Love-Real, Illusion, or somewhere in between

[Saint Peter]

Obviously....I mean, you can't even do smoochie faces against your mirror, and that's a staple for the unlucky in love. Trust me.

Nobody said the same about monitors.

:Windex:

 

[Curvybeauty]

Wow, I think morewickedfun explained it very nicely! I agree it's easier to experience it than to explain it.

 

[Riles]

Nobody said the same about monitors.

:Windex:

-grin-


You just take it to levels we haven't dreamed of yet.

 

[HB1965]

I agree that I don't think that it's necessary to have a an SO in your life but I think it creates a dimension to it that can be amazing.

 

[dixiefire]

I have love in my life and am enjoying it more every day. My hubby and I were supposed to be a one night stand. After that one night, we were together every weekend, cause he lived in another state 2 hrs away. It sounds crazy and I thought I was completely insane, but I knew it was love after 1 month of weekends. I told him, thinking that I would never hear from him again. We moved in together the following weekend. We have now been together for 6 yrs, and every day brings something new. I can honestly say that I took a huge risk in revealing my feelings, and it is still paying off.

 

[breakwall]

I agree that I don't think that it's necessary to have a an SO in your life but I think it creates a demention to it that can be amazing.

I'll agree with this, but the word you were looking for is Dementia.

(well, it fits anyway.)

 

[breakwall]

The more I read these fluffy shiny stories about people in love, the more cynical I become.
I'm going to have to stop reading this thread.

 

[Honey123]

I'm with Riles in respect to the unconditional love that a child brings out in a parent...

 

[Batch]

With all the threads about emotional connection here I've begun to wonder about love itself. Lately I've had an extraordinary experience that is out if the usual for me as far as romantic love, and it scares the shit out of me because of the unusualness. I've wondered sometimes if I'm even just plain crazy. I'm normally very cynical in nature and this is so out of my experience I don't know what to do, how to act, or what to say. On top of this I'm not sure what the other person is thinking and when you feel crazy all ready that doesn't help


So tell me what you think about love from your own perspective. What do you think about it? Do you have love in your life right now? You tell me.

I love mychildren, this is a fact. I would give my life for them, and this I know as truth. As for love in my real-time, life, I would be hard pressed to say I have romantic love. I have a relationship with my husband. While it is lacking in many aspects, he is here every day, in my walking life. We eat together, and we spend our evenings together. I can call on him, and he will come to me. I should not have been able to make it through the ast few weeks without him giving of himslef. I suspect he does love me. My heart, I keep to myself. If such a thing exists.

I have feelings for my friends, in varying degrees, some of which can be called love. I tend to guard myself more now then when I first arrived here at Lit.

But this thing tha is thrown about here, this pie in the sky, this gossamer pastel beauty of perfection, I do not believe it exists for me now or ever will. Such is life, which I can beat my head against all I want, or just soldier on and accept that this life.

Love is more than sex or love making. It is in the day to day, journey. The unwashed dishes, counting of pennies, taking the trash out and so forth.

My two cents or so.

 

[LukkyKnight]

I agree that I don't think that it's necessary to have a an SO in your life but I think it creates a demention to it that can be amazing.

dimension + dementia = demention?

 

[HB1965]

dimension + dementia = demention?

You guys just love to tease me about those damn typos.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Wow, I think morewickedfun explained it very nicely! I agree it's easier to experience it than to explain it.

I usually resort to quoting lyrics and poetry, myself.

For instance, Ghost:

...I start to feel the fever
Like the warm air through the screen
You come regular like seasons
Shadowing my dreams

The Mississippi's mighty
But it starts in Minnesota
At a place that you could walk across
With five steps down
And I guess thats how you started
Like a pinprick to my heart
But at this point you rush right through me
And I start to drown

And there's not enough room
In this world for my pain
Signals cross and love gets lost
And time passed makes it plain
Of all my demon spirits
I need you the most
I'm in love with your ghost

 

[LukkyKnight]

You guys just love to tease me about those damn typos.

Freud and I are in constant contact.

 

[Batch]

You guys just love to tease me about those damn typos.

Darling, you are the Typo Queen.

 

[Batch]

I usually resort to quoting lyrics and poetry, myself.

For instance, Ghost:

Indigo girls?

 

[LukkyKnight]

Indigo girls?

Of course.

 

[Batch]

Of course.

Ah. Rites of Passage, have that on cassette tape... very worn.

 

[passionkat]

PLEASE NOTE This is my opinion:

Love comes in all forms.

You can love a person without being truly in love with them...and this happens often. You tend to become comfortable with that person, like an old shoe or comfortable pair of pants ~ they fit you, they aren't the newest, brightest or best but you just can't get rid of them because they have become a part of you.

And then there are those that have the best of both loves. Which is wonderful...exhilirating, God-sent.

...

This is so true and what people don't seem to understand. Love is a process and an adventure and one doesn't always know the directions it may lead. Having said that, apologizing to someone for the end of a relationship that just wasn't the right fit is beyond me.

Caring enough about someone to engage in a serious relationship at all is the utmost compliment. Emotions are tricky and can be unpredictable if you aren't in a "whole" type of love.

 

[comeout2play]

You have that beginning love, where all you think about is that person, day in, day out...more like lust because you just desire to be with them.

You can love a person without being truly in love with them...and this happens often.

*nods* Yep. This is a wise woman.

 

[breakwall]

I usually resort to quoting lyrics and poetry, myself.

okay.
I'm outta here.

 

[Honey123]

This is so true and what people don't seem to understand. Love is a process and an adventure and one doesn't always know the directions it may lead. Having said that, apologizing to someone for the end of a relationship that just wasn't the right fit is beyond me.

Caring enough about someone to engage in a serious relationship at all is the utmost compliment. Emotions are tricky and can be unpredictable if you aren't in a "whole" type of love.

which is why I thought this post said it all :

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=25593428&postcount=27

*nods* Yep. This is a wise woman.

nooo...definately note wise. I have had my heard broken too many times to count. The hardest part about love, is convincing yourself it's time to move on when the other party isn't interested anymore.

 

[Honey123]

okay.
I'm outta here.

Oh, Break...I think HB needs someone to explain the non-mushy parts of feeling butterflies in one's stomach.

I believe she is talking about her feelings on a different level. Perhaps, like you she was cynical about love and all it's dillusions, but now she has found someone who is making her question her feelings on that.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Oh, Break...I think HB needs someone to explain the...

It's not necessarily even that deep. Some of us process stuff better if we get into a discussion about it rather than sitting in a room by ourselves pondering. The give and take can be an aid to self-exploration, though it masquerades as conversation.

 

[breakwall]

Oh, Break...I think HB needs someone to explain the non-mushy parts of feeling butterflies in one's stomach.

I don't believe there ARE 'non-mushy' parts.

"You hang up first."
"No, YOU hang up first."
"No...YOU hang up first."
"We'll both hang up at the same time...1..2...3..."
"You didn't hang up!"
"Neither did you"

*shoots self in head*

 

[Honey123]

It's not necessarily even that deep. Some of us process stuff better if we get into a discussion about it rather than sitting in a room by ourselves pondering. The give and take can be an aid to self-exploration, though it masquerades as conversation.

"needs to explain" was wrong of me to write...I didn't mean it in that way.

But yes, I understand exactly what you mean ~ hearing others views, whether they are pro or con, always helps...

*blame the cough medicine*