Litiquette2

[Endless_Night]

< Like Ruby said, I expect people to remember that there's a person behind these words and all of the pictures I post, and it hurts my feelings when people take advantage of me or expect that I'm here to get THEM off. Or when they say not-so-nice things about my pictures. That really stinks. >

Holy Hell! The should be flogged, covered with honey, and tied to an anthill.

 

[Endless_Night]

I only have expectations of myself. If I feel myself leaning towards having expectations of others, I discuss with them VERY clearly what those expectations might be. Whaddya know, this seems to work! For me

Great plan. Buuuuut, you could discuss expectations, think they're the same, and it turn out not to be the case.

...Okay...So it's possible I'm bored, sitting here, waiting for stuff to come out of the oven.

...Possibly very bored.

But, hey, it can happen!

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Great plan. Buuuuut, you could discuss expectations, think they're the same, and it turn out not to be the case.

...Okay...So it's possible I'm bored, sitting here, waiting for stuff to come out of the over.

...Possibly very bored.

But, hey, it can happen!

You are so right! And people also lie... And there is nothing I can do about their behaviour or understanding. I can only make sure that I can live with my own

 

[Endless_Night]

You are so right! And people also lie... And there is nothing I can do about their behaviour or understanding. I can only make sure that I can live with my own

 

[DesEsseintes]

I had no real expectations of Lit when I joined. If I had, they were low - a few like-minded people, perhaps, an occasional chat. It has surpassed my wildest dreams - I have met so many wonderful, generous, thoughtful, fascinating people here. It has been a very great privilege to have been part of it.

 

[may_I_please]

I had no real expectations of Lit when I joined. If I had, they were low - a few like-minded people, perhaps, an occasional chat. It has surpassed my wildest dreams - I have met so many wonderful, generous, thoughtful, fascinating people here. It has been a very great privilege to have been part of it.

Hey

You married yet?

When can we start singing country songs?

 

[DesEsseintes]

Hey

You married yet?

When can we start singing country songs?

I think it's on hold until she gets back from Thanksgiving celebrations. In the meantime I'm just buying up sugared almonds wholesale for the favours, and calling in a few people who owe me from the Champagne industry. A LOT of people are invited.

 

[may_I_please]

She seems to have you well trained

Sugared almonds - chuckle

 

[DesEsseintes]

She seems to have you well trained

Sugared almonds - chuckle

Are you laughing at my sweet nuts?

 

[may_I_please]

Are you laughing at my sweet nuts?

I would never laugh at your nuts Jean

But nobody, in the history of forever, has ever liked sugared almonds

http://shop.lovehearts.com/media/catalog/category/CAT-WeddingFavours1.jpg

 

[DesEsseintes]

I would never laugh at your nuts Jean

But nobody, in the history of forever, has ever liked sugared almonds

http://shop.lovehearts.com/media/catalog/category/CAT-WeddingFavours1.jpg

I do. And so does almost everyone in France, if that counts.

I'm prepared to negotiate on the wedding favours, but we are NOT having Love hearts. Sickly sweet discs of fake nostalgia that they are.

Back on topic - there genuinely is something to be said for low expectations. I get the impression that many people who get easily annoyed with Lit (and I know some) do so because they expected too much. It was never going to be some idyll set apart from the real world, because it is full of people from that same world, with the same problems. But it contains so much that is simply delightful.

 

[Kitty]

Looks as if some house work is being done in these parts, so a new address for the place is needed. Same old thread, just slightly updated to keep current with the times. And just to remind ourselves why we are here:

The etiquette of posting in Lit is really pretty loose and easy, like most the people here

But there are unwritten rules of posting that are generally followed but not always. So tell me fine folks of Lit, tell me the things you see happen here that you love, and the things that make you crazy. I promise there won't be a quiz at the end.

I love that there's no censoring. I can't tell you how many times I go on a forum and we get "reported" for swearing. Like what the bloody serious fuck? Or you type a cuss word, and it automatically comes up like %@#&!

I hate everything else
Like where are the photo albums on profiles?
And why isn't there a notification functionality when someone quotes us.

 

[dutchrain]

I do. And so does almost everyone in France, if that counts.

I'm prepared to negotiate on the wedding favours, but we are NOT having Love hearts. Sickly sweet discs of fake nostalgia that they are.

Back on topic - there genuinely is something to be said for low expectations. I get the impression that many people who get easily annoyed with Lit (and I know some) do so because they expected too much. It was never going to be some idyll set apart from the real world, because it is full of people from that same world, with the same problems. But it contains so much that is simply delightful.

I love sugared almonds too. If they are covered with caramelized sugar, they are wonderful! The contrast of the hard sugar coat and the softer almonds is just marvelous. It is especially good if there is a tiny bit of salt sprinkled over them while the sugar was still hot and sirupy.

Yes, too high expectations get crushed easily. In RL just as on Lit.

