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[Endless_Night]

I say, carry them if you want but don't conceal, strap that bad boy on and show me The heat that you're packing.

Unfortunately, Texas doesn't allow open carry. You can get a concealed carry license, but that's it. So, it's either house/car or concealed, or all three, if you want to cover all the bases.

 

[ViciousTease]

Unfortunately, Texas doesn't allow open carry. You can get a concealed carry license, but that's it. So, it's either house/car or concealed, or all three, if you want to cover all the bases.

I keep all my bases covered.

 

[All_4_Love]

I keep all my bases covered.

And though she be but little, she is fierce.

 

[rubydlite]

Watching the civil unrest last night, I found myself glad that my travels have never put me in harms way. And was thinking that had I a trip planned for St Louis today, I'd probably had cancelled. It's all about risk management. So to put a Lit spin on it, what's the biggest risk you'd take to be with a lover? A lover that you had to be with, one for which you would assume risks far greater than you might to go grocery shopping.

For the right litster....with the right feeling....I'd risk *almost* anything. My kids come first and foremost and if I thought my actions would somehow, in any way, cause them harm then that would be what stopped me.



And all this gun talk....i would have said *meh* until a few weeks ago. In the great white north it doesn't seem to come up....until it does....

 

[SweetSam42]

I'd never risk personal harm/injury to meet up with a lover. Not ever. I am a mother, and that would be irresponsible for a moment's pleasure for myself.

Was that really the question? I'm a little unclear.

And has this really turned into a discussion about gun control?

 

[jameslewis]

You can't talk about risk without considering reward. I think there has to be real connection, and absolute trust. Trust is really the key, otherwise any risk you take is foolish because the rewards are illusionary. As one who has been fooled and made a fool of, I know it would have to be a substantial emotional and/or physical payoff to justify taking anything but slight risks. I sort of miss the wild and impulsive side, but not enough to be stupid just for the excitement.

 

[makinmepurr]

Other than risking my heart a few times, I have taken a few risks. At least they seemed like risks at the time, like talking on the phone to a lit lover for the first time. Or camming. I think you're talking about different risks though. In any case, the one big risk I haven't taken yet is meeting a lit lover in person. I did come close, once. Like, we were in the same city close. And I actually regret not taking the opportunity when it presented itself. So, who knows, maybe I will get another chance, and maybe we'll both risk it.

 

[TheSilverLining]

Other than risking my heart a few times[snip]

This.
This is my only conceivable risk. I can't really think of a serious physical threat that could arise from meeting my lover, nor would I be willing to chance one.
I'm the kind of person who needs a mental connection for the physical stuff to work. The risk would be entirely psychological.

 

[ChainedUp]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

 

[dutchrain]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

I openly admit that I often expect too much. Mostly from other people, because I know what I can expect from myself. I also expect much of life. Sadly my expectations aren't met by half sometimes. I mean, I expected to be a rich and famous person at twenty, twenty-five at the most when I was thirteen. And look at me now, a bit more than the double of the two options and still struggling to make ends meet! Life is a bitch sometimes.

Life isn't very logical either. Sometimes it jumps at C and throws you directly at Y.

It is the same with Lit. Sometimes my expectations are met, sometimes not. It also depends on what my expectations of the day are though.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

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Some of us have adapted.

 

[GiggLeGasm]

I don't know that I have any real expectations of Lit.. not in the same way that I have expectations about other aspects of life. This is more like a trashy romance novel that I use to steal a few moments of alone time where my mind can escape. That being said, I have a couple of true friendships here and those do come with expectations. I expect those people to continue to be the same goofballs they've always been, to invite me to laughter, and to let me know when they need a hug.

 

[Suz_anne]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

I think expectations are pretty wrapped up with the reasons why you're on Lit to begin with.

It may seem glib, but I consciously choose to not have expectations of Lit. If I find myself reacting to a slow/no response to a PM or something like that - I take a breath and remind myself of what Lit is for me...a fun escape...and I let it go.

 

[All_4_Love]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

Admittedly, when I first joined Lit, I did have one expectation. I thought that I was going to keep hopelessly searching the BDSM personals one day until I met the man of my dreams, and we would run off and have a perfect love story. I am a little embarrassed to say, but that is the extent of my naivety at times. That naivety also keeps me very hopeful, peaceful, and trusting about life and people in general, so I’ll take that as only a partial personality flaw.

After being here, I realized how ridiculous of a notion that was, and that most others here were seeking only online, or uncommitted relationships.

I’m still living in the real world, one where I seek to love and cherish, and to be loved and cherished until the day that I die. So, in order to find that which I seek, I know now that I shall continue to put my faith in the real world and that if it’s meant to be, I will find it… in the real world.

That said, the Lit expectation that I have had to manage has now turned into a real world one, and that is the knowing that there is a very good possibility that my lifetime relationship, when found, will not be a D/s relationship. And, whether it’s here on Lit or not, I manage that expectation just like every other unmet expectation, or hope, or dream, or need, or want, or desire that comes along with the gift of living…

I do the inner work, and I learn to accept.

