lock stock and smoking barrels

[pandoravampire]

2 problems, please help?

1. Been doing anal for 22 yrs - never had this happen, suddenly twice in two weeks?, now with new partner who's slightly larger than the previous. Twice, anal has been ended with an accident. What the hell is going wrong? The only difference i can see is this guy is bigger, the duration of anal is longer, say 2 hrs. And its soooo much better. On both occasions, ive been to the bathroom, cleaned afterwards but still its ending like this, its kinda annoying. What else can i do? I cant imagine a sex life without anal, but the incidence of occurance is getting a tad too high now, its not funny.

2. G-spot. Yes, ive read the threads, and im buggered if i can find the damn thing, i know its up there somewhere, but i cant find it. He's found it, and it feels bloody wierd! Not sexual, almost uncomfortable and unbearable, but not sexual thats for sure. The goal is FE. But im having trouble not backing off his hand coz its bloody unpleasant? I have a tilted womb, does that make any difference? Does anyone else find this sort of stimulation uncomfortable and unsexy?

If i could just get these two probs sorted, ill go onto worrying about something else lol, so please help if you can.

 

[graceanne]

2 problems, please help?

1. Been doing anal for 22 yrs - never had this happen, suddenly twice in two weeks?, now with new partner who's slightly larger than the previous. Twice, anal has been ended with an accident. What the hell is going wrong? The only difference i can see is this guy is bigger, the duration of anal is longer, say 2 hrs. And its soooo much better. On both occasions, ive been to the bathroom, cleaned afterwards but still its ending like this, its kinda annoying. What else can i do? I cant imagine a sex life without anal, but the incidence of occurance is getting a tad too high now, its not funny.

2. G-spot. Yes, ive read the threads, and im buggered if i can find the damn thing, i know its up there somewhere, but i cant find it. He's found it, and it feels bloody wierd! Not sexual, almost uncomfortable and unbearable, but not sexual thats for sure. The goal is FE. But im having trouble not backing off his hand coz its bloody unpleasant? I have a tilted womb, does that make any difference? Does anyone else find this sort of stimulation uncomfortable and unsexy?

If i could just get these two probs sorted, ill go onto worrying about something else lol, so please help if you can.

Can you specify what you mean by 'an accident'? Are you bleeding, or what? How's it ending?

 

[catalina_francisco]

Re: Re: lock stock and smoking barrels

Can you specify what you mean by 'an accident'? Are you bleeding, or what? How's it ending?

I think she means she drops a bundle, or to say it differently she shits herself.

I have had it happen to me, with that I mean not that I have shit myself but that women have while we are having sex, not saying names here of course, keeping it all anonymous, right love?!

I think it has to do with the thickness and the angle, nothing to feel ashamed of. If anything most men will like it because it will boost up their ego.

Also in a BDSM aspect the added humiliation/shame will actually increase the experience for most Dominants and probably also for the submissive if they are big on shame factors.

Francisco.

 

[catalina_francisco]

LOL, someone has come home in a strange and playful mood.....must be something to do with stress relief about his upcoming trip to regions which we both are a little edgy about.

As to your question about G spots, pandoravampire, you are not alone. For me there is no problem locating it, but like you it does not engender a good feeling in me and tends to have much the same reflex action of wanting to move to anywhere but that spot. I can actually begin to feel slightly ill from it.

Catalina

 

[Marquis]

You're getting ass-fucked for two hours?!!

Goddamn, no wonder you're shitting yourself.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

Spew Alert

I think she means she drops a bundle, or to say it differently she shits herself.

Hey 'Cisco, read the title ... wicked grin.

Also in a BDSM aspect the added humiliation/shame will actually increase the experience for most Dominants and probably also for the submissive if they are big on shame factors.

Francisco.

Ka-ching.

As for the G-spot hunt ... not sure if you're still looking for the spot, or a thread.

 

[Netzach]

Are you cleaning out ahead of time? Might want to consider that if you're annoyed by the situation, a lot of expert assfuckers are accustomed to the vagaries of their favorite orifice.

