long story... condensed. hope it makes sense

[rosebud5446]

okay, so yesterday, i wanted to ask tyler exactly where i stand with him, and he said that he's starting to freak out because he doesn't want to be with other girls, and he doesn't feel like i'm pushing myself on him too much... well, later at his work, a girl started talking about experimenting, and wants to have a threesome with us, it sounded like alot of fun at first, but then i got scared that he might start to like her more than me, and i talked to him about it, and even though he really cares for me, he knows he can't get attached to me, because if he does, we'll end up doing things with our lives that aren't the best for us, because i want to go to colorado. so this really confused me at first, because i thought we were with eachother, but really, we're just really good FWB like we've always been. so now i'm thinking i really do need to move to colorado and start to persue what i want to do, but theres this court thing where my mom might get a bunch of money next week, but if that doesn't go well, i don't know what the fuck i'm going to do, because i don't have any money, and i'll be stuck here living with him. and i don't want to get more attached than i already am. and i'm scared, because i'm going to a place where i don't have any friends. FUCK! I'm so confused and have so many thoughts i don't know what to do. please talk some sense into me, or help me organize these thoughts.

 

[FurryFury]

It sounds like he is not ready for a commitment. Trust me on this, when a guy is not ready for a commitment there is nothing you can do to convince him.

It also sounds like you need a way to make money since you say you have none. Once you find that and save up, you can move out. You may find that you feel better about yourself in general.

As for Colorado, I just have one question, why?

Since you are confused, my guess is you are a bit murky on your goals.

If you live on your own you should become more aware of who you are and want you want. There are so many valuable lessons to be learned such as how to afford eating through the end of the month and why a certain job makes sense to you or doesn't. In short, it sounds like you need to get to know yourself, set goals and live on your own a while to me.

Good luck,

Fury

 

[rosebud5446]

i actually feel alot better, i think it was just my initial reaction to be upset, but i knew it wasn't going to work out, and i can/need to be more focused on what's right for me at this point in my life. i feel like i'm more in control of my life, and just do what i think is best for me than depending on a guy. i think i like this much more than i ever thought i would.
BTW... as for the question 'why colorado?' i moved there after high school, but had to move back because of family issues, right when i got a job i loved, adn started to make friends. so i still don't have good friends there, but i feel like i fit in SO much more than i do here, and my aquaintences will become friends soon i'm sure. i do even have one girl that i especially got along with great.
and i will be a bit bummed if this court thing doesn't work out, but i'll just save up money, and enjoy what time i have left living here with my friends.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm glad you are feeling better Rosebud!

If you feel more at home in another state by all means follow that feeling if you can.

Fury