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[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Same.....

We made a rule once our kids were older and we added a few more, that we weren't leaving our house on Christmas eve or day......christmas night was okay. But it's just to darn hectic to cook and peel the kids away from their new stuff.

Saying all this....i wouldn't mind ripping myself away for some adult (actually adult. ..not dirty you pervs) engagements.

lol...I could go for some of the "pervy" adult engagements...

 

[rubydlite]

lol...I could go for some of the "pervy" adult engagements...

Ok...fair enough. ....me too

 

[ChainedUp]

Oh the power of grammar and intent mixed with comprehension. When I said "engagements" I meant actual marriage proposals. LOL. It's rare for lit to make me laugh, this was one of those times.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Ok...fair enough. ....me too

'Attagirl...

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Oh the power of grammar and intent mixed with comprehension. When I said "engagements" I meant actual marriage proposals. LOL. It's rare for lit to make me laugh, this was one of those times.

oh, well, that type of engagement I couldn't care less about.

I'd think that asking for someone's hand in marriage during Christmas is appropriate, though, and only adds another fond memory to look back on. I don't think it takes away from Christmas nor does Christmas diminish the importance of the proposal.

 

[rubydlite]

Oh the power of grammar and intent mixed with comprehension. When I said "engagements" I meant actual marriage proposals. LOL. It's rare for lit to make me laugh, this was one of those times.

Ha...well...once upon a time I was proposed to on Christmas day. ...but the relationship lasted as long as the holiday hype...so....

truthfully....if it's the right person, the day of 'engagement' doesn't matter....to me anyway...

 

[37_ttej]

Ha...well...once upon a time I was proposed to on Christmas day. ...but the relationship lasted as long as the holiday hype...so....

truthfully....if it's the right person, the day of 'engagement' doesn't matter....to me anyway...

It was the 'jingle balls' guy, wasn't it?

 

[rubydlite]

It was the 'jingle balls' guy, wasn't it?

Well...his brain rattled.....does that count ?

 

[multitalentman]

Well, questions that result in "it depends" answers aren't very interesting. So let's change it. Christmas theme as who wants to think too hard on the last Saturday before Christmas.....Christmas engagements, are you in favor or do you want it to be your day without the distractions of the holiday.

I would think it too risky. If somewhere down the road, the relationship went south, the holiday would be forever tainted with that memory. Its bad enough to lose loved ones around holidays, but to lose a relationship like that I believe would be much worse.

 

[ChainedUp]

Slips in at the more standard hour. Enjoying the stillness of the morning. Its the calm where we are allowed to dream big, ponder what if or let our fears consume us and fill ourselves with regrets and what might have beens.

For me dreaming is still important. I honestly have few regrets, I've always been comfortable with the choices I've made and fully lived into each one.

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

 

[Thandi]

Slips in at the more standard hour. Enjoying the stillness of the morning. Its the calm where we are allowed to dream big, ponder what if or let our fears consume us and fill ourselves with regrets and what might have beens.

For me dreaming is still important. I honestly have few regrets, I've always been comfortable with the choices I've made and fully lived into each one.

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

Good morning Chained...nice to see you in the a.m. again!

Never let go of your dreams...very important to keep them alive.

I also do not negate my past...even the abusive relationships, for it's made me who I am today.

 

[All_4_Love]

Slips in at the more standard hour. Enjoying the stillness of the morning. Its the calm where we are allowed to dream big, ponder what if or let our fears consume us and fill ourselves with regrets and what might have beens.

For me dreaming is still important. I honestly have few regrets, I've always been comfortable with the choices I've made and fully lived into each one.

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

Oh, I’m still dreaming in rehash mode. I’m sorting through the truth of my past, since I lived in denial for so long, in hopes of growing and learning, and most importantly attracting a better future.

Side note: I dream of getting married again someday. If and when I ever do, I know now what true love is and what true love isn’t. If I find that true love, I don’t care what day of the year we get engaged. I don’t even care what day we get married. Just as long as we are committed to bringing each other joy and happiness, that’s all that matters to me. I guess I don't really need to get married again to have that anyway.

Another side note: I love Sunday mornings. They are truly my favorite time of the week. I always have loved them. There is a certain peace, a stillness, that is felt like no other.

