Male Possessiveness

[Strixaluco]

I have also another issue for which I would never want to be shared. I find sex to be best when there is, or a least is about to develop an emotional connection. Without it sex is usually not worth the effort. Any time sex is really good there is at least the potential for the emotional side, and I fucking refuse to risk my relationship that way.

The only way I could imagine having a threesome would be so that it is an emotional threesome as well (thus in practise the men would have to be bisexual). I don't expect it to ever happen to me.

 

[LdyHoneybee]

I think many women have this exclusivity fantasy and so both appreciate and are aroused by a man who also has it as long as it does not spill over into manipulative and abusive control of other aspects of life: friends, family, children, travel, hobbies, employment and so on.

 

[Strixaluco]

Possessive man = I don't need to wonder whether I am wanted and loved. Combined with a protective trait... That's awesome.

But what @LdyHoneybee wrote, also applies of course. I couldn't stand a jealous man. I have male friends and will have. I also like dancing, and if a man can't trust me to know where the line goes and to keep it when dancing with others, he's not my man. After all, all he has to do is keep me happy and I won't even be tempted.

 

[oneblueye]

Possessive man = I don't need to wonder whether I am wanted and loved. Combined with a protective trait... That's awesome.

But what @LdyHoneybee wrote, also applies of course. I couldn't stand a jealous man. I have male friends and will have. I also like dancing, and if a man can't trust me to know where the line goes and to keep it when dancing with others, he's not my man. After all, all he has to do is keep me happy and I won't even be tempted.

You would certainly be the EXCEPTION.

(not that I don't believe what you are saying, its that I don't believe anyone to tell the truth...)

 

[Strixaluco]

You would certainly be the EXCEPTION.

(not that I don't believe what you are saying, its that I don't believe anyone to tell the truth...)

Sorry to hear you are so suspicious. I couldn't share my life with someone I cannot trust and who doesn't trust me. Anyone knowing me can say that I don't dance any differently with others if my boyfriend or husband isn't there with me.

Oxytocine is a very powerful hormone, also called loyalty hormone. Enough cuddling and good sex...

 

[oneblueye]

Sorry to hear you are so suspicious. I couldn't share my life with someone I cannot trust and who doesn't trust me. Anyone knowing me can say that I don't dance any differently with others if my boyfriend or husband isn't there with me.

Oxytocine is a very powerful hormone, also called loyalty hormone. Enough cuddling and good sex...

I admire the apparent strength of your convictions. Although I cant help but wonder---,

 

[N2theChase]

Sent you a PM

 

[N2theChase]

@kinked_a_bit -

That’s the type of response that I appreciate from this site.
Nonjudgmental and thoughtful.
Thanks for your input.