Marital Status

[plzur her]

Married but not happily. And its him that doesn't want the sex, not me.

Married 20 years.. committed to her, love her, generally very happy.. but wife isnt interested in sex.. and I am more than ever.. Hmmm rosylady...pm anytime!

 

[RomanHans]

Great news, Chewey!


<hugs to you and the Mrs and the kidlings>

I agree...and so much for any assumptions that all of us here on Lit are 'unhappily married' or swingin' singles...and also a happy PS that not all marriages are doomed by the occasional lapse in fidelity.

All the best to you and yours,

Roman

 

[chewbacca71]

Thank you Roman.

It was actually Infidelity that we had agreed to beforehand, but we were not as secure in our relationship at that point as we both thought.

Chewey

 

[1stTwistedSistr]

Single and kinda sorta looking, also seeing another Lit. member that is happily married and intends to stay that way, which is ok fine by me!

 

[RomanHans]

Single and kinda sorta looking, also seeing another Lit. member that is happily married and intends to stay that way, which is ok fine by me!

Now there's an enlightened attitude! You must be quite popular!

BTW, interesting jewelry--I like the site.

Roman

 

[1stTwistedSistr]

Now there's an enlightened attitude! You must be quite popular!

BTW, interesting jewelry--I like the site.

Roman

I do ok~

Thanks! I'm working on making another website, I had thrown that one together in about 5 mins.! It's funky but there... for now!
*lol*

 

[RomanHans]

I do ok~

Thanks! I'm working on making another website, I had thrown that one together in about 5 mins.! It's funky but there... for now!
*lol*

Enchantez de faire votre connaissance...

 

[1stTwistedSistr]

Enchantez de faire votre connaissance...

Merveilleux pour faire votre connaissance aussi!

Cherrie

 

[kcbigkid]

Funny how most of us married guys are unhappy. I wonder if this poll was taken by SEX if the results would be the same. I bet it would be. Thats why all of us middle age guys are seeking affairs with unhappily married ladies.... Maybe we are not ment for monogomy...................

 

[babydoll_73]

Single and looking. Oh geez am I looking. Wish I could stop looking but them I would never find anyone. Anyone wanna stop looking with me

 

[BlueDaisy]

Funny how most of us married guys are unhappy. I wonder if this poll was taken by SEX if the results would be the same. I bet it would be. Thats why all of us middle age guys are seeking affairs with unhappily married ladies.... Maybe we are not ment for monogomy...................

Well, for the poll, if anyone is taking one, I'm female (duh!) and I'm not really very happily married. Never have been unfaithful (unless you count cyber).

Blue

 

[TantaLiza]

**still not bitten hard enough.......~weg~

 

[kcbigkid]

Blue, what if you could be happy and keep a discreet affair private from your spouse , what harm would there be.

The thing is most of us are unhappily married. Duh, why not try to have some discreet fun and see if that makes the difference

 

[~Flirty30~]

single and lookin! was married for 15 years....about 2 years too long..LOL and looking for someone is SO much fun

 

[~*EroticKiss*~]

Status change...not attached...Divorced...*laughs*
Free...and ready to begin the hunt...

 

[BlueDaisy]

Blue, what if you could be happy and keep a discreet affair private from your spouse , what harm would there be.

The thing is most of us are unhappily married. Duh, why not try to have some discreet fun and see if that makes the difference

Oh, a little thing called marriage vows, I suppose. You know, "forsaking all others"...of course, may not make the "til' death do you part" part if things continue the way they are.

Blue

 

[RomanHans]

Hmmm, I saw someone with the tag line of 'happily married but sexually frustrated"--is such a thing possible? And can a member of an 'open marriage' commit adultery?

Just wondering.

Roman

 

[capricious_chic]

Hmmm, I saw someone with the tag line of 'happily married but sexually frustrated"--is such a thing possible? And can a member of an 'open marriage' commit adultery?

Just wondering.

Roman

In my opinion.. for what it is worth. One can not be "happily" married if they are sexually frustrated. Sexuality inside of marriage is one (but not all and everything) of the true signs of a healthy and happy marriage.

As far as an "open marriage", one is commiting adultery in the truest sense of the word, but with the fore knowledge and consent of their partner.. so in theory it should not damage the partnership (although many times it does).

 

[capricious_chic]

Blue, what if you could be happy and keep a discreet affair private from your spouse , what harm would there be.

