Male Possessiveness

[N2theChase]

Looking for some reassurance here - thinking I’m likely not the only one on this site who feels this way. I have 0 issues with folks having their kink and living out their fantasies. I honestly have my own urges for which many folks would not approve.

On Lit, it seems like many, many of the male posters fantasize about their wives fvcking other men.
Again, I’m not judging that fantasy. I’m going to speak for myself …. No fvcking way would I be ok watching, or even knowing about, a man making love, fucking, kissing, holding hands or even flirting with a woman with whom I’m involved.

Without shaming folks who enjoy this lifestyle (or fantasy), I hope to hear from some folks who prefer exclusivity with their lovers/partners.

 

[rockcasbah]

sean’s been sharing LTR with the board for years and he doesnt care.

 

[oneblueye]

Looking for some reassurance here - thinking I’m likely not the only one on this site who feels this way. I have 0 issues with folks having their kink and living out their fantasies. I honestly have my own urges for which many folks would not approve.

On Lit, it seems like many, many of the male posters fantasize about their wives fvcking other men.
Again, I’m not judging that fantasy. I’m going to speak for myself …. No fvcking way would I be ok watching, or even knowing about, a man making love, fucking, kissing, holding hands or even flirting with a woman with whom I’m involved.

Without shaming folks who enjoy this lifestyle (or fantasy), I hope to hear from some folks who prefer exclusivity with their lovers/partners.

I much prefer being exclusive (my pssessiveness borders on the pathological) with my partner BUT if that can't be attained or maintained its not gonna stop me from loving them or stop me from fucking altogether.

My problems would arise when the 'other guy' would start to think that just becuz he had a taste that the whole woman belongs to him exclusively. That's where all my combative instincts and training come into play, just like a drunk in the bar, ya gotta stop them before they start to roll cuz after that tipping point is reached there ain't no stopping them until ya beat them unconscious.

 

[jharp]

Looking for some reassurance here - thinking I’m likely not the only one on this site who feels this way. I have 0 issues with folks having their kink and living out their fantasies. I honestly have my own urges for which many folks would not approve.

On Lit, it seems like many, many of the male posters fantasize about their wives fvcking other men.
Again, I’m not judging that fantasy. I’m going to speak for myself …. No fvcking way would I be ok watching, or even knowing about, a man making love, fucking, kissing, holding hands or even flirting with a woman with whom I’m involved.

Without shaming folks who enjoy this lifestyle (or fantasy), I hope to hear from some folks who prefer exclusivity with their lovers/partners.

Nah, you aren't alone in this. Though why you think this is a bad thing is curious.

 

[N2theChase]

Nah, you aren't alone in this. Though why you think this is a bad thing is curious.

Only bad for me… I honestly don’t judge other folks for their particular kinks. My kinks are not for everyone either.
This is pretty much the only place where we can all share our desires in this way. It’s not like I could ask my male friends or co-workers if they’d like to watch a man have sex with their SO.

Reading the vast majority of posts from men on this board, I started feeling I might be the minority in not wanting to share, swap or “loan” my lover out.

I also have no idea what my reaction would be if my spouse said she’d like other partners. Based on what I know about her- it’s likely not any situation I would have to face.

 

[jharp]

Only bad for me… I honestly don’t judge other folks for their particular kinks. My kinks are not for everyone either.
This is pretty much the only place where we can all share our desires in this way. It’s not like I could ask my male friends or co-workers if they’d like to watch a man have sex with their SO.

Reading the vast majority of posts from men on this board, I started feeling I might be the minority in not wanting to share, swap or “loan” my lover out.

I also have no idea what my reaction would be if my spouse said she’d like other partners. Based on what I know about her- it’s likely not any situation I would have to face.

For 'this' board? You are the minority. I'm in the same boat as you. I could never share my significant other with other people. I'm not built that way. But anywhere else you'd like be the majority.

As for judging, we'll, we all do it to some extent. Even when we don't mean too. It's what makes us human. I've just learned to roll with it as Literotica is its own thing.

