Lower the libido?
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KravMaga said:
Good thing you added that or I might of felt the urge to put my grumpy knickers on.
KravMaga said:
1) That I'm perfectly normal but could benifit from meditation and other exercises to deal with stress and anxiety (but hey, who couldn't?)
2) Yup. I never said I didn't like their recomendations, I said they were not helpful.
3) They don't offer medication to people as young as me unless there is no other choice, so they have never offered, however I would say no had this been the case. Yup. I've taken their advice on the rare occasions they actually offer advice. It's all common sense shit though.
I'm not really that stubborn. If there is something wrong with me and a helth professional tells me so, that's fine. If not thats great too. They would know better than I would and I'm happy for any help they offer, but I've been through the system so many times with so many shrinks and it's always the same thing. I'm just sick of it. It does not help. I don't need anyone to help me sort through things mentally or emotionally because for me thats not a drama. I have those skills.
I'm looking for a physical solution. It seemed like a simple request to me. Yes I've thought about it, yes I know the risks. If there was another option I'd look into it, but there isn't. I know what doesn't work. Now I need to find something that does. And I'm not waiting until I'm middle aged and have completely fucked up this relationship to get it.
Sometimes I get the feeling I'm talking to a brick wall...
I really wish I could help. How old are you and how long have you been in this relationship? You can't tell much from reading, but it does sound like you have a depressed affect. The only medications I can think of that lower the libido in women are antidepressants. To tell you the truth it sounds like your high libido is a mental issue, not a physical issue.FaeryFire said:
http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/51377.html
Steve: I have somewhat of a strange question. Is there some drug, herb, or something that could help to lower my libido? I'm not married
Dr. Dean: I could ask you why you want to lower your libido, and I'm just going to guess that having a strong libido all the time can be a nuisance; it can interfere. It's like you're sitting there and you want to watch a ball game and there you are with all this libido stuff, I assume.
Other than a sexual offender, this becomes a lighter issue. With sex offenders we do have drugs to turn off their ability to have sex. We've even removed their testicles. I'm sure you don't want to consider that one. And when it comes to mythology, there is saltpeter -- it doesn't work. Probably the largest group of medications that lower libido are antidepressants. The selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors probably represent 90 percent of the antidepressant market.
I'm giving you this information, but I'm not recommending it. I don't think it's anything that has to be dealt with in that particular way. I think there are easier solutions that relate to your own personal life.
As you mentioned, this is an unusual request. I think if you walked into a doctor's office with it they probably wouldn't know what to do. And it would be an off-label use of some of some of the medications I've mentioned. Yet, I have in my files a list of drugs, prescription medications, that have an effect on sexuality. It's like page after page of lists and lists of prescription drugs, the majority of which lower libido; that is the primary sexual effect.
So there are literally hundreds of drugs that do this, but of course those drugs are meant for something else. And if someone were serious about it you'd try to find a medication that is the most benign for what it's primary usage is, and then go after the side effect.
Again, I wouldn't recommend that; I think there are ways around it. What you need is a partner that you can address this with, plain and simple, and see if the problem persists. But you're single, and that can be difficult at time, so what can I say?
Steve: I have somewhat of a strange question. Is there some drug, herb, or something that could help to lower my libido? I'm not married
Dr. Dean: I could ask you why you want to lower your libido, and I'm just going to guess that having a strong libido all the time can be a nuisance; it can interfere. It's like you're sitting there and you want to watch a ball game and there you are with all this libido stuff, I assume.
Other than a sexual offender, this becomes a lighter issue. With sex offenders we do have drugs to turn off their ability to have sex. We've even removed their testicles. I'm sure you don't want to consider that one. And when it comes to mythology, there is saltpeter -- it doesn't work. Probably the largest group of medications that lower libido are antidepressants. The selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors probably represent 90 percent of the antidepressant market.
I'm giving you this information, but I'm not recommending it. I don't think it's anything that has to be dealt with in that particular way. I think there are easier solutions that relate to your own personal life.
