'Lit'mus tests...

[alexandraaah]

damn I'm clever. Don't we all have 'litmus tests' for people when we first meet them? Perhaps it's just for those who are as big a pain in the ass as I am, to see just how much they can handle...if they're up to the task.

My dad is gay and I usually throw that one out there. I know it takes a lot of people some time to digest, but eventually, my dad and his partner are a big part of who I am. You want me? You get my gay dad too.

That's one of my litmus tests...anyone else?

 

[CarolineOh]

The fact of being in an interracial relationship is an automatic litmus test for me. I don't waste my time on anyone who has an objection to that. Well, except my Mom, but what are ya gonna do?

 

[VanB]

Yeah,

Several actually - partly to find out how broad minded people are and partly to satisfy myself that we have a similar attitude.

Not prepared to say what I ask/tell but it has lead to at least 2 folk here on the board backing off.

I think most people have a litmus test of at least one sort or another.

 

[alexandraaah]

Yep, this is just what I'm talking about. I won't say that I would entirely rule someone out (unless they are racist, I have no tolerance for racism), but it does help to gage where your expectations of that person should be.

Van...you've sufficiently intrigued me. Dammit.

 

[JazzManJim]

I don't really have a Litmus Test, neither to gauge whether I will get to know someone better or not (though I usually know pretty quickly whether I'll want to), nor to test folks who are getting to know me.

I do have a couple things, though, that tend to run people off pretty quickly.

First, I'm a single Dad with two great babies who live 500 miles away from me. Second, that I'm no lightweight. If the first doesn't do it, the second usually will.

 

[VanB]

Yep, this is just what I'm talking about. I won't say that I would entirely rule someone out (unless they are racist, I have no tolerance for racism), but it does help to gage where your expectations of that person should be.

Van...you've sufficiently intrigued me. Dammit.

Alex,

I don't think you need to take the Litmus test

 

[SilverVeil]

Love me love my cats.

And put up with my things I collect.

That's about it for me.

 

[alexandraaah]

First, I'm a single Dad with two great babies who live 500 miles away from me. Second, that I'm no lightweight. If the first doesn't do it, the second usually will.

I would call those litmus tests (for the sake of this thread anyway)...in the sense that if they can't hack it, you wave bye-bye.

Am I getting this or do I need more coffee?

 

[lovetoread]

My kids and my "submissive" nature are my litmus tests.

If you dont like kids and cannot take of my needs in that way,dont come a callin'.

 

[freescorfr]

Alcoholism - that gets rid of 70%, especially in the right circles.

 

[alexandraaah]

Alcoholism - that gets rid of 70%, especially in the right circles.

meaning you are a drinker or you are intolerant of someone who is?

 

[ShamelessFlirt]

damn I'm clever. Don't we all have 'litmus tests' for people when we first meet them? Perhaps it's just for those who are as big a pain in the ass as I am, to see just how much they can handle...if they're up to the task.

My dad is gay and I usually throw that one out there. I know it takes a lot of people some time to digest, but eventually, my dad and his partner are a big part of who I am. You want me? You get my gay dad too.

That's one of my litmus tests...anyone else?

I like brutal honesty. I offer it and see if I get it in return.

 

[freescorfr]

I don't drink any more, I'm alcoholic. Doesn't that count as litmus?
You're nearly 1000 Alex, premature congratulations

 

[badmatt]

lovetoread....along those same lines as your submissive nature, anyone who's going to be around for any length of time needs to put up with My dominant nature.

Then there's My dog. And the fact that I want at least 3 more. Hell I have the yard for it so why not?

Oh, and the fact that when My family is around, they come first. They visit so infrequently. Of course, you know, if'n she was family by marriage, she'd be part of the coming first part too....

I'm not too picky am I?

 

[alexandraaah]

nope, badmatt, you're not too picky...however, with that av you're likely to get what you want.

my dog is a given. loving my dog is obviously first on the list, but it would be a tremendous struggle to even be with someone who had allergies.

 

[JazzManJim]

I would call those litmus tests (for the sake of this thread anyway)...in the sense that if they can't hack it, you wave bye-bye.

Am I getting this or do I need more coffee?

Nah, I think you're getting this just fine.

But usually, those two things for me cause them to wave bye-bye. I don't often get the chance.

 

[CarolineOh]

Yep, this is just what I'm talking about. I won't say that I would entirely rule someone out (unless they are racist, I have no tolerance for racism), but it does help to gage where your expectations of that person should be.

Van...you've sufficiently intrigued me. Dammit.

It isn't just the racism that is a problem, although obviously I am not going to put up with that, but if someone objects to my choice of lovers by such a standard, it tells me how little they think of me, and my ability to make my own choices. People who think I am with him just because he is black are as guilty of that as those who think I shouldn't be with him at all.

 

[alexandraaah]

It isn't just the racism that is a problem, although obviously I am not going to put up with that, but if someone objects to my choice of lovers by such a standard, it tells me how little they think of me, and my ability to make my own choices. People who think I am with him just because he is black are as guilty of that as those who think I shouldn't be with him at all.

not to mention...whose business is it anyways? Why should your choice of lover have any effect on anyone else?

Yummy av, by the way.

 

[CarolineOh]

not to mention...whose business is it anyways? Why should your choice of lover have any effect on anyone else?

Yummy av, by the way.

Thanks. I'm trying to create a conditioned response in Ruby, so that everytime she sees me post she gets wet. heeheehee

 

[alexandraaah]

Thanks. I'm trying to create a conditioned response in Ruby, so that everytime she sees me post she gets wet. heeheehee

I must barely be one rung above Pavlov's dog, because it works for me. Although, the same thing happens when I look at Ruby's av, so maybe I'm just...excitable?

 

[Calamity Jane]

Well, I'm a witch, my close friends know it, and when someone new enters the picture, they find out about it fairly quickly.

If they can't handle that bit of info, then I'm pretty sure they can't handle the rest of me.

 

[badmatt]

alexandraah

allergies are bad? but what if I got meds for them? I mean I have a dog and want more, even though I'm allergic as hell....

 

[alexandraaah]

Re: alexandraah

allergies are bad? but what if I got meds for them? I mean I have a dog and want more, even though I'm allergic as hell....

you're in.

(never said i was a tough sell).

 

[CarolineOh]

I must barely be one rung above Pavlov's dog, because it works for me. Although, the same thing happens when I look at Ruby's av, so maybe I'm just...excitable?

I know just what you mean. Now if I can get a pic of the guy in my av fucking Ruby........

 

[badmatt]

Re: Re: alexandraah

you're in.

(never said i was a tough sell).

wooooooohooooooo! *jumps up and screams, then forgets he's naked and does the happy dance anyway*