 

[rubydlite]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

The only thing I expect is for people to be true. I don't care if someone is acting out a fantasy....or exploring the secret side of themselves but they can still be true. I expect people to realize there is a heart on the other side of the screen...i expect manners...

(Stop laughing. ...i just expect it....doesn't mean it happens)

other than this I did leave my expectations at the virtual door. I came here to grow and expand so I only expect the above.

 

[Endless_Night]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

Honestly, it’s never occurred to me to have different expectations on Lit than I do anywhere else. Which…probably means my expectations are too high. I drive myself pretty hard, something for which I catch a lot of criticism. Work, behavior, wants, needs, even thoughts, I’m always trying to improve and discard aspects of my personality I don’t like, drive myself to a higher moral ground. Not necessarily the healthiest - or most attractive - behavior.

I’d like to say my high expectations don’t spill over onto those around me, but that’s…probably not true.

Slight side note, a friend recently mentioned something about me being too trusting. Not the first time it’s come up, and, for some reason, it always puts me on the defensive. I view myself as something of a hardcore realist. According to them, while my world view is cynical, I tend to give individuals the benefit of the doubt. If I make the decision to engage emotionally, my trust increases tenfold. If true (and the jury’s still out) I suspect that means my expectations also increase….

*sigh* I don’t think I like this question.

To get back on point, what if your A then B looks like someone else’s A then D? Plenty of room there for chaos.

 

[All_4_Love]

To get pack on point, what if your A then B looks like someone else’s A then D? Plenty of room there for chaos.

Indeed, and we have all been there. *hugs*

 

[Endless_Night]

The only thing I expect is for people to be true. I don't care if someone is acting out a fantasy....or exploring the secret side of themselves but they can still be true. I expect people to realize there is a heart on the other side of the screen...i expect manners...

(Stop laughing. ...i just expect it....doesn't mean it happens)

other than this I did leave my expectations at the virtual door. I came here to grow and expand so I only expect the above.

I'm not laughing! Right there with you on the honesty AND the manners!

 

[All_4_Love]

Bruce Lee was a brilliant man. Perhaps, the answer is really this simple...


“I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine.”

― Bruce Lee

*shrugs*

 

[MercedeSexy]

I do the inner work, and I learn to accept.

^^This^^
Similarly, I have no regrets about adjusting my expectations to fit reality. I've learned a lot about myself in the process.

I'm not laughing! Right there with you on the honesty AND the manners!

Count me in on this, as well. Both are paramount to me.

 

[BrokenRomantic]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

Wow, Chained. You're on your game with this question. It's so good. However, I'm not going to answer this. As much as I'd like to, it's probably better I don't.

Just want to tell you great job and show my support.

Also, thank you everyone that responded. I enjoyed reading the responses.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I only have expectations of myself. If I feel myself leaning towards having expectations of others, I discuss with them VERY clearly what those expectations might be. Whaddya know, this seems to work! For me

 

[Wide_eyed_Indulgence]

Expectations. They can be the bane of our existence. We want life to be linear but we know it's not and yet when it isn't it can throw us off kilter. If A then B, if C then D. And when life isn't linear, how do we manage? How do we handle those failed expectations? How do you manage your expectations at Lit? The glib will say they don't have any expectations of Lit. The optimists will say their expectations are always met. The Eeyores of Lit might say they expect to have failed expectations. What will you say?

I like expectations when they are positive and fuel for dreams, so I try to keep them along those lines. Throw in human beings with all their complexity and I try to limit my expectations to something like "go with the flow" and "express good karma." Lit is complex for me to navigate with the intellectual and conversational attraction I can feel, mixed up with a sort of sexy taboo. I have been sorely disappointed about some things that have happened in that steamy mix of intellectual, conversational, sexiness -- but I really endeavor not to get jaded or unpleasant.

I always have the option to never sign in again, never read a thread again. But I am here, so obviously my expectations remain positive and the rewards of coming here outweigh not coming.

 

[SweetSam42]

I suppose my expectations are for people I talk to here to be decent and nice to me.

Like Ruby said, I expect people to remember that there's a person behind these words and all of the pictures I post, and it hurts my feelings when people take advantage of me or expect that I'm here to get THEM off. Or when they say not-so-nice things about my pictures. That really stinks.

And for anyone I talk to here on a regular basis, I just expect the trust and respect I give them to be reciprocated, as I would expect of any friendship.

 

[Leigh81]

I suppose my expectations are for people I talk to here to be decent and nice to me.

Like Ruby said, I expect people to remember that there's a person behind these words and all of the pictures I post, and it hurts my feelings when people take advantage of me or expect that I'm here to get THEM off. Or when they say not-so-nice things about my pictures. That really stinks.

And for anyone I talk to here on a regular basis, I just expect the trust and respect I give them to be reciprocated, as I would expect of any friendship.

Saying negative comments about your pics or anyone's else's for that matter is totally uncalled for. I think there should be a thread where you can post those remarks from either your thread or your pm's. They wouldn't last long around here before they were eaten alive.
But my guess is they have an alt. which is completely ridiculous & idiotic IMO.
Alts = loser assholes.... period.

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