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[Bitesback]

No, I didn't expect to get what I wanted so I wasn't surprised when it didn't eventuate.

I honestly didn't want anything but a little effort, kindness and I come cheap.... That said, despite the 38°c heat, it was a good day, some new memories made and I couldn't have been more pleased or proud of my kids who bought thoughtful gifts for their parents, frequently offered and actually helped out at home and at our hosts' house. So, I got something I hadn't expected and that was very nice indeed.

To those who celebrate it...Merry Christmas.

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy Boxing Day!

I hope all your celebrations were joyous occasions. What joy have your brought to someone? Did you provide the unexpected gift? Are you the memory that will be remembered? If not, why not?

 

[ChainedUp]

No one jumped on Boxing Day........must all be elite around here

Whether we like it or not we are all part of a class system. It would be great if it wasn't true but then again wouldn't the world be better off without any of those parts of our DNA that we can't seem to shake. 99.99% say they are happy where they are, a coping mechanism I suspect, built in to help build contentment. We all talk about moving up, but could you handle moving down? Sometimes employment status predicates the downward fluidity of our class status but would you willingly trade to permanently lower your class? What if it meant longer life? More time with family? Less stress? Would you willingly lower your class for any of those or anything?

 

[ViciousTease]

No one jumped on Boxing Day........must all be elite around here

Whether we like it or not we are all part of a class system. It would be great if it wasn't true but then again wouldn't the world be better off without any of those parts of our DNA that we can't seem to shake. 99.99% say they are happy where they are, a coping mechanism I suspect, built in to help build contentment. We all talk about moving up, but could you handle moving down? Sometimes employment status predicates the downward fluidity of our class status but would you willingly trade to permanently lower your class? What if it meant longer life? More time with family? Less stress? Would you willingly lower your class for any of those or anything?

I did willingly lower my class. I had a high paying position, but it came with high stress and long hours. I gave it up, took a relatively low paying state job, and now spend my evenings at home with my children. Sometimes I miss the finer things, but I don't regret my decision. It was the right move for me.

 

[Mayberrygirl]

Yes I would.

For me, it is a simple question of priorities. Family and health trump class and wealth.

 

[Trekka]

Yes I would.

For me, it is a simple question of priorities. Family and health trump class and wealth.

^This.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

It would honestly depend on how you're defining "lower your class." Are you suggesting that I never went to college? Do I still attend cultural art events? Are you simply suggesting that I make a lower wage than I do now?
If I was promised 5 extra years of life to give up education and arts, I don't know that I would do it. I receive too much joy from these things. If you're asking if I could live on less income, of course I could.

 

[ChainedUp]

The beauty of a question is lays within the person being asked. How the question is interpreted defines one's answer. That seems pretty obvious. And of course there's never a right/wrong with these types of questions, either. I've always thought that life was lived in the gray, and that the clarity of black/white answers, while necessary for many things don't hold interest. I'm all for discovery, learning new things it by definition that fact that says we are still learning new things and making discoveries indicates we are living in the gray.

My question, how important is clarity for you? Are you comfortable living with a significant amount of uncertainty? Or do you want/need answers?

 

[ElasticMermaid]

The beauty of a question is lays within the person being asked. How the question is interpreted defines one's answer. That seems pretty obvious. And of course there's never a right/wrong with these types of questions, either. I've always thought that life was lived in the gray, and that the clarity of black/white answers, while necessary for many things don't hold interest. I'm all for discovery, learning new things it by definition that fact that says we are still learning new things and making discoveries indicates we are living in the gray.

My question, how important is clarity for you? Are you comfortable living with a significant amount of uncertainty? Or do you want/need answers?

The worst part about being a person with above average intellegence who desires clarity is that sometimes the more answers you seek, the cloudier things become.

In other words...shit is complicated.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

Clarity and whether or not I like it or need it all depends on what I'm doing.
Work related, tell me what you want (or attempt to) is golden in my book. But, too many rules, regulations, this and that drives me bonkers. I need a little free rein.

