Litiquette3

[BlueEyedGent]

I agree with all the other folks that commented on this RA.
I would also like to throw in my 2 cents (or is that scents...eeew ... nah better go with cents) I had the same concerns with my kids. I did my best with what I had been given and they thrived in it. Not because of my efforts, but because of the character that they developed because of the influences around them. Remember, It takes a village to raise a child, not just parents.

The very fact that you are sensitive to what is going on in the world around your family tells me that you will and are creating wonderful memories for your kids. They will have great stories to tell and pull out positive memories that you didn't even consider while going through these times. My adult kids do it all the time. I am still humbled every time they do. Be encouraged!

Your two cents worth is right "on"...makes a lot of sense!
Great parenting Multi!

 

[ChainedUp]

good morning, happy Tuesday.

Feeling the need to shake things up a bit. Simple and to the point this morning.

Would you rather your lover try something new(regarding sex of course) and not be particularly good at it or just do the same tried and true things that produce damn good results?

 

[RickTango]

good morning, happy Tuesday.

Feeling the need to shake things up a bit. Simple and to the point this morning.

Would you rather your lover try something new(regarding sex of course) and not be particularly good at it or just do the same tried and true things that produce damn good results?

I would prefer new, I am reminded of that old cliche " variety is the spice of life"
Of course I also believe in " practice makes perfect". So why not both?

 

[multitalentman]

I would prefer new, I am reminded of that old cliche " variety is the spice of life"
Of course I also believe in " practice makes perfect". So why not both?

Agreed!

 

[Thandi]

good morning, happy Tuesday.

Feeling the need to shake things up a bit. Simple and to the point this morning.

Would you rather your lover try something new(regarding sex of course) and not be particularly good at it or just do the same tried and true things that produce damn good results?

You gotta try new things.
Jump in with both feet.....shake shake shake

 

[rubydlite]

good morning, happy Tuesday.

Feeling the need to shake things up a bit. Simple and to the point this morning.

Would you rather your lover try something new(regarding sex of course) and not be particularly good at it or just do the same tried and true things that produce damn good results?

New new new....and then some tried and true....and then some new new new

 

[All_4_Love]

Tried and true.

I know, I know...boring, right?

Well, the tried and true were once new things, I guess, at some point.

Hey, wait a minute! Is this a trick question?

 

[GiggLeGasm]

Seconded. Very well said, Gent.

I will also gladly throw in a Bah-Humbug...just because..."commercialized". Need I say more? heh

RA, I lost my mom when I was 19. Even greater than my loss, was her loss. She was only 43. I have lost my children this year to a very angry ex husband. I won't elaborate much except to say that if there has been anything I have done well in my life, it was being an excellent mother to my children. Somehow, that didn't mean anything at the end of my marriage. Money is power, and my ex husband has a lot of it. He is also very good at mind control. And, my precious daddy is many miles away from me. Needless to say, family is scarce for me, as well.

Taking your boys to a shelter to teach them gratitude? You, my dear, are far from a failure. What an extraordinary mom. If you want some company, I'm only a few miles away. *hugs* and Merry Christmas, my dear.

Our situations are very similar. I was 18 when my mom passed and she was in her 40s. It's funny to hear my children speak of her now and then since they never met. It makes me wonder how much they really pick up. when I divorced, I was certain that the kids would be relieved to get away from their dad - and they were for a while.. but they're athletes and he's coach.. so.. I get it. Also, I think he's different now that I'm not there. He may have been worse because we were together. I know I was.

If it helps, now that they're older, they seek each of us. I don't feel like I gave them up to someone else and I try to remember that all kids eventually need space from their parents.

It's just different when you have no parents to sit and smile when you vent about it.. and I realize that I have no frame of reference for what this part of life was supposed to be.
So.. we need not be ashamed of who we have become.. or what we have become. We need to embrace our own stories as wonderful testimonies to the lives that we've had the courage to create and the passion to share with others.

sometimes I listen to this one when I need a laugh/cry/good feeling

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en

 

[All_4_Love]

Our situations are very similar. I was 18 when my mom passed and she was in her 40s. It's funny to hear my children speak of her now and then since they never met. It makes me wonder how much they really pick up. when I divorced, I was certain that the kids would be relieved to get away from their dad - and they were for a while.. but they're athletes and he's coach.. so.. I get it. Also, I think he's different now that I'm not there. He may have been worse because we were together. I know I was.

If it helps, now that they're older, they seek each of us. I don't feel like I gave them up to someone else and I try to remember that all kids eventually need space from their parents.

