started to share them all. You never know, you could always start out small in admitting to some of your fantasies and see how it goes. Maybe sometimes a guy really is old-fashioned and conservative, sometimes maybe they're just afraid of what their wives would think if they really knew what they fantasized about, that's how it was for me.

Hubby and I have been married for about 20 years. We never had a red hot sexual relationship. We're good friends but were very different ppl with very different fantasies.

 

[Fidelisani]

Married, bi, special gal

Nina - tried to pm you but your box is full. Popular lady! We should chat sometime.

Ani

 

[southern_gal]

I'm a married lady who also happens to be bisexual. My husband has no inkling of this. I haven't acted on it since college. My fantasy is to have a special gf. A married mommy like myself with whom I can do more than lunch. I'm just wondering if there are other ladies like myself out there

There are others, but some of us don't have the nerve to try and make fantasies become a reality. I have had my husbands blessings for some time to pursue a seemingly life long desire to be with another woman but wanting to do it and being able to seems to sometimes operate on two entirely different levels. The "more than lunch" thing made me smile because I seem to be stuck on just that. I wish you all the luck in the world and maybe someday more of us will be able to take the steps that you are taking.

 

[LadyNina123]

Nina - tried to pm you but your box is full. Popular lady! We should chat sometime.

Ani

Ani,
I just pm'd you back. I like your style.

 

[LadyNina123]

There are others, but some of us don't have the nerve to try and make fantasies become a reality. I have had my husbands blessings for some time to pursue a seemingly life long desire to be with another woman but wanting to do it and being able to seems to sometimes operate on two entirely different levels. The "more than lunch" thing made me smile because I seem to be stuck on just that. I wish you all the luck in the world and maybe someday more of us will be able to take the steps that you are taking.

That's just it. I haven't taken that step. It's really gratifying to see more women like myself. Except I can't imagine my husband not being shocked out of his mind much less giving his blessing. I just look at as a more multi dimensional friendship. Man or woman I would never have a romantic relationship with someone who I wouldn't want as a friend. So, I'd let the whole world think my special friend and I are just two ladies having lunch, going shopping etc. just what I do with my conventional friends now.

 

[Fidelisani]

Ani,
I just pm'd you back. I like your style.

Strange...never came through. If you'd like you can email me...fidelisani at yahoo.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

 

[Fidelisani]

Strange...never came through. If you'd like you can email me...fidelisani at yahoo.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Oops...fidelisani71 etc... Always forget that part....

 

[southern_gal]

That's just it. I haven't taken that step. It's really gratifying to see more women like myself. Except I can't imagine my husband not being shocked out of his mind much less giving his blessing. I just look at as a more multi dimensional friendship. Man or woman I would never have a romantic relationship with someone who I wouldn't want as a friend. So, I'd let the whole world think my special friend and I are just two ladies having lunch, going shopping etc. just what I do with my conventional friends now.

The steps that I have taken would not get me very far at all. Most of the steps that I did try were awkward at best and laughable at worst. My husband has given me his blessing for a variety of reasons. First, he works away from home for weeks at a time and he simply isn't the jealous type. He may also already know what I am refusing to admit, that for all my wants and fantasies, my desire to actually explore a woman to woman "relationship" may never really get beyond the wants and desires stages. I simple go blank when an opportunity presents itself. I would love to become friends with someone that has experienced what I want to try and can help me get over the awkwardness that I always feel from going outside of my comfort zone. If anything more were to develop then that would be wonderful. Your last line brought a smile to me as well. Two ladies having lunch, shopping, etc. Around here the hens would love nothing more than juicy gossip about who is doing what with whom and if it involved something outside of their social norms, all the better.

 

[Fidelisani]

The steps that I have taken would not get me very far at all. Most of the steps that I did try were awkward at best and laughable at worst. My husband has given me his blessing for a variety of reasons. First, he works away from home for weeks at a time and he simply isn't the jealous type. He may also already know what I am refusing to admit, that for all my wants and fantasies, my desire to actually explore a woman to woman "relationship" may never really get beyond the wants and desires stages. I simple go blank when an opportunity presents itself. I would love to become friends with someone that has experienced what I want to try and can help me get over the awkwardness that I always feel from going outside of my comfort zone. If anything more were to develop then that would be wonderful. Your last line brought a smile to me as well. Two ladies having lunch, shopping, etc. Around here the hens would love nothing more than juicy gossip about who is doing what with whom and if it involved something outside of their social norms, all the better.