 

[DesEsseintes]

I love sugared almonds too. If they are covered with caramelized sugar, they are wonderful! The contrast of the hard sugar coat and the softer almonds is just marvelous. It is especially good if there is a tiny bit of salt sprinkled over them while the sugar was still hot and sirupy.

Yes, too high expectations get crushed easily. In RL just as on Lit.

Now we're talking! Sea-salt caramel almonds...

And they do say a pessimist is never disappointed.

 

[makinmepurr]

I had no expectations really, as far as what lit would be like. As my first erotica site ever, it was all a fresh discovery for me. Where my expectations came up was more within the realm of relating to others here, once I ventured onto the discussion boards. More than once I was disappointed when a crush wasn' t reciprocal, or a "relationship" fizzled out. I have learned to temper my expectations as a result, be flexible, and not take everything personally. I know I have probably been on the other side of that equation and been the source of unmet expectations. Seems we're all just humans after all.

 

[DesEsseintes]

Seems we're all just humans after all.

Even those of us with a tail?

 

[Kitty]

I had no expectations really, as far as what lit would be like. As my first erotica site ever, it was all a fresh discovery for me. Where my expectations came up was more within the realm of relating to others here, once I ventured onto the discussion boards. More than once I was disappointed when a crush wasn' t reciprocal, or a "relationship" fizzled out. I have learned to temper my expectations as a result, be flexible, and not take everything personally. I know I have probably been on the other side of that equation and been the source of unmet expectations. Seems we're all just humans after all.

Ooh, a fellow feline.

And I agree with bold. Still working on that bit.

 

[dutchrain]

Now we're talking! Sea-salt caramel almonds...

And they do say a pessimist is never disappointed.

I am feeling an urge to heat up a pan, put sugar in it and a tiny bit of butter and get almonds.

I will be strong though. I won't do it. I'll just grab some chocolate. No, I won't grab some chocolate either.

Half full glass/half empty glass, the amount of fluid in it is still the same. You just shouldn't expect it to stay the same if you take a gulp.

 

[DesEsseintes]

I am feeling an urge to heat up a pan, put sugar in it and a tiny bit of butter and get almonds.

I will be strong though. I won't do it. I'll just grab some chocolate. No, I won't grab some chocolate either.

Half full glass/half empty glass, the amount of fluid in it is still the same. You just shouldn't expect it to stay the same if you take a gulp.

Do it do it do it do it do it do it...And then pics or it didn't happen. If they're good enough you could get the catering gig for my wedding and, trust me, that's worth millions.

You are right, of course, about the glass. But our mental approach still colours how we see it. If I am convinced I have finished my glass, only to find half is left, I shall be pleasantly surprised. If I am convinced I haven't started my glass, and then find half is gone, I shall be sad. (Unless it's tomato juice. Can't stand that stuff. Glass completely empty would be a win, in that case.)

 

[All_4_Love]

I am feeling an urge to heat up a pan, put sugar in it and a tiny bit of butter and get almonds.

Don't forget to maybe add a dash of cinnamon and to bake them off in the oven. I'll be over shortly, with some champagne.

I remember now, that was another expectation that I had that I took very personally when it didn't happen. When I first started posting on the BDSM forum, I "expected" (how ridiculously bold of me) everyone to be very warm and welcoming. Boy, was I ever wrong. And, I did take it very, very personally.

There were lessons learned, a bit of personal growth, so all is good.

 

[makinmepurr]

Even those of us with a tail?

Are you insinuating you have a....tail?

And yes.

 

[DesEsseintes]

Don't forget to maybe add a dash of cinnamon and to bake them off in the oven. I'll be over shortly, with some champagne.

I remember now, that was another expectation that I had that I took very personally when it didn't happen. When I first started posting on the BDSM forum, I "expected" (how ridiculously bold of me) everyone to be very warm and welcoming. Boy, was I ever wrong. And, I did take it very, very personally.

There were lessons learned, a bit of personal growth, so all is good.

You and me both, madam! In fact, I think we were burned at more or less the same time. I have barely been back since. Lesson learned, but no personal growth for me. I have just become even less tolerant of fools.

 

[greyjim]

Are you insinuating you have a....tail?

And yes.

a very nice tail among other things

 

[DesEsseintes]

Are you insinuating you have a....tail?

And yes.

I was referring to your use of the first person plural, which I found charmingly inclusive. In my own case, however, the coccyx remains wholly internal. More's the pity - it would be useful for keeping off Lit flies and other pests...

 

[All_4_Love]

You and me both, madam! In fact, I think we were burned at more or less the same time. I have barely been back since. Lesson learned, but no personal growth for me. I have just become even less tolerant of fools.

Yes, it was the same time. If there was ever a time in my life when I truly needed someone to validate me, it was then. You gave that gift to me. Thank you. You are a wonderful person, Des. I am so very glad to know you.

I don't go back much there either.

Less tolerant of fools, aye? That's funny. I would like to think I have become more tolerant from that experience, but in reality, probably just more evasive. My reaction there was one of a very, very sensitive woman. That does not bode well in a big world full of meanies.