Happy Sunday everyone…

Commodores - Easy (Like Sunday Morning)

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

I don't try to change my past. I own that shit like R Lee Ermy..

My past made me who I am. A great deal of it good. Some, not so much. It is what it is.

I dream, but not like I used to. I see the reality behind a lot of fluff. I am mostly upset by how my loss of innocence stops me just short of fully enjoying something.. Whatever it is. Be it a potential lover or a piece of cake.

I do not let myself walk down any path I can see far enough ahead to know it veers right when I'm heading left.

So yes, I hold myself back a great deal more than I would have had I not had my past.

 

[All_4_Love]

So yes, I hold myself back a great deal more than I would have had I not had my past.

Proceed with caution, aye?

That's what I have been doing in my current relationship and it's making me someone I have never been before. It is stripping me of my innocence and naivety, and I don't like it. I miss that girl that used to jump in with both feet and not worry about being caught. Now, I not only worry about being caught, I need to be caught. I need to know someone will catch me.

ETA: Even after everything, all of the pain, the loss, the setbacks, the shattered dreams... I have not one regret. I am truly grateful for my life, for everything, for my past, and for my future that hasn't arrived yet. Yay me!

 

[Bitesback]

When you notice someone missing from Lit, do you worry, wonder, or shrug your shoulders thinking "easy come, easy go"?

For those I know a bit, I generally have an idea of why they are missing from Lit. Some I have cause to worry about more than others. Often it's just real life not allowing an escape to here, especially now in what is called the silly season because life can get ridiculously hectic at this time of year.

For many others who are notable in their absence, I might wonder, but people do come and go all the time. Not sure it's very often as simple as "easy come, easy go".

Well, questions that result in "it depends" answers aren't very interesting.....

You can't have it all ways... "Yes" and "No" answers are scorned by you as well! In deliberating, arguments should be presented and that can make for very interesting answers.

....Christmas engagements, are you in favor or do you want it to be your day without the distractions of the holiday.

I find the concept of 'your day' to be overly precious. There are only 365 days in a non-leap year, and too much going on all around us in this big world everyday to be able to set aside a day as 'your day'. What I would prefer for those making such big life decisions was that they live in the moment, whatever the day, talk about getting married or actually becoming engaged or make the marriage proposal when it feels right, not because it's a festive day or because one of you thinks a proposal and ring would be a great gift.

....It's rare for lit to make me laugh, this was one of those times.

Seriously? I laugh frequently when flitting around Lit. Hope yours was a laugh out loud moment

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

I don't know if anyone can truly change the past, even if we wanted to wipe the record clean or tweak certain events. If changing the past meant living a lie, any future based upon it would have poor foundations and bound to create bigger problems down the track.

Learn from mistakes and move on. Dream large and take steps to realise your dreams. Live and love and be who you are and need to be. To me, that is more likely to create a better future.

 

[rubydlite]

Slips in at the more standard hour. Enjoying the stillness of the morning. Its the calm where we are allowed to dream big, ponder what if or let our fears consume us and fill ourselves with regrets and what might have beens.

For me dreaming is still important. I honestly have few regrets, I've always been comfortable with the choices I've made and fully lived into each one.

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

I rehash alllll the time to the point of annoying myself but all my life's decisions have brought me three beautiful children so I'm grateful for the paths I've taken to get them. But...I'm also in dream mode for a new path for myself leading forward.

 

[BradBigBrain]

Slips in at the more standard hour. Enjoying the stillness of the morning. Its the calm where we are allowed to dream big, ponder what if or let our fears consume us and fill ourselves with regrets and what might have beens.

For me dreaming is still important. I honestly have few regrets, I've always been comfortable with the choices I've made and fully lived into each one.

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

I dream all the time. I have vivid dreams, too. Last night Jeri Ryan and I were in a relationship. Or maybe that was Thandi. I'm not sure. Anyway...I did wake up with some mornin' wood.

I also dream of my future. I positive visualize everything that will happen. Sometimes things don't happen that way and I get thrown a curve. The past years I've swung and missed on many a curve, but I still dig in and I've been hitting singles lately and that's nice.

 

[All_4_Love]

I dream all the time. I have vivid dreams, too. Last night Jeri Ryan and I were in a relationship. Or maybe that was Thandi. I'm not sure. Anyway...I did wake up with some mornin' wood.

