Love & BDSM

[Andreina]

Could imagine to love or to wanna be with someone and be happy in this relationship if your partner wasn't interested in BDSM?


Do you think love (or being a relationship with someone) could overcome this boundary or is BDSM a manifested part of your lovelife so that you wouldn't be happy in a 'vanilla' relationship?



[Edited to suit even Ebony ]

 

[Ebonyfire]

I didn't vote

Mainly because of the words in the thread title, "Love & BDSM".

I do not need romance in BDSM for it to be a viable relationship.

Eb

 

[lovetoread]

When one thinks they are in love,you can live with anything.

 

[~Dream~]

In My Opinion..

Although Love is NOT a recquirement to be involved in a BDSM relationship for alot of people,I have found from personal experience and talking to others also ,that Love would greatly intensify the pleasure and Passion involved as obviously two people who love each other are therefore more "intimate" with each other and more open and honest feelings are interchanged.."Romance CAN be a very "nice" thing indeed..although some are foolish enough to think it is only an "illusion" ~

 

[Parklife]

I think I could love someone that wasn't into BDSM... I think I could be in a relationship with someone who wasn't into BDSM,per se... I think something would be lacking or missing but I also think the women i'm attracted to are strong, independent and a bit dominant oriented even if they aren't into "BDSM" in any classical sense...

And I enjoy 'nilla bedtime just fine... although all 'nilla all the time would leave me disappointed. But it'd be a disappointment i'd keep inside, not one that would break the relationship.

Park~

 

[MasterKensbeany]

been there, done that

Although I loved both of my husbands dearly, there was always something lacking, a deep need of mine that wasn't being fulfilled. I will never do it again.

Respectfully
beany

 

[MsWorthy]

I would live without the bdsm sex if it was an issue for my partner. I couldn't be happy without the PE, however, so I would not choose a partner who could not give up some personal power in a relationship.

 

[rosco rathbone]

I've loved a lot of women, but the only ones I have ever been "in love" with, shared my psychosexuality.

 

[Ebonyfire]

When one thinks they are in love,you can live with anything.

I hope to Goddess never to be "in love" again.

But to me love is endless, and so I will start my loving Me, Myself, & I.

Eb

 

[lovetoread]

I hope to Goddess never to be "in love" again.

But to me love is endless, and so I will start my loving Me, Myself, & I.

Eb

I lived without for 13 years.

Its not something I plan ever doing again.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I lived without for 13 years.

Its not something I plan ever doing again.

You misunderstood me.

I do have lots of love.

I said I hope to never be "in love" not the same thing. A common mistake.

Eb

 

[Ebonyfire]

You misunderstood me.

I do have lots of love.

I said I hope to never be "in love" not the same thing. A common mistake.

Eb

Not to hijack but:

I believe that being "in love" is no more that infatuation borne of fantasy and unrealistic notions of romance.

Here is a good link:

The Nature of Attraction & Love

Eb

 

[lovetoread]

Not to hijack but:

I believe that being "in love" is no more that infatuation borne of fantasy and unrealistic notions of romance.

Here is a good link:

The Nature of Attraction & Love

Eb

Thank you.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Not to hijack but:

I believe that being "in love" is no more that infatuation borne of fantasy and unrealistic notions of romance.

No doubt ,no doubt .

Thank god for those ephemeral things which give meaning, strength, hope and courage.

 

[Ebonyfire]

No doubt ,no doubt .

Thank god for those ephemeral things which give meaning, strength, hope and courage.

I disagree I think they hinder all that you have mentioned.

They do not necessarily give meaning, strength, hope and courage. In fact romance is mostly a trap for women.

Just my opinion.

[edited for typos]
Eb

 

[RisiaSkye]

I've loved a lot of women, but the only ones I have ever been "in love" with, shared my psychosexuality.

Well said. *nodding in agreement*
Um, the men too.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Well said. *nodding in agreement*
Um, the men too.

Yes, I really don't see how it could be otherwise.

Romance can be a trap for men just as well as women.