 

[stickygirl]

Most of what is posted here total BS. Either that or it's a very loud minority out to gaslight normal people

 

[silver gurl]

Most of what is posted here total BS. Either that or it's a very loud minority out to gaslight normal people

Truth. With a whole lot of fake mixed in.

 

[rockcasbah]

Truth. With a whole lot of fake mixed in.

Is it true you met your now husband in the three way with his first wife?

 

[silver gurl]

Is it true you met your now husband in the three way with his first wife?

Don’t know where that gossip came from but that is false.
I also have never had a threesome. So there is that.

 

[todski28]

Looking for some reassurance here - thinking I’m likely not the only one on this site who feels this way. I have 0 issues with folks having their kink and living out their fantasies. I honestly have my own urges for which many folks would not approve.

On Lit, it seems like many, many of the male posters fantasize about their wives fvcking other men.
Again, I’m not judging that fantasy. I’m going to speak for myself …. No fvcking way would I be ok watching, or even knowing about, a man making love, fucking, kissing, holding hands or even flirting with a woman with whom I’m involved.

Without shaming folks who enjoy this lifestyle (or fantasy), I hope to hear from some folks who prefer exclusivity with their lovers/partners.

What you might find is there are a lot of those type of kink holders conglomerating here because of the safe ability to share those thoughts.

for me exclusivity is a must, I’m wired that way, to be fair it seems like most guys should be only because evolutionarily it makes sense.

Kids are a huge investment and a resource drain for men and an almost 18 year commitment for women.

Men can pick up and run away where as a woman tends to be stuck, biologically, societally and within their own conscience because they know the child is theirs.

Unless there’s a paternity test a man never fully knows, so exclusivity, jealousy and protectiveness tend to stem from there.

Does it go to far sometimes well duh, does everyone else feel the same way, obviously not,
But would that tend to be the majority, I would bet on it to be the case.

Im also wondering if it’s been more of shift toward cuckholdry based on the availability of pornography, that it’s made it a more sexually arousing thing to watch someone else fuck, that it’s spin off is watching someone else fuck “your partner”

Just some random thoughts of no particular import.

 

[rockcasbah]

Don’t know where that gossip came from but that is false.
I also have never had a threesome. So there is that.

Oh…Must have been another other woman.

 

[silver gurl]

Oh…Must have been another other woman.

Must have

 

[wallstreetguy]

Most of what is posted here total BS. Either that or it's a very loud minority out to gaslight normal people

I am constantly surprised by the fantasies people have here. Why a man would want to share his beyond me. I'm super possessive. I do not even like men staring too much.
But sharing women, on the other hand....

 

[Erosfan]

You are not alone. Like you, I have my kinks, but I could never share my wife.

 

[hanban24]

Looking for some reassurance here - thinking I’m likely not the only one on this site who feels this way. I have 0 issues with folks having their kink and living out their fantasies. I honestly have my own urges for which many folks would not approve.

On Lit, it seems like many, many of the male posters fantasize about their wives fvcking other men.
Again, I’m not judging that fantasy. I’m going to speak for myself …. No fvcking way would I be ok watching, or even knowing about, a man making love, fucking, kissing, holding hands or even flirting with a woman with whom I’m involved.

Without shaming folks who enjoy this lifestyle (or fantasy), I hope to hear from some folks who prefer exclusivity with their lovers/partners.

I’ve always been big on exclusivity. I’ve been invited to have group sex and have had previous partners who wanted to share, but I prefer to have sex only in the context of a relationship. I have friends who like to sleep around or have open relationships and I don’t judge them for that. I just know sex has such an emotional meaning to me that I can’t have casual sex. I wish I could but I’m just not wired that way.

 

[N2theChase]

I’ve always been big on exclusivity. I’ve been invited to have group sex and have had previous partners who wanted to share, but I prefer to have sex only in the context of a relationship. I have friends who like to sleep around or have open relationships and I don’t judge them for that. I just know sex has such an emotional meaning to me that I can’t have casual sex. I wish I could but I’m just not wired that way.

Interesting, I had not thought about it in that way. I’m not one for casual sex either. I do prefer to feel something for the person I’m having sex with - and almost more importantly- to feel that they feel something for me. Watching her fuck another man seems contradictory to that dynamic.