I also dream of my future. I positive visualize everything that will happen. Sometimes things don't happen that way and I get thrown a curve. The past years I've swung and missed on many a curve, but I still dig in and I've been hitting singles lately and that's nice.

This post made me smile, every single word of it.

 

[SweetSam42]

I rehash alllll the time to the point of annoying myself but all my life's decisions have brought me three beautiful children so I'm grateful for the paths I've taken to get them. But...I'm also in dream mode for a new path for myself leading forward.

Ruby and I are often on the same page, and this time is no exception. Same for me, but only 1 beautiful child.

 

[SmileyGirl]

Slips in at the more standard hour. Enjoying the stillness of the morning. Its the calm where we are allowed to dream big, ponder what if or let our fears consume us and fill ourselves with regrets and what might have beens.

For me dreaming is still important. I honestly have few regrets, I've always been comfortable with the choices I've made and fully lived into each one.

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

Everyone should have dreams it's part of where inspiration comes from. We would never have hero's or inventors or people who do the most amazing things. They said we would never fly, or explore space. Those people had dreams, if they didn't, none of that would be possible.

I have dreams and aspirations and I know some won't happen. I mean, I dream of Simon Neil but I know I'm only ever going to see him on a stage as I scream at how awesome Biffy Clyro are hehe.

We can't change your past, it's already been written but we can learn from it, improve ourselves and keep our dreams alive ♡

 

[sweetsophie512]

Oh the power of grammar and intent mixed with comprehension. When I said "engagements" I meant actual marriage proposals. LOL. It's rare for lit to make me laugh, this was one of those times.

A marriage proposal is an event, whether it happens on Christmas Day or not. It matters not when it happens, you just hope it's with the right person and you're at that point in your life when it makes sense to you. To each his own and everyone knows when it is right for them.

Slips in at the more standard hour. Enjoying the stillness of the morning. Its the calm where we are allowed to dream big, ponder what if or let our fears consume us and fill ourselves with regrets and what might have beens.

For me dreaming is still important. I honestly have few regrets, I've always been comfortable with the choices I've made and fully lived into each one.

What about you? Still dreaming or are you in rehashing mode, trying to change the past in hopes of a better future?

I'm a firm believer that you can be both in dream and rehash mode. I know, as strange as that sounds, but you can be. You just can't *go back* and do a redo. You have a do over. I have a few regrets, but don't we all? There are choices that could have been better made, but each day is an opportunity to learn and grow.

The past cannot be changed. You can only build from it. The future becomes better once you realize the opportunity lies before you, not behind you.

 

[ChainedUp]

Happy Monday everyone! Are you holiday partied out yet? Have you had enough?

When you've had enough how do you respond? Do you shut down, do you push through as you've made a commitment? Do you start having less fun, losing the enjoyment of it? Do you feel the same regarding the seemingly endless Holiday activities...

 

[RickTango]

Happy Monday everyone! Are you holiday partied out yet? Have you had enough?

When you've had enough how do you respond? Do you shut down, do you push through as you've made a commitment? Do you start having less fun, losing the enjoyment of it? Do you feel the same regarding the seemingly endless Holiday activities...

I am not partied out, but over the years it seems there are fewer parties but more of more quality.
Not to sound schmaltzy but as for the upcoming week it is always highly anticipated and always exceeds expectations. It is a great time to be with family, especially with the grand kids being of that magical special age.

 

[Paul_Chance]

For me, this time of year is filled with social events - some personal, most work related. I pretty much glide through them, and since there is a paycheck at the end of the work related ones (I am a consultant, it's all about relationships), I turn on the charm and power through. On the personal side, there is no need - I have good friends whom I sincerely love and enjoy spending time with. We tend to keep the personal gatherings small and intimate, with conversation and laughter.

 

[Lord Pmann]

Happy Monday everyone! Are you holiday partied out yet? Have you had enough?

When you've had enough how do you respond? Do you shut down, do you push through as you've made a commitment? Do you start having less fun, losing the enjoyment of it? Do you feel the same regarding the seemingly endless Holiday activities...

I tend to push through any commitment I've got. I can't think of a time in my life where I have committed to an activity and bailed because I was overwhelmed. And that's to a fault. There are times where I take on a lot. I usually handle stress well, but I can say that I have let the fun leave me.