As you mentioned, this is an unusual request. I think if you walked into a doctor's office with it they probably wouldn't know what to do. And it would be an off-label use of some of some of the medications I've mentioned. Yet, I have in my files a list of drugs, prescription medications, that have an effect on sexuality. It's like page after page of lists and lists of prescription drugs, the majority of which lower libido; that is the primary sexual effect.
So there are literally hundreds of drugs that do this, but of course those drugs are meant for something else. And if someone were serious about it you'd try to find a medication that is the most benign for what it's primary usage is, and then go after the side effect.
Again, I wouldn't recommend that; I think there are ways around it. What you need is a partner that you can address this with, plain and simple, and see if the problem persists. But you're single, and that can be difficult at time, so what can I say?
That's actually very helpful. i'm half asleep so i'm not going to attempt a big reply, but I wanted you to know I appreciate your effort.
I'm 19 and I've been in this relationship 4 years.
I've had depression issues in the past, but currently (as in say, the last two years) I'm been the happyest I've ever been. I get depressed on occasion, I realise I'm under a lot of stress too, but it's not the kind of depression that seriously interfears with my life anymore. I'm not keen on medication and this isn't something I'd share with my doctor (he's very blunt about the fact he wants me to leave my partner) so i'm not going to rush out and start experimenting.
Lately things have been good with my partner, but it would be nice to have a back-up plan if things get really bad again. (And I have no reason to think that they wont)
Thank you again for your effort.
I'm 19 and I've been in this relationship 4 years.
I've had depression issues in the past, but currently (as in say, the last two years) I'm been the happyest I've ever been. I get depressed on occasion, I realise I'm under a lot of stress too, but it's not the kind of depression that seriously interfears with my life anymore. I'm not keen on medication and this isn't something I'd share with my doctor (he's very blunt about the fact he wants me to leave my partner) so i'm not going to rush out and start experimenting.
Lately things have been good with my partner, but it would be nice to have a back-up plan if things get really bad again. (And I have no reason to think that they wont)
Thank you again for your effort.
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faeryfire: wait a sec. you said you're 19 (now). the relationship's been going on for 4 years. and there's a 25 year age gap. i don't know where you live and please don't say b/c i'm fairly certain an age of consent law's been violated.
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I never said I'd been sleeping with him for the whole four years now did I? *winks*
Uhm he's 44. Relative age or not it's a huge gap, and I recognise that, so I don't take offense (or I try very hard not to) when other people are totally grossed out. You don't choose who you fall in love with, I'm just lucky that I've got no regrets.
Uhm he's 44. Relative age or not it's a huge gap, and I recognise that, so I don't take offense (or I try very hard not to) when other people are totally grossed out. You don't choose who you fall in love with, I'm just lucky that I've got no regrets.
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faeryfire, i'm not generally a fan of relationships that have a significant disparity in ages, and i certainly don't question your devotion. hell, this entire thread is a testament to it!
i'll be honest i'm a bit...disconcerted by the age gap, but if he's treating you well, i really can't say anything negative. :>
and of course, you're right: that's something over which we have zero control. how boring life would be if we did? :>
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i'll be honest i'm a bit...disconcerted by the age gap, but if he's treating you well, i really can't say anything negative. :>
and of course, you're right: that's something over which we have zero control. how boring life would be if we did? :>
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I'm not really a fan of relationships with huge age gaps either, I certainly didn't plan to end up in one. And if this relationship ends, I wont deliberatly seek out another generationally differential relationship.
*lopsided smile* Your understanding is heartening, really. Most people don't care if he treats me well or not, all they see is the age gap 8 times outta 10.
*lopsided smile* Your understanding is heartening, really. Most people don't care if he treats me well or not, all they see is the age gap 8 times outta 10.
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i'm really not that unique among the regulars here in that regard, FF. :>
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FF: hogjack evidently is unaware you're in the UK. it's a cable channel in the US that televises congressional hearings and the like. :>
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oops: apparently, i'm unaware of that, too!
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silverwhisper said:
Ed,
I thought you might be interested in this link. Short but sweet.
http://www.metacafe.com/watch/213900/krav_maga/
Cheers,
KM
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oo...thanks, KM!
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