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[LinusRules]

Since you all did so well yesterday with that deep question, I'm asking this question. It's not necessarily deep, but it's educational.

Today's topic is The Vajankle:

http://cdn.shopify.com/s/files/1/0210/9744/products/product_vajankle_1024x1024.png?v=1441154563

The question is why?????

Discuss


Really? This is a thing? *shakes head*
That hurts my brain...

They're for pussyfooting around obviously.

 

[PutMeInCoach12]

They're for pussyfooting around obviously.

http://i.stack.imgur.com/y7Z0L.jpg

 

[Mayberrygirl]

Hmmmm...I am saying...that some really kinky, forensic dude is trying to corner the market on fucking feet? My Fucking Feet hurt today..cause I worked on them all day...now, if you want to fuck them...ok...but only after a a really long session of foot worship...a hot soak.. Some leg action.. Jezzuz... Yeah then thst are all yours... Wow..

 

[Mayberrygirl]

And Preety Please DO NOT cut them off at the ankle...cuz that would really hurt...and I need to work tomorrow... Please and Fuck you if you try... Empty ballsacks generally do not work out so well either... Just saying... Love, Peace and ---- to all...

 

[ChainedUp]

Cue a little AC/DC - Back in Black , please......

So yes I was away, off doing the work that needed to be done. Sometimes it's good to be away to put perspective on things, to see things how they really are not as you been seeing them through the rose colored lens of proximity. The trick is to hang on the perspective as long as you can.

So, when life causes you see things a new, to take a fresh look, how long does that last for you? We all mean to do thing s differently but old habits are so easy to fall back into. How do you keep the perspective that taking a step back provides?

 

[GiggLeGasm]

How do you keep the perspective that taking a step back provides?

It depends on the step back. Tom's waffle picture this morning reminded me that I used to love waffles. I should make waffles for my children. oh.. wait.. they don't like waffles. They're pancake men. Whole grain pancakes.. with caramelized bananas and mini chocolate chips.. I should bake today before my sister gets here.. unless she wants to bake with me. I should call my sister.

wait.. I need to take a step back

actually.. I'm not so much about changing "habits" as I am changing myself. Hopefully my habits reflect inner changes/things that I'm working on. It's kind of circular in my world. It's an interesting question though because each of us comes from a different place and has so much to offer - even when we think we don't.

 

[Suz_anne]

So good to have you back, Papa C. And just in the nick of time - I think Pmann's next question of the day was going to involve women fucking unicorn horns.

As far as maintaining that fresh perspective... I'm curious to see how others do it because I am terrible at doing so. If something is medically necessary, then I'm a good girl. But other than that, old habits are really tough for me to break.

 

[sweetsophie512]

Cue a little AC/DC - Back in Black , please......

[...]

So, when life causes you see things a new, to take a fresh look, how long does that last for you? We all mean to do thing s differently but old habits are so easy to fall back into. How do you keep the perspective that taking a step back provides?

I resist change. Wait, let me rephrase, I hate change. When I am in the throes of transformation, I delay it as much as I can. It takes a while for my mind and heart to be in the same place to move in one direction. However, once I'm there, there's no turning back. In both scenarios, it renders me stubborn and obstinate. I don't know when to give up, I just keep trying much to my destruction at times. I'm speaking from a personal perspective of course. Professionally, I switch paths so easily due to the fact that it's never an emotional endeavor.

My habits remain as they are just largely influenced by what is.

 

[SweetSam42]

I keep checking this page and have to look at those chopped off feet that are apparently some sort of vagina.

Why pmann why???

 

[rubydlite]

I keep checking this page and have to look at those chopped off feet that are apparently some sort of vagina.

Why pmann why???

This^^^ it makes me want to gag...and not in a..mmm that's a tasty cock ...kind of way...

 

[ChainedUp]

I agree, more posts so we can try and pretend we never saw any of it...

Guilt. I think it's something that the vast majority of us here manage. Our activities mostly guided be the amount of guilt generated and our own ability to manage it. Some rationalize by saying they are here because they aren't getting "any" at home. Others, say "my partner cheated so I can be here", while others say "no physical contact equals no cheating". Then there's the rules we place in ourselves: pm only, voice only, no pics, no cam......all in the name, to a large degree, of guilt management.

My question is simple, is it working?

 

[PeteHulbert37]

Guilt and regret are consciously avoided as I plunder through life. I suppose if I accidentally chopped off my hand, I might have some regret, but I don't very often reflect negatively on my choices.

 

[cowslinger64]

I agree, more posts so we can try and pretend we never saw any of it...

Guilt. I think it's something that the vast majority of us here manage. Our activities mostly guided be the amount of guilt generated and our own ability to manage it. Some rationalize by saying they are here because they aren't getting "any" at home. Others, say "my partner cheated so I can be here", while others say "no physical contact equals no cheating". Then there's the rules we place in ourselves: pm only, voice only, no pics, no cam......all in the name, to a large degree, of guilt management.

My question is simple, is it working?

That's something else I've never experienced here....guilt. When I've been in committed relationships, I always cut back on who I am here and what I do.

I used to be rather judgemental about people playing here.. but after becoming friends with some, I learned that it really isn't black and white... there is a lot of grey area.

 

[TheSilverLining]

I agree, more posts so we can try and pretend we never saw any of it...

Guilt. I think it's something that the vast majority of us here manage. Our activities mostly guided be the amount of guilt generated and our own ability to manage it. Some rationalize by saying they are here because they aren't getting "any" at home. Others, say "my partner cheated so I can be here", while others say "no physical contact equals no cheating". Then there's the rules we place in ourselves: pm only, voice only, no pics, no cam......all in the name, to a large degree, of guilt management.