The thing is most of us are unhappily married. Duh, why not try to have some discreet fun and see if that makes the difference

Why not just get divorced?

 

[MizzBehavin]

Hmmm, I saw someone with the tag line of 'happily married but sexually frustrated"--is such a thing possible? And can a member of an 'open marriage' commit adultery?

Just wondering.

Roman

::::::*grabbing your hat*:::::::


Happily married but sexually frustrated = roommates! I guess after kids, the pressures of work, a mortgage, and so on? Some people can still communicate on a friendly level but really abandon intimacy.

(This has been my observation over the years of meeting and knowing so many married couples)

Open marriage but commiting adultery. Can you say CONTRADICTION?
Open marriage meaning swinging? Then yes, without the other spouses knowledge of you engaging in sex or a sexual act without them? That is adultery.

Just my opinion from knowing many people who have 'been there & done that.'

Roman

 

[BlueDaisy]

Why not just get divorced?

CC...why not just get divorced? Well, for one...that is breaking the vows, too.

Actually, we have discussed it, but have agreed that we will stay together at least until the girls graduate (oh dear Lord please let them make it to graduation!) in May '05. All 3 of our kids are special needs of one kind or another, so divorce especially now would not be good for them. Plus, neither of us is ready to cope with the stress of that on our own.

What the future holds, we will just have to wait and see. I guess I should just stop complaining about it, huh.

Blue

 

[MizzBehavin]

Why not just get divorced?

Easier said than done in most cases.

For me? ACK no way. My hubby is stuck with me for life! 16 years so far...... I love him more with each day. My vows? Let's not go there.

 

[capricious_chic]

CC...why not just get divorced? Well, for one...that is breaking the vows, too.

Actually, we have discussed it, but have agreed that we will stay together at least until the girls graduate (oh dear Lord please let them make it to graduation!) in May '05. All 3 of our kids are special needs of one kind or another, so divorce especially now would not be good for them. Plus, neither of us is ready to cope with the stress of that on our own.

What the future holds, we will just have to wait and see. I guess I should just stop complaining about it, huh.

Blue

Nothing wrong with complaining, and venting. It is good for the soul!

I have never been married, and am not trying to pass judgement. I was just curious. One of the reason's I have never gotten married, is because I don't want to get divorced. When/If I do.. hopefully it will be for all the right reasons and it will last. One never knows, and can only hope for the best.

Good luck, and best wishes for your future.

Are you catholic? re: the comment of breaking the vows too.

 

[BlueDaisy]

Nothing wrong with complaining, and venting. It is good for the soul!

I have never been married, and am not trying to pass judgement. I was just curious. One of the reason's I have never gotten married, is because I don't want to get divorced. When/If I do.. hopefully it will be for all the right reasons and it will last. One never knows, and can only hope for the best.

Good luck, and best wishes for your future.

Are you catholic? re: the comment of breaking the vows too.

Thanks, CC. No, not Catholic; church of Christ. Very conservative group we are.

Blue

 

[RomanHans]

::::::*grabbing your hat*:::::::


Happily married but sexually frustrated = roommates! I guess after kids, the pressures of work, a mortgage, and so on? Some people can still communicate on a friendly level but really abandon intimacy.

(This has been my observation over the years of meeting and knowing so many married couples)

Open marriage but commiting adultery. Can you say CONTRADICTION?
Open marriage meaning swinging? Then yes, without the other spouses knowledge of you engaging in sex or a sexual act without them? That is adultery.

Just my opinion from knowing many people who have 'been there & done that.'

Roman

Hey give that hat back! I need it to shore up my dignity! Wait, I don't have any dignity, so go ahead and keep it .

For my part, I'm in a marriage which is currently not quite happy but I think salvagable...which I think is true of a lot of relationships. So adultery becomes the temptation of 'doing what feels good' at the _potential_ cost of damaging your relationship beyond repair.

There are things that I have lied to my spouse about, by not telling her (like my postings on this site). If she found out about them, they could damage our relationship to the point of divorce. As long as she doesn't know about them, and she probably will continue not to know about them, the major cost is really to me. And that's what I believe many people underestimate in situations like adultery--how 'protecting' their partner from the truth can still be damaging to the person who commits the act...

This turned into another ramble, so I'll sign of with a to BiFem and the rest of you posters!

Roman