I personally prefer a clean getaway, but I certainly would not contribute shame in the event that that's not happening. (unless that's your thing, in which case, why complain, I'm guessing it's not)

as for G spots? Overrated in my opinion. Pleasant, but no major fireworks, not every woman has this on switch, just how it is.

 

[Bandit58]

I asked Master about your problem with anal, and He seems to think you are being over-stimulated in that region, causing your bowel to "push" faeces through faster. I know I used to have problems with constipation until I started having anal stimulation - lol no doctor ever mentioned that as a cure! An enema beforehand could help solve things

The g-spot I have no solution for.....Master found mine virtually straight away and I've been a gusher ever since. It may be one of those things that just doesn't work for you - but if other things do, don't sweat it

 

[redelicious]

1. Wow, 2 hours of anal. And I thought I liked it. Anyway, just a shot in the dark (no pun intended), but is your partner using a condom? My thinking is that if he cums inside you that perhaps it could cause some loose stools. I don't remember if you said you did enemas, but that sounds like good advice. There are some great threads here about how to do it.

2. I also have a tilted uterus. G-spot stimulation for me is an overwhelming, almost crampy feeling. Is that what you experience?

 

[Guest]

2 problems, please help?

1. Been doing anal for 22 yrs - never had this happen, suddenly twice in two weeks?, now with new partner who's slightly larger than the previous. Twice, anal has been ended with an accident. What the hell is going wrong? The only difference i can see is this guy is bigger, the duration of anal is longer, say 2 hrs. And its soooo much better. On both occasions, ive been to the bathroom, cleaned afterwards but still its ending like this, its kinda annoying. What else can i do? I cant imagine a sex life without anal, but the incidence of occurance is getting a tad too high now, its not funny.

2. G-spot. Yes, ive read the threads, and im buggered if i can find the damn thing, i know its up there somewhere, but i cant find it. He's found it, and it feels bloody wierd! Not sexual, almost uncomfortable and unbearable, but not sexual thats for sure. The goal is FE. But im having trouble not backing off his hand coz its bloody unpleasant? I have a tilted womb, does that make any difference? Does anyone else find this sort of stimulation uncomfortable and unsexy?

If i could just get these two probs sorted, ill go onto worrying about something else lol, so please help if you can.

Just an opinion here but....

1: Given what you describe ..especially the change in the activity itself, from what was previously experienced...I'd guess that it is taking longer for the muscles to recover.
There may also be an increase in the speed of the activity..But a lack of control generally seems to mean that the muscles have been stretched and are not capable of completely closing yet.

2: (And this is from a fem I knew) She told me that when she started...direct stimulation of her G spot would make her sick as a dog.. It could still cause her some problems, but she helped it with masturbation. She bought one of the cool insertables with the nice curve to it. *shrug* Have to ask the ladies for a good one I guess.

 

[Kajira Callista]

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[pandoravampire]

thankyou people, and them some.

Anal, i am 'clearing out' or having a shit then cleaning afterwards, i have not enema'd as having just shat, didnt think it necessary. And your right, anal incontinence is NOT my thang. Neither is it his, so the the humiliation aspect does not exist in this arena.

The G spot thing,
YES, YES, i do feel sick, thats exactly how i feel, not like i want to pee, more like im gonna chuck up! Like someone putting a finger in my belly button - yuk. My impulse is to back off his hand, and i do scramble away from it, i just cant help it, and the more he stimulates it, the more nausea i feel. Yuk.
Maybe i am not wired that way. Thanks for the Dom/mes who've stated this, thats reassuring that im not the only fridgid bitch around the world lol. I do have a vibrator thats curved and this weeks task is to locate the Gspot and give it a whirl. So far, cant find it.
Problem with a vibrator, is that you dont have the feedback loop of feeling where it is, like the texture info fed back through your fingers.

and 2 hours is not a long time is it? If its just a matter of length of session, then i can shorten it i guess. But its just so good, would like to continue for greeds sake i guess.

 

[Kajira Callista]

gspot stimulation is uncomfy if you arent "warmed up" first... and if someone just goes right at it, it doesnt always feel nice.