My question is simple, is it working?

I'm single, and a parent.
I never feel any guilt about being here because....why would I?
If I'm stuck at home most nights, and have nothing better to do once I'm alone then why shouldn't I be here?

Even if I had a partner, I don't cyber (or anything of that nature) so I'm not sure there would be anything to feel guilty about.
I might take my tits down, but that would be it. <shrug>

 

[SweetSam42]

i don't feel guilty for anything I do on lit. Once upon a time I did, but it passed.

I get very little sexual attention at home, and I think getting some of that attention here as a replacement is a relatively benign path to choose.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Guilt can mean different things depending on what area of my life I am dealing with at the moment. I suppose it refers to a selfishness that may lead to a regret for having done or not done something. If everything in life is handled as much as it needs to be, I'm less likely to feel regret. It's also not this nagging feeling like when I was seven and told a lie. It's more the adult view of.. "what was the point of that?"
Consequently, if I don't fully know the point.. or if I'm uncertain what the long term fallout might be.. I tend to back off until I am more comfortable making a decision.

 

[JoyDyan]

I agree, more posts so we can try and pretend we never saw any of it...

Guilt. I think it's something that the vast majority of us here manage. Our activities mostly guided be the amount of guilt generated and our own ability to manage it. Some rationalize by saying they are here because they aren't getting "any" at home. Others, say "my partner cheated so I can be here", while others say "no physical contact equals no cheating". Then there's the rules we place in ourselves: pm only, voice only, no pics, no cam......all in the name, to a large degree, of guilt management.

My question is simple, is it working?

I don't feel guilty for being here. My guy knows I come here for fun. That said, I don't play here anymore - to me, that's cheating, physical contact or not.

I also had a policy - after a couple of scares and some pretty dicey situations - of not playing here with people who ARE in committed relationships. I didn't want to be the other woman in any sense. If you're here because you're unhappy in your current situation, what you do and how you justify it is on you - I don't judge because I know that some people here have their reasons, but I also didn't want to be part of it. I only had to imagine what it would feel like to me to find out that my husband was exchanging nude pics and sexting with another woman to draw that line.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I'm Catholic...therefore I have guilt about everything. It's inbred. (Bless me, father, for I have sinned...I have lusted in my heart about 10million times since my last confession.)

As far as being on Lit goes, I have zero guilt. I have no reason to have any. Gracie has her own login and if she really wants to see what I'm doing she could stalk me to her heart's content. Fact is she doesn't mind at all.

 

[Suz_anne]

I agree, more posts so we can try and pretend we never saw any of it...

Guilt. I think it's something that the vast majority of us here manage. Our activities mostly guided be the amount of guilt generated and our own ability to manage it. Some rationalize by saying they are here because they aren't getting "any" at home. Others, say "my partner cheated so I can be here", while others say "no physical contact equals no cheating". Then there's the rules we place in ourselves: pm only, voice only, no pics, no cam......all in the name, to a large degree, of guilt management.

My question is simple, is it working?

I was here for awhile without really interacting with anyone outside of light banter on the threads. So I didn't feel guilty about that and I also did not tell my husband about being here because there really wasn't anything to tell.

Once I developed the start of a friendship that had also had a strong possibility of going further, I decided it was time to talk to my husband about the situation and about Lit, in general. We did a LOT of talking and, in the end, he's okay with me being here. We have boundaries that we both agreed upon and we talk about my time here - which sometimes leads to sexy time for the two of us.

So I live within those boundaries and it helps me manage any feelings of guilt. It works for us.

 

[BradBigBrain]

I don't feel guilty for being here. My guy knows I come here for fun. That said, I don't play here anymore - to me, that's cheating, physical contact or not.

I also had a policy - after a couple of scares and some pretty dicey situations - of not playing here with people who ARE in committed relationships. I didn't want to be the other woman in any sense. If you're here because you're unhappy in your current situation, what you do and how you justify it is on you - I don't judge because I know that some people here have their reasons, but I also didn't want to be part of it. I only had to imagine what it would feel like to me to find out that my husband was exchanging nude pics and sexting with another woman to draw that line.

What about with another man? We'll stop if you ask us to.

 

[Lord Pmann]

I keep checking this page and have to look at those chopped off feet that are apparently some sort of vagina.

Why pmann why???

It's why you all love me.

 

[Lord Pmann]

For me, Lit is a relatively "safe" place to play. I have been a bit naive in the past about that, but we all learn as we live, if that makes any sense.

 

[JoyDyan]

What about with another man? We'll stop if you ask us to.

Oh, no, don't do that, BBB! Send him all the dick pics you like! Lol!

 

[ChainedUp]

Attempt number three. Some days the question just flows, other days, like today, it's a struggle. But something will shake out, it always does, I'm not going to worry. Maybe that's it, worry. None of us like to admit we worry, it sounds better to say that we take things as they come along. But we all worry. It's not the sexy, come fuck me, part of our personality but it's there. Some will tackle things straight away, others will try and sort out all possible outcomes, while many just do what they want, outcome be damned. I suppose the right approach is a mix of those three, but that's a tough recipe to master. Or maybe if you fuck enough it will solve itself. Doesn't sex help solve everything?

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Doesn't sex help solve everything?

In the right relationship, sex can be the root of all joy.
In the wrong relationship, sex can be the root of all evil.