For me, it's the friendship that matters most. There is an intimacy that can exist with women that, let's face it, men just don't seem capable of in my experience. My first experience with a woman came when the two of us were very close friends and for one reason or another didn't let any social norms stop us from feeling what developed. Since then I've had extremely rewarding relationships with women. My husband doesn't exactly approve, but he is the "don't ask don't tell" type and just wants me happy. I hope both of you get to experience what you've been fantasizing and find it as rewarding as I have.

 

[southern_gal]

For me, it's the friendship that matters most. There is an intimacy that can exist with women that, let's face it, men just don't seem capable of in my experience. My first experience with a woman came when the two of us were very close friends and for one reason or another didn't let any social norms stop us from feeling what developed. Since then I've had extremely rewarding relationships with women. My husband doesn't exactly approve, but he is the "don't ask don't tell" type and just wants me happy. I hope both of you get to experience what you've been fantasizing and find it as rewarding as I have.

I am from a rather conservative area and what I want will likely have to evolve from a close friendship because anything other than that will be in my opinion, less than what I want it for and far too risky to undertake. Biggest problem with my closest friends (two of whom I know share some of my sentiments) becoming possible lovers is that I value them far to much to risk something tearing that apart. These are women that I have literally known since we were in school together. I feel both a tiny bit of envy for those of you that have experienced what I hope to someday and at the same time I am glad that you have gotten that chance because it may make it easier for those of us that have not yet. If that makes any sense.

 

[followmenow6969]

I'm a married lady who also happens to be bisexual. My husband has no inkling of this. I haven't acted on it since college. My fantasy is to have a special gf. A married mommy like myself with whom I can do more than lunch. I'm just wondering if there are other ladies like myself out there

P.M. Me I' the female half of a couple...

 

[LadyNina123]

Oops...fidelisani71 etc... Always forget that part....

I just added you to my yahoo account.

 

[LadyNina123]

P.M. Me I' the female half of a couple...

I just pm'd you.

 

[followmenow6969]

I just pm'd you.

Nothing came through Honey

 

[LadyNina123]

For me, it's the friendship that matters most. There is an intimacy that can exist with women that, let's face it, men just don't seem capable of in my experience. My first experience with a woman came when the two of us were very close friends and for one reason or another didn't let any social norms stop us from feeling what developed. Since then I've had extremely rewarding relationships with women. My husband doesn't exactly approve, but he is the "don't ask don't tell" type and just wants me happy. I hope both of you get to experience what you've been fantasizing and find it as rewarding as I have.

Ani, I couldn't agree with you more about women being more capable of intimacy. I'd love to share that with a special woman friend.

 

[LadyNina123]

I am from a rather conservative area and what I want will likely have to evolve from a close friendship because anything other than that will be in my opinion, less than what I want it for and far too risky to undertake. Biggest problem with my closest friends (two of whom I know share some of my sentiments) becoming possible lovers is that I value them far to much to risk something tearing that apart. These are women that I have literally known since we were in school together. I feel both a tiny bit of envy for those of you that have experienced what I hope to someday and at the same time I am glad that you have gotten that chance because it may make it easier for those of us that have not yet. If that makes any sense.

I'm also from a very conservative suburb and work in a very conservative profession. I have an impeccable reputation in my community. That's why it would be so wonderful to share a special intimacy with a special friend similar to myself. A respectable married lady, who looks like an ordinary suburban mom. A lady who like me works in a conservative profession. I imagine exchanging knowing smiles over lunch, playing footsies under the table, going off to each others houses when nobody's home. Let the neighbors think we're helping each other redecorate....we can even carry a book of carpet samples for all the neighbors to see....

 

[LadyNina123]

Strange...never came through. If you'd like you can email me...fidelisani at yahoo.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

I added you on yahoo messenger. Sometimes when your pm box is full you can't get more pm's

 

[followmenow6969]

I just pm'd you.

Nothing came through Honey

Boo hoo....