stickygirl
All the witches
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And to hold a light to people like him. If you hide your abuse it's because you're ashamed of it because of your own weakness. Dribble should know - 8 yr old kids don't have the agency to stop abuse but I bet it was years before he dealt with it.
Hang on - I think I might not have explained myself. I'm sorry that I confused. Let me unpack that sentence.
What I'm saying is ( admittedly in a rush and badly this morning ) is that people who are abused are often ashamed. They are frightened to speak out and they blame themselves ( wrongly ) for not being strong enough to speak out or speak out earlier. I've heard this from the lips of abuse survivors "Maybe I should have spoken up sooner?" "I shouldn't have let this carry on" etc. Yes it's BS - their job is to survive: how they judge themselves is wrong, but understandable.
I think survivors often carry a lot of guilt - like the survivors of plane crashes or fires who keep asking 'Why did I survive?'
Then there are victims who never speak out - we can only speculate about what they carry inside.
I've been thinking about what Dribble said on and off this morning. I was annoyed but sympathetic too - does that mean frustrated? that Dribble criticised the victim, then went on to list his abuse. Annoyed because no one should play the abuse-comparison game.
When I see someone like Dribble lashing out, it makes me wonder if that bitterness is because he has never resolved those feelings. I don't mean to patronise him - I mean it sincerely. In the Manson case, what Rachel has done is to give those silent abuse victims 'a voice' and maybe make them realise that they can speak out - that their abuse is "worthy" somehow. The other side to it, Dribble, is that it gives abusers less places to hide.
On my YouTube feed atm is a trailer for a documentary about Jimmy Saville, a serial sexual, pedophile. They feature short sound bites of him speaking and I jump every time I hear his voice. I was never involved, but I've read the history and seen how complicit the BBC and other authorities were in hiding crimes that were in plain view. The problem was the man was so famous for charitable fund raising that no one doubted him.
Again I'm sorry for being obscure in how I phrased that post. My bad. I hope this explains better, but there are still aspects of abuse I'm still trying to get my head around, particularly for survivors. I will try to avoid writing stuff in a hurry again.
Hang on - I think I might not have explained myself. I'm sorry that I confused. Let me unpack that sentence.
What I'm saying is ( admittedly in a rush and badly this morning ) is that people who are abused are often ashamed. They are frightened to speak out and they blame themselves ( wrongly ) for not being strong enough to speak out or speak out earlier. I've heard this from the lips of abuse survivors "Maybe I should have spoken up sooner?" "I shouldn't have let this carry on" etc. Yes it's BS - their job is to survive: how they judge themselves is wrong, but understandable.
I think survivors often carry a lot of guilt - like the survivors of plane crashes or fires who keep asking 'Why did I survive?'
Then there are victims who never speak out - we can only speculate about what they carry inside.
I've been thinking about what Dribble said on and off this morning. I was annoyed but sympathetic too - does that mean frustrated? that Dribble criticised the victim, then went on to list his abuse. Annoyed because no one should play the abuse-comparison game.
When I see someone like Dribble lashing out, it makes me wonder if that bitterness is because he has never resolved those feelings. I don't mean to patronise him - I mean it sincerely. In the Manson case, what Rachel has done is to give those silent abuse victims 'a voice' and maybe make them realise that they can speak out - that their abuse is "worthy" somehow. The other side to it, Dribble, is that it gives abusers less places to hide.
On my YouTube feed atm is a trailer for a documentary about Jimmy Saville, a serial sexual, pedophile. They feature short sound bites of him speaking and I jump every time I hear his voice. I was never involved, but I've read the history and seen how complicit the BBC and other authorities were in hiding crimes that were in plain view. The problem was the man was so famous for charitable fund raising that no one doubted him.
Again I'm sorry for being obscure in how I phrased that post. My bad. I hope this explains better, but there are still aspects of abuse I'm still trying to get my head around, particularly for survivors. I will try to avoid writing stuff in a hurry again.