Life in general, I'm a mix on this clarity thing. There are somethings I have a hard time wrapping my brain around and I'm okay with not fully understanding the subject matter. Life matters and goals, I'd prefer a pretty clear pic. My artsy creative side flows and plays when clarity is nonexistent.

I've accepted living with uncertainty. There are things that I can't control and questions that are never answered. At times, this mystery I love exploring. Other times it would eat me alive if I let it. I balance it out with choosing to live in the present. I take no moments for granted. Simple stated, but taken very seriously.

 

[iamincognito45]

Interesting question. For me, clarity is typically not so critical. As SMNaughtywife says, it depends on the situation.

I prefer a maintain a fairly intelligent understanding of the world and situation around me. From there, I tend to adapt to the ever changing environment around me. things are rarely black and white. As the old saying goes, everyone has a plan till you get punched in the mouth. I'm not talking about physical violence or anything bad necessarily. The point being, the world and people around you are fluid and ever changing/evolving. In my experience, nothing ever goes exactly according to plan. If that makes you come unhinged (control freaks with OCD know what I'm talking about), you will spend most of your life frustrated with your less than perfect world.

Be happy enough in your world to adapt to your less than ideal environment. Intelligent enough to understand AND accept what is happening in the world around you and know how to make the best of the situation and steer things (think course correction) back to the way you would like them to be. There you will find peace and contentment more times than not. At least it works for me...

 

[Lord Pmann]

We can make an idol out of clarity. Sometimes I wait and wait for the perfect time or perfect moment. But, sadly, if often does not come. And I'm just left in wait. I am not a risk taker and I like things without surprise.

The worst part about being a person with above average intellegence who desires clarity is that sometimes the more answers you seek, the cloudier things become.

In other words...shit is complicated.

I think smart people suffer greater loss and heartache because they're more aware of it. Dumb people quickly move on when a new Nickelback or Sam Hunt CD comes out.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I think smart people suffer greater loss and heartache because they're more aware of it. Dumb people quickly move on when a new Nickelback or Sam Hunt CD comes out.

smh at you..lol

 

[ChainedUp]

yawn.......all this time off has my schedule out of whack, hence the lateness of my post. Such creatures of habit we all are. Even those that claim they aren't, are. There's comfort in familiar, in knowing what's going to happen and when. Conversely there's a thrill with the unexpected. Not knowing what will happen next. Could be up or could be down, the thrill is in the not knowing not the outcome. But if you had to pick one for the rest of your life would you take the comfort of the routine or the thrill of the unknown? Now I know the cool/hip answer into select the unknown, however, I think deep down inside where no one else sees, the vast majority of us really like routine.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Excitement is great only if it's good. I like stability. I like knowing what's going on. I have a stable job. Stable life. I don't need things fucking that up. I've always had stability and anything else would be a bit worrisome.

 

[Lord Pmann]

smh at you..lol

'Tis true.

 

[iamincognito45]

My life is one of opposites in many ways. In some ways, my life is routine. Same steady job for decades (although it has changed and evolved many times over the years), same steady marriage and kids for decades (although those have changed and evolved over the years too). On the flip side, I am a life junkie. I burn my candle at both ends and in the middle too. I never get enough sleep because I am too busy enjoying life and all the experiences I can. I'm a chronic volunteer (little league coach, boy scout leader, girl scout helper) and I am involved in local politics. All the help give back. I love new adventures, travel the world and love exploring in a canoe or with my backpack. I enjoy meeting new people, seeing new places, learning new hobbies. I crave knowledge and understanding and am always looking for something new to try.

Honestly, if I had to pick one over the other, I would pick the thrill of the unknown. I am strong, intelligent, positive and confident enough to adapt to any conditions. I love the excitement and opportunity of something new.

 

[ElasticMermaid]

Unknown. I'm a little crazy.

 

[RacyRedLips]

Parts of my life are regimented. I like structure. I'd be lost without my planner....and my lists. Chaos ensues without a fair amount of control or discipline in those areas. However, so does getting stuck in a rut when I let my routines get out of hand and interfere where they shouldn't.

