Long Distance Love

[swagman]

Re: From New York to Omaha

Good wishes to all who find themselves miles away from someone they love.

There are so many scenarios to long distance relationships. Mine started very innocently, and it's hard for me now to place myself fully back there in time when I was in NY communicating with Oman (who was in Missouri at that time).

Each of us needs to decide for ourselves where our heart is. I realized that I was not going to be able to continue loving Oman without being closer to him, and fortunately for me, Oman decided the same thing.

Once that decision was made, it was an equal (and HONEST) process of posting cities where we thought both of us would be able to "adjust" to.

Initially, I had hoped that Oman would want to settle in NYC (where I had lived my entire life, and where all my friends are). It might have been very different if either of us were committed to a good job at that time. Oman was willing to be with me no matter where I was, and that seemed to "clinch" my decision to make the BIG move.

So here I am in the midwest! I do miss my friends and NYC, but they are still around for me (and it's a LOT less stressful to be in an LDR situations with them than it would be to continue apart from Oman!).

Dealing with each other day-to-day, face-to-face, is certainly a lot different than words on a computer (and voices on the phone). Facing each day together, dealing with the trials and joys of everyday living, is quite a different challenge, but a rewarding one.

I do not feel shortchanged at all by "giving up" all the glitz and excitement of the Big Apple.

I made the move because I wanted to, and I am thankful each day that I did. The love of all my friends in NYC (who first thought I was crazy, then felt they couldn't "live" without me) allowed me to follow my heart. It's scary, but when your heart insists, there's no greater feeling in the world.

Jennie, in my absence I had not realised that you two were actually together in RL
I am so totally chuffed for both of you

may life deaL you both the cards you deserve

love and bestest wishes
Mike

 

[Native Alien]

Jenny brings up alot of very valid points and some of them are ones that I considered very carefully before I even started my relationship. I think that it is a personal choice and that to have somewhere to talk about these things can help. Especially given the insecurities and the doubts that can and do crop up in most LDR's.

It is difficult, and the simple everyday things that we take for granted, we can't do that with LDR's. Like the knowing what the other person takes in their coffee.

While the online chats, the emails, the snail mails, and the phone calls help us to get to know that person, nothing can take the place of one on one, skin to skin. It is getting to know the other person's little quirks and kinks, and them getting to know the same about you that will either make or break any relationship.

By the way, Jenny and Oman, thank you again for letting us be watchers as you started your journey together. I am so glad that it has worked out the way that you both deserved.