But some of the men insist it brings them joy to see their woman sexually satisfied by others. I suppose that’s very selfless and generous. But as far as watching a woman having sex with others, I could only watch a woman for whom I have zero feelings. Just emotionless live porn in that circumstance.

 

[Badvibez]

Looking for some reassurance here - thinking I’m likely not the only one on this site who feels this way. I have 0 issues with folks having their kink and living out their fantasies. I honestly have my own urges for which many folks would not approve.

On Lit, it seems like many, many of the male posters fantasize about their wives fvcking other men.
Again, I’m not judging that fantasy. I’m going to speak for myself …. No fvcking way would I be ok watching, or even knowing about, a man making love, fucking, kissing, holding hands or even flirting with a woman with whom I’m involved.

Without shaming folks who enjoy this lifestyle (or fantasy), I hope to hear from some folks who prefer exclusivity with their lovers/partners.

From a females POV I'd absolutely hate it. I'd feel worthless and hurt.

 

[hanban24]

Interesting, I had not thought about it in that way. I’m not one for casual sex either. I do prefer to feel something for the person I’m having sex with - and almost more importantly- to feel that they feel something for me. Watching her fuck another man seems contradictory to that dynamic.

But some of the men insist it brings them joy to see their woman sexually satisfied by others. I suppose that’s very selfless and generous. But as far as watching a woman having sex with others, I could only watch a woman for whom I have zero feelings. Just emotionless live porn in that circumstance.

I’ve always understood it to be something about dominance. Like watching someone satisfy their wife in a way they can’t (that was always my interpretation). Sex is something I think is very personal. I’m willing to do a lot in the bedroom, but sharing it with others isn’t on that list. Love talking about my sex life with others online, but in my personal life I only share that side of my life with people I’m very close with.

 

[oneblueye]

I love sex. It doesn't have to mean something, I don't HAVE to have it with someone who I care about or love. And unless my partner at the time expressedly says they are not interested in sharing, I am all for the sharing aspect of sex. Now my wife I will not share her--, don't even ask me! If SHE wants to be shared or SHE wants to fuck someone else, that is up to her, I can't control that aspect of sex and will never try...I already knows what happens if I do.

 

[Strixaluco]

Well... Try reading some werewolf stories and you'll find plenty of possessiveness! Not in all stories, but many of them revolve around mates and total exclusivity after finding that one special mate. That branch of stories clearly shows that exclusivity holds it charm for many.

And frankly, I love my man to be somewhat possesive. Not so much as to prevent me to dance with others, though (think ball rather than disco).

 

[MrRandyWatson]

I’m far from opposed to my partner being with another man. However, there are some expectations I have.

First off, I insist on honesty - lying, cheating and sneaking around are grounds for an instant game over. Lying about your intentions is also not OK.

I want to meet the guy. I’m not comfortable letting someone nail my partner if I can’t have a beer with them.

And finally, quid pro quo. My partner has to be secure enough to let me hook up with someone else as well. My ex wanted to be able to play but have me remain monogamous - worse than that, she encouraged me to find a partner but lost her shit when I did.

It’s not about possessiveness for me; it’s about honest communication and being secure.

 

[Seadog777]

sean’s been sharing LTR with the board for years and he doesnt care.

Not this fucking Sean.

Let's be more clear. LOL.

 

[Seadog777]

Truth. With a whole lot of fake mixed in.

It's why I'm not exactly liked on here so far.

I tell the truth. Not a popular thing to do on boards. LOL.

 

[Glorygirl78]

Looking for some reassurance here - thinking I’m likely not the only one on this site who feels this way. I have 0 issues with folks having their kink and living out their fantasies. I honestly have my own urges for which many folks would not approve.

On Lit, it seems like many, many of the male posters fantasize about their wives fvcking other men.
Again, I’m not judging that fantasy. I’m going to speak for myself …. No fvcking way would I be ok watching, or even knowing about, a man making love, fucking, kissing, holding hands or even flirting with a woman with whom I’m involved.

Without shaming folks who enjoy this lifestyle (or fantasy), I hope to hear from some folks who prefer exclusivity with their lovers/partners.

I’m your Huckleberry