Based on that fact and the question at hand, I'd take the thrill of the unknown....the butterfly flutters of high hopes....anticipation, expectation....over the comfort of routine. Easily.

When my touch of OCD doesn't get in the way, I'm an adventurous gal.

 

[Suz_anne]

I really want to say unknown, but I would probably end up choosing the routine. There are just certain things I need to feel certain about. *sigh*

 

[Scout44]

I am a little bit of both. Routines are great for everyday things like work etc but I love the unknown. Waking up in a strange city having no plans and just seeing where the day takes you. There is nothing better.

 

[ChainedUp]

New Year's Eve. A time for reflection and for hope. Do you take any time to reflect back on your year that was? If you do, do you look for things that you could have done differently and try to build on them? Or do you just look back with nostalgia and then turn your focus onto 2016? Resolutions, yes/no?

If you've never posted an answer here, try it out today. There have been 395 unique Litsters who answered the poll question(thank you!), I wonder how many unique Litsters we can get today? (Shameless attention whore request )

 

[may_I_please]

New Year's Eve. A time for reflection and for hope. Do you take any time to reflect back on your year that was? If you do, do you look for things that you could have done differently and try to build on them? Or do you just look back with nostalgia and then turn your focus onto 2016? Resolutions, yes/no?

If you've never posted an answer here, try it out today. There have been 395 unique Litsters who answered the poll question(thank you!), I wonder how many unique Litsters we can get today? (Shameless attention whore request )

I rarely respond so I'm not the Litster you're looking for

But that's never stopped me before

I am not the type to make New Years resolutions ...they frustrate me ...if you mean to do something do it, without waiting for a specific date

Oh, and stay the fuck out of my gym...it's hard enough getting access to the squat rack without a bunch of people who are clearly going to injure themselves and aren't going to stick past week 4

Grinch out

 

[cowslinger64]

New Year's Eve. A time for reflection and for hope. Do you take any time to reflect back on your year that was? If you do, do you look for things that you could have done differently and try to build on them? Or do you just look back with nostalgia and then turn your focus onto 2016? Resolutions, yes/no?

If you've never posted an answer here, try it out today. There have been 395 unique Litsters who answered the poll question(thank you!), I wonder how many unique Litsters we can get today? (Shameless attention whore request )

I had a really great year. Work was good, I made a ton of money and enjoyed it too. Saw tons of great music. Became even closer with friends. I got to see Vegas twice, the first to see my great friend joydyan get married. Went with her and her new husband on a helicopter to see the Grand Canyon for the first time. I went back to Vegas for Thanksgiving, took a car and went up the coast of California. I think I may have found where I wanna retire. Saw Hoover dam, ziplined in the mountains, rode the Big Shot on top of The Stratosphere.

I also went to my first fetish event which has really enhanced my life. I've got to learn new things and explore and it's been an incredible ride. Got to live a rock star life for a while too. While that sort of crashed and burned, for a time I had two women that just wanted to go crazy with me. I'll always have good hot memories of it.

I've also gotten my diabetes very under control, I'm in the best shape I've been in for a long time. I look and feel good and at 51, I'm looking forward to this year as my best ever.

So it's been a whirlwind.. and I plan to keep on exploring and expanding.


I wish a very Happy New Year to those that have come and gone in my life, the ones that have stayed and here's to new people coming in and making my life complete. And a Happy New Years to all you freaks too.

 

[SMNaughtywife]

I enjoy looking back through the year, reflecting and making mental notes of my journey through life. 2015 felt like a backpack trek through the valley and up the Rockies Mountains at times. While most was nostalgia, there was some tough passes and slippery rocks that slowed me down. But the journey and the view from the summit was breathtakingly beautiful.

I have little regrets and made a few mental notes on "not doing that again!"
I'm certain 2016 will make my heart sing, test my patience, discover and uncover new adventures and always be filled with hope.
Resolutions, nah. I don't need a new year to start or continue something. But I do have two stellar goals in mind.