Making it hot for him...

[witch_baby]

It's my boyfriend's birthday soon and I really want to make it special. I'm gonna do your standard look pretty/take him out/buy him dinner/bring him home scenario, but I really want to surprise him when we get to that last bit. Any advice anyone could offer would be greatly appreciated!

He is terrific at reading me but I am not quite so great at figuring out how far I can push him. We discuss sex quite often and openly (which I love) and have tried out quite a few things in the short time we've been together. It's been amazing, and I would love to even things up a little - I am not as experienced as him so I can sometimes be a little hesitant.

He is quite submissive (as am I) and really gets turned on by being dominated. I know he would love to really be 'used' for my pleasure, and I keep this in mind but always seem to back down a little, because I'm not quite sure what to do next/how far to go. Also I don't just want to 'use him for my pleasure'- I want to throw in some things just for him. His boundaries are pretty far out there- he says I can do anything I want to him (that doesn't cause lasting damage).

I have a few ideas, I've been reading stories here, the BDSM threads, etc. I guess I really want to strike a balance between making him happy and being comfortable myself (it's not really going to ring true if I do anything I hate) but I'm open to any suggestions. Cheers!

 

[MR.GGG]

It SOUNDS like you already know what he REALLY wants and are willing to give it a try. Go ahead. He's lucky you're willing to switch. It can be an amazing relationship IF you are willing to experiment and once you get a feeling about what drives him nuts you try and fulfill that fantasy. You might try dressing the part a bit - nothing too wild. Black panties and thigh his. Keep the lights low and make sure when he is "servicing you" you keep a hand holding his hair so he knows exactly where you want him.

Actually not only can that whole B&DS&M thing be a huge turn on for BOTH of you but relinquishing control like that gives you both a way of showing exactly how you like certain acts performed without having to discuss them at another time - which also can be fun but when you are dominating him you can show him and that in itself is a huge turn on if that's where he need to go in his fantasy.

Just take it slow and make sure, initially anyway, that the pain is minimal so that you don't turn his fantasy into a nightmare. Sometimes fantasies are best left as fantasies but if you have lots of common sense and can "read" him well you should be able to take him to the place he wants to go with this.

If it works well for him it should turn you on a bunch too as you'll kknow that now he knows what the reverse holds for YOU!!

Good luck and have fun.

 

[witch_baby]

Thanks MR.GGG!

Thank you so much! That is fantastic advice.

I know he would love me to dress the part. I think a corset is a must. And boots...

Also I definately agree with the 'not too much pain' aspect. He says he can handle it (and from a few, um, experiments we've tried it's been established that he can handle a lot more pain than me), but I don't want to take it too far. One of the reason for this is that early on we got a bit carried away with me in the submissive role and on one occassion I got a quite freaked out. I don't want that to happen to him.

I would also appreciate any more specific feedback/ideas of things I can actually 'do to him'...

 

[phoenix1224]

I would also appreciate any more specific feedback/ideas of things I can actually 'do to him'...

Firstly, safe words are a MUST. Personally, my gf and I use "yellow" if she wants me to ease up but still continue and "red" if she wants me to stop completely.

Secondly, look around the web for some "goodies"... Handcuffs, blindfold, paddle, whip, riding crop, etc... Whatever you think that your guy would be comfortable with.

Lastly, once you get home, take total control... Order him to take off all his clothes, blindfold him (a scarf or tie would work just as well), handcuff (or tie) his hands behind his back, grab him by the cock and pull him over to the bed, bend him over the bed, and then pull out the "goodies".

If you don't have any "goodies", just use your hands (spanking his ass and lightly scratching his back). If you have more than one kind of "goody", use them all on him... Just use your imagination.

Don't be afraid to order him around and push and pull him into positions you want him in... Forcefully roll him over, straddle his face, and order him to lick you pussy... If he's kneeling, grab him by the ears and pull his face towards your breasts or (better yet) into your crotch... You get the idea.

If he's not opposed to foul language and name calling, do it.

I could go on and on but, I'm going to stop.

One last thing, if he's not opposed to taking control every once in a while, you could always get one of those vibrating eggs with the wireless remote... Before you go out, insert the egg and, as you're walking out the door, hand him the remote and tell him to use it whenever he wants.

 

[Let_it_come]

Firstly, safe words are a MUST. Personally, my gf and I use "yellow" if she wants me to ease up but still continue and "red" if she wants me to stop completely.

Secondly, look around the web for some "goodies"... Handcuffs, blindfold, paddle, whip, riding crop, etc... Whatever you think that your guy would be comfortable with.

Lastly, once you get home, take total control... Order him to take off all his clothes, blindfold him (a scarf or tie would work just as well), handcuff (or tie) his hands behind his back, grab him by the cock and pull him over to the bed, bend him over the bed, and then pull out the "goodies".

If you don't have any "goodies", just use your hands (spanking his ass and lightly scratching his back). If you have more than one kind of "goody", use them all on him... Just use your imagination.

Don't be afraid to order him around and push and pull him into positions you want him in... Forcefully roll him over, straddle his face, and order him to lick you pussy... If he's kneeling, grab him by the ears and pull his face towards your breasts or (better yet) into your crotch... You get the idea.

If he's not opposed to foul language and name calling, do it.

I could go on and on but, I'm going to stop.

One last thing, if he's not opposed to taking control every once in a while, you could always get one of those vibrating eggs with the wireless remote... Before you go out, insert the egg and, as you're walking out the door, hand him the remote and tell him to use it whenever he wants.

Goooooood advice!
Perfect perv 101!
I think I love you -
Jenny

 

[phoenix1224]

Goooooood advice!
Perfect perv 101!
I think I love you -
Jenny

Thanks.

 

[SubNebGuy]

I'm on lunch right now so this'll be short n sweet.

run him a nice hot bubble bath, and wash him, especially his cock, balls and anus.

bend him over, spank him a little, then give him a rimjob while you massage his cock.

if he's likeing it, flip him over on his back, use a bunch of lube and work a finger up his bum, and work your finger in a 'come hither' motion as you jack him off.

he'll blow a huge load.

more info: google prostate massage, tantric massage, lingam massage.

 

[witch_baby]

Yum

Thanks everyone. These are all really good ideas.

Haha yeah we have a safeword. I like the yellow/red thing though, that might be a good idea, phoenix1224. In fact, all your ideas sound hot. I think he'd really enjoy everything you've mentioned! We're lucky that we're both willing to take on different roles, too. That last idea of yours (the egg) has been a fantasy of mine for quite some time...

Your 'short 'n sweet answer' really helped as well, SubNebGuy. I'm a little hesitant about the anal thing but something tells me he'd like that...

This is great! Hopefully if people keep posting I will have heaps of options and I'll be able to make it hot for both of us. Please keep the ideas coming. Pun totally intended...

(ugh cheesy).