It's just different when you have no parents to sit and smile when you vent about it.. and I realize that I have no frame of reference for what this part of life was supposed to be.
So.. we need not be ashamed of who we have become.. or what we have become. We need to embrace our own stories as wonderful testimonies to the lives that we've had the courage to create and the passion to share with others.

sometimes I listen to this one when I need a laugh/cry/good feeling

http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_listening_to_shame?language=en

Thank you for the link, GG. I'm quite busy with work this morning but I will definitely be watching it later, if it's one I haven't seen already.

Just you reaching out to me and sharing your story was enough. You have no idea how much that means to me. Thank you so much for your support. Things like this are never supposed to be part of the journey, a mother separated from her children, or a child without their mother.

You are so right that we need not be ashamed of who we have become and the courage that it takes to live the lives we are given, the paths we take, the obstacles we overcome. It's all part of the journey, this most precious gift that we call life, and I embrace it all, every part of it.

Merry Christmas, lady. *hugs you tightly*

 

[sweetsophie512]

good morning, happy Tuesday.

Feeling the need to shake things up a bit. Simple and to the point this morning.

Would you rather your lover try something new(regarding sex of course) and not be particularly good at it or just do the same tried and true things that produce damn good results?

Errrrr ...

Ummmm ... Hmmmm.

How about, tried and true with a twist of lime?

There are things I will always enjoy, but pushing past my boundaries with my lover is both extremely exciting and overwhelming. If it doesn't make your heart pound with a touch of apprehension, then it's not going to take you to a new place. I do enjoy going to new places.

You've put a pin on places on your sexual road map that you've enjoyed, and don't mind revisiting again, circled the ones that surprised you and put a star next to the ones that well, you absolutely know you want to visit and will.

 

[multitalentman]

Tried and true.

I know, I know...boring, right?

Well, the tried and true were once new things, I guess, at some point.

Hey, wait a minute! Is this a trick question?

He he. I think That means both for All 4 love.

 

[SweetSam42]

I like trying new things. If it doesn't work out, laugh about it and move on to something else new, or an old standard.

 

[All_4_Love]

Chained late on hump day? This could only mean one thing...


Morning sex!!! Woohoo!

 

[multitalentman]

Chained late on hump day? This could only mean one thing...


Morning sex!!! Woohoo!

Beautiful, sexy, smart, and a great sense of humor?

 

[All_4_Love]

Beautiful, sexy, smart, and a great sense of humor?

Wow, thank you so much, MTM. What nice compliments you have given me.

*hugs you with gratitude*

 

[rubydlite]

Chained late on hump day? This could only mean one thing...


Morning sex!!! Woohoo!

Lol.....details....he better give details...

but sadly....for me....

 

[All_4_Love]

Lol.....details....he better give details...

but sadly....for me....

Haha! Funny, Ruby!

Because Tuesday night does not count!!!

 

[multitalentman]

Wow, thank you so much, MTM. What nice compliments you have given me.

*hugs you with gratitude*

I believe you have more than earned them.

*returns gratuitous hug*

Lol.....details....he better give details...

but sadly....for me....

Looking for a bit of mental masochism Ruby, or just hoping to live vicariously?

 

[All_4_Love]

I believe you have more than earned them.

Like music to a submissive woman's ears.

 

[multitalentman]

Like music to a submissive woman's ears.

Something tells me you hear a great deal of that kind of music young lady.

 

[snowkitten13]

Yeah, definitely hinders

 

[All_4_Love]

Something tells me you hear a great deal of that kind of music young lady.

You'd be surprised, sir. I really don't, which suits me just fine, as I wouldn't want to ever overlook the significance or take for granted the value of something like that.

For now, I only wish to hear that kind of music someday, if it is meant to be part of my journey.

 

[All_4_Love]

And, just to clarify, I wasn't referring to the compliments themselves specifically, but more your approval in that I had earned something.

Maybe that will enlighten you if there was any confusion.

No more derails from me on this matter.

My apology, Chained.

 

[multitalentman]

You'd be surprised, sir. I really don't, which suits me just fine, as I wouldn't want to ever overlook the significance or take for granted the value of something like that.

For now, I only wish to hear that kind of music someday, if it is meant to be part of my journey.

I am surprised actually. I am also once again impressed by your wisdom and your foresight. Any sir to whom you pledged yourself will be well pleased and should count himself as being extremely fortunate.

I believe you will experience that and much more in your journey.

And there was never any confusion. You explained yourself perfectly.

 

[elfontheshelf]

No question for two days!