 

[catalina_francisco]

The G spot thing,
YES, YES, i do feel sick, thats exactly how i feel, not like i want to pee, more like im gonna chuck up! Like someone putting a finger in my belly button - yuk. My impulse is to back off his hand, and i do scramble away from it, i just cant help it, and the more he stimulates it, the more nausea i feel. Yuk.
Maybe i am not wired that way. Thanks for the Dom/mes who've stated this, thats reassuring that im not the only fridgid bitch around the world lol.

I have always found it makes me sick and don't think any amount of stimulating it will change that. Don't think it makes us frigid though...lol, if I was any more in the mood he would die of exhaustion!!

Catalina

 

[sunfox]

You're getting ass-fucked for two hours?!!

Goddamn, no wonder you're shitting yourself.

*dies laughing*

I think this might be the thread with the most responses that made me nearly fall out of my chair laughing.

 

[pandoravampire]

dont laugh at me, i learn nothing from that. Cept your worth perhaps.

 

[sunfox]

dont laugh at me, i learn nothing from that. Cept your worth perhaps.

I don't imagine you probably would learn much from a comment not directed at you.

But the fear that everyone is laughing at you is interesting.

 

[Sir_Winston54]

I don't imagine you probably would learn much from a comment not directed at you.
But the fear that everyone is laughing at you is interesting.

I think pandora may have glanced quickly at sunfox's post, and not noticed that it was the responses at which she was laughing.

Fear that everyone is laughing at one is not uncommon, however - one must merely think of all the jokes and stories of people who dream of being in class, called upon to answer a question and standing up to do so, only to have the entire class break out in laughter. When looking down, the dreamer then discovers he/she is either nude or only in underwear (or various similar dreams).

 

[bytor2112]

I asked Master about your problem with anal, and He seems to think you are being over-stimulated in that region, causing your bowel to "push" faeces through faster. I know I used to have problems with constipation until I started having anal stimulation - lol no doctor ever mentioned that as a cure! An enema beforehand could help solve things

The g-spot I have no solution for.....Master found mine virtually straight away and I've been a gusher ever since. It may be one of those things that just doesn't work for you - but if other things do, don't sweat it

you asked your master..how nice..

can you think on your own??

 

[sunfox]

I think pandora may have glanced quickly at sunfox's post, and not noticed that it was the responses at which she was laughing.

Oh, I rather imagine she didn't notice, but I do find it interesting that she felt a snide comment was necessary instead of a request for clarification. So maybe it's just paranoia in general, instead of a specific fear that everyone is laughing at her.

Either way, I still find the responses humorous.

 

[Kajira Callista]

hi sunfox i'm stalking you btw

 

[sunfox]

hi sunfox i'm stalking you btw

hi there, KC

Is it still stalking if I let you catch me?

 

[Kajira Callista]

hi there, KC

Is it still stalking if I let you catch me?

it is if you want it to be.

 

[pandoravampire]

Yes, i had assumed that you found my posting amusing, plus the responses. The snide comment is me feeling hurt and hitting out. Very much as if ordered to stand in a dream class to find your naked from the waist down as RJ mentioned.
Not that interesting.

As ive only been in this r/l D/s relationship for 3 months, and prior to that in a uncompatible one for the 3 final years of a 13 yr marriage, my experience is very limited.

Its very scary, to swap from topping to bottoming. Very scary.
It takes guts to post such personal questions here, like someone said, a doctor often wont have these answers, but lit does!
Most of us animals that frequent planet earth, respond to fear with hypersensitivity, that is why i inserted the snide comment 'i cant learn from that, cept perhaps your worth'.

As others have indicated that the laughing was not at me, rather at the postings, then i am in the wrong, and as such, you have my apologies Sunfox.

And for the others that offered constructive advice, thankyou sincerely.

 

[sunfox]

I did state rather clearly in my first post that it was the responses that I found hilarious... but of course the apology is accepted and appreciated. Misunderstandings will happen in any online discourse.

I'm not one of those people who reacts to my fears or worries with hypersensitivity... I tend to laugh it off when I'm afraid. That'll earn you a lot more friends, I've found. Don't be afraid to ask if you aren't sure what someone meant. Most of the people here are very helpful.